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Hey guys! first off I'm 20/F and he's 19/M.
Background information:
we dated in high school (my senior year, his junior year). He broke up with me. Not sure of the reason why. I know, how can you not know? Well believe me, I don't know.
We are both now in college. Me- Junior in college. Him- Sophomore in college.
In October we started talking again. We started talking about our past relationship and why we broke up. We both said that we still had feelings for each other and we'd like a second chance. He had a girlfriend at that time and I said that I couldn't continue talking to him how we were talking since he had a girlfriend, it was not fair to me or his girlfriend. He said he understood that and it wasn't fair but he wanted to still talk to me as friends. So we tried that and it didn't work. We couldn't talk as friends. So I said I couldn't talk to him anymore. So I stopped talking to him which was the hardest thing to do. A week later he messaged me and said he missed me, missed talking to me, and wanted to talk to me. A couple days later he broke up with his girlfriend.
We started talking a lot more after that and things were absolutely PERFECT. He came and visited me at my school and I went to his school a couple times. He's in a frat and he asked me to go to his frat's semi-formal and so I did. Everything was perfect. Things were better than before. We talked all day everyday non stop. He kept saying he didn't know why he broke up with me and he know realizes it was a mistake and he never should have. We hung out over our thanksgiving break and we hung out over our christmas break, we got each other christmas presents and we spent new years eve together. I've never been happier. When we are with each other we always have fun, we are always laughing and things are great.
Well, he went back to school 5 days before me and ever since he got back to school he's been short with me, giving me one-word answers. Not really talking as much, not messaging me first like he used to, not calling me babe or baby or anything. Not really saying much to me. I asked him if everything was okay and he said yes. I asked if something was on his mind and he said no, nothing is wrong. I don't want to keep asking that because eventually it's going to make him mad. I'm not sure what happened or if something happened or what I should do. I known you can not force someone to talk to you or force someone to do anything. It has to happen on it's own.
So I guess what I'm wondering is what you guys think is going on? What you think happened, or what you think is happening. And what I should do or what I shouldn't do.
ps: our schools are about 2 hours and 45 minutes away from each other and it wasn't a big deal before. (link)
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Yuk! Sounds like a mess! First, KUDOS to you for sticking to your guns and making him make a choice. Like you said, it was hard to do it, but you did, and in the end, you got what you wanted (well, almost in the end) A guy wants a challenge, not a wishy-washy wimp who will let someone use them. Anyway... sounds like you had a really nice break. And it also sounds like he got back to school, got back to his 'real world' and maybe is having second thoughts. The thing is, it was easy to get lost in the excitement over break. You two were together with not a lot of other distractions. But picture this - he gets back to school, realizes this is where his friends are, his social circle, and you're so far away... having a relationship with someone so far away may not seem as doable to him now as it did when you were together. Whatever the case is, its not fair for him to keep you guessing. Its not right. So you need to find the guts to ask him straight out how he's feeling. Just do it. Don't think too much about it. Next time you talk (email/FB...whatever) just ask him straight out - are you having second thoughts about us, because I think you are. You have a right to know, so don't feel bad about "making him mad". You may not like the answer, but at least you'll know.
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19/f i've been best friends with this girl for 4 years. Ever since she became super religious she would try to get me to go to church with her. And it worked for a while but then i realized that i didn't want to convert to Christianity. We have this other friend who my friend thinks is controlling , but i think she got that from her. Like Whenever my friend of four years wants to hangout she never wants to come over. See we're on winter break and she goes to college away from home. and i am always the one going to her house. We hangout with other people and she's rude to them to. but when we were working out she commented on how bad my shoes were like a million times. i was wearing vans canvas slip ons. then after wards we were buying drinks at the cafe and she wanted me to buy hers and i was like i am paying separate and she made a big deal, but i wouldn't buy it for her because she wouldn't shut up about what i was wearing. but later on we were talking and she was being nice and asking what kind of shoes i wanted from the store to workout in. but before Whenever i went to her house and im just like wtf why are you so rude? but anyways she asked me if i wanted her to do my eyebrows. and im stupid and i let her do it. and then she goes and messes up my eyebrows. i am really sick of her. should i stop being friends with her completely? and find new friends, or should i just hangout with her less? (link)
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So its sounds to me that the issue isn't your controlling friend. She can only be controlling if people let her control them. Instead of worrying about changing her, maybe you need to ask what you can change about yourself. What is it about you that makes others think they can boss you around? What is it about you that makes you feel like you have to give in to the whims of your friend? Confidence is your issue, not your friend. If you can't find a way to stand up to her and assert yourself and what you want every once in a while, you need to end the friendship and move one with your life. Friendships are supposed to HELP, not hurt, so if you're hurting because of your friend, change your ways or get a new friend.
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Let me first start by giving you a little back ground information. My ex wife became pregnant when she was 20 and I was 19. Even though it was earlier than we both expected to become parents, we were thrilled and so excited to start our family together. We got married shortly after she gave birth to our son Matt. Soon after that, we had another son, and then a daughter. From my perspective, everything was great. That's why I was so blindsided when my wife came to me 9 months after our daughter was born claiming she wasn't ready to settle down and be a mother with divorce papers in her hand. Almost overnight, I became a 23 year old single father with a 4 year old, 2 year old, and a 9 month old. After the divorce was final, I rarely heard from my ex wife. She had begun living a life that I didn't necessarily approve of filled with drugs and alcohol and, while I wanted to keep my children as far away from that as possible, she was their mother and I didn’t feel like I could entirely keep them away from her. The last straw, however, came when I let my daughter, Alyssa, (who was 6 at the time) stay with her when I took my sons on a hunting trip. I was supposed to pick her up at noon the Sunday we got back. I spent the entire afternoon calling my ex wife’s apartment with no answer. At 5 that afternoon, I finally just went over to her house where I found her front door wide open and her passed out on the couch from mixing a few too many drugs with alcohol. Her neighbor came over to the apartment and told me that my ex wife had taken Alyssa out one night and come home completely plastered. Thank god her neighbor had woken up and decided to take Alyssa back to her apartment. And this is just one example of many. After that, I told my ex wide that I didn’t want her to see our kids anymore which devastated her so much she entered rehab. She got clean and for the past ten years has seen the kids a few times despite my hesitance. My kids and I have been living a great life together away from my ex wife. A few years ago I began dating another woman whom I am now engaged too. She gets along great with my kids and is an amazing person who I know will be a good influence on my kids’ lives. My oldest son Matt is now in college, but Colton (my middle son) and Alyssa still live with me. Since I have become engaged, my ex wife has become crazy about spending time with the two of them. She wants them at her house every weekend and doesn’t want my fiancé to parent them at all. She is trying to tell my daughter all kinds of lies about why she left, and how I am a horrible person for trying to keep them from seeing her. She tells her that the entire thing was my fault and all kinds of horrible rumors about my fiancé, who went to high school with my ex wife. She has asked both of my kids to move in with her. Colton told her absolutely not, but Alyssa is confused about the whole situation and doesn’t know what she should do. I have full custody of them so essentially it is my choice about whether or not she can see them. I don’t want to take them away from my ex wife, but I don’t want to lose them myself. I am still worried that she will resort back to her old ways and put my kids in danger like she has their whole lives. Am I right to not let my daughter move in with her mom? (link)
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I understand your ex's issues. Its hard to see another woman come in and make a connection with the kids you neglected for so long. You both need to sit down with her (invite a 4th party to help if you think you all can't be civil) and ask what her concerns are, and express yours. You all need to find a way to come to a place where you can ALL be active, supportive parts of the kids' lives. You guys should be thinking of it as a partnership, not a battle. So how can you help each other (yes, that's right, how can you help your ex and she help you) be better parents. As for moving the kids...that's a bad idea. Just think about what it would do to your daughter to uproot her from everything she's known her whole life and move her with a woman who is only now getting it together and spending more time with the kids. No, your instincts are right on this. You must stand your ground for what is right for your kids, even (and this is important) if the KIDS say they want to move. You have a responsibility to do what's right, not what's popular. That being said, there's no reason you can't work out a regular visitation schedule that works for everyone. The key is consistency. If you need a lawyer to work it all out officially, get one. But make a schedule and stick to it. The more stability your kids have the better. Be sure your fiance can find a way to express to your ex that she LOVES your kids, and she doesn't want to replace their mother, she just wants to be a great stepmother. Your kids are blessed, indeed, to have so many people in their lives that care about them. Don't blow it by letting your fears of what might happen get in the way. They need their mother, so don't try to keep her away. But you know her issues, so work out a way to let them spend time with her on a regular basis without her being the main caretaker. If, over time, she proves herself to be trustworthy, you can decide on expanding the visits, if you desire. Good luck!
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20/f/nj
Okay so long story short, me and this guy from work were seeing each other for about 3 months, a month ago i found out he was seeing another girl along with me from his school, well she gave him an ultimatium to get with other people or go out with her and he took the ultimatium he told me he still liked me but she was convenient since i lived too far away i commute to school.(I live 20 minutes away from his college)
Well at work he still flirts with me, he ignites the flirting everytime i try not to go along with it but i cant help it. He will make excuses to talk to me,push stuff into me,etc i still really like him. And clearly he still likes me and he knows i still like him (i kinda hinted to him i still did). So is he waiting for college to end so he can be with me? Why would he still flirt with me if he has a girlfriend when he picked her? Im so confused. thanks. (link)
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He's the type of guy who likes to have options. He likes to be wanted. "he took the ultimatium he told me he still liked me but she was convenient since i lived too far away i commute to school."
There's your proof - he looks at girls as "convenient" rather than people he really likes and wants to get to know. If you're cool with being "convenient" then to whatever you want. If you don't want to be used, find a way to make it clear to him that you're not that type of girl.
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hey guys.
SO, today! i had an audition workshop! i was MEGA nervous. ive been wanting to act all my life,, and finally started doing something about it. BUT when i walked in everyone was 20...25...30.. and im 16! so it was a little intimidating. and so was my teacher!! he didnt really explain well.. basically he wasnt that good. i didnt really enjoy my time there. i felt like it was making me feel literally sick the whole time and i just wanted to go home. being there just made me feel dumb. they say mondays and wednesdays 6 to 9 we have to be there and just proceed with the lesson. I DONT KNOW if i should go? ive always wanted to act..but that i didnt like.. i dont know what to do, it was really bad for me. i felt useless being there.. (link)
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Did you think you were going to go in there knowing everything? Did you think your teacher was going to pull you aside and tell you how amazing you are? That's the biz, honey. They break you down to build you back up. Your teacher is assuming his students know certain things before they go in there. Most of your classmates have probably already had some training. What you need is probably a beginner class, not an audition class. You need to learn the basics first, so you're not so insecure when you go into a higher level class. I'd find a beginner class and ditch this one. You're not ready. You WILL be ready, if this is what you want to do, but you're not ready right now.
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So I've recently tried tampons. I've had my period for 3 years and was too big of a chicken to try tampons.. But I got the courage this weekend to try them and surprisingly they aren't that bad :) i don't know what I was scared of haha. I think im putting then in correctly. My only problem is that I can still feel the tampon when im walking. I understand that if it's uncomfortable, then it's not in far enough. But see... When I walk around after, I can feel it but it's not really uncomfortable. Like I can handle it.. It's not like unbearable pain.
So am I supposed to feel it but it's not really hurting? I tried searching online and some people said it's normal since I'm a beginner at this and I'll get used to it. Is that true?
Also I play a sport and I'm worried that while im playing, I will feel it and something bad will happen. (link)
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I can't be sure, but it sounds like what's happening is you are not inserting them far enough. Does it feel like its pressing against the opening? This is just going to take some practice, that's all. Try not to worry about inserting them too far. You can't. And you know its too far if you feel extreme pain, which probably won't happen anyway. Next time you try it, use a little vaseline or lubricant on the tampon and be sure to insert it as far as you comfortably can before using the applicator to "push it in". Try jogging, or exercising, with one in before you start competing while using them, just so you can have the peace of mind that it won't come out. And it won't. Don't worry. Pretty soon it'll be second nature.
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I have been with this guy for 2 years.
We have been through a lot, for a year we had to sneak around because my dad didnt like him.
He made me so happy though and I had so much fun with him.
He even told me his deepest secret-that he was raped when he was 4.
He smokes weed a lot and never seems to be able to quit. He has a lot of problems. I used to not mind the weed thing, but now I have outgrown it and it annoys me he depends on it...
He is also not legally allowed to get a job. This frusterates me a great deal that I always pay, then I feel bad because I know its impossible for him to get one...
Anyways we fight a lot now. I love him, but I do not believe I am still "in love". I promised him I would stay with him forever and help him with his problems.
I have kept thinking about seperating but I always second-guess if I should...
If I decide I am trunly unhappy, I will...I just do not know how....he is soo sensitive and has even told me he would kill himself if I left him. He is madly in love with me and I am the only one that gets him...
What should I do? What do I say to the poor guy if I leave him?
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I'm so unhappy and lost right now....
20/f
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He's holding you as an emotional hostage. You need to leave. Don't let him make you feel like you are abandoning him, if he tries. You are not responsible for his happiness. He is. Obviously he has a lot of issues to work out before he can contribute to a relationship. Explain to him that this relationship has become all about him, and you have needs too, that aren't being met. Just because he is miserable and unhappy doesn't mean you should be too. Yes, you will feel bad and guilty and sad. Stick to your guns. You've managed to get hooked up with a person who is broken and hasn't been fixed yet. Encourage him to get help, then cut your ties. Don't give in to his threats of violence against himself. Most of the time it is more a cry for help then a serious threat. I've seen it before. Some people will even go so far as to make an attempt, but generally, if someone doesn't die in a suicide attempt, they didn't really want to. Everything you've said seems to be all about what you do for him, how you make HIM feel.. what about you? Get out now before it gets REALLY messy. And consider it a lesson learned - Dad isn't just a jerk, he actually knows what he's talking about sometimes, and he knew from the start this guy was bad news. Its not your bf's fault that he is messed up, but its not yours either, and yet you're the one paying for it. Do your best to walk away. Don't take calls or emails for a while from him. He'll need time to heal and so will you. Good luck.
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I volunteer at the hospital and I work really hard because one day i want to be a nurse. So I got...I wouldn't say trouble but I gave a patient water that wasn't supposed to have water (but they knew so they didn't drink it). I apoligized the nurse who told me and she's like, "It's okay. I know; you try too hard."
is that supposed to be a bad thing or good thing? Because I cna't think of anytime when the phrase "you try too hard" sounds pleasant. (link)
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She may mean you're spending too much energy trying to prove you can do your job well, instead of letting things unfold naturally. Sometimes people who are very eager and passionate can come off as trying to hard to impress others. Don't take it too personally and just try to relax. Chip in when you are needed, but remember, nurses have a very stressful job. If you feel like you are getting in the way, ask, and be prepared to back off for a bit if the answer is yes. You can learn just as much by observing as you can by serving.
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My teacher is 27 and he always asks me do I like him if I'm alone with him. I do have a crush on him, but I never tried to do anything with him and I never will. Sometimes I blush when hes around but that's it.If I go to the restroom and Im tardy to class, he will take me to class and he acts weird, he asks weird questions, like he asked me did I love him in front of our class. He will get really close to me and ask me do I love him and if I say no he just says that he loves me. I cant tell if hes serious sometimes or if hes just playing. Sometimes he makes me go in the hall so he can talk to me about nothing thats important. He calls me his girlfriend in front of teachers and students and they just laugh at him. I don't know if hes playing or what. He'll be in class teaching and put his arm around me. I don't think he'll try to do anything but sometimes he gets close to me and its really uncomfortable, even when I back away. He just stares and smiles at me alot. Or he'll walk over to my desk and stand there for a while. I'm a pretty strait forward person, so after a while I turn around and ask him what he wants. He'll ask if I need help or something.
Maybe I'm just overreacting but I just wanted to know what somebody else's opinion was about the situation. Please answer, thankyouuu!
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No. You are not overreacting. He's doing things that make you uncomfortable. Don't be afraid of your instincts. They are God's warring system! Don't confront your teacher. Go to the school counselor or principal. Explain to them just what you said here. Tell your parents, also. But others need to know. If your teacher is a weirdo, something has to be done so he doesn't end up hurting someone, or making another girl feel like you do. If its nothing serious, if its just a case of him not realizing that he's making you uncomfortable, than somebody needs to be able to tell him how he looks to other people. Bottom line, you have to tell someone at the school, another teacher you trust or someone in authority. You haven't done anything wrong and its not wrong to share your worries with another adult. The only way for this situation to get better is to let the adults handle it. You're not crazy! But your teacher sounds a little off, to say the least.
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18/F
For the past few years I've felt insecure about EVERYTHING. From my relationships, to my body, to my personality, etc.
I know that I'm a pretty girl and I know I have a great personality but a voice in my head keeps telling me I could be better.. which is affecting my relationships.
I'm a very sensitive person so I take everything to heart, which I think is my downfall. I just don't know how to stop saying negative things about myself, it's just always on my mind.
I have also cut in the past because I don't like who I am. I've tried to talk to God to help me stop cutting but it's very hard to speak to someone who doesn't directly talk back, if you know what I mean.
Can someone please give me tips on overcoming this and how to gain some confidence?
Also, I've been put on Celexa (an anti-depressant) to help me get out of this rut, but it's not working 100%. (link)
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Sometimes God puts others in our lives to help us through things. That's how He "talks" back to us. So find a therapist/doctor you can talk this through with. You need help. Prayer is a start, but you have to take advantage of the options God gives you in response to your prayer. Options like seeking help, confiding in friends, becoming an active part of a loving, accepting church community. Medication is just for the physical aspects of depression. For the spiritual/mental aspects of depression, I'm afraid there is no pill, the only solution is good, old-fashioned hard work, seeking out help when you don't really feel like it is a big part of that hard work. Good luck. You can do this. You really can.
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15 f
I won't get into full detail, so it won't be so long. Well, January 5th was on my anniversary with my boy friend, it's been a year now..well, apparently he gave a note to my ex friend..( He use to like her before we started dating, she was the one who brought us together.) He said that he still had feelings for her, and all of this. She told me before he could, and I blew up over it. He told me it was to resolve everything with her, he wanted her to say that she didn't like him in that way, ( which she didn't like him in that way). Now, my whole family believes that he's a jerk and they hate him. I love him very much, and he begged me to not break up with him, he says he loves me and he doesn't want to be with anyone else but me..I'm crushed over all this..I'm only aloud to talk to him for 10 minutes a day once a day, I believe that everyone deserves a second chance. He likes to be hoenst with people, and tell them the truth, he wanted to tell me first but my ex friend did it before he could, he was truly sorry over it. He cried and cried last night, his gma told him oh shes just a girl, you can get over it stop crying, and they were calling him a fool..my mom thinks I'm a full for staying with him. There also mad because he slapped me on my side jokingly, after I hit him in the balls..:/ He was playing with my hair and it bothered me..So I really love him and I don't want to break up with him. Is giving him a second chance the wrong thing to do? I don't believe so since I love him so much. :3 (link)
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If you really feel like it, then give him a 2nd chance. You're right. Everyone deserves one. Its the 3rd and 4th chances that get a little iffy! But there's also a VERY important lesson in here for you to learn, and that is - don't tell your family about every crappy situation with your boyfriend (as long as he's not abusing you or forcing you to have sex or anything crazy like that -then, for sure, tell). But your family doesn't have the luxury of seeing how sweet he is and how sorry he feels when you guys are alone. They only hear the bad stuff, so that's all they can judge him on. And when you come to them with your hurt about every little situation, it makes them want to protect you. So start learning about what things are good and healthy for you to share, and what should just be kept between you and your friends.
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i dont know whats wrong with me, but i'm so unhappy. i have really bad self confidence problems, and all of high school i wanted a boyfriend and someone to love me, and now that i have that i continue to be extremely unhappy. my boyfriend is so good to me, he cares for me and loves me so much, he would never cheat on me or talk to another girl, and he is always there for me. the only part that kind of bothers me is that he has been with many girls in the past, he has had sex with 7 girls and i am a virgin. he also hurt me in the past, but not badly. it took me a while to get over it and i have spent countless hours cryign and being upset over this boy. when i was upset about him last year all i awnted was for us to be going out, and now that we are, how am i not happy? i am a naturally a very emotional and sensitive person, i cry atleast once a day and have been doing that my whole life. i also get very anxious and stressed out easily, and angry. i know that i am messing up my perfecgt relatinoship with my personal problems, and im watching myself do it, but i cant stop. i think about how many girls he has been with in the past, or how devastated im going to be when we break up, and i get soooooo upset(this happens on a daily basis) but when im with him im happy, but when im not i think about all these bad things and like freak out. i also get very upset thinking about the future, because were seniors and i get really upset worrying about where were both going to colelge and if were going to be able to stay together or not. its almost like he makes me so unhappy, but at the same time he makes me so happy because he is doing everything right. he notices this and askes why i want to be with him if im always unhappy about him, but what he doesnt understand is that i feel like i cant be without him. i know all girls feel that way with their first boyfriend, but i am terrified of getting hurt. so recently he has brought this up, he does everything to me(like fingers me, goes down on me) but i havent done anything to him. he is getting really anxious about not getting any from me since weve been going out, and he has been respectful about it but i can tell he is getting really antsy. he said something about it to me today, about how he can go without sex like he respects that i dont want to have sex with him yet since im a virgin, but its really hard for him to go thsi long without anything. when i thought about it i realized it is unfair,because he does everything to me and i do nothing to him. its just the thought of all that stuff scares me, because he is so much mroe experienced than me and i dont want to be bad at anything. and its not even about just that, for some weird reason the thought of doing stuff to him makes me so nervous and sad(even though ive done it like once before). like seriously what the fuck is wrong with me? after he said something about it ive been crying all day and i have no idea why. i hate being this sensitive it seriously makes my life a lviing hell. im getting therapy for my anxiety and my sadness, and hopefully to work on my self confidence problems, but do you think that will make this all better? i want to have sex with him because i know i love him and he loves me, but im soo set on protecting my feelings and not getting hurt that im scared too. im scared of being even mroe attached to him than i am now because its my first time and its not his. i wish i could jsut be a normal girl but instead i feel the need to make all these problems for myself and make myself sooo upset, when i know i have a good boyfriend. please dont say break up with him if he makes you unhappy, because i feel like i couldnt be without him becasue at the same time he makes me very happy, but its like all these things i think and worry and stress over in my head that make me this upset. Thanks (link)
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Everything you've said here makes me TOTALLY respect you for not having sex - because you are obviously NOT ready and you seem to understand that. You have an instinct that sex right now would only ADD to your insecurities, not help them, so try to remember that when you feel pressure/inadequate. Keep seeking help for your confidence issues and stay away from sex until you get that worked out. It will only muddy the waters. I suspect you've had serious issues in your life about people close to you leaving you or being taken away from you. Your projecting all those anxieties onto your boyfriend, which will ultimately end in heartache for you and him. I do believe a romantic relationship is a hindrance to self-discovery at your age, but if you can't end the relationship, then you need to be realistic about what you can give to a relationship and what you will accept for yourself. Talk to your therapist about boundaries and what's realistic for you to expect out of a relationship. The closer you get to finding out why feel so inferior about everything, the closer you'll get to peace.
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Ok so I am looking for some ways to be flirty, like some good tips!! Because for some reason this year after I lost my best friend because she turned let's say bad no guys talk to me anymore just because I've lost my flirtyness. Guess you could say because I don't hang out with her anymore. Thanks(: (link)
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Stop worrying about being flirty and start worrying about being interesting. You become interesting by learning about the things you love and pursuing your own goals and interests. That develops confidence and confidence is what's REALLY sexy.
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On a day to day basis, i use eyeliner, and id say i dress fine. either ill wear boots with jeans/leggings and a top or on a comfortable day just a sweatshirt and pants. ive never had an issue with getting guys or talking to them, and im often told im very good looking. first of all, i COMPLETELY disagree. i constantly feel like im ugly or there is something wrong with me. no matter how many times i hear i am not, i will always feel ugly and out of place. also, i feel like maybe i dont come off as very girly. i really want to become more of a girly person but i dont know what i can really do. i wear make up jewelry and nail polish. i just don't think im flirty as a person, so i come off less feminine. is it true that guys are much more attracted to flirty girls? although people tell me im very attractive, i dont really think i catch people's eyes. i feel like im never checked out by guys at school and noone ever really tries for my number. i know this q is really stupid and annoying, but i just wonder. how can i feel better, look better, and be better? (link)
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This is not an issue of how you look. You obviously already have the looks. Its about how you feel, and right now you don't feel confident. You need to start making moves to help yourself feel as good on the inside as you look on the outside. Don't think of it as a fashion issue. Start asking yourself what kinds of things you like to do and what you're good at and start doing those things. Once you start discovering more about yourself, getting to know who you are and what you like about yourself, that will begin to show on the outside. You'll be a confident person and confidence is the sexiest accessory!
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ok so me and my crush michael have been nonstop flirting with each other since last year (11th grade) and i always though he would ask me to prom. then he asked this other girl in my grade paula. i was a bit upset but i got over it. then they decided they didnt want to go with each other anymore...believe me, i wasnt too sad about that. then i thought he would ask me but a month went by and nothing happened. so when this pretty nerdy kid in my grade, moe, asked me to prom i figured no one else would ever ask me so i said yes. then michael asked this girl rebecca who only said yes to him because i told her i like him and shes a home wrecker. ok so now i spoke to michael and he said he was going to ask me and he wants to go with me now but moe is so excited to go to prom with me and i dont want to to hurt him but i really want to go with michael! what should i do?? (link)
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You go with Moe. Explain to Michael that you had really been hoping to go with him, but since he took so long to make up his mind you accepted another invitation. And it would be so unkind to leave Moe hanging just because something better came along. How would you feel if you were dumped like that when you were really looking forward to something? There's no reason why you and Michael can't enjoy being around each other at the prom, even if you aren't official dates. And going with Moe may turn out to be more fun, if you try to have a good attitude about it. There's no romantic pressure and you can just have fun, knowing you don't have to impress him in anyway. Honor your commitment. I know its disappointing that you can't go with michael, but its his own fault, so why should Moe have to suffer for that? Its the right thing to do, and you'll never regret doing the right thing.
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I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 17. Were both still in high school and in love. I know we're young, but we've been together for 13 months now and i honestly do love the kid to death. Unfortunately, I'm not too pleased right now :( He's an assshole. He smokes weed a lot, and cigs. When he does smoke, he never texts me back. It gets annoying. He never calls me, even when i ask. Well here's the problem.
He has a friend, who is a girl my age. They sit next to each other in a class and they talk a lot. She used to text him all the time with " ;)" or " ;p" They seem to flirt a lot. When i ask him about her, he'll say that he loves me and only wants me.. blah blah blah. In the halls during school we'll be walking and he'll talk to her in front of me when he knows it makes me really mad. She told me she doesn't like him but it seems like they do have something.... When we fight, talking it out gets rid of the problem but he never changes for the better. BTW, he always asks for sex or head. But i don't think he's using me considering he does spend a lot of money on me and can be such a sweet heart at times. Plus his friends tell me good things. Except they call me his bitch ? Not good! I need advice before i lose my head /:
Am i just jealous? Am I just over exaggerating? Do you think they like each other? Should i leave him or stay together? (link)
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Ok, let's break this down:
1. Your boyfriend's "an asshole"
2. Your boyfriend smokes weed and cigs, which bothers you.
3. He has a suspicious relationship with another girl.
4. He always asks for sex or head, even though he does spend lots of money on you and he's "sweet" sometimes (hmmm..wonder why?)
5. His friends refer to you as "his bitch".. which makes you wonder what HE calls you when he's with his friends.
Hmmm.. this seems pretty simple. I think you already know what needs to happen in order to maintain your dignity and self respect. Question is, do you have the guts to do it?
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Okay so I live in Kelowna and I just took a trip to Vancouver. Its around a 4-5 hour drive and we go like through the mountains and my ears popped a whole bunh. I just got home today and its only been like 2-3 hours and my ear started to feel like i had a whole ton of pressure. And when I move my head sometimes or bend down and come back up then it kinda sounds like I have water in there but I havent been in any since its winter. Adn when I bend down my ear hurts or if I put my head down and bring it back up it hurts. I tried cleaning my ear and it didnt work it keeps happening and the last time I put in a Q-tip a thing came out on it and it looked like kind of a.....a plastic tube but it was tiny and had ear wax onit but it was squishable. Im kinda scared does anyone know whats happening. Oh and I cant hear to to well in it and its my left ear if that helps :/ (link)
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You need to see a doctor. Sounds like you may have ruptured or injured your eardrum. The only thing that should concern you is that you can't hear well out of it. That's the sign of something more serious than just pressure. Go get it checked out ASAP.
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My new years resolution is to quite eating junk food, how can I achieve this? (link)
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Its not just about cutting out bad things, but replacing them with good things. I recommend not just quitting cold turkey. that will create cravings and then you get too tempted and crash and burn. So start with one thing a week to get rid of. So if you love chips, decide to cut out chips this week. Look for snacks that are LIKE chips but have less fat and sugar content, and that are higher in fiber. There are baked chips and pita chips or crackers out there that are pretty good. You just have to look for them. Then, if the week goes well, next week pick another weakness. And find a replacement for that. When you eat out, just try doing little things like asking for veggies or baked potatoes instead of fries, diet soda or water instead of juice or soda. The more often you do it, the more of a habit it will become until one day you won't even have to think about it anymore. Good luck.
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my bf and i fight more and more often. first it was once a year, then once a month then once a week and now every other day. over stupid stuff. what do i do? 18/f
thanks. (link)
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Take some time off from each other. Maybe some distance will help you appreciate each other more and help you see more clearly where you want the relationship to go.
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19/f. Turning 20 in about 2 weeks. I think there's certain decisions I have to make for myself but respect the opinion of those I love. Let me tell u a little bit about my situation. I was adopted at birth and I found out when I was 18. My parents got divorced when I was less than 2 years old bc my dad was cheating on my mom. The lady got pregnant an had a son. A couple of years later, they had a daughter. I don't think what my dad did was right and I'm not trying to define him, but he realized that what he did wasn't a great decision. But what's done is done. You know? I already found out and the truth is out in the open. I have a full sister who is 15 month older than me and a younger half brother who is 5. They are my biological siblings. My dad... The one who adopted me has 2 kids. A boy and a girl. Their not my biological siblings but I'm related to them bc I am adopted. The boy is a year younger than me. He actually turns 19 in 2 weeks. Right before I turn 20. The girl is 15. I've been in contact with the boy and I've actually listed him a's my brother on facebook. He's a nice guy and he's treated me really nice. My mom has pretty much accepted him but she won't accept the girl. She's trying o add me on facebook but my mom wont let me add her. I mean I understand it's a touchy situation but it not that big a deal either. It's not like I hang out with them or anything, I've just been the bigger person and accepted their existence. It doesn't mean I have to talk to their mother. But, we have the same dad and my dad has been my dad, despite all that has happened. How can I explain this to my mom? Mind you she really doesn't like this girl. But it's not like were gonna be hanging out. I mean, she's in high school. But, I want to accept her an I don't want her to hate me bc I don't hate her. By the way, my mom ha a facebook bs she would c I add her (link)
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The girl is no different from you - placed in a situation in life that has nothing to do with her, and everything to do with the decisions OTHER people made. She shouldn't suffer because of the mess your parents all got into. Friend her. If you're curious, get to know her. If you're not, don't. Deal with the other stuff as it comes up. Your mom is being unreasonable. You can calmly explain to her your side of the situation, but honestly, if she can't accept it, let her stew. Its her problem and its not fair she's making it your problem too.
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