about

My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

advice

What does smoking pot accually do to someone?

It gets you high,you can go to jail big time. Kills your brain cells. You can die from it. Its very bad so please dont do it.

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im the kind f person that is too shy what do i do??

You just have to learn how to get more comftrable with people. Be more outgoing. You just have to push yourself to talk to people and not be shy. I used to be but now I`m not.

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ok when ppl say i got my cherry popped .. does that mean they just had sex or ??

You dont have to have sex to have your cherry popped. It usually happens that way but also it can happen if a guy fingers you, by riding a bike or things like that.

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OK... i babysit 2 boys... 5 and 8 years old.. they are crazy!!!! and when i tell them sumthing, they just ignore me and keep on doing whatever they r doing... how do i get these kids to listen to me!?!?
*ignored babysitter*

Dont use your sweet voice and dont be like please just calm down you have to show them whos the boss! Raise your voice at them and kinda yell at them. They are old enough to understand it and listen to you. Keep them busy and whenever they do something wrong yell at them.

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Hey this is really awkward and immature but i really really like this guy and my friend nick told him that i liked him and asked him who he liked. he sed he thought i was really cool and hot but didnt really like me and didnt wanna go out with me. so now he acts really different around me!! so i dont know if its a sign of him liking me or not. what do you thinK?

Well hes acting a little akward (sp) around you now because well now he knows that you like him. He might have a little crush on you but usually when guys dont like a girl in that way they act a lil weird and I dont know why. But you never know if hes gonna fall for you. =)

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this is kindof a wierd question but is the discharge supposed to smell before you get your period?

Yea a little but its nothing to worry about. Its just normal.

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Well I was just wondering what the colors of these jelly bracelets meen.

Black-sexual intercourse
Blue-blow job
Green-cunnilingus
Clear-whatever you want
Orange-kiss
Yellow-hug
Red-lap dance
Purple-anal sex
Silver-fisting
White-flash your tits
Pink-flashing
Gold glitter-make out
Brown-toss my salad
Glow in the dark-using sex toys, e.g. vibrators, dildos, etc.


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16/m

Okay i kno this might sound really strange..but im insanely attracted to my history teacher! and..its a guy. hes only 25 and hes so skilled. well one day i stayed after everyone else to ask him about a paper..even though i did just want to be alone with him. all of a sudden he walked up to the door and shut it and took off his shirt! i got a huge boner! and then he started rubbing up against me and kissing me! but i didnt stop him and before i knew it we were on the floor naked and he was giving me head!(this was during the lunch period)..now its a couple days later and hes been out sick so i wont have to see him..does this mean hes avoiding me? because i liked what we did alot! (this is a year round school so we only get some breaks during what other people have...summer) please help im so confused!

Woah.. I don`t think he is avoiding you. He could be sick. Just dont exadurade (sp). But good thing you enjoyed it. He'll be back. I mean he still has to work and teach!

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Me and my friend were just talking online to some of our friends when this random person IMs us and says "im going to kill both of you tonight and yes i know where you live" and then names both of our names! were so scared! how did he know? should i tell my parents? IM TOO YOUNG TO DIE! please help

You wont die!!! Dont worry. Friends do that all the time. Well FAKE friends. They know everything and they mess with you and the pretend to be someone they're not. Thats the beauty of internet. You never know who it is and you could be anyone you want to! Just calm down.

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My Question is what hair style would look best on me!!I have an advicenators colum or w/e and my picture is on it!!Soo.. if you wanna see it go ahead its Esmedinzbabe!!Pleaze tell me quick cuz school starting soon and i wanna know what hair style i should have tis yesr!! Should i die it cut it or what?? I rate 5z!!

Yeah I think you should cut it. Dont dye it but get light blonde highlights and that would look really cute. Cut it up to your shoulders and get lots of layers. Also get side bangs so it looks cuter!

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Everytime i shave my legs it hurts because of my razor bumps or burns whatever they're called. How do i get rid of razor burns because everytime i look at my legs i see little red dots where my hair would grow in. So is there anything i can buy or do to make my razor marks/burns/bumps go away?

You cant get rid of razor burns. They will eventually heal. When you get those bumps like redish and it looks like the hair will grow soon it just means you need to use a better and sharper razor. After you're done shaving always put some lotion on the skin so its smoother.

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hay, I got a huge problem!!! I get a lot of IMs from guys and they all want one thing, to have cyber sex w/ me. Thing is, I'm christan and I don't believe in sex before marriage. Well, I kinda let a few guys have cyber sex w/ me. I don't know what to do, cause they wanna do it again. Plz help me! PLZ!!!!!!

That isnt really bad but just tell them that you dont want to do it anymore. If you dont want to tell them just ignore them, block them or put your away message on and dont talk to them. If you dont tell them you dont want to do it again then they will never stop asking. But I mean if you do want to keep doing it then go for it.

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my friend thinks i dress slutty, but i dont really think so because she's a slut and her clothes are a lot smaller and tighter than mine are. i like to wear tank tops and i have some miniskirts, but i havent worn miniskirts in months, and now i wear low rise jeans. do you think i'm slutty?

I dont think your friend knows what a slut means. The way you dress is NOT slutty at all!! Everyone wears that. Dont listen to her.

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I'm 35 yrs old, met a great person after a bad relationship, for four good years of ups n downs we stuck it through. the fifth yr we had a child, we got much closer, our child help us realized that even though we were sruggling in our relationship we needed to care for him together till the end. Unfortunately the next 31/2 three yrs it went downhill, even counseling did not work, I loved her enough to continue but she needed out. So it happend, we went our separate ways, but our child came first in everything. I fell in love with a wonderful woman that has three children, 6,10 and 15 yrs of age. She is wonderful, but we do have our differences. Been seeing her 1 yr now allthough its not perfect between us, we both agree we are in love and should make a future together. We both tried to end and let go several times but gave in to our feelings for each other each time. Right about now my X wants me back, she is the biggest hearted person I have ever met, and her intentions, as far as I'm concerned, will always be wonderful. Realizing she was wrong she found that all she needed was time to clear her mind, knowing that it could be to late for us, she asked me to be a family again, which is what I wanted all the time. I don't think can get used to the feeling of me living a future with good children and knowing my own child is without me. But I realy love this other person and its hard to be with out her. I love my X dearly but its not the same any more, she needs me more than ever now and my heart is aunxiuos and willing to be there for anything she needs, my 5yr old also needs me by his side it kills me to think of life for us both without each other, and me giving time and attention to others. My god tells me to come home and take the pain and leave the one I truely love and hurt her as well, and my heart can't stop thinking about my true found love. I cry when I think of it. My child, his mom and there need for me, my mind is so messed up because and my heart longs for the woman I love. It's time to make a decision and I can't. Either way I loose. Can someone try and help please, WHAT CAN I DO?

This is really difficult and none of us can tell you exacly what you want to hear. We really cant tell you what to you and make the decision for you. But you're right.. eather way you could end up hurting someone. You have been through a lot with you ex. Deep inside I still think you love her and you care for her. Both your ex and your son need you right now and you do not have to think about that. You son should always come first in everything. You seem to be a good dad but be there for them. You're a good person so when they need you.. let them count on you. You ex made a mistake but if you truely want to be a family again maybe you could try it once again. Try the hardest you can to make it work this time. For you son and for you both. I know you do not want to hurt anyone at this situation but this is really hard. I`m not even sure what the right thing to say would be right now. But.. you dont have to be with your ex. You can be with the one you love but also be there for you ex and your son. There is nothing wrong with that. You need to talk to the women you love and explain to her your situation. You dont have to leave her or anything and your love for her will not change. Even if you do end up hurting someone.. you know you didnt attend to do that and you do not mean it. I understand thats its really hard and confusing for you right now but you will get through it and I`m sure they will also understand. Good luck with everything.

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Oh what church team do you play volleyball for?? b/cuz i play for seven holy founders!!(shf) mabye we will play each other sometime!!

I dont play for a church right now but I did for Peace Lutheran. I heard that SHF was really good. I went to a mixer there one time.. at the school though. Lol..

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wut r the things that girls like about guys? and wut things should we give them as gifts? Im in despate need of help! I just dont understand girls!

You dont understand girls the same way we dont understand guys. Not all girls are the same. So find things that she is into and it depends on what occasion it is and what you can get her. You can never go wrong with giftcards but we like things that mean a little more that that then just money. You really didnt give out more info and you should of. If she your girlfriend, a girl you just like, your sister or what?? I`m gonna guess its eather you g/f or some1 you like. Getting her a cute car and writing sweet things in there would mean a lot to her. Some flowers are really sweet to. It doesnt have to be v-day just to get flowers and you dont havr to get her roses. CD's,a picture with you and her,anything she really likes. Depends on what type of girl she is. Good luck!

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Hey,
Im a 14/m and i babysit. Im NOT gay!!! i have a gf (were pretty steady) and everything. But babysitting is fun bc i like to b with lil kids and im getting payd 4 it. its easy money. Do the parnets whos kid im babysitting think im gay? bc ive gotten a lot of ppl who think im gay.

Woah.. no its not bad at all. Just because you babysit and you're a guy does not have mean that you are gay. Its just sterotyping. Anyways.. its just that you're really sweet and you care about little kids and that you enjoy it. Plus you might be still young for a real job so this is the best and easiest way to earn more. Nothing is wrong with that. People who think you're gay are really lame..I honestlly dont think the parents would think that you are gay. I dont think it even crossed their minds! Not only girls can babysit.. a lot of guys do as well.

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can you get sick from the heat? like throwing up? thanks

Yes you can. When you are outside in the hot sun for hours you can get dehydrated and faint and things like that.

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i sure hope you can help me. heres my story... ok me and this boy named zach used to go out like a yr. ago! and when we went out it didnt last long. now me and him are starting to talk again and we are getting along great. we are talking about getting to know each other more and then thinking about getting back together.
some how me and him started talking about sex! he wants to have sex with me cause he likes me alot! and i like him so i cant turn him down! im scared though.its not cause im still a virgin its because im afraid ill get pregnant! i know alot of teens loose there virginity and most of them dont get pregnant the first time. but im afraid beacuse if i get pregnant then my parents will kill me. i dont want to make another mistake because i ahppen to make alot of those! so can u please help me choose what to do? and what condom is the best? and if i do have sex with him with a condom what the percent chance i can get pregnant! thanx so much i hope u can help me! i rate high

IM me on xoxokaylaoxox91 always kayla

I dont think you are ready to have sex though. You are having seconds thoughts on what might happen and you have to be 100% sure that you are ready and that nether of you will regret this later. The best condom is Trojan.. There is always a posibility that you can get pregnant with any condom because it can break. But Trojan is one of the best and its rarely that it will break. Just dont worry too much. You could also go on birth control if you wanted but just relax. && make sure you do it when you are 100% ready. Oh.. and also make sure that he isnt using you for this. Go back out first and see how it is. Dont just have sex because he wants you too and of the things he says. He has to mean them. Good luck!

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i am 5'3" and weigh 104 lbs( i am a girl)
i just got back form camp and now my mom is telling me that i look too skinny, but i think i need to loose 5 pounds. how can i make her see things my way so she doesnt get mad at me when i diet.

For your height you are skinny. You do not need to loose any more weight because that would be unhealthy. Your mom is right. Dont diet but just eat a lot more healthier. If you loose 5 more pounds that going to be underweight.

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