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me and my friends are making a movie for school. we are doing it on how girls our age act and what they do in their free time like talk online, on the phone, watch t.v, go to the mall etc.
so we want it to be extremely funny and a comedy. for example i will start coughing and my friend will say "whats wrong?" and ill say "sorry im allergic to stupidity."
we need funny lines that 13 year old girls would say. please help out!!!! thank youu (link)
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I think it's a great idea to be given the task of making a movie for school. I think what you need to do as a team is pick someone to direct it and someone else to write the script with the others acting. This keeps things under control and if someone doesn't pull their own weight will not impact on how you are assessed.
What you need to do is come up with a premise for your film. By this I mean take your "What do girls do in their spare time?" question and focus on only one thing such as shopping, going online, talking on the phone and make it about that one area and not everything else.
You'll stay on target that way and have an easier time of writing the script, directing it, editing it and making the final product as everyone will have their own tasks to perform.
Your writer should focus on what makes him/her laugh about your topic and start writing scenes and dialogue from that perspective. It sounds as though you are already on track with some decent one-liners for your age group and peers. Stick with those and come up with more.
While I could give you some snappy one-liners its best to come from your minds only as that's what the teacher is assessing here. Keep doing what you are doing with the lines as they are working and unfortunately we know nothing about what makes your peers laugh or respond.
You know what does and if you think it's working so far keep at it. Just make sure one person handles the writing, another the directing and have your actors. Help the person writing with some one liners but see what they can do when they narrow your topic to one area rather than many to focus on.
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my lips down there are all hangy and ew. is this normal? what can i do? (w/o doctor, medicine, etc.) (link)
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You are perfectly fine and so too is your labia, vulva and vagina. Not all labia or vulvas look the exact same way they do in anatomy text books or sex ed diagrams/pictures. There's nothing at all gross or wrong about it.
In fact, the extra amount of skin you see there may help provide you with more pleasure in the long run sexually. You don't need a doctor, medicine or anything else as they are normal. The vaginal lips as the other poster stated come in all colors, sizes, different shapes.
Relax about it as once again you are fine. I've often seen it recommended to young people to actually get a hand mirror and look at that area so you are familiar with it especially because of tampon insertion. But as your gentitals are most internal you need to know what each of the things on the outside are and function.
Once you did that (which there is nothing gross about either) you may feel better to see that those bits "down there" are meant to look the exact way they do.
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I have had my period for about 7 years now, and just recently like the last few months the cramps seem to get worse every month. Is there a way to help with the cramps?
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You ought to get a referal through your family doctor to see a gynaecologist. They will give you a routine exam and establish the exact reason why these cramps have suddenly intensified and become incredibly painful.
I'm sure everything will be alright but you ought to see a gynaecologist a.s.a.p as they are the experts on such things as menstrual cramps, and all means of vaginal problems and infections.
You need to know if there's something medically wrong here or not. I wouldn't waste much time waiting to make an appointment to see a doctor about this.
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I was just wondering...it seems like everyone is having sex except for me. i mean its not like i want a baby or anything but im also not saving myself for marriage.i also havnet had like a serious boyfriend yet..o ya and im turning 17 soon. im i too old to have my first real relationship?
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It's not a competition silly :) Not everyone your age or for that matter people you know are having sex. Some of them could be lying just to sound cool or not be mocked by their peers.
You might be shocked at the number of people your age that are still virgins and in your class and your school. Usuallly the guys or those bragging or talking about having had sex have done squat. They are just saying they have so nobody makes fun of them or thinks they are not normal.
Believe me, it's the truth. Half the people are liars and the other half are telling the truth. Having sex or choosing to has nothing to do with age or shouldn't have. You can be any age to have sex for the first time.
It's about your maturity level and comfort doing it and not about age at all. It's about what is right for you and nobody else can tell you that. Also as for your first relationship not happening yet don't worry.
Many people start dating into their 20s or early 30s for the first time these days for many reasons and among some of them are having been bullied, not being in a position to meet others easily, or not at all interested in immature people either as teens or adults who happen to dominate their peer group.
You're fine and on the right track. Just remember that! Everything comes in stages and when you are ready. Don't let age play a factor into an important health and life decision.
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when my boyfriend fingers me for the first time. will i bleed? and if i do. will he be disguisted?
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The key to ensure you do not bleed or feel sore from the experience you must talk to him before hand and tell him exactly what you find pleasurable and non-pleasurable and guide him. Most guys at this stage have no idea about female anatomy and what to do.
Be sure you tell him and guide him through everything and then he'll know what to do for the future. This helps you avoid being sore or minor bleeding which should never happen.
Let's say you did bleed a bit if he cannot handle that then he's not mature enough to be doing anything remotely sexual with you or nayone else yet. It sure isn't your fault if you bleed as you're not in control of that. The key is to communicate before doing anything as well as during the actual act. You'll be fine that way.
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im 17 and at my work there is this 24 yr old guy who has a crush on me. it was fine at first becasue he's really shy and i would just catch him looking at me once in a while. but now he writes me little notes saying he loves me and keeps asking me out on dates. then last nite as i was leaving he came outside and said taht he wanted to kiss me! if anyone found out he would be fired cuz my dad is his boss! wut should i do? (link)
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To be brutally honest this person is looking to be fired by even engaging in such behaviour first of all. If he got fired it would be the best thing for him and yourself. He would be removed from your experience and you would feel safe at work.
Secondly, he would learn from this and your father that he has a problem at 24 wanting to kiss the boss's underage daughter. Be 100% sure that he knew you were under 18. He may have made a mistake but I highly doubt it.
Tell your dad about what is happening with this guy coming on to you despite the fact you have told him off. If you get any notes, e-mails etc document them as proof and whatever you do don't be alone with him.
Tell your father tonight about this as it's the only course of action you have and the only choice that keeps you safe. Don't worry about the person who may be fired as believe me what he is doing is wrong and he has some severe head problems.
Like i said, this may be the kick in the pants he needs to seek help. Also, you may be saving other people your age from being a victim of his who knows what he's up to if he's an adult hitting on someone not yet 18. Then again, you have to be sure he didn't know you were not 18 as 17 is close.
If he continues this behaviour before you have a chance to tell your father tell him "Get this straight I'm 17-years-old pal, stop harassing me as you're making me uncomfortable. I'm the boss's daughter in case you didn't know and I'm reporting this." Then go do so immediately.
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After my best friend's death her troubled teen daughter came to stay with my family. Of course there were conditions. Job, school (g.e.d.), no drugs, booze. After just 5 weeks she broke all the rules. Got fired from a job that I helped her get etc....THEN she started an affair with my teen age son. Claiming she's "in love", he works and goes to school. He was being rail roaded. She just dug her claws in deeper. It was getting crazy. I had her leave yesterday. She went to a shelter, I feel grief and relief at the same time. Maybe she should have never came. Maybe (somehow) I should've dealt with it. For at least a week I didn't sleep and eat (lost 6 lbs.). My husband is supportive of my decision but my )OLDER son (29), says I was unfair to her. What do you think, please I need advice !!! (link)
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While I feel that she should have respected the rules and did cross the line here in a BIG way I think your family made a mistake in abandoning her and sending her to a shelter.
What would your friend think of you for doing this and giving up on her daughter? I doubt she would be pleased. There is also likely a reason why she either entrusted her kid to you or the daughter wanted to be with your family.
Instead of sending her to a shelter to live (which was extremely cruel in my opinion after he mother just died) go and put her in AA or NA for her addictions or alchohol and drug treatment and psychiatric counselling to turn her life around or at the very least therapy.
If you invest time and your love in her she may mature faster into an adult who can take care of herself and make the right choices here and toss out anyone or anything thing that could hold her back.
The girl is also grieving and has lost her mother at a young age and now has nobody. What she did was latch onto your son as he was the only person she could really relate to and felt cared about her or gave a shit about her ultimately.
The drugs, the booze and getting fired were all ways for her to act out and get attention. If you help her get profesional help and lay down the law she will respect you as she now knows you mean business.
.You are the only one who can set her right. Help her get off booze and drugs and get her GED rather than dictate what she must do guide her to the right path.
Go find her at the shelter TONIGHT and bring her back home and be very clear about what the rules are and that you'll help her with her problems but she needs to make an effort too. make her get rid of friends who were a bad influence and steer her onto the right track.
Ask her why she behaved the way she did and how she thinks you can help and secondy how she feels she can help herself?
I think this is exactly what your dead friend wanted in the girl living with you. The kid is in more pain and trouble than you will ever know and being an adult you cannot see what an effect this would have on someone so young. You cannot blame her for being confused and breaking the rules.
Don't give up so easily on her as she may suprise you one day by the kind of adult she matures into with your support and thank you profusely for not throwing in the towel. Everyone else has--don't you do so also. She deserves another shot.
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Does any one else know of websites like Advicenators where you can get free advice as well. (link)
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Hi,
There are TONS of links for Teen Advice on Google but not all of the sites are good like this one or well-supervised and maintained by people who know what they are doing and how to keep kids/teens safe. Try this link http://teenadvice.about.com/ as it's supposed to lead you to articles and sites.
Also try the open directory to teen advice sites here http://dmoz.org/Kids_and_Teens/Teen_Life/Advice/ It contains a lot of them.
When it comes to anything about sex or puberty or adolscence visit www.scarleteen.com which is staffed by volunteers and professional counselors and sex educators and has tons of articles, forums and fact sheets there.
And of course, keep coming back here too as the level of quality keeps going up with new members being added and the moderators making sure only those with a rating above 3.8 get to stay around and continue giving advice. I hope the info i gave you helps.
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who's audrey hepburn and james dean...why are they so famous and are they alive today..if not how did they die? (link)
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Young Grandma gave you some excellent links. I would like to add that you should visit The Internet Movie Database at www.imdb.com and look both actors up on their site. You will get a list on their credits, mini biography and important facts and trivia on them.
I also recommend that you borrow from the library or buy a current guide to movies on video such as Leonard Maltin's guide and start reading the synopsis of their films and rent a couple. Dean is best known for his role as Jim Stark in Rebel Without A Cause as well as his final film Giant and East of Eden from 1955. I recommend you start with those.
Some of Hepburn's best roles include My Fair Lady, Breakfast At Tiffanys and Roman Holiday. If you are writing a report on them which it sounds like I would start with the films above and the links I as well as Young Grandma gave you.
I hope the experience gets you interested in film in general from the 1800s to present as there's a ton of excellent films out there from generations past that young people need to be exposed to so they can appreciate the films of today and what's different and why we must preserve classics such as these.
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well im in 8th grade and every year the 8th grade goes to washington dc.
i wanna go but im scared ill get upset and im getting upset now already [its in april] because like we need to room with 4 people and we only have 3 and the people im rooming with like dnt really care about the 4th person but like theyre really good friends, like the other two im rooming with and im good friends with them too but not as good as they are.
anyways i wanna know how i can not get upset about it like you barely spend anytime in your room but i need ways to not get upset.
pls help, thanks in advanced. (link)
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It's a long time between now and April and anything can happen. If you really want to go to Washington than make the trip as you will regret it otherwise later in life if you never get a second opportunity to do so. You'll be more upset about not going than having gone.
What should you do? Arrange to talk with your teacher and the other teachers and or principal organizing things as well as room assignments. Tell him that you wish to be with your friends but are concerned about the people they may choose for the fourth roomate.
Tell them what is upsetting you, your fears and be extremely honest with your teacher and say you don't want to go to Washington at all anymore over this issue. That will open his/her eyes to making the situation a lot better for you and finfing ways to put you with your friends and keep you away from kids you don't want a thing to do with.
After all, it's the teachers who make the room assignments not the kids and they take situations like yours very seriously. More than likely the only time you would spend with actual roomates are when you are to sleep and seldom during the day.
So, here's what I would do. I would tell your parents that you do not want to go to Washington at dinner tonight and the things that make you upset over it. Have your mother or father call your teacher and tell them how you feel and have your parents emphasize you don't want to go period.
Then talk to your teacher and the organizers with your parents present to get it resolved for you. Your teachers want you to be on this trip and happy at the same time. If after talking to them you're still not satisfied sit this one out. I personally feel not going to Washington with your class would be the wrong decision either way.
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How do I tell my bf that I don't want to have sex with him? I don't want him to be hurt.. (link)
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Tell him that you are not ready emotionally, mentally and physically for sex yet but that does not mean you do not love him. When it comes to sex you are in the driver's set and if you aren't ready for it don't do it. He will understand your position on the issue and will not be hurt.
Tell him that he may in fact be "the one" some day but you would like it if both of you were well researched on the subject and had it planned what you would do for when the time did come. It's not about how he feels about things it's about how you feel and your comfort and readiness.
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I sweat a lot
I went to the doctor and they gave me the strongest prescription deodorant, but I still sweat.
I don't sweat unless I'm really nervous or around guys or when I feel claustrophobic.
I pretty much only sweat around people
I just start to feel really hot and then I start sweating. I need some tips how to stay cool.
I've tried wearing t-shirts, but I still sweat a lot. I need some solutions, please (link)
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What you should have done in this case was to tell the doctor that the sweating is related to anxiety and feeling claustorphobic or embarassed about something such as guys. Tell him/her it starts with that usually and keeps continuing from there.
Your problem is probably not excessive sweating for no apparent reason it's with the things that make you anxious enough to sweat that badly. You may need the prescription deodorant you are on but also medication to prevent you from feeling that anxious ever again.
The problem to me looks to be all mental and about fear that results in the sweating. Call your doctor and tell him/her about this as that changes everythingabout how it should be handled. Stick to loose fitting clothing, no sweaters, T-shirts etc for now but do see your doctor about anxiety as that I'm pretty sure is what causes all of this.
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I did 1 thing in my past that I regret...lets just say im not really a virgin. But It wasn't my fault. And I wasn't raped, so. When my friends ask me "are you a virgin?"...I'm like stuck because I don't know what to say. If I tell them I am a virgin i would be lying, and if they find out i don't want them to get mad. But if I say I'm not they will think I'm some kind of slut and they will ask what happened, and I do not want to tell them....its personal.So? (link)
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Im not sure what it was in your past that you regret doing. I'm also not sure what sexual act it was that you thought wouldn't make you a virgin anymore. It ultimately doesn't matter as virginity usually refers to the act of sexual intercourse (penis in vagina) and not to oral sex if that was what you were worried over.
Even if you had sex and regretted doing it you're still alright. You learned a lesson from it and now know you need to be selective abut next time and have everything planned for you to be comfortable and feel safe doing it.
The dictionary definition for slut is either someone who is a prostitute or who sleeps around with random people (one night stands all the time) or has lots of sex partners at one time. You are none of those tings so you need to relax.
Finally, why do you care if your friends get mad? Your sexual history is not their business for one thing nor is whether or not you have had sex before. Even if they did try to pass judgment it shouldn't matter to you as once again it's not their business.
When it comes to your personal business and sex tell them nothing at all. Politely say, "I like you guys but don't feel comfortable talking about sex and something that is so personal such as your sex life or mine and or our lack there of as its neither my business not yours. "
Stick to your guns on that and do not participate in discussions on sex with them if the topic makes you feel uncomfortable. You don't need to justify your reasons either.
If talking about sex and your personal business is not something you want to do with them don't. If they pass judgment on you for anything it's their level of maturity that is lacking and for them to learn that you don't get into other people's business or sexual matters friends or not.
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I have been married for 8 years. My husband and I have grown distant over the past 2 years. I started sleeping with someone which I don't believe in, and still can't believe I did it. I fell in love with this other man and he is the father of my newborn. I still love my husband and do not want to hurt him, but I do not want to hurt the other man either. I believe in God and that he doesn't believe in divorce, and the roots of this are so deep now. I would be happier with the other man, but does that matter at this point? (link)
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Hi,
The only thing that matters at this point is the truth. It's going to come out sooner or later and it's better coming from you than being found out in another way. What would your husband suspect if he didn't know about the affair and the child didn't look at all like him?
It's best to tell both men the truth as hard as it is for everyone's emotional well-being. Tell your husband that for some time you have not been happy in your marraige and made a horrible mistake by having an affair that may have resulted in your pregnancy.
Tell him you are distraught as you cannot be sure if he or this other man is the father. This will come as a huge blow to him but he needs to know the truth as does the other man. The next thing you need to do is break it off with the other man, seek professional help and try to restore your marraige if at all possible.
The man you cheated with is obviously cheating on someone else and not telling the whole truth. If he's cheating on someone now what is he going to do when he's with you or married to you? You guessed it, the exact same thing. He's likely a serial cheater already.
Before telling either of these men a thing retain the services of a lawyer who can advise you of your options when it comes to a possible divorce and also how to handle determining the paternity of your child and dealing with a possible custody lawsuit for guardianship of said newborn.
It's a tough road to go down but you need to come clean and learn from this. In the event there is a divorce you probably knew that it was a foregone conclusion based on what you outlined and not any one person's fault as you just drifted apart.
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When a penis is erect, how long are they usually? (If you don't mind answering,) how long is yours? (link)
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Hi,
You are normal and regardless of the size your penis will function the same way anyone else's does and get the job done when it comes to intercourse later on in your life. A flaccid (non-ercet) penis is 3-4 inches on average and an erect one about 5 1/2 inches. You're fine if you fall into that range.
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When someone has a boyfriend, how long should it be before they begin to "french kiss"? My boyfriend and I have been going out for about a month, maybe a little more. The other night, when he was dropping me off, he began to kiss me. Now, don't get me wrong, I am fine with a quick peck on the lips. But he opened up my mouth! I felt a little uncomfortable, but I let it go... until he started to use his tongue! I told him he was going WAY too fast. Did I do the right thing? (link)
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You did the right thing here for you. If you were not comfortable and felt he moved too fast you had every single right to say so whether he's been your boyfriend for a month or not.
Tell him that you love him but just were not ready or expecting of that just yet. He should understand as long as you let him know that you do love him and will in fact kiss him that way in the future but want more time to build your relationship up before things get hotter and taken up a notch.
Right now he's probably feeling rejected but he will be okay. You should probably tell him you aren't that experienced with french kissing and didn't know how to handle the situation nor were you expecting it.
It's always about your comfort because if you aren't comfortable you shouldn't do it yet. You need to communicate with your boyfriend and talk about where your boundaries are right now and work up more trust for such an imtimate thing as a french kiss. But to reiterate, you made the smart move.
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is there any way to decrease the redness in my skin on my face. its naturally really red and makeup doesnt get rid of it. (link)
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More than likely you have the same skin condition that former President Bill Clinton has that makes your face appear to very red. There's nothing you can do unless you seek treatment for it. It's called Rosacea and here is two linsk that can explain it a lot better than I can.
The links are both telling you what it is, why it happens and treatment options. You cannot get rid of it with makeup etc or make it go away yourself.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rosacea
http://www.rosaceainfo.com/
I hope this helps you.
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if a guy and a girl have been going out for over a year and havent had sex is it really wrong?
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if i dont will he go off and sleep with someone else? do guys do that? (link)
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It's NEVER wrong. Time let alone age has nothing to do with when you ought to have sex. You are in the driver's seat on this and it's about when you are comfortable and ready for it emotionally, mentally and physically.
You owe this guy NOTHING when it comes to sex regardless of how long you have been together. If you aren't ready you aren't ready. He just has to deal with it. If he ever pressures you ditch him and find someone else who cares about your needs rather than his all the time.
Will your boyfriend sleep with someone else? If he loves you and is commited to you strongly he will likely wait until you are ready. I don't know your boyfriend or his character but if you have no reason to expect he would cheat than trust that gut. If you think otherwise now's the time to bail not later.
Some guys go and sleep with someone else but I doubt your boyfriend would do that. if he seems the type to do so then you are with the wrong guy. Most guys care for their girlfriends and will wait until it is the right time to have sex.
What you ought to do if he's going to be "the one" eventually is to plan for the experience and go over your fears, research about sex (different types), birthcontrol (get on it before sex) and be really educated so you will both know when you are ready. If you plan in advance the first time will go a lot smoother.
But don't have sex just to keep a guy or because a year has past in a relationship. Have sex because you want to and want to share it with someone special or have it not at all. It's you before the guy basically if he cannot understand this.
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ok so i'm 13 almost 14 and my friend told me i need to get a vibrator or a dildp or something and i thought about it but how can i get one without my mom finding out and where???? (link)
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You need to be 18 to enter an adult novelty store where you can purchase one. Do you know anyone who is 18 or over that you can trust to purchase you one? A sibling or older friend may be able to help you here.
Trust me, asking someone you trust won't be that embarassing as they have experimented with masturbation too. The only other thing I can recommend to you is to purchase a unit used for back massage from any department store as it will do the trick for clitoral stimulation.
Also stores such as Spencer's Gifts sell "personal massagers" that can be used for masturbation. As hard as it may be to do you can always approach your mother about this. She will understand fully about it and how embarassing it may be for you to ask her.
She was your age once and most parents would rather their kids masturbate than have sex. She may in fact think you are very reponsible for wanting to release sexual tensions and feelings in this manner rather than have sex now with your boyfriend or random guy.
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ok ... so how do u get an orgasim and when do you know¿ also Im wet? what does that mean? (link)
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An orgasm can be achieved through masturbation or sexual intercourse. Your muscles in your pubic region will suddenly contract and you will feel a tingling sensation and several ripples of pleasure as they release. Trust me, you'll know when you hae had one as your legs and body will shake.
It's perfectly fine for your vulva, vagina and pubic hair to be wet. this happens because you are turned on. The vagina will automatically lubricate itself to allow for penis in vagina intercourse. Being wet is exactly what should happen from here and may signify that an orgasm is about to come.
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