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Don't want to hurt or hurt nobody
I'm 35 yrs old, met a great person after a bad relationship, for four good years of ups n downs we stuck it through. the fifth yr we had a child, we got much closer, our child help us realized that even though we were sruggling in our relationship we needed to care for him together till the end. Unfortunately the next 31/2 three yrs it went downhill, even counseling did not work, I loved her enough to continue but she needed out. So it happend, we went our separate ways, but our child came first in everything. I fell in love with a wonderful woman that has three children, 6,10 and 15 yrs of age. She is wonderful, but we do have our differences. Been seeing her 1 yr now allthough its not perfect between us, we both agree we are in love and should make a future together. We both tried to end and let go several times but gave in to our feelings for each other each time. Right about now my X wants me back, she is the biggest hearted person I have ever met, and her intentions, as far as I'm concerned, will always be wonderful. Realizing she was wrong she found that all she needed was time to clear her mind, knowing that it could be to late for us, she asked me to be a family again, which is what I wanted all the time. I don't think can get used to the feeling of me living a future with good children and knowing my own child is without me. But I realy love this other person and its hard to be with out her. I love my X dearly but its not the same any more, she needs me more than ever now and my heart is aunxiuos and willing to be there for anything she needs, my 5yr old also needs me by his side it kills me to think of life for us both without each other, and me giving time and attention to others. My god tells me to come home and take the pain and leave the one I truely love and hurt her as well, and my heart can't stop thinking about my true found love. I cry when I think of it. My child, his mom and there need for me, my mind is so messed up because and my heart longs for the woman I love. It's time to make a decision and I can't. Either way I loose. Can someone try and help please, WHAT CAN I DO?
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either way someone is going to get hurt and thats just a fact. but i wouldnt go back to your ex. simple because my parents got divorced soon aftr i wuz born and a couple years later got remarried and then divorced again after 1 year of constant fighting. thinking of your child he will always be your son no matter who your wife is. and as long as you dont let your relationship with this new love get in the way of your relationship with your son he will always love you because you are his father.i think you need to tell your ex wife that youve moved on from her and i know thats extremly hard but somtimes everyone has to do things they dont want to.hope i helped XoXo
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If she got confused once and "needed time to think" it will happen again. You might think she is the best thing in the world but I'm having a feeling that she wants you because you love someone else.
Woman can be very evil and very selfish.
Love your son, but don't go back to that relationship. It's over and she needs to deal with that.
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okay im 13 and i hope you take this seriously but dude your kid needs you man so whatever you picked dont forget that your son needs you
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This is really difficult and none of us can tell you exacly what you want to hear. We really cant tell you what to you and make the decision for you. But you're right.. eather way you could end up hurting someone. You have been through a lot with you ex. Deep inside I still think you love her and you care for her. Both your ex and your son need you right now and you do not have to think about that. You son should always come first in everything. You seem to be a good dad but be there for them. You're a good person so when they need you.. let them count on you. You ex made a mistake but if you truely want to be a family again maybe you could try it once again. Try the hardest you can to make it work this time. For you son and for you both. I know you do not want to hurt anyone at this situation but this is really hard. I`m not even sure what the right thing to say would be right now. But.. you dont have to be with your ex. You can be with the one you love but also be there for you ex and your son. There is nothing wrong with that. You need to talk to the women you love and explain to her your situation. You dont have to leave her or anything and your love for her will not change. Even if you do end up hurting someone.. you know you didnt attend to do that and you do not mean it. I understand thats its really hard and confusing for you right now but you will get through it and I`m sure they will also understand. Good luck with everything.
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