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if a guy and a girl have been going out for over a year and havent had sex is it really wrong?
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if i dont will he go off and sleep with someone else? do guys do that?
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i've been going out with my boyfriend for over a year and we haven't had sex, and we're not waiting for marriage. it's all about what you're comfortable with. so it's not wrong to not have sex after a year.
and if he does go have sex with someone else, he's an asshole and not worth your time.
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sex before marraige is always wrong..it's just simply immoral and the Bible speaks against it. and if the guy is worth while, then he wont go off and sleep with someone else. in which case, you shouldn't be with him anyway
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NO iTS ACTUALLY A GREAT THiNG..&& iF HE DOES GO OFF && SLEEP WiTH A RANDOMSLUT..YOU KNOW HE'S NOT WORTH iT & HE DOESNT CARE THAT MUCH ABOUT YOU.! <3MARY!
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It's NEVER wrong. Time let alone age has nothing to do with when you ought to have sex. You are in the driver's seat on this and it's about when you are comfortable and ready for it emotionally, mentally and physically.
You owe this guy NOTHING when it comes to sex regardless of how long you have been together. If you aren't ready you aren't ready. He just has to deal with it. If he ever pressures you ditch him and find someone else who cares about your needs rather than his all the time.
Will your boyfriend sleep with someone else? If he loves you and is commited to you strongly he will likely wait until you are ready. I don't know your boyfriend or his character but if you have no reason to expect he would cheat than trust that gut. If you think otherwise now's the time to bail not later.
Some guys go and sleep with someone else but I doubt your boyfriend would do that. if he seems the type to do so then you are with the wrong guy. Most guys care for their girlfriends and will wait until it is the right time to have sex.
What you ought to do if he's going to be "the one" eventually is to plan for the experience and go over your fears, research about sex (different types), birthcontrol (get on it before sex) and be really educated so you will both know when you are ready. If you plan in advance the first time will go a lot smoother.
But don't have sex just to keep a guy or because a year has past in a relationship. Have sex because you want to and want to share it with someone special or have it not at all. It's you before the guy basically if he cannot understand this.
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If you and a guy have been going out for a year, then it's not wrong that you have not had sex. It's about whether you or he are ready to have sex, it's whether you two are comfortable with the thought of sex within your relationship. It's really about can your relationship handle sex, and if you two really want to go through with it. I don't know what you want to do, and I don't know what you b/f wants to do. That's for you to find out. You may know where you stand on this issue. Wherever you stand, make sure that it's known to him. And if he doesn't respect where you stand, then that's his problem not yours, and you may want to reconsider being in a relationship w/ a guy who doesn't respect your beliefs/principles or etc. I think that after a year, you two may need to be talking about sex and where you stand. And if you've started, then that's great.
If you don't want to have sex(and that's if he does want you to go through and do it), then try to explain it to him, although you shouldn't have to do so. Just b/c you won't sleep w/ him doesn't mean that he'll sleep w/ someone else. You know your man and what he will and won't do. If you're worried, talk to him about it and show good faith. But most importantly, don't feel forced to put his needs before your own in order to maintain a relationship, which is a two-way street. Your needs, desires, principles/beliefs, should come before anything, including this relationship. Otherwise you're sacrificing yourself for him. It's your choice, all of this. Listen to your heart. I hope I was some help. Good day to you.
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No its not wrong, its good that your waiting. If he honestly loves you he wont go off and have sex with someone else. Yes some guys do do this
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well for your first question...no it's not. sex is a way to get kids so if you TRULY want kids...might fine.
for the second question...it depends on the guy. if he truly loves you NOPE!
my friends bfs do that all the time. like i said before....it depends on the kind of guy you are dating.
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in a relationship, sex is an act of LOVE.
for it to take place, you should feel that you are 110% ready,that youre not pressured, and most of all...you have to KNOW you love one another.
there is no "correct time" for you to have sex...a week, 6 months, a year, 3 years, whatever, it doesnt matter how long you dont make love until, because if your boyfried really loved you, he would wait until YOU are completely ready regardless of the fact how long you have been together.
you have to KNOW he wouldnt go off and sleep with another girl.
you are not ready if you are even contemplating this.
you've been going out for over a year ...you must now if he'd do that to you or not.
if he would...you shouldnt be with him still :(
i think you should speak to him and ask for his opinion on this whole situation.
how he sees it, what it means to him. etc.
if he pressures you complains that you havent "done it" yet, he is not the one for you.
im sorry if this sounds harsh at all ..its not meant to be..i dont want you to get hurt.
i dont know if you have a boyfriend and are asking this, or if you are asking this just in general.
ill take it you have a boyfriend (and if you dont, keep it in mind until you are married becauuse then you can have all the sex you want knowing he loves you)
sex is serious and should be thought of as special..obviously :)
you shouldnt feel rushed/forced into having sex, otherwise you will not enjoy it, and it will not be an act of love :(
hope ii helped
good luck :)
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That is NOT wrong at all, because it depends when YOU'RE ready for sex, not when he's ready! You should both be ready, you should both be in love, and both trust each other. As for him sleeping with someone else, most likely he will get a girlfriend that will do something for him, but don't be jealous because if he does, she's the one ruining her life. Sex not only makes you feel pleasure, or hurt, but it leaves you emotionally attached to the person from what I hear so don't do it with someone you're unsure about, or don't think you're ready to do. Some guys will do that, some will use their girls for sex, while others will stay loyal.
Bottom Line: I advise you not to in this case, it will save you further drama in life.
Good Luck
~ Lauren <33
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not wrong at all. the good guys don't cheat, but not all guys are good. you shouldn't do anything you aren't ready for, and if the guy would leave over something like that, do you really want to be dating him anyways?
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