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7th time and still nothing...
my boyfriend and i have been going out for three years now. we've done everything from bjs to fingering and just started sex about a month or two ago...but the thing is.i.can't.orgasm.
and its killing both of us. when he fingers me it feels okay. sometimes i feel like i have to pee,but neever reach the climax. now with sex , its the same thing. people say it just takes time and i've read so many articles , yet still cannot orgasm. he's easily happy every time but i'm not. i feel awful...is there something wrong with my body?
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you should ask him to eat you and see how that goes, use his tounge to play with your clit, light and fast, that should work for u
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I think you need to discover your body on your own first before you work on being with your boyfriend. Try to take a few hours and have a "play day". Take a nice relaxing bath and discover ways you enjoy being touched, including where and how hard or soft. Don't rub your clit but everywhere else is fine. Go to your computer and watch a little porn (redtube.com and xhamster.com) and find out what turns you on. Lay on the bed and let your mind go blank. Go slow and tease yourself. Let the orgasm build. the longer you wait, the bigger the O will be. I have my best O's when I've teased myself all day. When you're ready to cum, break out your vibrator and hopefully you'll have a nice big O. After you've done that a few different times, you'll be ready to move onto trying with your boyfriend. When your with him, go as slow as possible. Start with slow kisses and let his hands roam over your body but have him stay away from your clit to prolong the teasing. Your mind and body needs to be ready before he moves on to the target area. That should be the last thing he works on. I think you'll know after a good amount of teasing, when your ready to cum. I hope you let me know how things turn out and if you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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There's absolutely nothing wrong with your body. And it really does take time. You have to let yourself completely relax and just go with whatever happens. Don't think about it so much during sex because its more than likely to not happen. Try exploring yourself on your own for a little bit that really does help a lot of people. It definately helped me. Once you know what gets you to the point of climax then you can show him what gets you there because he'll be more than happy to get you there and get that sense of achievement. He really won't be wierded out by what you show him. Hope this helps!!xx
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Nope. There is nothing wrong with your body. Most women do not orgasm from penetration alone. Usually, we need a hand or something down there to help out.
Have your orgasmed on your own? If you haven't, then you have some homework to do.
If you have, then you're ready to move on. You can't just wait for an orgasm to come strolling along, and you certainly won't find them in a magazine article. You know what works... bring it into sex! I can guarantee that your guy will not be repulsed by it. Show him what works, and he'll catch on eventually.
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