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Q: I amg etting tured of hearing people say that my boyfriend is too old for me... we are 4 years apart... my Q is.. how do I get people to accept it and see us for who we are and not our age. we dont like each other because age.. we like each other for who we are. i am 15 he is 18... and i dont need anyone else telling me he is too old for me.. and my parents like him... and we like each other for the right reasons... just how do i get people to stop judging me for who I am with?

if you have eachother, and your parents are okay with it, i dont see the problem with it. you cant let other peoples opinions get to you! just forget about them. if you tell them that you and him are in love, and they still say hes to old, then they arent very nice.

Q: Okay well the last time I put in a collom it was about this guy that I liked that was always hitting on me. When I took everyones advice and told him he said that he was going to cut down on dating people for a while until he can get his feet back on the ground. Well I have no problem with that but then right after that he though that the girl he had just broken-up with still liked him and he imeaditly said he still liked her too? Even though he said that he was going to wait, thankfully it turned out that she only liked him as a friend. So then right after that he stared hitting on me again. I took it knowing that he's a guy and most guy's lives are run by testosterone, so I was like whatever but when me and my mom talked it over I realized after saying it that I was his rebound girl or something? I was so pissed but I still like and if I could just possibly get into his mind and find out whether he likes me too then it would be all good, but I can and I don't know what to do cuz I really like him?

the ffact that he Went to another girl bothers me. boys are like that. if one person dosent like them, he goes to the other one. i think you deserve better. you dont need to deal with that. forget about him and find sombody who will give you his everything, forever not just until he finds another girl.
xo

Q: Hey Im looking for some good music of... Dance, HipHop, Techno, Club, REmixes and stuff like

Glamorous by Fergie ; Akon ; DJ Shrek

Long Way to go by Cassie
Trouble by PINK
Clumsy by Fergie
Cupids Chokehold by Gym Class Heroes
Turn it up by Paris Hilton
Work your Hips by the Crime Mob
Walk it out by DJ UNK
Shake by the Yin Yang Twins
Smack That by Akon
My Humps by The Black Eyed Peas
Ride for you by Danity Kane
Ass like that by Eminem
So Excited by Janet Jackson
this is why im hot by Mims
We Fly High by Jim Jones
Maneater by Nelly Furtado
Irreplaceable by Beyonce
Fergalicious by Fergie
My Love by Justin Timberlake & T.I.
Wind It Up by Gwen Stefani

Q: Okay can ya'll just tell me some cool songs that have a good beat?

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xo

Q: 15/f. i hooked up with one of my really close guy friends who happens to be a senior on sat night. so we were talking about it and let's just say i'm not that experienced (even though he doesn't know that) and i was saying that i'm a boring person and he said "well you're certainly not a boring kisser." is that a good thing?

lol YES!!! thats a compliment! take it lol
xoxo

Q: Info: Ok I am 23 and he is 19. We are both artists and musicians. I am black and he is white. Question: I had a crush on this guy at work. Turns out he had a crush on me too. He asked me to date him exclusively. I said yes and we did. He told his family that we were going to be dating and they flipped out because 1/2 of them are racist. We talked about it and decided to work through it. We didn't have sex but we did make out and mess around some, shared some private goals and beliefs etc. Then he calls me after we spend the night together, the day he was supposed to talk to his family and work something out, and says that he isn't as interested as he thought he was. He says we should be friends, but then he stops calling and talking and everything. Then I hear that he was using me to get this chick at work jealous. But he doesn't seem like a malicious person like that, and I think he loves his family too much to take them through that for nothing.He also cried on my shoulder and wrote a song dude! About our relationship and situation. What do you think? What is going on?

personally? i think he is afraid of his family. i think they put to much pressure and he couldent handle it. and hes to much of a gentleman to own up to it, so he breaks your heart. if you call him, it will kill him that he cant be with you. you should try to move on? unless your to in love with him, and then if you are you should talk all of this out with him.
xo

Q: are there any lyrics to songs about one of your friends dating your ex boyfriend or something

anything funny like that?

a funny song is: YOUR GONNA DIE SOON by SARAH SILVERMAN. her whole album is hystarical JESUS IS MAGIC. its like pure comedy!

Q: just wanted to know some peoples favorite songs. no screamo please. haha (:

thanks
xoxo

um....here lets see...

1. Year 3000 by the Jonas Brothers
2. The Whole Album "How Much For Happy"
3. anything by "Cute Is What We Aim For"
4. Just So you Know by Jesse Mccrtney
5. Walk it out by DJ unk
6. The Sweet Escape By Gwen Stefani
7. This is WhyIm Hot by MIMS
8. If You Cant Dance by the spice girls
9. Girlfriend by Avril Levine
10. Stay Away by the spice girls
11. Baby, Baby, Baby by Joss Stone
12. All of your love by Helo Goodbye
13. im a flirt remix by R. Kelly
14. Glamorous by Fergie
15. All Star by Smash Mount
16. Summer girl by Smash Mount
17. Beautiful Liar by Beyonce and Shakira
18. Call Me When your Sober By Evanescence
19. Discotech by Young Love
20. Hey Baby by No Doubt

If you need more, Lemme know! this is just off the top of my head i dont know how many u need!

Q: I'm a 21 year old female. I live in Pennsylvania. I met this guy about two weeks ago off of a dating website. He lives in Canada. I know two weeks doesn't seem long, and to fall in love with someone you've never physically met is stupid, but this guy stole my heart. I instantly fell in love with how much of a gentleman he was, how much he cared about me, and how sweet he was. I'd never felt so happy in my entire life. People actually commented me on how happy and alive I seemed. We got into some sort of argument over something, and he told me that he felt as if we were too incompatible. And the distance. I told him I'd move to him and everything. The thing is, I just can't get over this. I cried the hardest i've ever cried before in my life last night. I didn't sleep a wink, I got up for work at 5:30 this morning feeling like a zombie. I sat at work for three hours just staring into space, not doing anything, feeling like I didn't even exist. I haven't had anything to eat since 7:00 last night... the thought of putting food near my mouth just makes me sick to my stomach. I came home from work at 11:00 because the pain was just too much to handle. What should I do? I don't know how to cope with this at all.

you dont need to listen to me, bcause i know your older and wiser, but i understand what your going through, and i can relate. You WILL get over him. it will take time, and it will be painful but time is the best medicine. Cry it out. write it in a jornal. get all of your emotions out. you cant keep it in or it will all start coming back. there are so many other people in the world, and so many of them will make you feel even happier then you did with this boy. you will heal, and you will get over it, and then, when you have healed and your heart isnt hurting, then you can find the perfect boy who will make you feel like a princess. everybody has their perfect match, you just need to find yours.
XO,
leo

Q: well lately ever since ive entered 9th grade ive been so mean idk. all i feel inside is hatered. like i just dont want to live in this world. its like i dont have nothing good in my life. now i get mad easily and i cant be happy for noone. its like if youre just talking to me about something simple i might come up with some stupid comment or just scream and loose my temper for the sammllest probelms. i dont know why i have gotten like this...i have also been depressed like when im alone i feel like crying becasue nothing is going right. i need help. what can i do to stop feeling so miserable. becaseu i hate who ive become
ps if it helps i was neevr like this my sister eve told me that im so mean now and that i always start fights with her for no reason no one understands me!

i know how you feel. i get like this too. everyone does. you just need to let it run its course. you could talk to a counslor, she could help you undrrstand these feelings and then you could fix them easier. try getting a lot of rest and concentrating on school or dance or somthing. if you ever want to talk im always on here just drop me anything in my inbox ill answer. i hope you feel like your old self again really soon!

Symptoms/characteristics:

· Irritable, negative, grouchy
· Frequently sad or hopeless
· Not interested in activities
· Complains of painful boredom, emotional emptiness or numbness
· Vulnerable to rejection
· Physical symptoms (headache, pains)
· Problems eating and/or sleeping (too much or too little)
· Problems concentrating
· Withdraws from friends
· Tired
· Ruminates – dwells on bad memories or self-defeating thoughts

thats from http://www.naminc.org/CFS%20DEPRESSION.htm

its probably unlikely, but you might be actually depressed. you should talk about it to sombody.

Q: Does anyone know any sites that have really cute bikinis? Other then abercrombie, thankyou!

American Eagle has really cute ones, more now because of spring break and everything. and i love that you can but the bottoms and the tops seperate, so that you can get different sizes if you need them!
http://www.ae.com/web/browse/category_clearance_womens_detail.jsp?rcid=clearance&scid=cat90062&sscid=cat90090&navroot=clearance

moving on: PAC SUN!! on of my favorite stores in the hosttory of theplanet! pac sun bathing suits rock because they have all different styles. And you can by the tops and bottoms seperate which i love lol
http://shop.pacsun.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/CategoryDisplay?storeId=10001&catalogId=10001&langId=-1&categoryId=10961&parentCategoryId=10002&pageNumber=-1&sortBy=0

ROXY is a great company and you can get their stuff almost anywhere. including here:
http://www.beachbums.com/home.php?cat=294&sort=add_date&sort_direction=0&top_manufacturerid=&show=all

OLD NAVY: some ofthem are kinda wierd. you need to find the cute ones but they are there!
http://www.oldnavy.com/browse/category.do?cid=34893&pageID=-1

Then, L*Space has some really adorable ones!
http://www.bikini-beach.com/lspace.htm

and ive never heard of "Beach Bunny" but it seems cute
http://www.bikini-beach.com/beach_bunny.htm

i know that you said to Amercombie, but did you mean Hollister too? the problem that i ifind with hollister is that the paddings dont come out, but if you dont mind that, their stuff is adorable!!
Look at http://www.google.com/url?sa=l&ai=bggk20e0arryol4fuiqh-ppnqabxemctvxl-pao7--qfq6awqargbkaqwatgaulbfodv7_____wfgyqayafcgazgb_y8gmag4kgayabusbpgbvpigyaebgaibyalvjnc&num=1&q=http://www.hollisterco.com/hol/homepage.html%3Fcm_ven%3DGoogle_Holl%26cm_cat%3DBrand%26cm_pla%3DBrand_Word%26cm_ite%3DHollister&usg=__LO4vPs9eUgZ1BduWanxcXDnLBfo=

Alloy is the best websight for everything!! especially jeans and bathing suits!
http://store.alloy.com/content/features/swim/jsp/index.jsp?sidenavTrack=swim_shop

HAVE FUN SHOPPING!!!
XO

Q: this is going to sound gross
but durning your period, what are some smells to watch out for?
like if it smells like somthing its dangerous and you have tss? and what do i do if i get these smells?
thank you so so much!!!
you all rock!!!

p.s is it tss if it smells like creamchese?!?

im 13! im not sexually active, ive barely kissed a boy lol

Q: I am divorced. We have 3 kids together ages 10,9,7... my son is the 7 year old. He comes home upset from visiting his father every time.He has been living with this boy who is 6 for a year, His mother has 5 kids by 4 different fathers and 2 are serving life in prison. one is (the boys) father. He is going to marry the boys mom in july and adopt him. This would be fine if he was a fit father but he is not.She is also a convicted felon.who only has custody of 1 of her 5 children. I am a suburban mom who makes a pretty good living, and gives my kids a good life, by the way he has also been convicted of domestic violence on our daughter. Should I keep my kids out of their home?? Its becomeing ever so bizarre.My son comes home cryin g because this new kid call his dad daddy, he feels like he has been replaced. His girlfriend told my son something about a month ago that set me off, they were spending the weekend with dad and girlfriend and my son asked when he was gonna see mommy and the crazy girl told him "mommy is dead i killed her", my girls said this was said..she has threatened to kill me through relatives, she is not all there. What do I do?By the way my ex and this woman were having affairs throughout our ten year marriage. This is not a stable environment for my kids, I am in a great relationship now and I might want to fight for sole custody and move away..Any advice??

your not overly upset!! do not let any of those people near your children!!! if your ex is dating somone who threatens to kill you, you need to stay far awya from both of them! fight for sole costody. they should be 100% YOUR children and he should have no part of them. let him go be with his convicted family!!! you should stay far away from these people, they sound crazy. and he sounds like a really bug jerk. i dont like him at all. you sound like a great mother and your son is lucky to have you watching over him! tell him not to listen to his daddy, or his daddys crazy girlfriend. your daughters need to be told to watch out for this crazy girlfriend, because she could hurt your girls. i wish you the best of luck!

Q: Ok..I'm torn between two girls..I like both of em, but I'm not sure which one to get over..One I met a couple of days ago and everything just sorta clicked between me and her. The other one I met last year and she is like my best friend...So which one should I get over and which one should I ask out... Thanks in advance.

you should get over your best friend and go out with the new girl.
you say that things clicked which means good chemestry
if you brake up, you can force her out of your life and it wont ruin a long friendship

Q: There's really not a category for my questiion so I appologize in advance. Anyway, I've had freckles on my face for as long as I can remember. As a kid, everybody thought it was cute, including girls, but I didn't want anything to do with them obviously in 2nd grade or whatever. Now that I'm in college, I don't think that people, including myself, really think freckles are cute anymore. I dont have problems with acne, and I'm in pretty good shape. Do any girls out there think that freckles are a cute thing?

my bf has freckles and i think theyre so hot!

Q: what do girls look for in guys?

girls look for boys who are comftorble with who they are, butnot showy about it. boys who can keep up a conversation. boys who will tell them when they like them, and show them how much they like them. boys who tell them theyre pretty. boys who will make tme to spend with them.

Q: I like this girl..But I just met her a week or so ago, but she likes my best friend. I don't know what to do, any ideas?

compliments!!! if you text her or IM her or tell her how pretty she is, and make her feel lloved shell completely forget about your friend! girls LOVE compliments!

Q: I have this friend, lets call her E. She is currently commited to this guy. he is older then she is and away in college. we both are just in high school. she has an amazing personality and i almost knew that i had real feelings for her once i met her. i know she has some feelings for me too. problem is she is still commited in her own mind, to the guy in college. it cause's her so much conflict, and rightfully so. i dont want her to have to deal with this, and i would be okay if she went to her old boyfriend. but i am notn really okay with this, because i really like her. and i kno that we would work out together. I can't control her emotions nor do i want to. I also dont want to be as selfish as i am. it's rude and not who i wish to be. But it hurts to realize that i may lose our relationship.

any advice on how to settle my troubles. either get over her (would rather not), or more preferably help her choose. and choose me. i really like her, and know we would work out. but how do i show her that too.

im not going to tell you to get over her. i am going to advize you to put your feelings for her on hold. tell her that you understand shes in a relationship and you dont want to break her off from that. when the relationship fails, then you can go back to liking her

Q: can you tell me your first kiss story? Just what happened?

Mine was less than wonderful haha.

Just to see as a little comparison of things. thanks!

mine kinda sucked too. it was with my current-ex-boyfriend. it was 100% planned
like meet me here at this time and then well kiss
it was the stupidest thing ever
and he was a bad kisser
lol so i dont reely want to count that one, because he was like......wierd

but now i cant to hear about YOUR 1st time
lol

Q: Hey im in a relasion ship were i am being presured to kiss my boyfriend andi like really want to but im afraid and he wasnts to kiss me but this is really hard to do when your friends make you do it and my friend anna said i have to kiss him or dump him.

Ur freidn Anna is an Idiot! she has no clue what shes talking about. i had a bf for 6 monthes and didnt kiss him. i wasnt ready 4 that. then he wanted to so i dumped him. which was a mistake. you should talk it out with him! explain that you want to kiss eventually ur just pressured. good lukkkk w/ life
xo

bio

FRIENDS ARE LIKE ELEVATOR BUTTONS. THEY CAN EITHER BRING YOU UP OR TAKE YOU DOWN. CHOOSE WISELY
A friend will let you borrow their umbrella but a best friend will take yours and scream "Run Loser Run!!!"
we are all angels
with one wing
and we can wonly fly
with the help of somone else
my friends are my wings

TRUE FRIENDS
THEY ARE HARD TO FIND
DIFFICULT TO LEAVE
AND IMPOSSIBLE TO FORGET!

you can pick your friends, and you can pick your nose! but you cant pick your friends nose

killers stab you in the head
Frenemies stab you in the back
boys stab you in the heart
but best friends dont carry knives

a best friend will never ever come to bail you out of jail so never use your one phone call on them
i tried that, but she wouldent pick up. when i got back to our jail cell, i asked her why she wouldent pick up her phone.

theres no thing as strangers. there are only friends we havent met yet

ill give you advice the best that i can
im only 13 so the advice i give you may not be the best
but ive made tons of mistakes so i can relate
and im obsessed with shopping so anything with clothes i can help
and im always here if you want to talk or hang out or anything
im giving you the truth straight up
i am a brutally honest person
Im also fun-loving and adorable
I consider myseld a happy person
I just happen to love black
Do not call me gothic or ill kill you