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Can't Seem to Get "The Big O" HELP!
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months and the sex life is GREAT. Except one thing :-( I can't seem to get an orgasm!
I am 19 years old and he is 22. I honestly have only had a few real orgasms (Under 5). Most of which came from my little vibrating friend.
We have tried stimulating my clit during intercourse but I can't seem to climax. I feel like I am thinking about it too hard but then when I try not thinking about it I feel like I am just laying there useless.
Everything else about our sex is fantastic. The positions, the variety, the passion, the connection, the lust, the communication; I mean everything!
He gets his, I just want mine! :-)
Sincerely,
In search of the big O.
PS: Any tips for myself or for him would be fantastic. Let me have it!
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you need to stop trying to have one and just enjoy, it will cum on its own, sometimes trying to hard will make it stay away, so to speak. do you masterbate without a toy, if so teach yourself how to feel good and one day you will cum
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I think you need to discover your body on your own first before you work on being with your boyfriend. Try to take a few hours and have a "play day". Take a nice relaxing bath and discover ways you enjoy being touched, including where and how hard or soft. Don't rub your clit but everywhere else is fine. Go to your computer and watch a little porn (redtube.com and xhamster.com) and find out what turns you on. Lay on the bed and let your mind go blank. Go slow and tease yourself. Let the orgasm build. the longer you wait, the bigger the O will be. I have my best O's when I've teased myself all day. When you're ready to cum, break out your vibrator and hopefully you'll have a nice big O. After you've done that a few different times, you'll be ready to move onto trying with your boyfriend. When your with him, go as slow as possible. Start with slow kisses and let his hands roam over your body but have him stay away from your clit to prolong the teasing. Your mind and body needs to be ready before he moves on to the target area. That should be the last thing he works on. I think you'll know after a good amount of teasing, when your ready to cum. I hope you let me know how things turn out and if you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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