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Q: What's that thing you type in when your talking to someone on AIM and it shows ur IP address? Does anyone know what im talking about? Or does anyone know another way to get someones IP address?
IP adresses are secret things that can be used to attack other computers. It is generally not seen or able to be got in any legal methods, so I cannot tell you any.

Q: Is it true that if you drink a lot of water at night you'll look healthier and your eyes will not look so tired in the morning??also...is there a such think as drinking TOO MUCH water? thanks!
Yes, as it gives more to flow through your body. And yes, you can die from drinking too much water. Too much of anything can always happen, and is always a bad thing.

Q: can you get a disease by kissing aand making out like only makeing out witht he tounge and nothing else?
Yes, you can, but the odds are approximately 100 times worse that by other methods. The saliva is what can do it.

Q: is it true a girl can only get pregnant one day out of the month?
One day out of her cycle. And no, that is not always true, as there are sometimes when something weird may happen.
Yet, even if she does get pregnant, 1 in 4 conceptions are miscarriages.

Q: whenever i go on safe mode, the screen is always small.. its not the normal size. is there any way i can enlarge the screen so next time i go on safe mode it will be the normal size?
Not that I know of. Safe Mode is only for changing settings to fix whatever was wrong. Many things do not even work there. This is because it only loads the bare minimum. This includes your settings of display, as they don't do anything.
I don't think there is.

Q: okay I was brushing my teeth, and then I threw up. It was only like a little cough. Like *cough* and throwup came out while still brushing my teeth.

Is that normal or Is there something wrong about that?

and Is that called making yourself throwup?
It is normal. It happens to me every so often. It is usually just a little bit, and all you do is quickly find the nearest bathroom and spit it out. If it was a lot (Explosive), you should definately see a doctor, it may be a stomach virus.
And no. Making yourself throw up is when you intentionally do it.

Q: if someone u know has diabeties and u accidently/purposly drink out of their cup that they drank out of, what could happen if anything?no smartass answers nd btw, this aint for me
Nothing that involves diabetes. Diabetes comes when the pancreas dies or becomes malfunctional. It is not viral or bacterial, so no harm will come to the person.

Q: okay well i just got my haircut and i hate it.. i told this lady not short and no bangs and she made itshort with bangs and i hate it!! but all my friends are like its so cute and the guy i like told me it looks great, but i was just wonderin... do guys like it better if a girl wears her hair up or down??
Down, definately. I find that having it up makes the girl seem all uptight, and sometimes, those styles are just horrible. All I advise is that you wear it down and brush it daily to ease knots.
-Steven

Q: okay well for the past 2 weeks of school ive dressed up really nice... and ive looked classy. well im kinda tired of gettina ll dressed up, so what are some ways to make myself look cute, but not too dressy?? also, i want to wear a sweatshirt tomrow and jeans, but do guys look down on girls who dont get all dressed up, or do they not care?? please help!! i need some ideas
Instead of dressing up, just wear tank tops and shorts. I find cup-sleeved shirts to be really cute, but that may just be me.
I am a guy, and I will tell you that we honestly don't care what the girls wear. honestly, I look up on girls that dress casual, I find that it shows courage. I admire that.
-Steven

Q: okay... can you get stds from someone like for example if they dont have one? any names? i know its a weird question
Nope. STDs stand for sexually TRANSMITTED diseases. It has to be transmitted, you just cannot catch it.
Yet, I do believe there are a few that are invisible. They will not show up until they are. I'm unsure on this though, so I don't know of any names of these...

Q: on xanga, how do you underline your words?
(U) and (/U), but use s instead of parentheses.
Just type what you want inbetween

Q: hi, im new at this...
well...ive been cryingg every nightt to bed abd now during the day...
i used 2 cut and i did it for two years and i stopped b/c my parents found out..well ive been crying everyynight to bed and i was curling my hair the other day and i burned myself by accident and when i did i just for some reason burned myself again on purpose and ever since ive been secrectly cutting/burning myself i just hate myself now ..i just dont know what 2 like do or feel i jjust dont wanna be here anymore...
What happened is that your body made morphine each time you cut in high doses, and you got addicted. You recovered, and were fine. Burning did the same effect as cutting, and readdicted you to those doses. Burning is another for of SH, and is directly related to cutting.
All I suggest you to do is tell your parents that you accidentally burned yourself with the curling iron and that triggered you to start cutting again. It worked the first time, it will work now.
I cannot help you with crying constantly, because I do not know why you do such. E-Mail me at sbloemeke2@yahoo.com, and we can talk about these problems.
-Steven

Q: My frined would like to know, since she insists even when she's dating somebody, looks wouldn't matter. This is what I told her:

And, you know what, looks do matter. Nobody would go out with me if my clothes were ragged, smelly wet and ripped jeans, my hair unbrushed, would they? I don't get you, looks do matter. I swear. I thought you liked somebody because they're cute, and cute=looks. Like=personality and/or looks.

So, you have to re-think what 'looks' means. You think your Dad married your step mom because of her personality? Yes, but not alone. he also cared aout her looks.

Also, if looks don't matter at all to you, why do you think Jesse is ugly? it's because of his LOOKS.

Why do you 'luv' Seth?

-Actor

-Personality

-LOOKS.

I can't like a guy without the looks, they depend on the person, they represent what they person IS. If I wore exactly what I described in my other comment, nobody would be attracted to me. Like Dylan. Ripped shirt, over sized jeans--and he's overweight, nobody would like him.

Looks are very important. Don't go looking like a rag doll. And you have to understand, I'm not saying looks only matter.

--
Thanks, will rate high.
Well, looks sometimes do not matter. I have never liked a girl for their looks, only personality. Of course, some girls do look better than others, yet that is not always the basis to judge love.
That is my personal opinion. It may be different from person to person. But dating is always based on personality. If the person is good looking but a terrible personality, it usually is over within a month. I have seen that too much. Yet, the better personalities last longer times, even if the looks aren't up there.
-Steven

Q: okay my sister is 12 and well, theres this girl and she is bullieing my sister! shes like "omg you better take my pictures off that websight or blur my piicture outt or i SWARE TO GOD ill kill you!!" then my sister called me over and i said

me- is that a thret
her- if you call it one it is
her- wanna piece of me?
me- no hunn, i want the whole thing!
her- right
me- couldn't thing of a good comeback eah?
her- if you dont take the pic out, i sware to god! i will kill your sister becasue i know this is may. i sware to god i will.
me- ifine want me to call the police
her- then ill delete your myspace and the picture site
me- i dont give a &#@! what you do!
her- you will when you see your sister in a funerol in 3 days
my sister- you litte &#@%! im older then you and you cant boss me around you little %!@@#*
her- yeah i can and i will
me- right i wanna see that
her- dont go to school tomorrow or youll be sorry that you did!

can you help me because this is really annoying me

ill rate you no matter what, unless if it is really bad and un-detailed adivce. try uour best :)
Make sure that your sister always has someone around her. Pairs are less easy to pick on and your sister will be safer. Tell the head administrative official of the threat, and ask him to spread the word to the faculty. If this girl lays a finger on your sister, punch her in the face and get a teacher immediately. They will handle it from there.
-Steven

Ever mispelled your own name? It's embarrissing

Q: This might be stupid, because it happened to long ago but I want peoples opinions about it. I'm 15 female, & my sisters 22 female.

My mom has been on asthma ever since she was a young girl, and one night in June 2005 I wake up to her coughing an over amountage & weezing [deep breathing] I was super worried because I didn't know what to do, so I woke my sister up & had her come in my mom's room, my mom started throwing up because she was coughing so much, & she couldn't breath, so we decided we were going to take her to the hospital, because that's the only choice we really had. At this time my dad was living away, but my parents don't hate each other or anything, it's just he moved & they we moved a couple months later. But anyways, when we decided we would take my mom to the hospital my sister goes into her room, changes from her pajamas to regular clothes & then says shes ready!!

I didn't even care what I looked like, I didn't want to waste anytime because I knew that my mom had a hard time breathing, and it must be horrible to have that problem. But, my sister changed and that's what made me really mad, because it just seems like she doesn't care what happened to my mom in that 3 minutes. Blah, well basically I was just wondering, don't you think that that's wrong? I know I shouldn't be worrying about it now, because my mom's perfectly fine now but I just can't stop thinking about it.

Automatic 5's just for reading. Thanks a bunch =P
Personally, I think she changed for another reason. You were all worried about your mother, and you were afraid some serious harm could come to her. You coped by trying to handle the situation. I think that your sister tryed to cope by avoiding the situation. It's perfectly fine to do it that way, as it is sometimes neccassary. She needed to collect herself in some manner as to be able to help you. That's how she did it, by changing her clothes.
Just a few thoughts. Hope this works!
-Steven

Q: I'm leaving for my 1st undergrad year very soon and I don't know what to do about my boyfriend when I leave. Should I try and conduct a long distance relationship?(My uni is in a different country to my home town). Or should I break up with him? Maybe a trial separation till Christmas when I return for the holidays? Or even an 'open relationship'?

Pros
1)I love him. He loves me.
2)My boyfriend and I will have been together for nearly 1 1/2 years when I go.
3)He's very sweet and he gets on with my family.
4)He's pretty good at sex.
5) He's accepting of my sexuality.

Cons
1) He's a compulsive liar.
2) I'm bi and uni will be my first real chance to explore that.
3)He cannot hold down a job. Or school/college.
4)His sex drive seems a lot higher than mine when we're together.
1)He wants forever and a family. I'm not ready to settle down and I never want to get married.

BTW we're both 18.
Conduct the long distance relationship. It is just as good as a close relationship, just without the physical aspect to it. It should be enough to sustain the relationship until you get out for the winter break. This is when you can finally have the physical aspect.
With the forever and family, that can be avoided. simply, just stay together with him as long as you can, and tell him that you are not ready to get married until you are out of college if he ever offers it. Will sustain it until then, and by then, it would be 5.5 years. I doubt you'd love him that long.
-Steven

Q: well i am the one who is aasking the questions for that kid, you probally saw several of them.

well i was in gym class and i was like to my friend jackie "ill race you" then he heard me and was like "RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN" really loud, then i heard him say "god ill give that girl a hug someday" and i was like wtf?

but i really like this kid

and then we were kite flying in math/science to see whos flew the best, well i was the first to get mine going in the 3 classes. and he was staring at ME not the kite. then it was his turn he ws just paying attention to me. bot its team-mates.

and my friend, brit, keeps saying "this guy digs you! OMG HE LIKES YOU!!! omg you and jon should go out" contunisly again and again every day. i like her saying that becasue i think i have a chance. but the people in my school would ruine it.

help me please!

I think you should go out with him. It seems like he likes you greatly, and you like him. Naturally, that always makes a great couple.
Also, that girl probably will not get off your back until you do start going out. I'd honest suggest that you do that, in case word got out. It may be worse if it did.
If he doesn't ask you out, ask out him. Doesn't have to be traditional.
I hope I helped!
-Steven

Q: I am in desprate need of a new AIM screen name. Any ideas? If this helps..
- my name is ali
- i like x's, xO's, x3's and things like that
- i like to dance
- i like words like crazy/i/ii, baby/i/ii, dance, and other words like that.
- my fav. songs are lose control, be my escape, like u,

please help!
xOxcrazibabe(Age)xOx
The age is your own age.

Q: ok im 16. i have been w/ my b/f for bout a year n a month. and i just found out im pregnant 6 weeks. i love him very much but my family really doesnt aprove of him or want him in my life! now that they know im pregnant they want to stop seein my b/f becuz they think he is not father figure becuz my b/f isnt really that good guy he drug deals and used to be in gang and used drugs but has sober for about 8 and a half months. i dont know what to do help do i stay with his family and him n leave mine his family loves me sooo much they were always there for me. help. i dont know what to do!!!! HELp
het back to me!
You cannot leave your boyfriend and survive with a child. It is not possible at your age, unless your parents are going to support the child.
My suggestion to you is to leave your boyfriend and get an abortion while there is still time. You don't want to go and mess up your life because of a mistake.
Or, have the child, and give it up for adoption, if you are pro-life.
Either way, I think you should leave your boyfriend, as he'll only cause you trouble.

Q: ok, i'm in 8th grade and i'm in the orchestra and i play volleyball. next year i was really hoping to participate in the Marching Band in pit. but during school i think that orchestra and band meet at the same time, and then volleyball practice is after school but thats also when band practice is... so i dunno which to choose! i can do an extra volleyball thing besides school, but i dunno about band vs. orchestra... i was also planning on moving to a different high school in 10-12 grade for orchestra...
Do Orchestra. I'm in marching band, I play Trombone, and it is not worth it if you can do a sport or another band. I've heard that life in the pit is really boring. Do Orchestra and volleyball.

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sbloemeke
THE PENGUIN RULES ALL! AHAHAHAHAHAHA! *Cough*
Hello! My name is Steven, and I am a mentor. Yes, that does mean that I help other people. I have helped over 1000 people to date, and have helped some individuals for over 1/2 a year. The miracle of my life occurred 17 years ago. I say miracle only because 1/4 babies survive to be born.
I am the first born of 2 children, and I am also the black sheep. I listen to Classical Music, so you can call me a weirdo. :P. I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, so take no offense if my answers never seem to end.
In school, I get As and Bs. More Bs really. I play trombone, and was the section leader of the trombones at my school. This year, I am the captain of the entire brass section. I am an Eagle Scout, so I guess that says I'm persistant? You make the call. I am a 3 time varsity letter winner, looking for a 4th next winter. I also participate in the musical, where I am a Bass 2. :)
I am straight, and have never had a relationship beyond a friend. However, I have survived the bumps in the road, and can advise you if you wish it. Though, it's not my strength.
I'm here for you, and only you. That means that my advise will not always confort you. Heck, it may even scare you. Yet, I want you to do what is best for your mind. Not what is typically seen as best for you, but what YOU see best for YOU. Heck, if you wanted what was seen as best for you, you would've asked your parents what you should do. They give you what's typically best.
Alright, before I start getting tendinitis from writing that over and over again, I'll just say what I mean. I mean that if you ask me about something, let's say walking 10 miles a day, and I think it's rediculous, yet you are asking for something to do, I am NOT going to say "10 miles is the type of a thing a anorexia athletica would do. Try 5." I'll give you something to do.
Oh, and I'm a L1 moderator, which means I rate questions.

Don't hesitate to IM me, I'm usually on. If I'm not, just drop one in the Inbox!

Oh, by the way, I am liberal in everything. That means that abortion is a woman's RIGHT, and gay marriage should be LEGAL.

Ask away!
-Steven

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