Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
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I'm 13 I way 125, I'm 5'0. I hate my weight, It makes self conscious like you couldn't believe [along with my acne] I want to loose weight a healthy way, this hopes of along with clearing my acne up.
I'm goaling to loose atleast 5 pounds this month.
I'm going to join the YMCA and I'm going to run track ,go to the pool on the weekends, cardio, and probably join a class or more.
I'm cutting out soda [which will be easy, I hardly ever have soda]
the hardest thing will be junk food, because thats all my family ever buys.
Any suggestions? Any opinions? Good or bad, I want to/need to hear it.
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First of all, you're already starting on the right track by wanting to do all this exercising and healthy eating and everything instead of those girls who just don't eat and hurt their body more than they think they are.
But if you continously work out and keep a steady, regular routine, why just lose 5 pounds a month? A healthy weight loss is 2-3 pounds per week, so if you were to lose 2 pounds every week, you could lose around 8lbs total every month.
Talk to your family and let them know you're starting this routine. Ask them if they can possibly stash all the sweets somewhere else in the house you don't know about, so if you ever feel a craving, you'll be able to fight it by not being able to find the junk food. Also, try and maybe get them to participate in this with you. Have morning jogs with the family and workout together in the gym. A good support group for eachother'd be benifical to the whole entire family.
Also, make it fun so you're not all by yourself sweating. If not family, why not make it friends? Friends is another great support system who can help you outside of your home. They can help you with your eating at lunch in school, and if you stay over their house you two can jog together outside or walk around the neighborhood and just hang out. Also, as the person below said, in gym whenever you're hanging out, try your hardest in gym and make sure to do your best.
Just don't go overboard at first, and start out slow. If your body isn't use to exercise, it's going to tire out your body if you're going overboard on the exercise first. So just ease into it and increase the number of laps or push ups or whatever it is you're doing every few days.
Also be sure to get all your nutrients into your system, and get a good amount of sleep. It's not going to help you if you're bodys always tired and it won't be fun if you're jogging on your treadmill and your eyes fall asleep. Ow.
Also, for your acne issue, it may be all this junk food and everything that's causing all of it. Try purchasing proactiv (sp ); my friend's used it before and it worked wonders for her. Also, acne can be caused of a build-up of oils and grease and everything, so just be sure to wash and clean your face.
Here are some sites for some healthy foods:
www.whfood.com
http://www.bellaonline.com/site/HealthyFoods
http://familydoctor.org/302.xml
I hope I helped.
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OK, here's the deal- I hate wearing blush (so I never do) because my cheeks are naturally pink. A lot of people think that's good. OK, it is. One less makeup product I have to spend time and money on, LOL. But, the problem is- I think they're too pink... should I put brown blush over top to tone it down?
Main reason I ask this:
whenever I laugh too hard (or get embarrassed or hot) jmy cheeks turn really red and warm!!!! And when I excercise my entire face is red which looks realyl horrible because my upper lip doesn't turn red so I have like white spots on a red face.
ughhh....
What do I do to make my face and cheeks stop turning red?
would foundation cover it up? (link)
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You can try and wear some foundation to tone your naturally pink cheeks and everything, but when you start laughing and get nervous or whatever, your face is going to turn red ; you can't cover it up. Believe me, I wish could cover up my red face. This happens to everyone ; it's just signs of embarassment and everything, it'll go away.
And especially with exercising. Believe me, my face gets red and sweaty and I look like I just ran 93049304 miles or something and I'm about to pass out, lol.
Whenever you start to feel yourself get embarassed or anything, just start to take deep breaths and calm yourself down and maybe whenever you laugh, look down a bit, that's what I do. I do it naturally, but it also helps hide your red face a bit until you stop laughing and it goes away.
Also, I have this problem for whenever I'm around guys, and I do the deep breath thing and try and not stare them straight in the face until my face calms down, but it doesn't even matter. Cause once I did it, and all the guys find it cute that I get so nervous or whatever around them. So sometimes, it can even be used to your advantage. :)
I hope I helped.
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im fed up!! my best friend nicole, her other best friend is always hogging her and i never get ot hang out with her, they are either having a sleepover or wont let me talk to them. I have also known nicole for waay longer. what should i do? (link)
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I would talk to Nicole about this. If she's your best friend, she'll understand and won't get upset and try to resolve this issue.
Just let her know that you understand her having more than one best friend and everything, but it's getting to the point where you don't get to see her anymore, and you really miss her.
She needs to learn to balance time between people so everyone gets to hang out together and nobody's feelings get hurt and nobodys upset. So just mention this to her, and just let time go by and see how much she balances time between the two of you. Maybe just one day every weekend can be "your" day, and the other can be the others day. Or if one of you guys has plans with her, but it has to be on Saturday instead of Friday, then you guys can just switch days that weekend or whatever.
Sometimes she can hang out with you, others, her. She shouldn't spend more time with one than the other cause that's hurting your feelings, and that's not being a very good BEST friend.
I hope I helped.
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14/f. really complicated Q.
This guy who I've known for three years likes me as more than a friend. One year, I suspected he liked me (and I had an almost-reliable source tell me so) and I liked him. The next year, I completely did not like him. (I've never told him how I felt about him one way or another) and now we finalyl got to talking again and his best friend (who might be right or might be trying to start trouble) said that this guy like, loves me and is a great guy says I should give him a chance and kiss him.
Well I said that I'm not allowed to date and therefore nto allowed to kiss. (since it's true) and he was just like oh well.
Honestly, I don't think he's a great guy. I mean he's not like bad, but he is a couple of mont younger than me, I don't really think he's cute, he's interested in weird things I'm not interested in, and... I don't know.
I mean, I'm not gonna date him but can we still be friends even though he likes me?
He's told me a couple of times that he likes me but then he always tries to take it back and then says he actually does but blah blah blah blah.......
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Yes, you guys can be friends. That's usually when one person likes their friend, and that person doesn't return their feelings.
And that's good you let him know you can't date him or anything. Sometimes girls just figure not to say anything, and the situation'll go away, but that sometimes gives the guy more and more false hope that she might someday become interested and he'll keep persisting it.
I hope I helped.
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What if I like you but, too poor to buy you any fancy eletronic girfts, or just gifts in general? (link)
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I don't know.
I was just kidding about the sidekick thing, if you didn't know.
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well me and this boy were getting pretty close and i let him kiss me like with tongue. And so one of his friends told him i have a boyfriend and i dont but he wont tlk to me wat do i do (link)
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Just talk to him and tell him it's not true. Even bring a "witness" or "backup" or whatever to help you prove it. Bring a friend and just have them be like,"She doesn't, seriously."
And just let him know that you're not the cheating type so if you were to have a boyfriend, you would never have kissed him while you were dating someone else.
I hope I helped.
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how do you delete some one from your myspace
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Either go to your "edit friends" on your top 8 on your homepage, and find them and click the box next to their picture and delete them then.
Or just go to their myspace and go to their contact table and click "block" and it'll block them, and I think deletes them from yours at the same time.
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I like you, what do I do? (link)
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Buy me a sidekick.
:)
Idk.
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Hi, I am doing some homework and I have to find the name of a mine from the 1800s and I need to find out the conditions and how unheyginic and stuff it was AND a diary entry from a mining worker,
any sites or info
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Here's a famous mine called Getchell Mine:
http://www.scripophily.net/getmininc2.html
And there's also the Santa Cruz Mine:
http://www.scripophily.net/rosimiconewy.html
Here are some sites about mines and they're conditions and stuff:
http://www.mg.mtu.edu/abmine/abando.htm
http://www.crying-fox.com/mine2.htm
http://eesc.orst.edu/salmon/human/mining.html
http://encarta.msn.com/encyclopedia_761558734_5/Coal.html
These might be some diary entries:
http://library.state.ak.us/goldrush/GMining/miner.htm
Also, I found a book on Amazon called the "Coal Miner's Bride," which I think is a journal. So may go and check that out of the library or something.
All I could find over the internet for diary entries was diary entries of tourists who visited old coal mines, and that's about it.
I hope I helped.
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I really like this kid i.ve never met him or talked to him. im really shy........how do i start a conversation when the only class we have together is Physical education????????
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Just talk to him then firstly about PE. If you guys are playing a sport, ask him a question about it that you might not understand, maybe even get him to help you out with kicking the ball or whatever. And flirt with him lightly while you guys talk about it or do it.
Then just talk more and more about the sports or whatever you're doing that day. If your teachers' mean or something, maybe make a remark or a joke about her and try and make him laugh.
Maybe even make a comment about your next class. Just be like,"Ugh, I'm so happy though after gym's over, cause then I got lunch to look forward to. What do you got next?" and talk to him about his classes and your classes and your teachers you might have the same teachers and tests and everything.
Then slowly, just start to change topics to music, interests ( what do you guys do after school ). Even though it MAY seem awkward, just keep talking to him. The more you talk, the less awkward it starts to become. You just sort of have to make yourself talk, and push yourself out there.
I hope I helped.
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One of my good friends keeps telling me this kid likes me now she is REALLY good friends with him so if he did like someone she would know........but she always says it lyk she finds it funny or its a joke.....idk what to think .........how do i find out if he really likes me??
how should i act around him???
what do i do???????
Help!!!!
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She might just be toying with your feelings if she knows you like him. I don't know why she'd do that because that's not being a very good friend, but that might be it. I would ask her in a serious voice if he really does like you for real, or is she just joking or not and see what she says, and how she says it ( her tone if it's still funny sounding or anything ).
Also, just flirt with him whenever you're around him and hint to him you're interested. If he doesn't catch on to the hints, don't be discouraged. Guys can't notice the hints sometimes a girl sends out. But just hug him some and sit close to him, and just give him slightly more attention then you do to other people if you guys are all hanging out sometime. And just be yourself. Cliche, I know, but you should. And just see if he flirts back with you and if he shows you signs of interest too.
I hope I helped.
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So there is this boy that likes me, but i'm not really sure if i like him. i mean he's cute and all, but he's a little too clingy. like whem i'm coming from a class, he knows where my next class is and he'll wait for me. i know it doesn't seem like there's anything wrong with that, but there's more. if i walk past him without noticing, he'll grab my bookbag like i have to say hi to him and hug him everytime i see him. he doesn't grab my bookbag hard or anything, but it gets really annoying...like everyday. and when school's over and i'm going to my bus, he'll wait at the end of the hallway and ask me where i'm going. he asks me that every single day! i just tell him i'm going home as usual, but the questioning persists. everyone says that we should go out...even people i don't know! everyone seems to see it but me. how do i tell him to chill without being too harsh? (link)
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You just got to starting ignore him a bit. I know it seems mean, but it might help him understand you can't always talk to him and you can't always hug him all the time.
If he grabs your bookbag, just keep walking and if he asks you about it later tell him you didn't feel him grab it, or that you had no time to talk. Your schedule's been very busy, so you might not have much time to talk to him between classes and everything.
If he keeps continuning it, though, you've got to say something. It might hurt him, but you can't keep continuing this over and over. And I'm sure he'd want you to be honest with him. Just not.. BRTUALLY honest. Just explain to him that you're sorry, but you don't always have the time to talk to him, so if he could just come and see you to talk or something every few other periods, that'd be alot better. And just let him know you don't like it when he tugs on your bookbag, cause that's basically pulling on your shoulder, and it irritates you. Let him know that you want to hug him and everything, it's just you can't do it all the time and you can't talk to him. You like to have some moments to yourself in school where you don't even want to talk to anybody else.
He might be a little hurt, but if he likes you this much, he'll understand and respect your decision and back off a little.
I hope I helped.
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there is this guy and he is the sweetest cutest guy in the world. one of my friends told me that he thought i was really pretty and that he was thinking about asking me out. but the thing is is hes popular and i am not and he is a sophmore and i am a freshman but i really really like him and i want him more than anything how can i get him to ask me out??? (link)
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Well he's already thinking of asking you out, so it won't take much work, and you're already half-way there!
Just continue to be yourself - that's obviously why he already likes you, and just flirt with him a little more than usual and show him you're interested and you want to go out with him. Just make sure it's not like, all over him flirty. And just show confidence and that you'd make a great, sweet, caring girlfriend. But like I said, don't go too over the top or you may drive him away.
It doesn't matter whose popular, whose not. It's not going to make a difference in a couple of years whenever everyone's out of highschool. Then, everyone's just like everyone else.
I hope I helped.
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ok tomorrow night is my 7th grade dance. its with the 8th grade too. anyway, me and some friends are going and i want to make a good impression on the 8th graders. i would normally wear my straightened and down, but i want it to look different, but cute. my hair is red, down to my boobs, and i have bangs at a little longer than my chin. does anyone have any cute, flirty hair styles that i could do in no longer than a half hour? thanks in advance.
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I think your hair would look so pretty if it were to be curled. Like those sort of long, loose curls, you know? Or depending if you want it worn up, you could also do the curls up in a ponytail, and then have your bangs hang down in curls infront of your face.
Or you could curl it, and then what some girls do with their bangs, and pull them back, you know what I mean? They take their bangs, and just pull them back towards the middle of their head so it's centered, and then take a barette or a hair clip or whatever and pin it down so it says, and it looks so cute.
I think that'd look so pretty, especially with your red hair.
Depending on how easily your hair cooperates with straighteners and curlers and everything, it shouldn't take more than a half an hour to do!
Here's some picutres:
http://www.ultimatelooks.com/putonpiecesandwigs/LongCurlsPinUppop1l.jpg
http://www.ultimatelooks.com/putonpiecesandwigs/LongWavyMiniClip1pop1l.jpg
http://www.martinparsons.com/images/gallery/up_do_print/line3/waterfall.jpg
I hope I helped.
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OK so there's this boy and I like him a little bit and he's alright. But, when he is aroudn his friends he gets really mean and calls me names and everything. But he is really sweet and nice. Then when his friend isn't around he'll tell me bye after school and things like that. Is it just he doesn't like me or is it just his friend? (link)
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Think of his friend and you. Do you guys get along and everything, or have you had past experiences that make you don't like eachother? Is there any reason at all why you think his friend might not like you?
Because if that's it, then it's probably just his friend. This can happen with guys. The guy like a girl, but his friend doesn't, so whenever they're all near eachother the guy feels if he's not mean to the girl, his friend'll feel like he's being betrayed or something and that his friend's going to start dating "the enemy" and leave him behind or something.
Also, whenever guys like girls, have you not heard "if the boys teasing you, that means he likes you" bit? This always tends to happen infront of the guys' friends, because he doesn't want others knowing he likes the girl, if he's shy or anything about it and doesn't know how you feel back.
I would talk to him about it and ask him if his friend has a problem with you or anything. If his friend doesn't, then just ask him straight out why he's always so mean to you whenever his friends around, and then wheenver the two of you are alone, he's as nice as can be? And just let him know it's sort of hurting your feelings being made fun of, and not knowing when he's going to be nice one second or mean the other.
And just try and talk it out and resolve the issue. If it is because of his friend, maybe try talking to him and resolving whatever problems obviously bubbling between the two of you, and show him there's nothing to dislike about you, and you want to be his friend.
I hope I helped.
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I asked this friend of mine to the girl's choice dance. I asked him if he was going, and he said he didn't know, so I said "you don't have a date then?" and he said no, so I said "do you want to go with me?" and he said "I'll see." what does that mean? I could understand if he said "I have to think about it" but what does "I'll see" mean? do you think he's just keeping his options open? (link)
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He could possibly be keeping his options open, because maybe there's another girl he might be waiting for too.
"I'll see", also can mean "I have to think about it", in a way. He just might be seeing if anybody else asks him and wants to see who out of the most he wants to go with, and who he'll have a great time with and everything.
So just wait, and if he doesn't answer soon, ask him again if he's going to go with you or not. Cause if he doesn't, you might have time then to set your eyes onto a new date. ;]
I hope I helped.
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well i'll make this short
i think i like this boy. i sit next to him in one of my classes and we talk occasionally. he is not what you call "cool" but hes cute and nice. he's friends with geeks and popular people too but i feel that liking him is not a good choice.. is it ?
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Who cares if he's a geek or not. It shouldn't matter who you like, if you like him, you like him. Plus, he's friends with popular people too if it matters that much, so it's not like he's like "intergalatic star wars" fan club president with his pencil pocket friends or something.
If he's cute and nice, that sounds like a great boyfriend to me. If you have a good time with him and you like him, like I said, who cares. Other people's opinions of you shouldn't matter, because in whatever years whenever they hit college ( if most of them even GO ) they're not going to be popular or anything, they're just going to be like everyone else.
So go out with him, and have a great time. Have him and a few other people all hang out together and get introduced so he can be more friends with your friends and they'll all get a good opinion of him and see why you like him so much and everything. But like I said, if he's friends with popular people and geeks, he's obviously not that bad of a person at all. He sounds great.
I hope I helped.
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14/f
I go to school with this boy that i like. he told my best friend he liked me too and that he was going to ask me out... now today he told her he liked someone more, and he didnt know if he was going to ask me out... what is he thinking. do i wait around for him or try with someone else?????
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If there's someone he likes more, I'd try and move on without him.
If you wait around and he does ask you out, that won't be a very good relationship, knowing your boyfriend likes someone else more than he does you. And it'd also make me wonder if it's some sort of pity thing like,"Aw, well I already told her first I'd ask her out, and I don't want to hurt her feelings." You know?
So I wouldn't sit there and wait for him, cause my gut tells me he's going to ask the other girl out. :/ And if he doesn't, he should. I'm not saying that to like, hurt your feelings or anything, but I'm just saying, if you like someone, you should go with them, not keep the other girl waiting around seeing if you two'll ever break up or something and give her ( you ) possible false hopes.
I would just move on and find someone better. You shouldn't HAVE to wait around to be aksed out by a guy or wait around and see if he's ever going to ask you or that other girl out. I know if I had a boyfriend, I wouldn't want some girl, and other possible girls he mkae like sitting there in the back of his mind while he's with me.
I hope I helped.
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not perfect category but oh well..
mmkay so my friend invited me to go to the mall with her and a couple of my other friends. the only problem is that my mom is worried about the fact that shes never met my friend of her dad (and her dad is driving me there) and shes not sure if she wants me to go. but the stupid me already told my friend that i CAN go cause i thought my mom would say yes.(yes, i know my mistake)
so what can i tell my mom to make her let me go??
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Well, can't your mother drive you to the mall this time? Maybe if she does, then she can meet the girl and her father face-to-face and talk with them, so she feels more secure with you being there and driving in the car with them in the future.
Or, just have your friend give you her father's phone number so your mom can talk to him about all of this, and then see if she feels secure with you in the car with him, then. He'll understand why she's being so curious and worried and everything - he's ( obviously ) a parent too, so that might work out good.
Also, if you're getting picked up at your house, which I believe you are, then why not just have your mother wait outside for them with you, and then whenever they come, your mother can walk over to the car with you and meet them and have a quick talk with the father, and get to know eachother so once again, she can feel more secure about the whole situation.
Once she meets the father and everything, she'll be less worried. My mom's always worried about me whenever I go out with people she doesn't know, because she doesn't know what that person does or how that person acts and she doesn't know how good or bad the father drives, I would be worried too, if my kid was in the hands of strangers.
I hope I helped.
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there's this boy i have liked since the beginning of the year. i am starting to wonder if he likes me back because i always catch him staring or w/e. i want him to know how i really feel but i am scared. he actually walks with me down the hallway sometimes and stuff....but still idk. (im a really shy person.....) what should i do....just stay where i am at and just go with the flow or should i make a move? can you also tell me what that rate stuff means?
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Well, since you guys are both 13, you guys are probably going to both tend to be shy about this issue, so this is basically how I predict it going: neither of you ask eachother out, nobody goes out with eachother. Or: one asks the other out, and possbily goes out together.
So I would just ask him, I mean, what do you have to lose? At least you'd definetely know how he feels about you then, and you got it out of the way. It'll drive you NUTS after awhile wondering if you should ask him out, believe me, so it's best just to take a chance and get it out of the way. You only live once, and you could be missing out on a great boyfriend.
If he likes you, great!
If he doesn't, then that's his loss. And you can always just then be like,"Alright. Well, I hope we can be friends still, though. I don't want everything to be awkward because I just asked you that." And work toward making it less awkward, if it becomes that way. Just keep the conversation flowing and treat him like you always have before you let him know you liked him.
But it sounds to me like he does if he's staring at you and walking you down the hallway and everything. Alot of guys don't do that to girls unless they like them.
I would just suggest a hang out if you want to do it face-to-face, or just do it whatever other way you feel most comfortable ( internet, note, whatever ) and do it and just tell him. If you're going to do it face-to-face, just hang out with him and have a great time together and at the end of the night just be like,"Hey, I got something to tell you. I really like you, ____. And if you don't like me back, that's fine, I still want to be friends with you then at least, but if I don't tell you, I'm going to burst, haha." And just see what he says, and where it goes from there.
If you tell him in an instant message/email or note just do the same thing. Be like,"Hey, I wrote you this note/email because I have to tell you something, and I'm too nervous and shy to do it myself, face-to-face, so I didn't want to be near you whenever you read it.
I really like you, ____.
I don't know how you feel about me or anything, but sometimes I'd get the hint you do, and I just felt I should take the chance anyway, you liking me or not. It's been driving me nuts trying to figure out if I should tell you, so I just decided, what the heck? You only live once.
If you like me, that's great, and I hope we can date and everything. Maybe we can hang out sometime soon over the weekend. :)
But if you don't, that's fine also. I just hope the friendship won't become awkward because of this. I'll try my hardest to make it as less awkward as possible, and I hope you'll try too because I really value our friendship, and I wouldn't want us to stop being friends over something like this."
( Or something like that, just let him know of your thoughts and feelings ).
I hope I helped, and good luck!
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