my boyfriend and i have been going out for three years now. we've done everything from bjs to fingering and just started sex about a month or two ago...but the thing is.i.can't.orgasm.
and its killing both of us. when he fingers me it feels okay. sometimes i feel like i have to pee,but neever reach the climax. now with sex , its the same thing. people say it just takes time and i've read so many articles , yet still cannot orgasm. he's easily happy every time but i'm not. i feel awful...is there something wrong with my body?
I think you need to discover your body on your own first before you work on being with your boyfriend. Try to take a few hours and have a "play day". Take a nice relaxing bath and discover ways you enjoy being touched, including where and how hard or soft. Don't rub your clit but everywhere else is fine. Go to your computer and watch a little porn (redtube.com and xhamster.com) and find out what turns you on. Lay on the bed and let your mind go blank. Go slow and tease yourself. Let the orgasm build. the longer you wait, the bigger the O will be. I have my best O's when I've teased myself all day. When you're ready to cum, break out your vibrator and hopefully you'll have a nice big O. After you've done that a few different times, you'll be ready to move onto trying with your boyfriend. When your with him, go as slow as possible. Start with slow kisses and let his hands roam over your body but have him stay away from your clit to prolong the teasing. Your mind and body needs to be ready before he moves on to the target area. That should be the last thing he works on. I think you'll know after a good amount of teasing, when your ready to cum. I hope you let me know how things turn out and if you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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okay so im a girl who knows what she wants when she wants and recently i met this guy. he says he likes me and i told him im bisexual ive always been that way so please no one say i am confused cause im not i like them both. so i like him and he says he likes me to so then he tells me hes not lookin for a relationship...what should i do?
I think part of his problem is that he may eventually lose you to a woman and there's nothing he can do to compete with that. He has accepted you being bi but he may not be ready to deal with a future where you decide you need to be with a woman. I know it's hard to believe but some men actually feel threatened by a strong woman (I dated a few in my life like that). The other side is that he's actually not ready to settle down. He may be enjoying just dating and having his free time to himself. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Me and my bf have been together for a few years now, lately we've broken up but then get back together (its mostly been off).
We're together as of this moment but lately things have been bleh and off between us, and by off i mean we're not that close like we use to be.
When we have sex it feels like he wants to get it over with, or if we do then its just once and that's it. Before we would have sex twice sometimes 3 times a day and he would not keep his hands off me, now he just doesn't touch me at all and it also feels like he just doesn't want to have sex any more. I'm the one that as to insensate it.
Is he cheating?
Btw i'm 23 and he will be 30 on his birthday. And also we do not live together either.
You didn't give quite enough information on his other behavior. Has he been avoiding your calls? Blowing off dates? Putting his phone on vibrate? Any other change of habits recently also would be a good indicator of possible cheating. I'm not sure from what you've told me that he's cheating but it is a possibility. He could be going through something with his family or work or something else that he's not ready to share with you. It sounds like you need to sit down with him and have a little heart to heart with him. Maybe plan a little surprise romantic get-a-way. Sometimes a change of scenery can do the heart good and jump start the relationship again. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Okay so I'm Bi and I have a Bi friend, whom I kissed at my friends 13th birthday. She and I are both very open about being Bi and I'm 12 and she is 13 we are both girls. I know we are to young to be kissing and dating and stuff. But after I kissed her a really latched onto her and stuck around her and ended up REALLY liking her. She has a boyfriend who is aware of her bisexuality. We slept in the same bed that night, although my other friends were afraid to let us. I don't know what to do about this or if I seriously like her or it's just the effect of kissing her. I don't know. Please help me!
The only way to really find out how she feels about you is to go out on a friend "date". Go to the mall or the movies and hang out for a while. You can even invite her over to watch a movie or for a sleep over. If she touches you a lot when you talk to her or sits close to you, then chances are, she likes you. You can also try the direct approach and just ask her. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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what is the difference between giving heads and s blow job! i kinda know what they are but then someone used it in a weird way and i just want to make sure i have them straight! thanks a bunch!
love ya!
Just two names for the same thing. When a woman uses her mouth on a mans penis to bring a man to orgasm. If you have any other questions, feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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hey ya'll. 15 f. i want to know what exactly does ejaculate mean? also i want to know how to learn how to squirt when you come. cuz i read it in a book that some girls can do that and i wondered how you could do that and if you could teach yourself how to do it.
thanks
I'm 35 and have never been able to squirt. I've had strong orgasms where I've almost passed out and my vagina has become extremely wet but nothing that squirted out. All of the women I've slept with in the past have never had ejaculation like a man either. I have seen it in porn, so I'm guessing it all depends on the woman. I hope this helps and good luck.
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hey ya'll i am 13 female and i like lesbain porn. i dont know why but it just seems sexy and hot to me. im not a lesbain but it is just better for me to see lesbains having sex and what nots than to see a man and a woman. i was wondering if that is bad? is or no?
i rate high for good answers!
THANKS
You may still be to young to realize which side you prefer or if you really prefer both. I'm on the both side. I have a husband but slept with a lot of women in my younger days because I was just plain horny all the time. I still enjoy watching girl on girl porn when I'm alone but love the way my husband feels during sex. If the time is right, don't be afraid to explore your lesbian side because you may enjoy it. You don't have to let your boyfriend know about your feelings because you may fear he may want a threesome and that's something you probably won't be comfortable with. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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hey everybody! my question is how old do you have to be to get a small vibrator from spencers at the mall?
Thanks
I don't think they ask for an ID when you go. If you look at least 18, act mature enough and don't make a big deal about it, they'll probably let you buy one. If that doesn't work, you can go to a store and buy a prepaid visa card and order one online. I hope this helps and good luck.
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My boyfriend keeps looking for an argument to break-up and once we do hes gone for a few weeks then he appears again like nothing happened or it was my fault he says Im to stubborn and I never call or text him first but when I do he always says hes busy and will get back to me later...He calls me once in a while during the day then he tells me his phone died or hes gonna go sleep and he will talk to me later. He texts me random messages and is always texting even when hes out with me but he claims he loves me and only me and he told his whole family about me and says he wants to marry me when we end things he says hes not going to chase after me anymore but re-appears in my life again just when im adjusting to the idea of being without him...I love him but im so tired of being treated like this its so stressful for me especially since my parents dont accept him but i stood up to them for him so what should I do and why is he acting like this?
He's keeping you around for a booty call. His lame excuses for not answering the phone are because he's with another woman and more than likely having sex. When he's with you and randomly texting, he's making plans for his next booty call. Men that love you will never act that way or do the things he does. Time to let him be some other girls problem and find someone that will love you the right way. I hope this helps and good luck.
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How many stamps do you need to send something in one of those big yellow envelopes?
If you have your own scale at home, you can go to usps.com and get an accurate amount for postage. I hope this helps and good luck.
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I don't think it is okay for my girlfriend to shake her booty in front of other men for money at the club? I think it is disrespectful and degrading. Am I wrong?
I have been to many stip clubs and had a few girlfriends that were strippers. None of the girls I knew, ever wanted anything to do with their customers or did anything outside of the club. Most of the women do it because it's good money and some of them because they enjoy the attention the get. In todays tough economy I imagine things are tough for everybody and if your girlfriend has the ability to make money by stripping, then she should take advantage of it. Hopefully she's smart and will go to college and get a better job when the economy gets better or at least save a lot of her money for when she gets to old to strip. I understand your reservations and possible trust issues you may have with her but if you love her, you should trust her and support her. I'm sure this decision was tough for her to make and having you not support her, makes it even tougher. If you feel this strongly against her not working there, you can let her know that if she continues, you need to move on with your life without her. I hope this helps and good luck.
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18/f and hes 19/m
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so ive been talking to this guy alot, and he always calls me gorgeous, cutie or bub.
and the thing is....i cannot seem to think of a cute nickname for him! any help would be appreiciated... i call him lovely but its kinda girly ahahaa.
I hope he's not using those generic names because he can't remember your name. I dated a guy for a short time that constantly called me cutie and stuff. We were at a bar and ran into his friend and his friend said aren't you going to introduce me and he just stood there frozen and I had to jump in after a bit and tell him my name. Needless to say, he wasn't my boyfriend after that. But if everything is cool, then I would use a cereal or candy bar he likes. Sugar pops, coco pebbles, nutter butter or my frosted flake is a start. I hope this helps and good luck.
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19/m.
I have been invited to a political Gala dinner. What is the appropriate dress-code for such an event? I don't want to appear in black tie, only to find everyone else in formal attire?!
Thanks in advance :)
There should be an event coordinator that you can contact and ask what the proper attire should be. If you can't track that person down, call the politicians office and ask one of their staff. I hope this helps and good luck.
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I am 17. My 15-year-old sister and I know each other's thoughts and feelings almost as well as our own. Unfortunately, we also know when the other's funny bone is "tickly" -- and it starts a giggling fit. When we start, we can't stop.
We get these fits at the most inappropriate times. We are at our wit's end. Can you help?
You should be happy that you enjoy being together. So many siblings fight most of the time. That means that you come from a happy home. But if it does happen at places or times, it shouldn't, then you both need to walk away from each other and go to different rooms for about 5 or 10 minutes until the fit is over. I hope this helps and good luck.
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why do guys like when girls dress up in slutty costumes, but girls dont really care for that typically? would a guy think its weird if his gf was just randomly wearing a costume?
It really depends on the guy but for most men it's all a fantasy. I have two theories on why they enjoy it so much. First, is they like the attention a girl gives them and makes them feel in control. Like, I'm important enough for my girl to get dressed up and act slutty and she's doing all this for me. The second is that men like the though of imagining their good girl is someone else. So they get to "cheat" without having sex with someone else. I like getting dressed up once in a while because I get to act out my own dirty little fantasies without any recourse. Sometimes when I put on an outfit, it gives me permission to act like a dirty whore or sometimes I get to dominate him and make him my little bitch. Even if you don't enjoy the outfits, use it to your advantage and get what you want from him. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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My "friend Z" was at my house yesterday and we watched a few movies- well he put his arm around me and was kinda rubbing my arm- so sweet. Lol but i wasnt sure where to have my hands.... It sounds stupid. but yha. Lol at one point i was holding his hand while he had his arm around me but i dont know if that was comfortable for him... and at another point i had my hand on his chest, with my head on his shoulder and his head was resting on my head. It was very sweet. But i figured i would ask for Yall's opinions on where you would put your hands/head or if your a guy where its comfortable for you...
His knee or on the side of his stomach are pretty safe spots. Hope this helps and good luck.
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me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while like a while years. so we've been rocky i love him and i iwill be there for him if hes sick poor healty happy mad sad ect. i love him no matter what. so i thought i liked this kid from work yah hes cute and what not but i didnt like him and i sitll have no feelings for this guy still. but my boyfriend gets mad at any guys commenting my stuff on facebook which i get because i wouldnt like it if girls did that to him becuase its like oh they must talk. this guy i do talk to i guess like casual talk tonight we talked on facebook for a while i feel kinda bad yah i flirted but i dont like him at all my boyfriend is like ignoring me lately and i dont care if that other guy likes me because i dont want him i want my man. i just dont like to hide stuff i know if he read that he would break up with me as i would with him too. its like im confused but know what i wantl. i want my boyfriend! this other guy is like becoming a friend i think. i think flirting is okay as long as you know boundries like not messaging eachother i dont think ill do it again because it felt unfaithful like even if i have no interest in the other guy.i am being honost with myself i dont like him if i had to imagine being with him then my other boyfriend i would be devestated i love being with my boyfriend the thought of him being with someone else or me with someone else makes me sick. i dont want it to happen. i just want reasurance here i want things to be okay with me and my boyfriend and your thoughts.
Casual flirting is healthy and good for the soul. It makes us feel needed, important and attractive. As long as you don't take it to the next level and let the person know you will never take it to the next level, you shouldn't have anything to worry about. You need to have an honest conversation with your man and let him know that you enjoy casual flirting but you would never cheat on him. If he finds out you've been flirting behind his back, he will be hurt. On the same respect, you have to accept the fact that he may be flirting with other women. Tell him that the occasional flirting is alright but he had better not take it to the next level or you will leave him. If he loves you, the threat of you leaving should scare him from cheating. I hope this helps and good lucki
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So I met this guy back in Sept, and that night we went back to his place and messed around but never had sex or oral. Even though we both told eaqchother how much we wanted eachother. He said he was a good man and he wanted me the right way. lol. Everything has been causal since, only spoke a few times and went on 1 date a month ago. I ran into him last night after not talking for awhile and we wonund up going back to his place. We wound up f**king after he was done kissing me everywhere and eating me out. However here's my question....you could tell he didnt want to fall alseep with me so I left, he walked me to car and that was it. So with this said, do yo think it was just a fuck...one night stand or could it be more? Do guys really go down on chicks in a one night stand?
I had my fair share of one night stands and usually I coudn't even get comfortable enough to fall asleep and I love to sleep. There was quite a lot of those guys that went down on me and I never say no to getting eaten. It was a little stange that he didn't make a move the first time around but I sense that he may have a girlfriend. There may have been a little bit of guilt but guys seem to be able to get through that when it comes to sex. If you think you like this guy, you should call him and make plans with him. If he makes up excuses why he can't, he was probably using you for sex. I hope this helps and good luck.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months and the sex life is GREAT. Except one thing :-( I can't seem to get an orgasm!
I am 19 years old and he is 22. I honestly have only had a few real orgasms (Under 5). Most of which came from my little vibrating friend.
We have tried stimulating my clit during intercourse but I can't seem to climax. I feel like I am thinking about it too hard but then when I try not thinking about it I feel like I am just laying there useless.
Everything else about our sex is fantastic. The positions, the variety, the passion, the connection, the lust, the communication; I mean everything!
He gets his, I just want mine! :-)
Sincerely,
In search of the big O.
PS: Any tips for myself or for him would be fantastic. Let me have it!
I think you need to discover your body on your own first before you work on being with your boyfriend. Try to take a few hours and have a "play day". Take a nice relaxing bath and discover ways you enjoy being touched, including where and how hard or soft. Don't rub your clit but everywhere else is fine. Go to your computer and watch a little porn (redtube.com and xhamster.com) and find out what turns you on. Lay on the bed and let your mind go blank. Go slow and tease yourself. Let the orgasm build. the longer you wait, the bigger the O will be. I have my best O's when I've teased myself all day. When you're ready to cum, break out your vibrator and hopefully you'll have a nice big O. After you've done that a few different times, you'll be ready to move onto trying with your boyfriend. When your with him, go as slow as possible. Start with slow kisses and let his hands roam over your body but have him stay away from your clit to prolong the teasing. Your mind and body needs to be ready before he moves on to the target area. That should be the last thing he works on. I think you'll know after a good amount of teasing, when your ready to cum. I hope you let me know how things turn out and if you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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I haven't made out with a guy yett but when ii do ii would like to know some ways to be a good kisser or makeout the right way or the way a guy wants to . wat are some tips that youu can give me ?!
Having good breath is a good start. Don't wear to much lipstick or lip gloss. It may look good on you but boys typically don't like the taste or the waxy feeling of lipstick. Start off slow with little short kisses. Try and hold your breath for the little ones and once you move on to longer kisses, breathe through your nose. When you're ready for a little tounge, open your mouth slightly and let your tounge come out to meet his. If you feel he's moving to fast and wants to ram his tongue down your throat, put your hands on his face and gently pull him away. My last bit of advice is try not to be to sloppy. It may sound gross but try to swallow your saliva right before you kiss. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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