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Am I a virgin?
I did 1 thing in my past that I regret...lets just say im not really a virgin. But It wasn't my fault. And I wasn't raped, so. When my friends ask me "are you a virgin?"...I'm like stuck because I don't know what to say. If I tell them I am a virgin i would be lying, and if they find out i don't want them to get mad. But if I say I'm not they will think I'm some kind of slut and they will ask what happened, and I do not want to tell them....its personal.So?
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Im not sure what it was in your past that you regret doing. I'm also not sure what sexual act it was that you thought wouldn't make you a virgin anymore. It ultimately doesn't matter as virginity usually refers to the act of sexual intercourse (penis in vagina) and not to oral sex if that was what you were worried over.
Even if you had sex and regretted doing it you're still alright. You learned a lesson from it and now know you need to be selective abut next time and have everything planned for you to be comfortable and feel safe doing it.
The dictionary definition for slut is either someone who is a prostitute or who sleeps around with random people (one night stands all the time) or has lots of sex partners at one time. You are none of those tings so you need to relax.
Finally, why do you care if your friends get mad? Your sexual history is not their business for one thing nor is whether or not you have had sex before. Even if they did try to pass judgment it shouldn't matter to you as once again it's not their business.
When it comes to your personal business and sex tell them nothing at all. Politely say, "I like you guys but don't feel comfortable talking about sex and something that is so personal such as your sex life or mine and or our lack there of as its neither my business not yours. "
Stick to your guns on that and do not participate in discussions on sex with them if the topic makes you feel uncomfortable. You don't need to justify your reasons either.
If talking about sex and your personal business is not something you want to do with them don't. If they pass judgment on you for anything it's their level of maturity that is lacking and for them to learn that you don't get into other people's business or sexual matters friends or not.
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Tell them the truth, because if they are real friends they won't care, and you don't have to tell them what happened if you don't want to; they should understand.
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You should not be ashamed of your past - it was not your fault. If you feel that it is nobody elses business then tell them you have a virgin heart. Don't feel pressurised into revealing something that makes you feel uncomfortable. I would suggest, however, that you may feel the need to talk this through with a rape crisis counsellor if you haven't done so already. They will be able to help you come to terms with the actions of the person who did this to you. You will then be able to deal with any awkward questions in the future. I hope that I have helped in some way and wish you all the best. Good luck.
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Make a joke out of it, it usually clears the conversation to something else.
You can say "Yes. If you mean being a virgin that I've never line danced before" or "No. I had a virgin mary last night."
It's really none of their business, and you can also tell them that...
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I would say emotionally, you still are, but physically you are not. Don't be afraid to tell people your story.
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don't be scared to admit your doings wether their wrong or right.
and if they were really your friends, they wouldnt get mad at you and understand your reasoning in doing it. good luck with this.
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You can either 1.) Tell the truth & say that you aren't, but you made a mistake in the past & consider yourself to be a "born again virgin." Or 2.) I know you said you don't want to tell them it's personal. But it is. & it's okay to tell them you aren't comfortable discussing the past with them! You don't need to explain your actions or worry about what they think. Everyone makes mistakes & some things (like your sexual history) don't need to be brought up unless you're in a serious relationship.
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WELL . . .
i would just say , like its my business if i am or not
you know ?
like idk what else to say .
but why should your friends realllly care ?
its dumb .
and if they wanna call you a slut or w/e just let em . they have to callll you names cuz they get called worse names
lol
well i hope i helped
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We don't know what it is that you did so we can't really tell you if you are a virgin or not. You don't have to say you aren't a virgin. Just say you are so they don't think you are a slut...if they find out, tell them it was an honest mistake. Everyone makes mistakes, and from what you said, you regret it, and you made a mistake. Its no big deal. Hope I helped
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