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I really don't know where else to turn right now but here. Okay, I know that I really shouldn't cut myself, but It's addicting. The teachers, my parents, they can't help! They don't get it. My parents say 'Pray'. I am Christian, but what do you do when Faith isn't enough? My teachers tell me I just need to want to stop. HELLO! I've wanted to stop! I can't! Someone please, If you know how to get unaddicted to the pain, please help me! (link)
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ok i have a couple suggestions
obviously you dont want to cut yourself.
maybe in your subconscious its become a habbit.
1)talk to other people that you care about and ask them to write down why they want you to stop or even tape recording their reasons on camera or cassete tape so you can here their actual voice. then write down the reasons or record them that you want to quit. each time you have the urge to cut yourself listen to them or read them. you might even tape a picture of yourself and those people in happier times so you can look at them and get more of a visual on the way you want to live.
2) you are the controller of your own universe. you will attract what you send out. think about or write down every day what you want preferably when ever you get the urge to harm your self. dont just do it once or twice do it about 30 or more times or just sit and visualize being happy and what you want positively in your mind.
3)question yourself what is the real reason your cutting yourself. you have to know somewhere deep down or you wouldnt get the urge to do it. when you find the answer to that question confront it.
if you need anymore help or to talk to me write me in my inbox and i will give you my personal email adress
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I used to be so outgoing, I was friends with everyone and I talked to anyone. But latley, I've noticed my list of friends has shrunk, I spend more time at home, and I'm becoming shyer and shyer. I worry when we get new nine week classes, because I'm afraid I won't get any classes with my friends when I used to be happy with whoever I got. How do I get the old me back? (link)
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ok youve just adapted to a new way of living or atmosphere. you spend more time at home so home would be the atmospheres you have adapted to you made yourself used to not being around people soas a reaction youve become shyer. so all you have to do is think of meeting new people as no big deal and start talking to people who are diffrent. the more you do that the more youll get used to it. some people youll mesh with and some people you wont click with and its really not a big deal.
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is eric clapton considered as a rock artist? (link)
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he would be considered a classic rock artist.
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Hello!
This might be a long story but just bare with me :)
Alright well my best guy friend started to like me.. alot
well i knew from the beginning it was a bad idea.
but i began to like him too. The day after his bday, i freaked out and told him i didnt like him anymore and we should be friends. Alot of people were dissapointed, and the person i am, worring about everyone, i thought the only solution was to like him again. And it happened. ( i havent had a good history of boys, all of them lead me on, and i dont have any trust in them, since he was my best friend, i had alot of trust.) well he tried to make alot of moves on me but... yeah.. we finally did stuff at the movies and that night he put like "tonight was amazing blah blah i really like her" on his away message. Well the next day he messaged me saying it was akward and he didnt like and he wanted to stay friends. Well i was pissed b/c he kinda lead me on.. and now we dont even talk.. and i hate him. no trust
i was just wondering what do you think changed his mind? (link)
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some times guys do that as way for revenge since you broke up with him maybe he wanted to get even or maybe he started feeling the same way you did the time you ended it. but think about it why are you mad it doesnt really sound like you wanted to be togeather in the first place. you let other people dictate you and sway your feelings and thats never the way to go.
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when guys say how big their penis is do they say how big it is with or without an erection? (link)
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usually its with one because alot of guys are egotistic with that kind of thing and want to present it in what they would feel is the best way. so of course they arent going to go by whens it smaller.
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and i still dont have my periods can you get pregnant if you havent started your periods yet????? and why havent i started my periods yet?
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your just going into puberty its not abnormal to not have your period. you cant get pregnant if you dont have your period but you never know what your body is doing inside and when your period will start and if you have sex and then your period starts afterwards because you have no idea when they start the first time then you could have a risk of getting pregnant and you can still catch sexually transmitted diseases. so its never wise to have unprotected sex and even when you have protected sex you stil have a small chance of getting pregnant if the protection happens to be faulty. but its better to have protection then to not have it.
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Ok so a lot of people tell me i am too thin. I've done those online calculators and they say i am, but you can't really trust those things because they don't take in to consideration a lot of important factors, you know. So, I thought if people could look at my pic site and give me their honest opinion? Thanks. http://www.picturetrail.com/photos/blondina75 (link)
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your extremly skinny. im not trying to sound rude but you could stand to gain 10 pounds. i really hope you dont think your fat. being that skinny isnt healthy or very attractive im not saying your ugly or anything like that or to gain three hundred pounds but 5 or ten pounds more would be a plus for your situation.have you tried protein bars or maybe you should eat more if you eat normal you could just have an extremly fast matabalism in that case get with a doctor.they can probably give you some weight advice. theres nothing wrong with being skinny but your ribs poking out is not appealing or sexy,i dont mean to be offensive.
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15/F
All day and all night I wear push up bras.
Could this be damaging or benefitting my
growth or possiblitity of future sagging?
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neither its not going to prevent or enhance growth or cause damage. when you get older most women sag un less they get plastic surgery which is unhealthy or workout alot. whereing a pushup bra wont effect that.
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My skin is really sensitive and the lace bra that i'm wearing isn't helping but it's the only one I have because bras these days were really expensive. I was going to try Wal Mart but I heard that they're really expensive. And for a teen my breast size is smaller than the average so bra sizes for me are hard to find. (link)
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walmarts isnt all that expensive atleast the one i go to i find bras there from 8.99 and up. dots has cheap bras to. so does fashion shop. you can get some deals there.
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why do people say that bulimia can kill you i dont get it?? what if i have been doing it for the last couple of years in my life but i stoped can it still affect me? (link)
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bulimia can kill you because when you dont eat or spit out food that you have eaten which is still basically not eating your starving your body. you die from starvation and lack of nutrients..its called a disorder for a reason. if you stopped and dont go back to doing it then you can build the nutrience back in your body but if you keep resorting to it then it kindof defeats the purpose and can leave you very unhealthy or dead.
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Ok: 20 yr old guy, kinda likes 19 yr old girl. what is the best way to ask out if said guy is shy for the following reasons: 1-He has not had much luck in this area ever. 2-Unsure of how girl will react(Will she laugh, think i am dumb etc...).
This is slightly confusing, some outside opinions would be appreciated.
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i think your a big boy and shes a big girl and she should probably be past the ha ha your dumb stage. just ask her out. if she doesnt like you,im sure youll find someone who does.if shes 18 or older then age doesnt matter. there is nothing confusing about it..you like her your shy. you dont know if she likes you. so just say hey how would you feel about going on a date with me..then shell give a response and youll take it as that..its happening all over the world everyday and its nothing new.
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Does anyone know of any easy and good excercises that flatten your abs and get rid of your love handles? I've been doing basic yoga and sit-ups and leg-lifts, etc. for a long time but they're not helping every much!!! (link)
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this is an edit-excuseme but belly dancing is a beautiful art,fun,and sexy. it tones your body well and its fun. its ok if you dont like my advice but you dont have to write something rude like belly dancing puhlease i mean really
you should take belly dancing or buy some belly dancing how to tape. its fun and it works out your abs really well.
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my bf said he wanted to take a break? what is that? I think it sounds like hes dumping me but he sed not exactly. whats going on? i tried asking him and he just says he kind of confused right now. (link)
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hes basically dumping you but trying to keep his foot on you so he has a secure spot to come running back to if his other relationships dont work out. or he really likes you but wants to see if theres something better or test your relationship.i personally dont believe if you truly want to be with someone then you wouldnt have to go exploring because you already know the person you want and theres no confusion about it
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15/f. My best friend (14/f) has a crush on this cute guy. I think I also might have a crush on him, but I haven't told her because I don't want to seem like I'm stealing him or anything, so I've pretty much been ignoring my feelings. Anyway, the bad part is that she goes through guys like oxygen. I'm not kidding. And besides that, it's fairly obvious that he's not interested in her, and he and I share the same interests and sense of humor. Is it bad for me to like him as well, and should I just back off? Or should I tell my best friend and see what happens? I really don't want to mess up my friendship with my best friend over some guy. Thanks. (link)
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is it fairly obvious that hes not interested because youlike him or would you say the same thing about his disinterest if you didnt like him.no matter..no its not bad that you like the same guy...and who say your stealing him he has free will hell be with who he wants whether its you or her or niether. just see what happens.
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if they make you give a urine sample at a physical,do they check for drugs,or is that only upon request? (link)
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they check for drugs thats pretty much what the whole urine sample test is about.theyll definetly detect drugs inyour system.
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Okay, I have a friend and we've been friends for six years. But I've been secretly in LOVE with him all this time. We used to flirt when we were younger, but now that we've been friends for so long, it's like we're more like brother and sister than we could be going out. It would be weird, but he's going off to college in May and I REALLY want my chance before he gets away. I know he'll be back for holidays and everything, but I'm literally in love and I just want to be with him, yet he's just a friend and I also don't want to ruin the friendship. What if he doesn't feel the same about me? (link)
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i understand that feeling...if its something that you absolutely cant bare not knowing then have a private conversation about it with him...and youll have to take the risk of him not sharing the same feelings or go on not knowing forever. which one can you live with.if you guys are really friends then it shouldnt ruin it if you guys dont let it.
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im 14, a freshman, and have never had a boyfriend. its odd. i feel so left out since so many people have lost their "IT" (lol) already. i mean i dont want to do that. but i want a bf and plus, i've never kissed anyone either, i know its because of my looks, i mean i've tried everything. i've even tried annorexia. i KNEW it was the wrong answer, so i stoped while i was ahead. oh im a girl, but i guess you caould have figured that out.
sorry if it was stupid. (link)
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first off 14 isnt an odd age not to have a boyfriend.....and fourteen really isnt that stable of an age to lose virginity at either. nothings worth hurting your self over anorexia isnt pretty..good that you stooped that indicates to me that your not stupid infact your smart. but what you dont realize is you have to love yourself before others can love you. im sure you dont look as bad as you make it sound. confidence is one of the biggest beauty secrets. have you ever heard the saying dont believe it unless its from the horses mouth. what it means is dont believe a certain thing about that person unless they have said it there self about them self..now if you announce to the world that your stupid ugly and so on..then what do you think the world is going to begin to believe its not gossip its what you said about your self. if you need me to go deeper then ask me a question.
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My best guy friend likes me (he told me) and I like him too. The problem is he is afraid of committment. I've been waiting about 3 months for him to ask me out, and I don't think I can take it any more. Any suggestions on what to do? Should I just give up on him, and find someone else? (link)
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if youve been waiting that long then i think you should go for it...just if it doesnt work out dont let it weaken your friendship with him...if your true friends it wont...why not give it a shot..can you really blame him for not being ready for commitment....doesnt mean he wont ever be just go slow with the relationship and take it for what it is.
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I am 13 years old. I am in grade 8 and life is getting somplicated. Almost all my friends are guys and now the most popular girl in school say I flirt a lot with all the guys. She spread a nickname for me called "Boy Toy" and now I cant talk to a guy without anyone making a big deal about it. One of my most trustworthy friends is a guy and ill admit I kind of like him now but its just too weird. But now shes got even my best friend believing I flirt with him all the time and hes starting to avoid me some more. What I mean is usually when we see eachother he gives me a giant smile and stuff and stops and talks to me. Now he like looks away. I dont know what to do. Its not like im a huge flirt (I think) Ive never even truely gone out with a guy. What should I do? (link)
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i understand because threw most of my schools most of my friends were guys...no attraction to them....yes people made a big deal but if its not true why worry as for your guy friend if hes really your friend then he should know better..or maybe hes just as embarrased as you are and doesnt want to share in the harrassment..if he your friend the why dont you confront him..if he has a problem with it then hes not all that good of a friend.
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might be long but i would apreciate help.
Last year one of my friends moved far away, a couple changed to different school and i dont see them much anymore, and another i just grew apart from and stopped talking to her. That was alot of loses at once, but i had other friends so it wasnt to hard. A month or so ago my boyfriend broke up with me and then there was lots of "drama" and i lots another good majority of my friends that i dont only talk to in school. So it left me with just one good true friend. but lately i feel like im losing her too. We have been getting in fights, not agreeing and hardly hanging out. She goes out a ton with a group of friends i use to be in, but lately have seemd to just be excluded from. I always try to make plans to do things but poeple are always bussy or say no. Its making me really sad and i've been crying alot, and people who know me know idont cry im always a happy person. The only person i have is my one friend and she is the one who moved. Its pathetic that i have stayed best friends and grew closer with the one friend that moved and i cant even keep the friends near me. This is gettin long so ill get to my question. What should i do. With the one girl who i feel is leaving me out, i dont wanna talk to her and have her get mad and then have nobody. Pleasee help me any advice! i need it.
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there is always somebody....if your trying to make plans with people and these people are always saying no...even if its that one girl who you are afraid to talk because sshell get mad.then theyre not the right people to try to make plans with. there are an abundance of people to make friends with even if you dont see it. sometimes friendships dont work out as well as you want them to...some more then others..maybe your searching in the wrong places..or maybe you want someone so bad youll jump at anyone even if its a deadend relationship..nothing wrong with not wanting to be lonely. but people can use that against you.sometimes your fears become your reality if you dwell on them enough even if your trying to push them away. ill give you an example-say theres two people in a fist fight. ill call them you and your fear of being alone. lets say you hit the fear of lonliness in its weak spot. well what usually happens when you hit someone in a weak spot...they come back fighting with more energy and fury so really the more you push against not wanting to be lonely the more lonliness pushes back. so if thats the case then quit worring about being alone. if you stop searching so hard then the right people will come to you.when they do just enjoy yourself instead of counting down how many seconds you have untill they disapear and they wont disapear.
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