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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

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hello...
the other night i went to my friends b-day party and the girls(and guys) triple dog dared me to call up this guy (hes kinda a nerd) and ask him out just to see what he would say...
so i called him (not thinking of what i was getting into) and he said yes. so anyway i saw him at the coffee shop the next day and told him what my friends dared me to do...and BIG MISTAKE i told him who dared me. now he is "plotting revenge" against them...
do i tell my friends what is going to happen to them or not?

BTW: im 13/f and dont tell me that i was retarded for doing that because i already know that. WILL RATE enless its a smartass answer.

I`m not gonna say that you were retarted or anything because you're not and I know how ya feel. I did it before and I felt bad too and I thought it would be funny too. You need to talk to him again. Tell him it wasnt their fault and that you decided to do it. If he does anything to them that you will be extremly mad and that it just isnt right. Apologize to him and just be nice to him. Def. tell your friends because they need to know.. he better not to anything pshyco!! Good luck babe!

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right this may sound very VERY stupid but what is xanga?!?!?!?!? people talk about it all the time and i have no idea whatsoever what it is... could someone please give me any idea of what it is/or does. thnx lucee xxx

Its basiclly an online journal. You can make it for whatever you want. Pictures, journal icons, quotes, layouts, music! Its acually really fun and you get to talk to a lot of people and its just awesome. You should make one so all of us can see it! ;D

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Well I was just talking to my boyfriend this was about our conversation.
Me: I think I'm gonna clean my room, if you're bored enough you can call if you want.
Him: im too bored to call

Is that possible, or do you think it was just an excuse..

I dont think its an exuse.. but I think he is just being really lazy to call. Dont worry about it too much though. I`m sure he didnt mean anything rude by it. Just ask him.

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ok.. i have this friend, and she's been my friend ever since pre-k! i haven't been in her class for a while, and now i am. we've been hanging out a lot more often, and she gets really annoying!! please help! thanks!

Not to be mean but you're kinda being rude in a way. I mean if she is kind of annoying just dont hang out with her as much. She is probablly just exited that you guys are in the same class and that she gets to spend tim Just tell her you really dont feel like it and if she whines and stuff just tell her how you feel. I mean if one of my friends was getting annoying I seriously would tell them. I`m not the type of person just to put up with it but I know if you told her it would be for the best. She is your friend still but you do need your space. Good luck!

Edit- Wow you're being a shallow bitch for rating me a one.. all we did was try to help you and you cant attect the fact that you are being ignorant and you're talking behind your friends back!

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Hi there! Could I ask what different types of styles people wear? I promise to rate you...

I`m not gonna label my self or anyone but I wear preppy clothes. Some people just like to be comftrable in what looks good.. I dont belive in labels but its just the styles that give you the name. I dont belive in a thing called gothic.. I think its a sad exuse for wanting attention and scareing people away from them.. they are not always depressing people. I guess there are other styles like vintage! Thats very in right now.

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i have to many weirdos asking me questions i cant get them to stop it seems to be only my friends and family that do it but how do i get them to stop?

Sometimes just telling them wont make them stop so just ignore them and dont answer them. You can play it off and joke around about it and just not be serious. But, just ignore then.

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Hey! I absolutely

Aww thanks babe!! Thats a confidence booster! ;) You're really sweet and I`m sure you give awesome advice as well! Do you have a column?

Edit-It didnt post your whole question because of the heart thingy! But thanks tons!

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ok well i was looking at ppls xangas and i come to this one xanga and these two guys were like we are looking for two girls to fuck and eat out. they were saying how they want stuff. well i thought it would be funny to leave a comment so i did, but then i relized that they could look at my xanga when they click my comment!!! and my pic is in there!!! im afraid they might look at my xanga and talk to me about that shit, im really scared, i dont wanna talk to them idk what to do HELP I WILL RATE SOOOOOO HIGH

Oh wow! They're such desprate losers! Hehe just tell them you didnt mean that and you wont do it. Tell them to leave you alone and if they dont blocking them from your site is a good idea. I agree with the other people. =) You're too good for them!

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yess thats what i mean.. but i like this guy and im always there for him and i help him out. hes going through a tough time right now and im doing all i can. he just doesnt seem to notice it. i mean i no he knows i help but he doesnt do antyhing. i really like him. what more can i do for him to help him out and maybe possibly get him to like me .. ? thanks in advance

Okay like you said, he is going through a tough time right now so he probablly needs some space. You cant just consitrate on how to get him to like you right now. Even though you are always there for him and trying to help him sometimes its just better to lay off a little. Just talk to him and tell him that you're there for him and if he ever needs anything to talk to you. Even though if it might seem like he doesnt notice or care.. he does and he will apriciate it. He will know you are a good person and he might even like you.

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Well I dont know what has been wrong with me latly! I am just not as happy as I use to be and like I am lonly and I have noone to talk to.... I dont know what I should do...

I think that you are just going through depression and a lot of stress right now. A lot of teenagers go through this but you will get through it. Even though you think you have no one there for you, you acually do. You have friends and I know you do. You just have to go out with them and have fun. Babe.. live it up. Dont be sad. I mean you only have 1 life and dont waste in being un happy. When ever you're feeling sad or bad think about it. You will be just fine. Writing in a notebook, or journal helps a lot. You get all those feelings out and you will feel better. Good luck!

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Okay, I finally convinced my mom to start letting me wear tampons. But we're going in the afternoon to get them. (And Im on my period) But my dad wanted me to go down on his bike (motorcycle) to a couple places that are hours away, even in another state, and I have to wear pads. Last time I had an overflow. I'm afraid of that happening again. We're going in the morning at like 11:00am. So what can I do to prevent this? Is there anything I can do? And for another question, what about the tampons? Will they hurt, what if I forget about them,or if I can't understand the directions? Please help. Sorry this is so long. But i'll rate high for good answers. Thanks a lot.

Just wear heavy flow pads. Ask your dad to stop every few hours so you can go to the bathroom and change your pad. Tampons do not hurt. It might feel a little bit weird when you first put it in because you never have before but you will get used to them right away. They are super comfy! You wont forget about them! It`s kinda imposible lol! && yes you will understand the directions dont worry. Just relax.

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This is my second time posting here on Advicenators. Well, I could really use some good advice here. I am 14 years old, never been kissed, hugged, dated..etc. I like older boys better because I know they tend to make the first moves and spoil you more, but I never thought I would end up like my best friends older brother. He's just two years older, not even. He's cute and he's funny, but he's really shallow. He's making me want to just die with the harsh things he says. He's always telling my friend Marissa* you should hang out with hot friends because all your friends are ugly. Right when I am sitting there. Now I can't stop hating myself.

The right answer to this would be not to listen to him or care about what he says. But.. I know its hard not to because jerks like him do put you down. He is being ignorant and most older guys are. I dont know why but it just seems that way. Who cares what he thinks! Seriously.. you are not ugly so dont let him put you down like that. Ugly is not how a person looks its people's personalities that can get ugly and you dont seem to have that! You seem nice and everything and if you let a guy like him talk to you like that.. then that is really not good. Be confident in the way you look. I`m sure you're gorgeous! If he says something like that again tell him so stfu and hes soo lame! He is acting like hes in middle school! Gosh its making me angry!! But dont worry about it hun!

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I am kind of sad because all of my friends have a b/f and I dont...... I know it sounds child like but it has been this way for a year now... I mean I am not the best looking but I still want someone.... idk what I should do..... btw 15/female

Never be in a rush for a boyfriend. If you are you will probablly end up with a bad one. When its time you will get a boyfriend. I`m sure that it does not have to do with your looks at all, but you just should be more outgoing, friedly and be able to talk to a lot of guys. If you find someone you like flirt with him.. get to know him better and just be yourself. If he is a nice guy he will maybe even start to like you and you never know!! Dont be upset though. Just have fun!! You honestlly dont need a boyfriend to make you happy and that is defenetlly true. You can have a lot of fun with out one.. even though I know that you would really want one. Just be patient. =)

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There is these 2 older guys.Im 14 and theyre 17. They have seemed to like me but I dont know.Would older guys like someone younger out of everyone of their own age?

Well.. this is a hard question to answer since we dont know what type of guys they are. They might acually like you but high school guys usually dont date girls younger. But they are only 3 years older so I dont think it would matter much.I think that if you got to know them and if you just see what type of guys they are and if they would care about that. You could also ask them. It`s not a big deal at all.

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I currently have long hair, I love having long hair, but what type of cute do you suggest me getting with it still being long. I will ask for a trim, but what else? I already have side bangs, I don't know whether I should get layers or not. Please advise.

I think you should defenetlly get layers. It makes your hair fuller and much more cuter. It will still be long but it will add a little bit more volume. You wouldnt want your hair just straight, long && boring.. lol anyways.. You already have sidebangs so I think if you just got layers your hair will look soo much better!

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4 of the past 5 nights, I have been waking up in excruciating pain. This pain is in my knee cap. It's not something I experience when I first wake up in the morning, it's something that attacks during the night, causing me to awaken. You've got to understand and believe me when I say this - this is the most dreadful, awful, intense pain I have EVER experienced in my ENTIRE life, hands down, without a SINGLE doubt. To be perfectly truthful here, I generally cry when I'm physically hurting, as it helps me cope with any ailments I might currently be dealing with. However, crying over my sudden and harsh knee pain doesn't make much sense to me. No amount of tears, and no tantrum I could possibly throw would do this pain justice. I find that it only upsets myself more. In the past I have always be able to rely on my tears to calm myself, and now that I DO NOT have that, I'm unaware of where to turn.




I know that I'll NEVER have a proper diagnosis until I see a doctor. Problem is, I'm not covered by Insurance, as we just moved to a new state, and my father's job does not offer benefits. But who's kidding who; the REAL problem is that I am AFRAID to inform my family. I'm scared they might TRY TO take me to the doctor. I know this is what's best for me, but the doctor/hospital is my biggest fear EVER. I realize if my pain is THIS insane, avoiding the doctor/hopistal is plainly prolonging the inevitable.




I'm not really sure about what it is I am asking here. I suppose I would just like some opinions, suggestions, guesses, ideas, knowledge... ANYTHING you might have to contribute!!! =/




- I'm female; a few days away from 17.


- I'm not exessively large, but I guess I could stand to lose a few pounds?


- Again, this has ONLY occurred 4 of the past 5 nights, and ONLY during the NIGHT.


- I know that the weather can do some funny things to your bones, but the weather in Connecticut has been in the 90's for the past couple of weeks. Always humid and consistent. The weather has never had an affect on me BEFORE - at least not that I've ever NOTICED, so I'm skeptical that the weather is causing my pain. At this point in time, I'm not going to cross ANYTHING off as a possible cause.


- This is ONLY in my LEFT knee. ONLY in the knee cap ITSELF - not the entire leg, and the pain does NOT "jump" around.


- My sleeping position? Generally [and ALWAYS the case when I have experienced this pain] I have been sleeping on my RIGHT side. MEANING, my LEFT leg didn't have much weight to speak of resting upon it, understand?


- I guess it's important to add that I have a "condition" where my legs and feet randomly swell up like Stay Puffed Marshmallow Man in Ghostbusters..... This used to be insanely bad [not to mention highly disgusting] but ever since I've gotten the proper leg braces, that problem seems to be no more. Now, what CAUSES that random swelling? Salt. Basically it's where salt gets stuck within my body, causing it to expand. You might be thinking that it's the LEG BRACES that is causing this, BUUTTT.. I haven't been wearing them for the past three weeks. So the problem IS NOT the WEARING OF them. This has lead me to believe it COULD MAYBE [just as it "COULD MAYBE" be anything else]... but it COULD MAYBE be my NOT wearing them that is having this affect on me. But if this is so, why haven't I ever experienced this in the past??? Yet, problems have to start SOMEWHERE, right? But really, my legs have only been a problem TWICE [as far as swelling goes] in the past 3 weeks since I've neglected to wear my braces. Honestly, I don't believe the cause has anything to do with this. Also, when this swelling is present, it starts at my toes, and works it's way UP my body. It never has a chance to even REACH my knees, because I catch it while still in my foot.


- This brings me to my diet: My diet hasn't changed much within the past 4-5 weeks. I've obviously been cutting back on my salt intake. Other than that, I really haven't been over eating or under eating any. I eat until I'm full, and I then call it quits. I NEVER drink milk or soda; ONLY ONLY ONLY water, and A WHOLE LOT of it. The past week my Mom [who is the one who generally provides all of our meals] has been away on vacation. During this time, I've been properly fed. But to be honest, I've sort of replaced lunch with a package of Austin Peanut Butter Crackers, which are very high in sodium. If this IS NOT having an affect on my SWELLING, I severely doubt it's having an affect on my KNEE CAP. As I previously said, I am not willing to discount ANYTHING as of yet.


- I'm not involved in sports, and since I am new to the area, my friend count is a complete zero, so needless to say I don't really go anywhere. So no... I haven't hurt it during some crazy practice drill or anything. I know that I can hurt it anywhere, but don't you think I would have noticed the pain [at least a TINY bit] if I had pulled or torn something?? And if you think I might have done this, why does it only attack at night? Not even during the day in my long naps in the SAME sleeping position.. but ONLY at NIGHT. Is that just coincidence???


- This pain strikes suddenly, and ONLY leaves when I begin to work my joint like a mad man. I generally lay there in pain for about 5 minutes, before I gather up enough courage and willpower to begin extending my knee. Once it's fully extended and moved around for about 10-15 seconds.. the pain DISAPPEARS ENTIRELY!! I would NEVER know it even happened.





Can someone tell me.. is this a "common" thing? Does it ever happen to YOU? Know any possible remedies or temproray solutions? What do you *ADVISE?

I understand you are not a medical professional, but I would be ever so appreciative of some guesses here. Please, anything you've got. This pain is so intense, my body begins to shake violently, and I get the urge to vomit. :D It's just not a pretty picture. Last night I slept with a huge garbage bag at my side, as I expected the pain. Can I predict the future or what -- I'll be damned if it didn't happen AGAIN. =[


Thank you, all, very very much for ANY information you provide.

Mackenzie



My apologies on the length of this question. I was trying to the best of my ability to NOT leave any details out, clearly.

In case you're curious, you should expect a rating. It's the least I can do.. :D

Hello there! I`m def. not good with all this medical stuff but.. my mom has the same problem! Sometimes it would happen for a week and then just stop hurting her. It is not the way you diet or anything because you are really healthy. My mom did go to the doctor for this and he did prescribe her some meds for it but its not that serious at all. Everytime her knee start hurting she puts something really warm on it and it doesnt hurt anymore. So just try keeping your knee warm and see if it works. Have you ever feel on your knee when you were younger and gotten a scar or something? There is a possibility that it could be from that. I`m not exacly sure how it happened to my mom but I think you should see the doctor just to make sure everything is okay! Haha I just noticed I kinda talked about my moder lots! lol anyways.. hope your knee feels better!! ;D

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what is a hoe?

A hoe is a girl who sleeps around with guys who she doesnt really know [one night standers] and a girl who does bad things.. like in a sexual way.

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Any ideas for 16th bday partys??
i dont wanna spend too much though..its in december and i need to invite ALOT of ppl...ill rate high, thx =)

The best and funnest parties are house parties!! You dont even have to spend that much money and you can invite a lot of people. You will find tons of things to do. I mean it will be kinda cold in December so you cant go swimming or movies or anything like that.. and it gets kind of boring. Cosmic bowling would be fun too! Its not even that expensive. I think a house party would be the best idea. Have fun!

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when i finger myself, i don't ususally get much pleasure =( i started with my pinky, then i got about 1/2 of my ring finger up there and it wasn't pleasuring at all =( is there something wrong with me?! u want to masturbate and be pleasured the right way. i want to rub my clit but i don't exactly know where it is =\ help me please! what can i do to make meself orgasm???

Well.. there's not much you can do about that. I goess you just are'nt feeling it and I really dont know how to help you on this one. Just do whatever you can that feels good.

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when people put " 143 " in their aim profiles...what does that mean!? they'll put like " i love you james

143 also means I love you. I has 1 letter. Love has 4 letters. && you has 3!

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