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17/f
So, there's a guy that I've liked for a long time. Since about a week ago last friday, I've had butterflies not only seeing him, but THINKING about him! Is this...normal, or...does this mean anything? (link)
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All it means is that you like him there's no other reason. Now you have the choice of whether or not you can make your move or not.
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There's a close friend of mine named Miguel who i reeeeeeeaaaaaaalllyy like. I mean, he gives me butterflies, and makes my heart shiver. He is bisexual and has a boyfriend. He gives me immense mixed signals. WHat do i do? :( (link)
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I hate when that happens. There is really nothing you can do, you need to respect him and let the feelings go. He isn't single, he's with someone and he's happy. If you care about him that much then respect him and respect this relationship and just move on.
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I am 19 and I've dated 2 guys. Technically, just one because the second didn't last very long. My first boyfriend I was very close to. We had problems but we were very fond of each other, went out for almost a year. I was 18 when we were together. When it comes to dating, I don't want to just date around for the fun of it, I want to pick someone worth being with, worth actually having a future with. The problem is, I don't really know guys like that. Also, the problem is that I'm not going to just date anybody. Religion and culture is very important to me because I was raised in such a family. It is of importance to me, so don't think it's not. I find myself attractive to guys of my same culture and religion as well, because it plays such a huge role in my life. The thing is with the guy I dated, he is of a family that holds my religion and culture, but he's not religious. Also, I am going off to either grad school or med school. I would like to be with someone of that educational standard. I mean, it's only fair to him and to me. These are just preferences, but I don't want to be the girl who has the secret love affair with the mailman, if you know what I mean. My first ex wants to go off to the airforce, and I am not holding him against it. My question is basically, should I hold on to him and forsake what I want in a guy? Or should I wait and further progress my life in the direction I want it to go in and then worry about finding the right guy? I am also not the kind of girl who has guys hitting on her all the time, so it's not easy for me to put myself out there. What should I do? (link)
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I think you have a lot of great goals and you have a lot of great ideas for your future. I think when it comes to guys however you hold an unreal standard. Ever heard of the saying you 'can't help who you fall in love with'? Love is love no matter how you define it. Whether you fall in love with someone who is going to be a lawyer or someone who is a sales rep at a clothing store. You don't choose who you fall in love with.
You are very similar to me. I only date guys to see if there is a future I don't want to play around and just date to date. You being 19 though, you ahve plenty of time to get whatever you need to do done and to date. You aren't going to find Mr. Right right now or maybe you already have and you just haven't looked hard enough. Now I'm not syaing your ex is the one but what was the reason for the break up? Was it because he didn't meet your standards? If that's the case then I would rethink your decision. The only standard I whole today is you have to have a great personality. All the other things are just extra.
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Okay, I know this is a silly question. I am 19/f. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and things have always been wonderful. Recently, I moved schools and now live really close to him. We practically spend all of our time together, which I love, and we both feel like we always want to be together.
Here is the downside- When it comes time to say goodnight, him to his dorm and me to mine, I can't help but get upset! Usually I am sleepy and kinda cranky by then anyways, which could be part of it, but no matter how long we have spent together, I just feel sad and sometimes I even feel mad at him that he is leaving! I have to kinda "cool off" before I talk to him again. What is wrong with me!? I know this is so terrible from a guys perspective. I don't want to be a clingy annoying girlfriend, but I just don't know how to handle him leaving for the night! I really do want some advice to make this better for him!
I really don't know why I get so mad when he is leaving. Sometimes I don't even want to say goodnight and he just wants to get out of the car :/ We have never had any problems before- why have I started acting like a two year old! :(( (link)
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My boyfriend brought this to my attention a year ago and I didn't realize it. I don't have a problem with it now but I use to. I would hate it when he would drive me home because everything would feel so rushed and I would feel like I wanted to continue to spend time with him. Or if he was at my house and he was getting ready to leave it would be like 'do you have to go?'. I then realized that I need to let him do his own thing while I do my own thing. My boyfriend had a life before I came along and just because I'm with him doesn't mean his life stops and the world revolves around me. Ever heard of distance makes the heart grow fonder?
It's funny we were talking about this Saturday with one another about how spending time together. I don't need to spend everyday with him to know that he loves me. Do I want to? Of course. Maybe don't spend so much time together? Set up days where you two can have a date night and then spend sometimes with your friends. Don't make everything about your boyfriend. I know you two have been together for two years but maybe you need give each other space and do some things on your own. Remember you will see him again, remind yourself of that and know that he does care for you and nothing is going to change that.
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Basically, with me yes iv been seeing this guy for erm like nearly 4 months but i like him SOOO much like beyond, hes the reason i smile everyday he treats me like a princess . when we had our first kiss its like no one understands how i felt that moment, i love how he respects me , hes like my bestfriend and lover and well i cant explain whats going on inside we aint exactly boyfriend and girlfriend, he said he wanted to ask me like in the perfect moment :$ *smiles* im 17 aswell and well iv never fallen for a guy so quick he likes me ALOOOT aswell , he proves it to me . Took me quite a while to have our first kiss cause i wanted it to be special and well it was ... but the thing is i dunna how u can tell when ur falling in love . cause this feeling is acc so beautiful :D PLEASE HELP !! thanksss xoxoxox (link)
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For everyone falling in love is different. Some might say its the way you feel around the person. SOme say its the way that the person makes you want to become a better person. Some say its when you find someone who knows you from inside and out. And some others say its when you find a best friend in your boyfriend.
I'm in love with my boyfriend now. The reasons are plain and simple I care a lot about him. He's my best friend and knows me like no else does. He knows when I'm having a bad dya and knows how to cheer me up or make me smile. Hnaging out with him is like hanging out with a best friend. My favorite part of hanging out with him is when we make each laugh.
Take it slow and get to know this guy and ask yourself can I be friends with him too? Good luck! :)
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ok ive been dating my boyfriend forabout a month now. and i get sooo nervous around him and i dont kbow what to say. how do i stop being soo nervous. and hes never nervous so he tried to make me feel comfprtable around him. and im 14 btw and f (link)
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Well of course you're going to be nervous this relationship is something new to you. It's quite natural to be nervous around someone you care about. I still get butterflies around my boyfriend and sometimes find myself speechless at times. Try to relax and pretend he's a friend as well as your boyfriend. Maybe make some jokes or do something that might relax you (walk, dance, play games,etc).
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Ahh I need advice xD. So, I'm in a little dilemma with my boyfriend. We have a lot of trust in our relationship but last night I feel as though it was diminished quite a bit, off of just a misunderstanding. ( a pointless one at that,truly, I'm losing my mind over here!)
(This is going to take a lot to explain, but please read, I just need some feedback and you guys are awesome)
Anywho, my boyfriend and I were hanging out and I went to check my facebook- when our friend Steve messaged me. Steve often messages me these pointless stoner-like things, and me, being a friendly person, will usually just be random have a stupid conversation. This has been happening for months, but I've never been flirty in ANY way nor have I talked to Steve outside of the "facebook messaging realm".
Now in my boyfriends eyes, Steve has a history of "trying to steal his girlfriends". He's told me in the past Steve either took his girl or got them to be uninterested in him every time. Of course I knew this, but was I really in the wrong for just conversing with Steve? Steve is still a friend of mine, but I'd never see him in that way, and I'm not that ditsy of a chick to fall for any of whatever this kid would even try to pull.
And so,
Once my boyfriend saw that I've been talking (if you could even call it THAT) to Steve, he completely blew it out of proportion. He acted as though I was cheating on him, or two-timing him in some way. He dished out that I never told him Steve was messaging me, and said I lied to him, and overall made me feel really bad. And urged me not to talk to him anymore.
Honestly, I don't give a fuck if I talk to Steve, but the whole point is now I'm stuck with a huge slash of guilt and distrust from this miniscule little incident. And I'm loosing my mind as to HOW to make it better, and if I'm even in the fault! Or what to even say to him about it now!
I told him I was sorry, and that I wouldn't message Steve back anymore, but really, I feel like I'm sounding like that typical crazy girlfriend with this. Granted,I can totally see where he was coming from- if he was talking to one of my friends for months I'd be pissed off as well. Also the history of Steve adds a toll. I just have never been in this situation :/.. any form of advice as to what to do next or what I can say would really help! Thanks so much! (link)
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Point blank your boyfriend has a problem with this kid. Instead of confronting the kid about it he's projecting his anger on you. You need to talk to him and tell him that there is nothing going on with this kid and that he needs to trust you. Trust is a BIG part of a relationship. Without it there's really no point to a relationship.
When my ex and I were dating, there was this guy I use to hang out with. Now my ex would be very jealous if I ever hung out with this guy. We got into a huge argument and my ex was saying that he didn't want me to see him ever again. I told him that he's crazy if he thought I was going to listen to him. I told him that if he trusted me he would let me do whatever I wanted. I wasn't planning on cheating on him and I've never cheated any of my boyfriends.
Try talking to him calmly don't raise your voice or blame him. Tell him your sorry and that you don't want this to affect your relationship. Good luck!
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me and this one boy are like really close friends family as he says .we went together for about a year i known him for a three and so we was on the phone the other day and this other guy kept texting me so i became frustrated and he asked me what was going on and i told him that this one guy gets like so jeasouls of certain things and the boy aka ma ex he said did i want him to call the jeaslous boy and curse him out .now my question is do that mean that he still have feelings for me ???? (link)
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Not necessarily.
Sometimes guys get over protective of the girls in their lives and especially when it comes to another guy. Your ex might want to talk to the guy to get under his skin and bother him. My advice is to keep your ex and boyriend seperate. Don't talk about your ex to your boyfriend and don't talk about your boyfriend to your ex. That way there is no drama and no worries.
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I'm a 13/f.I'm a cutter,and have been for a long time.Sometimes,I think of cutting my arteries on purpose,and let myself bleed to death.SOme poeple say that I should see a mental doctor,to help with my suicidal thoughts,but I'm not gonna see one.Am I crazy fot having these thoughts? (link)
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It sounds like you suffere from depression. I'm not a doctor so I can't say for sure though. You should talk to someone, you NEED to talk to someone. If there is something going on in your life or something is bothering you than talking to someone is going to take a bit of weight off your shoulders. I don't taking cutting or suicide lightly because I knew a girl who committed suicide and it's affected a whole community. You should speak to someone you are comfortable with maybe a friend, teacher, guidance counselor, a parent, or a fmaily member. Please go to talk to someone there is help out there.
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There is this guy I like and I thought he seemed interested in me to but as I'm now realizing he talks to many other girls too. He calls and texts me a lot but I'm not the only one. Maybe I'm over reacting but I don't like that. I don't want to waste my time if he's just going after everyone. What would you do? (link)
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It sounds like he's not looking for a girlfriend or to be exclusive with anyone. Sounds like he's talking to a lot of girls incase he gets rejected by one. I would move on and find someone that wants to be with you and only you.
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I guess it's not much of a question but a request. I'm single been single along time. I still love my ex,. and he still loves me. But he his very far away. We don't really talk much anymore. But i still have thought of him. I'm not sure if it's because i'm so lonely.. I know I'm ready for a relationship for a new guy. But it seems there is no one that really iterests me,
I guess what i'm asking for is some words of advice. some quatable quotes about holding on. having hope. Something like that. I get up everyday encuraging myself to have hope that the right guy is out there but if i could just hold on longer.
Anyy words of wisdom is greatly appreciated.
Thank you everyone! (link)
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You have to remember why he is your ex first off. You also said you have been single for awhile and I think the reason you want to be with your ex is because he's familiar and comfortable. Dating can be scary and meeting new guys can be too. Sometimes when we are scared to date we turn the the exes who are familiar and who we feel comfortable with. For years and years I would date a guy and then go running back to my ex. I finally knew I had to knock it off and start thinking of finding someone else besides always running to him. Try and realize that you should move on and try to meet new guys it'll make you much happier.
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I agreed to help a friend out who is sick and has no job and no home and who is waiting on S.S. disability by allowing her and her dog to live in my home. I thought it would be a short term thing, but I'm starting to think it will never end. She was denied SS disability and is now in the appeals process. Its been 10 months. She has not paid me anything. She sleeps all day. She does do her own dishes, but thats about it. I work 10 hrs/day, 6 days/wk and take college courses and am getting very stressed at her unwillingness to do anything around the house. I am at the point where I am ready to ask her to move out, but I know she has no where to go. Everythime I've asked her to help around the house, she complains about how bad it hurts her. I feel like the bad person, but this is causing me to be stressed and become depressed and sick also. What do I do? (link)
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First of let me say you are a great friend for allowing her to stay with you and for helping her out. That shows how great of a person you are and how you really care for your friend. I think at this point its best to let her know that she needs to find somewhere else to go. Maybe she can live with her family or maybe find out another plan. It's great that you are helping her out, but its another thing when you yourself are getting stressed, depressed, and sick. You should never risk your own health or well ebing for anyone else. I know she is a friend but if you are going to allow her to stay there needs to be guidelines to follow or she needs to find another place to staty.
The guidelines might include:
Helping around the house (cleaning, chores, etc)
Trying to find a part time job so she can bring a little income in
Start looking for somewhere to live
I would remind her that this is temporary and that she should find a place to stay. I'm not saying kick her out but let her know that she can't depend on you to take care of her. Come up with a day where she needs to move out or maybe come up with a schedule where instead of sleeping she is looking for a part time job or even looking for an apt or maybe moving in with a fmaily memeber. Good luck!
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I am his first girlfriend and well i slept with my old boyfriend and i have to break up with him. How should i do this I am his first girlfriend ever and my friend says that he is gonna tell me he loves me! Oh crap!!! What should i do?????he's never even kissed me!!!! oh shit!!!!! (link)
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Be honest.
That's the best thing you can do for him right now. Being his first girlfriend you have to be honest with the mistake that you made and you have to tell him. Be respectful and apologize for what you did. Good luck!
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I'm twelve years old and I'm stuck in class with fourteen year olds. The work is pretty straightforward and easy, but I always feel out of place when around other girls. They're all very nice, but they wear makeup, short skirts, tight tops, and high heels, and I'm always in sweatpants. They all seem so flawless and sophisticated, but my hair and face are always greasy and acne is ruining my complexion. Even worse, guys won't even look at me! I'm so sick of being the odd one out! (link)
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You know the makeup, short skirts, tight tops, and high heels aren't everything you know. I went to high school everyday in sweat pants and a sweatshirt. I dressed up once in awhile but not everyday. I always thought to myself who am I dressing up for? I was more comfortable in the sweatpants than in a skirt. I had a lot of problems with acne when I was younger I just had to start a routine with washing my face day and night. I even have some acne once in awhile now and its something I have to deal with. I knwo you look at those girls thinking why can't I be them or dress like them? Be comfortable with who you are and what you're wearing and with how you look. Being younger doesn't have anything to do with it, its rather being comfortable with who you are. Maybe when you get older you might consider dressing up or wearing makeup. Don't go along with that just because the other girls are doing it. Do what you want because it's what you want to do and it's what makes you feel happy.
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I once had a girl I met back in high school. I was her best friends boyfriend and I realized that there was a spark between me and her friend so I took her instead.It was a long relationship and she was everything to me. Now im 20on and I still find myself thinking of her and were her life has gone and think I miss her but still don't have the courage to call and say hey girl how have you been or something.I lost my virginity to her and she lost hers to me in a very funny place but it was one to remember .what should I do? (link)
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If you really feel strongly about this girl than call her. I wouldn't call her and be forward about everything but just call her and talk to her like you would any other friend. See what she's been up to and what she's doing right now. My boyfriend now did the same with me. He told me he couldn't call me because he was nervous and scared. It's ok to be nervous and scared but if you want to see if there is any chance of you two talking again you're going to have to pick up the phone and call her. Good luck and I hope everything works out!
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Ok so I'm kind of being a chump about this but I've been working out of town the past few weeks and I asked my wife to come see me at the hotel and stay a night or two she says she doesn't want to because of money but I'm working out of town making money I Dnt understand y she wouldn't want to come so I guess I'm trying yo figure out the reasoning and what I should do (link)
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Well the only one that would know the answer to that is your wife. Have you asked? Ask her. There could be a few reasons of why she doesn't want to. I don't think it means she lvoes you any less. Maybe she doesn't want to travel? Call her and talk to her and ask out the real reason why she won't come visit you.
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Hi, I'm 18/female. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years, and it seems as if we have hit a spot in our relationship that we probably won't be able to overcome. It hurts like pure hell to know that the end is probably drawing near. So I need help from the experienced in this area. What are some tips on pulling through a bad, no, a horrible separation? I just need help before I lose my mind. (link)
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Well that's a pretty negative way of putting it. Relationships are tough it's not always going to be fun. I'm sure you've hit some dead ends in your relationship and have overcome them. The point of these "bumps" is hwo stronger your relationship is. Sometimes its just a phase and sometimes things happen. I don't exactly know whats going on with you two but in every relationship I'm hopeful for myself and for other people. At the end of the day its whether or not you both want to fix this and make it work. Maybe you need sometime away from your boyfriend and maybe make a date night once a week or something. Remember why you got together in the first place and why you love him. I know it's hard but don't think negatively because it's not going to help. Maybe try talking to him and expressing your concerns about your relationships. Keep your head up and I hope everything works out for the best!
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Hello I'm 4 days late but i've been having really bad cramps like i'm going to start. I'm never usually this late could i still be pregnant? (link)
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There's really no way of knowing. When are you expecting your period? I would say if you're 2-3 weeks late go out and get a test or maybe go to your doctor and get a blood test to be sure. Right now the best thing for you to do is to relax and not stress yourself too much about this.
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I will try to make things as short as I can. My ex boyfriend and I went out for only about a month and a half. I believe the reason why things didn't work out was because we both wanted different things in a relationship. He wasn't the type to open up and let you in. He had walls all around him. Eventually I grew tired of trying to get through to him and we both decided to call it off. The thing with him is that he's very well known in my community and a lot of my friends know him. He is one of those good looking boys that has girls crushing on him from left to right. There's this one girl that he's friends with, that I know. She has a boyfriend, who's my cousin. My cousin usually gets suspicious of how close they act but he always says he trusts her. My ex and the girl say they are just friends and I believe them. They might secretly crush on each other but they know their limitations. Anyway, yesterday was the girl's birthday and my ex gave her a heart necklace. This upset me because the necklace looks just like the one he gave me, except we were together at the time. The thing is, they are supposedly just friends. He stayed up until 3:15 in the morning to tell her Happy Birthday. Isn't that a little overly friendly? I don't think I am jealous, but I am a little hurt at the fact that, I tried to long to get through to him and I guess I feel a little betrayed by the whole necklace thing. What do you guys think? (link)
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You're not with him so there's no reason to be mad. You sound like you're more hurt than mad which is fine. In the end though it was a mutual decision that you break-up. I wouldn't get involved in the situation with your cousin and his gf and your ex. Let your cousin take that battle. It would be different if you were together than I can see you being mad but it sounds like you're more hurt to me. Don't worry about it!
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Hi! I'm 18/f & my boyfriend is 18/m; We have been together for a year, but it feels like so much longer. I'm in college, studying to be a NeoNatal Nurse; My boyfriend's mom left him homeless as soon as he turned 18, therefore he has been living with my parents and I since August.
Riley & I have both agreed that we shouldn't get married until I am done with college and have a stable job. I know we haven't been together long, but since we have been faced with a lot of adult problems, it seems like we work together well, and we have been together for years. I wouldn't mind if he proposed to me, because getting engaged doesn't mean you have to get married immediately. Right? My dad told him when he moved in, that he has 6 months to save up money from his job, and get his own place. So he moves out on Feb. 14th. He is really wanting me to move in with him; and I would, but the economy is so bad, I'd rather stay with my parents, because its free, and focuse on school and not have to worry about a job right now since I'm dealing with the toughest classes of the career at this moment.
But, what I'm trying to get at is, Riley says he doesn't want to get engaged until 3 or 4 more years, but he says that he knows I'm the one he will be with for the rest of his life. But why wait that long, if he supposively knows I the one for him? I'm not rushing him at all. I respect his decision; I'd rather him do it when he feels it right, instead of rushing, and regretting.
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The time isn't right.
Youa re going to school and he is moving in to hsi own place and he needs to get situated. What's an engagement going to do? You are with him right now isn't that enough? I also thinkeve 3 to 4 years is to soon. You have your 20s ahead of you why would you want to be married by your 20s? I can see late 20s early 30s but your early 20s?
You need to think about finishing school and getting a job so you can support yourself and be stable. Think and live in the now. Right now you are together and happy, yes? Why do you need a ring then?
Take it easy and worry about the important things. It'll happen when it's suppose to happen!
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