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Hello, all- I'm Becky. I'm 16 years old but wise far beyond my years, so hopefully you can expect some good advice from me. I'm not here to spit out cutesy answers to every single question- I won't be a bitch, but I'll be sure to tell it like it is. Just accept it, and consider less-than-sweet answers as tough love. :]

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My parents are getting divorced because my mum is unhappy.
Anyway I found out that she was cheating on my dad.
I followed her one day down the end of my road where she got into a car with a guy, Mark. I know it was him because I heard her talking about him to her friends and I know its her old boyfirend.
She didnt come home that night.
I feel weird towards her.
I don't know what to do. My dad doesnt know. Should I tell him. I don't want to hurt either of my parents.
Will this affect the divorce porceedings?
Thanks for all help.

definitely don't tell your dad. it can't do anything but hurt him, and it can't affect the divorce because knowing this certainly won't help keep them together. however you might want to talk to your mom about it, because she needs to know you know. im sorry your parents are getting divorced. i helped one of my friends through her parents getting divorced, so if you ever want to talk, you can email me! hope i helped, and im really sorry. ♥

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Some of my friends are smoking (cigarettes). I'm really worried but I don't think they'll listen to me if I ask them to stop. Should I stop hanging out with them or what? I'm afraid of being pressured by them.

i really think you should talk to them about it. if they are really you're friends, then they won't try and pressure you to smoke. tell them how bad it is to smoke, and how it can damage your body. they might even be trying to quit, but are having trouble, in which case you need to encourage them to get professional help. if they won't listen to you when you ask them to stop, and DO pressure you to smoke, you probably want to stay away from them. also, if you guys are under 18, then its illegal, so DEFINITELY stay away, and you might even want to tell someone. hope i helped! ♥

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I really like this kid and i don't really know him that well but my friends have told him that i like him and stuff so he knows i have his screen name and everything but im too shy to talk to him about liking him or anyhtingg help

i rate 5's !!

he knows you like him now, so it can't hurt to talk to him. at first,when you IM him and say hey this is _______ you should act like you don't know that he knows you like him. then, you can see what he says. whatever he says, it will help you not make the first move of talking about you liking him. hope i helped! ♥

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On november 1st I got a boyfriend, and even though we have only been dating a little while I love him and know he is the one for me! Well here is the other part of the story.
Before me and my boyfriend started dating I had this thing going on with my ex boyfriend. Then my exboyfriend said alot of mean stuff to me. Like im a slut and i cant get any guys and all that stuff. Then when I got my boyfriend (that i am with now) my ex boyfriend apologized. My exboyfriend is in my gym class and everyone says that he keeps looking at me. He even poked my tummy! what is up with that? I mean he insulted me (but he apologized) what is he thinking? THe bad part is I kinda like knowing he is looking at me and stuff...
Whats going on?

I rate well

he's (your ex bf) jealous. he prolly doesn't want you to move on so quickly, and he thinks he'll feel better if you come back to him.
you prolly just like the attention, not the person its coming from. everyone likes attention =P
you should stay with your current bf, cuz thats who you want. just ignore your ex, and eventually he'll give up. hope i helped! ♥

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i dont know what to do!!!!!!!!!!! i think i like the same guy that my best friend likes...me and this guy have been friends for a long time and my best friend has liked this guy for a while too...i dont know what to do cuz i want to get over him cuz of my friend!! please help!!!!

its great that your so loyal to your best friend. what you should do is talk to your friend. it will help, and she probably will feel better about you talking to her rather than just keeping it to yourself. you really only have a problem if the guy happens to like one of you, so you guys need to talk about what you would do if that happened. no matter what though, don't let this guy get in the way of your friendship. hope i helped! ♥

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Volleyball is the one sport I love with a passion. I connect with it so well and I've played it for 5 years. This year, alot of conflicts came up that make me miss many practices, games, and tournaments. So, I talked to my coach about becoming team manager and helping out in practices and keeping score for the team during some games. Things like that. But, last year I sat out at every game because I was a freshman, and this year would be my time to play in games. It's hard for me, but I'm deciding to go with the team manager or actually try out and have the concequence of my coach really getting mad at me for missing so many pracitces... which one sounds better?

you should talk to the coach first before you try out, so that you can work out whether or not missing so much practice will be a problem for you. if it won't be, then go ahead and try out, but if it is, you'll have to either get rid of some of those other things, or just go ahead and be the team manager. hope i helped! ♥

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What Happend to the Site News??? There hasnt been any in about 1 or 2 months!

its cool that you actually read that stuff...lots of ppl don't ;P

i guess whoever runs the site is too busy, and hasn't had time to put stuff up...

either that or nothing has happened lol ♥

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Does anyone know how to request something to the people who created advicenators? I heard you can do that because i heard that a lot of people requested a delete question button.

go to miscellaneous (right under Welcome, _____!) and click make suggestions. then, make your suggestion! ♥

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13/f. Alot of my girl friends say that i look pretty and gorgeous and things like that. But i dont think guys find me attractive,...why?

lots of ppl don't think they are good looking, pretty, hot etc. its just because ppl are generally critical of themselves; humans are messed up like that =P

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I really like this guy and i have for a really long time. A couple nights ago was a dance and we were around each other pretty much the whole time. and if i walked away he'd walk with me. He's kinda seeing someone right now but they arent going out. Well, to make things specific, I've liked him for about a year. We've gone out a few times. He calls me once everyday or every other day but he doesn't call the girl he's seeing on the phone. And the night of the dance he's like "this dance blows" and im like "why cuz (the girls name) isnt here?" and he's like "yea"..i dont know I'm just really confused can anyone help me? thank you sooo much!

there's two possible scenarios:
1) he does like you, and he doesn't really like this other girl. he prolly is only dating her b.c. he found out she liked him, and he was like why not? when he was like ya, he was just saying that, but he's really having a good time cuz hes with you
OR
2) he just wants to be your friend, and he really does like that other girl. lots of ppl talk to their friends more than their bf/gf b.c. its just more fun =P and so thats why he doesnt call her

i'm leaning more towards choice #1, but the only way you can find out is asking him! hope i helped ♥

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Becky this is Kensey! haha i got you sooooo bad on the So LyK wUt ShUlD i Do????? haha i hate that writing! oo whos good lol
;-D gotcha

get me back some time,
kensey

lol i hate that writing too be on the lookout for my tricks! lol jk...or maybe not...wow kinda weird ♥

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I Have A GREAT Friend but she sometimes makes fun of the way I look like she will say " your nose looks weird or you have a double chin! haha" and She isnt a serious person and It hurts my feelings. What Can I say to her! Please dont say things like "Slap her, hit her, etc."

chances are, she's just kidding, especially since you said she isn't serious. she probably doesn't want to hurt your feelings, so what you should do is next time she does it, just be like "it hurts my feelings when you say stuff like that, please stop" and she'll prolly stop. hope i helped! ♥

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hey ok probably everybody has figured this out but me...lol but thats alrite wats a PSP?? wat is it and wat does it stand for...plz dont be mean:D

its a playstation portable. it's a playstation that you can carry around and stuff ♥

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HaY i LyK hAv ThIs FrEnD && sHe LyK tAlKs AbOuT mI bEhInD mI bAcK bUt Is NyCe ToO mI wHeN iM aRoUnD wUt ShUlD i Do??????????

Translation: Hey I have this friend who talks about me behind my back, but is nice to me when I'm around. What should I do?

Ok what you should do is confront her about it. Say, How come you talk about me behind my back? or something like that. She'll prolly deny it, so then say like I've heard you do it before. She'll prolly say I'm really sorry or something like that, and then say its ok, just don't do it again. Keep an eye out for her, and if she does it again, talk to her one more time. If you have that same conversation, and she does it again, stop spending quite as much time with her. Hope I helped! ♥

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hey omg okay i have this problem because theres this girl in my sorta math class thingy.... and shes always copying me...geez shess soooooo annoyiing yeah i was wondering if you could help me or something...................becky btw its me i was making it all up i was talking about you lol jkjkjkjkjkj LUV YA LOTS

haha lol jamie! ♥

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I've heard that when you're trying to lose weight that it's important to eat several small, healthy meals a day instead of only one or two large meals. What's a decent number of small meals a day to start with? Do you increase or decrease as time goes on?

probably around 4-6 mini meals a day. make sure that they are healthy or that makes it not as good for you. also, it probably would be a good idea to do some exercises, because those are good too. o, and you could probably just keep it the same, instead of increasing or decreasing your intake of minimeals. hope i helped! ♥

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hi i like this boy. i want to be freinds with him and talk to him with out him knowing that i lke him.i kno were his locker is (right acrass from mine if i could do somthing with that)help

its great that you want to know this gug instead of just telling him you like him. what you could do is just strike up a conversation with him one day, like if you have any classes with him. if it goes well, do it again the next day, and the day after that, etc. after a few days of that, since you know his locker is right across the aisle from yours, you could talk to him while you're both at your locker. if you have fun talkling to him, ask him for his screen name because it's often easier to IM someone rather than talking to him. do all this, and you're sure to make friends with him. hope i helped! ♥

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ok so there's this girl at my school who i REALLY REALLY REALLY LIKE ok and she's goin out with this other guy. so here's my question what are real good ways to win her over her bf. from a desprit person in love give good results.

ok i know this isn't probably what you want to hear, but you need to move on. if she said yes to this guy, she probably wants to go out with him, and probably won't change that. you need to just forget about her for a while, and do what ever you need to do to forget about her. if you can't stop thinking about her, that's ok, but don't try and break up her relationship with her bf. if she ever breaks up with him though, and you still like her, then you can ask her out! sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear, but this is what you should do. hope i helped! ♥

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I always go on this chat room and i can't stop going. I want to block it for myself but I don't know how and I know I'll get mad when I want to go on it and I can't. What should I do to try and stop going on it?

here's what i do to make sure i don't do anything chatty wise that i dont want to-
first of all, just stay completely away from chat rooms. don't even tempt yourself my looking through all the different rooms. also, just sign on, and leave yourself signed on for 5 minutes. if you haven't seen anyone that you really really want to talk to sign on after 5 minutes, just sign off. that will help you stay away from talking to people you don't wanna talk to. hope i helped! ♥

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how can u loose ten lbs fast
if it helps i weigh 110 and i am 5'4". thanx

well first of all i don't think you need to lose weight at all! your weight is perfect. but if you're set on losing 10 lbs, the best thing you can do is drink lots of water and milk instead of soda or sweetened juice, and eat as little or no junk food. you could probably eat one thing of junk food once in a while and it wouldn't hurt you, but lots of people can't just eat one, so it might be best if you just stay away for a while. also, exercise a lot. if you exercised just 30 minutes around 4-6 times a week, that could really add up. you could just watch a TV show, and by the time your done you'd have your time in. also, try and remember that depending on where on your body you want to lose weight, it will take more/less time to lose 10 lbs. hope i helped! ♥

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