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I'll answer question on pretty much anything, though as I'm studying psychology and from past experience, I'm best at answering questions about love life, mental illness as well as giving career advice or job advice. I am also really into fashion and love these types of questions!. Oh and any pet help...

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I need an EFFICIENT and rather quick way to commit suicide.
Please save the preaching, my mind is made up. I just don't want to end up as a vegetable, or a burden.

No one on here is going to tell you how to do this.
It's just as easy to find Advicenators as it is to type into Google 'help for suicidal thoughts' and get numbers of helplines. Go get help.

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can brother sister do sex if they both agrey

Physically you can.

But why would you want to eww! Its against the law-its incest, and if you didn't even know that then you shouldn't be having sex full stop!

It goes against most people's morals...and its nice to have someone as a 'sibling'-a friend and a support base designed for talking about relationships to-not getting sexual with.

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I think i am Bisexual but i don't know. I have kissed a girl multiple times, And the same person. But i am only 11 and i don't know what i should do! My mom asks if i am.. But i just say "Nope i'm Straight" The good thing is, If i she wont care. Because she has Lesbian friends and loves them like a sister too! I just want to know..

You're not old enough to be on this site, it said so when you signed up.

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Heey everyone! :) Im 14/f and Im trying my hardest to get a tight stomach and a bigger thigh gap. So what are some great exercises for this? My thigh gap is about 1cm wide but I want it to be atlead 2 or 3. So, does anyone know some myracle exercises? Im willing to work my hardest to get this but I need good exercises! :) Thankss!

So I gave you advice previously how to do this.

What you havn't said in your question is something that any future advice givers need to know.
You said you're anorexic (spelt wrong by you) and are starving yourself.
So as it turns out your problem may be more serious.
So stop trying to get a thigh gap-especially by starving yourself.
Go speak to your doctor if you think this is healthy-you don't need advice on here you need a counsellor love.

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Hey so my bf wants to have sex in a postition called reverse cowgirl? And dogystyle? I dont know what these things are but please help also he said he wants to 'eat me out' and i said no because i didnt know what it was. He said it felt good so please help we are both 17 thanks ( im a girl )

Type it into Google...prepare yourself for the 'eating out' google search solutions though

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Okay so I have this friend who goes up to my school . one day she comes up to me and she tells me she has to tell somthing . she tells me that she's pregnant with twins ! She told me not to tell.
My friend doesn't look pregnant at all !
Then one day she comes up to me again and tells me that she lost one of the twins in the womb ?
And she said she would invite us to the baby shower which she never did .
Then we had a week off of school coming up , during that week she had her baby early . Her baby is premature and the baby is 7 pounds ? And she had no pictures with the baby ? Only pictures of the baby ? She comes back to school after that one week break looking just the same . And she post pictures of her "baby" like she doesn't care who knows .

Hey
I agree she's lying-but you recognised this yourself in the title-so what was the advice you wanted exactly?

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my father mental abused me and my siblings, and my parents love was all ways around , the fight and have there way with each other in frount of us kids i now grown up 51. and had three kids , never re married and find i only me a like my father and i want to throw up

Hello,
I'm sorry you were mentally abused.But 1)Due to mostly grammar this didn't make sense 2)That didn't matter because you havn't asked for a specific piece of advice. Do you want to know how to find a man? To overcome your past? To stop throwing up?
Please clarify-ask another question & I'll answer

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Okay! Let me explain this . . . I am a bisexual girl, and I am about to go to high school. The problem is, I have a crush on my teacher. She is female like I am, and I think she is the most amazing, talented, inspirational, and beautiful lady in the whole world.

Here is the worse problem: everyone at my school can tell that I have a crush on her! They can see it in the way I look at that teacher and blush whenever I'm around her. I am often teased about my feelings for her, and people hate me because I am bisexual.

I am worried that someone is going to tell her that I have a crush on her, because then she would never see me in the same way. Any advice? I'd appreciate any. Thanks!

I know you fancy her, but tbh I'd try to empathize with her.
She's a teacher, and I'm guessing young ish. She'll never be able to get in a relationship with you and keep her job. I can almost garuntee her intention isn't to get with you.
One because you're too young and also because becoming a teacher is highy competitive and she'd be foolish to throw her career away.

You're nearly going to be in high school and let me tell you,you don't go running to a support teacher if something happens-you have to be mature.
If any of these immature comments about you do get to her grapevine,you need to ask her to talk at the end of the class.
At this point dismiss rumours immediately, and assure her it was a misunderstanding-maybe going on to ask about class work. This is for your own good-as the main important thing about school is doing well. So you need to be mature & ensure you maintain a good friendly relationship with all your teachers,so that they can go on to help you pass your exams.
You can't stop rumours, but you can take control of them.About the hating because of bisexual thing? Tbh many teens misunderstand it-remember we're bought up with most films and media projecting hetrosexual relationships. So just accept that these ppl don't hate you,they hate they find it hard to come to terms with your sexuality-maybe they've never encountered a bi person at all before? Don't hate on them for their confused views, and don't take what they have to say to heart

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What if the reason for your suiside are to lift the burden you feel your putting on your friends and family now, to be selfesh is to only think ones self but what if you leave no mess for family to find what if you really have exhausted all other options I'm asking this because I am young enough know and old enough to realize my family shouldn't have to cart me from drs to drs because my poor health and being so depressed in front of them is only bringing them down

Trust me, I work for a hospice and having a child who's dead is more of a burden than anything else in the world.
The thing is, these kids want to be alive-but are denied their right to life. If you're depressed go get help and don't be so foolish as to put the stain of your passing on your family. That'd live with them forever, and they'd be like-'oh, well they obviously didn't care about our feelings'

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what is sex?

The question title can be interpreted differently to the question itself.
You found Advicenators. That's harder to do than finding an online dictionary and typing it in.

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i have light brown hair and green eyes.im thinking about dying it black,i feel like i need a change or something and i really wanna do it,should i?

From someone with dark brown hair and green eyes...I don't think blacks right!
I don't know what you look like, so hey maybe black will look good.

To look your best, its recommended that people only go a few hades lighter or darker than their natural colour. Your natural colour should enhance features you already have-like green eyes, and if you don't mind me saying black can look quite harsh on someone.

If you want to change, why not dye it a chocolate brown or blonde? Alternativley, there is the option of highlights for that summer glow, or just getting a fresh new cut would look good.

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I feel like I'm being "breathed" when I do shoulder rotations. What is that?

This question hasn't been answered still...do you think you could explain what you mean and then more people may be able to help you?

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How do you stay humble? Lately, I've found myself a little too self-absorbed. I've recently had some pretty cool accomplishments, and I find it hard to strike a balance between boasting about them and having an appropriate amount of pride. Not only that, but I've recently joined a club at school that's a big of an ego warfare; I feel like I have to brag about myself to get people to like me. So how do you guys forget all that crap and keep yourself down to earth?

If you don't brag, then people will appreciate it-no one likes a show off. And also, when you do achieve something great, you wont need to brag because you'll be congratulated anyway as you'll be humble.

I think if you have to brag about your self to get people to like you then it's not a great situation to be it-and could lead to 'fluctuating self esteem', where you NEED to be told you're great to believe it.

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So I Have been talking to this guy for about 2 months, when i say talking i mean texting everyday all day. However he goes to a different school so we have only been on an actual date twice. So i think everything is going great, except when he kisses me it seems rushed, and this is annoying because i even went in for a second kiss. Well the next day i find out he just wants to be friends because he doesn't really see a spark with me. My personality is too shy for him in person. I dont know what to think is this whole personality thing an excuse to not date me or is he really telling the truth? If we were friends for a while is there a chance this could change when i get more confortable with him? I'm confused and sad. By the way I'm 17, he's 18...

It's always hard when you're rejected by someone because of something you can't help-your personality.

But if you're naturally shy-remember theres nothing wrong with this, lots of guys like shy girls. Also, never change for anyone-because if you don't live your life according to who you really are-the only person your kidding is yourself.

If I were you, I'd move on. Whilst its hard and you still like him and everything, you'll feel stronger for it. Without being harsh-he doesn't want to be with you. Don't you deserve someone who accepts you for who you are and does want to be with you? Of course you do. Use this set back to make you stronger-at least you learnt you're not reliant on a guy being in your life-and the right one will come along.

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So during my relationship with my ex I had an abortion. I feel so horrible about it and honestly it haunts me. he doesn't know that I got pregnant. He doesn't know about the procedure at all. It was such a traumatizing thing for me and then I grew into a depression and because of that me and my bf broke up. I just wasn't the same person anymore. I haven't been ever since. Me and him just recently broke up and we still talk and hang out. I really do love him and I don't know if he should know or not.

I think if theres even the slightest possibility you may want to get back with him in the future. part of that is letting him know, and know why you were so depressed.

I think it's important you seek counselling for this issue-clearly the whole thing has been traumatic. And abortion is a traumatic thing, so you need to consult your GP and ask them to refer you to a counsellor, because you want to move on.

If you don't want to get back with this boy, I don't see there's any reason why he should know.

If you do get back with him, part of that is recognising where you both went wrong the first time, and acknowledging this. This is where your abortion news may come in, and until you're ready for a child I suggest you don't have sex unless the guy wears protection, so that you don't have to go through such a trauma again.

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How does water help make your hair more shiny?

It depends on the temperature of the water.

Very hot water despite popular belief doesn't help bring out the shine.
It has been proven however that if you can face it, at the end of your shower if you put the water on to 'cold' and rinse your hair, it does make it shinier.

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Ok well I like this guy and i think he likes me. The best sign that he liked me was that i went to this track practice that anyone at my school could attend and he was there. He followed me everywhere and we had to race each other and we tied because were both trying so hard to beat each other. On the next exercise i switched lines because it was really uneven and he sprinted right after me. Then I said to my other friend i won't abandon her and he sprinted to get behind me before she could. Also at this bingo thing he was in line because we both won and he ran to me and said i finally won in a really silly voice. He also plays with me at recess no matter what the game is. He also jokes around with me in class and stares a lot a me. These middle schoolers said he likes me because they were at the track practice too and said it was really obvious that he like me. So does he?? Please help me he's really nice and funny and i really hope he likes me. Thanks for everyone who answers.

A lot of the time with this kind of thing, is that girls have like a sixth sense for it. If you think it-then it's 95% true!

It sounds like he does like you-the key sign here is when other people are telling you he does-because they've got a lot to lose from telling you that-and why would they make it up?!

However, clearly you rate the answers on what you most want to hear-unless you act on your feelings or he does on his...nothing will happen.

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What is a good answer to put on a application about special study or research work and special skills and activities about myself

You should always tell the truth on application forms. You have not told us anything about yourself...so advice is limited.

Another thing to remember is that if you Google it or write what you think people want to see in fancy language-teachers/employers can see right through it.

I say always tell the truth. Like you could put as a hobby 'walking' meaning you do the odd bit of walking-and no joke it could end up being a fifteen minute conversation topic in an interview.

Just make sure you write about an interest-meeting with friends is classed as an interest. In my opinion, make sure you have one hobby or extra curricular activity that relates to your work/research/career, and another that demonstrates you have people skills.

If you don't have any hobbies surrounding this, then rather than making it up I suggest you start!

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Is it legal in england for a 13 year old girl to give a 14 year old boy a bj?

No-because it's not legal to have sex until you're 16, and theres a reason for it to-at 16 you're deemed responsible for your own actions in the eyes of the law.

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This is about my female teacher and I'm a female too.
sometimes i have caught her looking at me.Sometimes when we look at each other, either she looks away quickly or I have to break eye contact.
When she is teaching, 90% of the time she is looking at me.
When she makes a joke, or makes fun of a student in our class (when I say makes fun of someone, I don't mean that she's mean to the student.) she always looks at me after and smiles. 
One time our class had to bring something for a shared lunch, and most of the boys forgot to bring something, so the teacher said to them that they had to sing a song, so the boys asked what song, and then the teacher said "girls just wanna have fun" then straight away she looked at me...
I brought cupcakes (I know, cupcakes are for younger people, not people in highschool, but it's the only thing I could bring lol) and the teacher had one, then I saw her take a bit of icing off of her cupcake and lick it off of her finger while looking at me then she smiled...like trying to be sexy?
Sometimes when the bell goes, she stands by the door and when I walk past, our bodies touch. There is plenty of room for her to move but she just stands there and obviously doesn't mind our bodies touching? (I'm too shy to say excuse me...)
One time she stopped talking to someone just to say bye, have a nice weekend to me.
When we were in the school library once, she sat next to me. Out of all of the free tables and chairs she sat next to me.
One time when this boy sat next to me, half way though the lesson she comes over to our table sits down next to the boy, and asks the boy why he's sitting next to me.
I don't know I'm just confused, what do you think? What's your opinion?
And I understand the never have a relationship with a teacher thing.

The thing is with questions like thism, a part of you want you're teacher to like you-it gives you a bit of a kick.

But the problem is by overanalysing every sign, not only will your class work go behind, you wont be doing yourself any favours in the long run.

It helps to think of it like this. You're primary school teachers like everyones were probably very touchy feely and things. It doesn't mean they like you, it means they're being friendly. Sometimes, attraction can be confused with meaning well.

If you're to shy to tell someone 'excuse me', then I'm guessing you're shy overall. This means lots of things. Firstly, you're more likely to over evaluate any sign of possible attraction this teacher shows you-and less likely to brush it of.But also, that in a classroom where it's now more common to be loud than reserved, this teacher may be overly concerned with whether you're ok or not.

I don't know if this is what you want to here, but the same thing is happening to me only with a male teacher, except I realize that what would someone in a job that they have competed to get be doing fancying someone 10 + years younger than them, when there are plenty of people their own age.

For your own sanity, you need to forget these feelings. The only time you should take action is if this teacher acts on any possible feelings she has for you.

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