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Broken.
I'm a 21 year old female. I live in Pennsylvania. I met this guy about two weeks ago off of a dating website. He lives in Canada. I know two weeks doesn't seem long, and to fall in love with someone you've never physically met is stupid, but this guy stole my heart. I instantly fell in love with how much of a gentleman he was, how much he cared about me, and how sweet he was. I'd never felt so happy in my entire life. People actually commented me on how happy and alive I seemed. We got into some sort of argument over something, and he told me that he felt as if we were too incompatible. And the distance. I told him I'd move to him and everything. The thing is, I just can't get over this. I cried the hardest i've ever cried before in my life last night. I didn't sleep a wink, I got up for work at 5:30 this morning feeling like a zombie. I sat at work for three hours just staring into space, not doing anything, feeling like I didn't even exist. I haven't had anything to eat since 7:00 last night... the thought of putting food near my mouth just makes me sick to my stomach. I came home from work at 11:00 because the pain was just too much to handle. What should I do? I don't know how to cope with this at all.
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Talk to him & tell him what's going on. It may not seem that easy, but just tell him how you feel about him & maybe he can help you get through this break in your life. If he doesn't seem to care, then he wasn't worth it. Cheer up.
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That is so sad but hes a jerk anyway for letting you go. but its funny how you care so much eve though you've only known him for 2 weeks.
Is there something else going on in your life that drives you to these extremes? I dont think this is an isolated event.
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you dont need to listen to me, bcause i know your older and wiser, but i understand what your going through, and i can relate. You WILL get over him. it will take time, and it will be painful but time is the best medicine. Cry it out. write it in a jornal. get all of your emotions out. you cant keep it in or it will all start coming back. there are so many other people in the world, and so many of them will make you feel even happier then you did with this boy. you will heal, and you will get over it, and then, when you have healed and your heart isnt hurting, then you can find the perfect boy who will make you feel like a princess. everybody has their perfect match, you just need to find yours.
XO,
leo
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i can see waht you going through of course i never had my heart breaken by someone but i never fell in love with someone. But i can tell you is that i know its hard getting over someone especailly someone you care about. So the best thing you could do is tey doing things that make you feel better you know, like shopping, or goin out with friends, have fun and party.Dont cry over someone everyday because its not healthy for you i mean its ok to cry a coupl of times just dont do it to much. Just try to forget all your problems do things that you enjoy and maybe that get your mind off things and him. good luck.
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i went through the same thing.the guy i swore i was "in love with" ended up moving and things between us just changed but i still wanted things with him and me to work out so i tried to talk about things we used too but nothing worked he moved on and it was too hard for me to realize that.I cried every night because i coudlnt stand him with another girl,he told me he loved me then i see hes told his current gf the same thing when they just starting going out for only about 2 weeks i felt miserable and betrayed because i wouldve done anything for him.I was my happiest too when i talked to him or i heard his voice.It took me about 4 months to get over him,but im better off without him because i learned he wasent worth the trouble when we werent going to go anywhere and i finally realize what a jerk he was.Im not going to lie,its going to be hard to move on.Try focusing your mind on something else.When i was upset i talked to my friends about it it made me feel better then we would just go out and have a good time.Shopping works too,nothings better then getting a good deal at one of your favorite stores ;] And trust me,guys are not worth it,no guy is worth getting all worked up over and should'nt ruin your life.Youll eventually find a guy who will go the extra mile just for you and will stop at nothing until he has you in his arms.Take Care!
♥ danielle
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I think everyone has gone through a stage like that. I know I have. Some ways to cope with a broken heart is just to do something fun to get away from life!
Some things I did were:
*Shopping with my friends. I am the kind of girl that absolutely loves to shop and when I'm with my friends, I forget about all my problems.
*Go Clubbing. Get all fancy and dance with a few friends! The music helps me drain out my thoughts and makes me just want to DANCE and HAVE FUN!
*Take a trip to a luxurious spa! Even if you are going to a spa by yourself, IT IS STILL FUN! You feel like a princess and it helps you get away from life. Even if the spa is just for one day, it will be TOTALLY worth it!
*Blast up some music and clean the house. I know that cleaning your home may not be fun, but if you have a few friends over and you guys just start dancing and laughing, everything just FADES AWAY. By the end of the day, you'll be laughing like crazy. If you have friends like mine, you will be close to peeing yourself because of all the jokes and pranks! The very VERY good thing about doing this is that you have fun and forget everything and YOUR HOME IS CLEAN!
*Have a ALL-GIRLS sleep over. Call all of your friends and just sleep over. It will be like when you were little. Then you girls can play some fun games like: truth or dare. You can play board games, or you can dance like crazy people. It's always fun especially because it brings back old memories and you and your friends can play PRANKS! For example, the first person who falls asleep gets their complimentary 'make-over'!
JUST REMEMBER TO HAVE FUN! AND FORGET ABOUT THE PAST!
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You obviously really like the guy, and you tried your hardest to make things work, but it doesn't sound like he's willing to go the extra mile to be with you. My advice is to move on as best you can. Do things that make you happy and keep yourself busy so you don't have to think about him. Spend time with your family and friends. Read a good book. Go see a few movies. Throw yourself into your work and do your best in everything you do. If you surround yourself with people who actually care about you and do things you love, you'll find yourself getting over him in no time. Plus, by putting yourself out there and doing fun things to keep your mind off him, you're bound to meet someone that is much better for you that you can actually spend time with and not just speak to on the internet.
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I know it's hard.But...you don't really know him that much and he obviously dosnt care.And the pain is sharp and sore.There is now way that you can get over a heartbreak quickly.You need to be strong, and dont let him spoil your life,you've got a whole life ahead of you and whats the point of holding back this future that awaits for you - children,family,a husband.You've only known him for about 2wks and you LOVE him...maybe he felt to pressurized because you feel this strong already...dont get hang up on him...and besides how do you know who he really is.
I think you should take some time off to get your head around this and go out with a few mates to get yourself out and about and your mind off him.Dont let him tear your life away and destroy it.Get some confidence.
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I had a heartbreak and I am STILL trying to get completely over it. I didn't eat for literally 4 days and I cried EVERY night for 2 months. I felt like there would never be anyone for me, and I thought that guy was the one. But you know what, EVERYDAY will get EASIER and you'll see that after about a week, things will get easier. Start talking to someone from your job or even online again, but dont make your WHOLE life about someone. because in the end, you have NO LIFE. I learned that the hard way. Start working out and get your mind off of it. take kick boxing or have a hobby that will distract you for a long time. Also take ONE FULL DAY off of work and cry your heart out, then you can feel A LOT better for a while!!
hope i helped you can email me if you need to: luvnetsirk007@yahoo.com
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