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Is giving him a second chance the right thing to do?
15 f
I won't get into full detail, so it won't be so long. Well, January 5th was on my anniversary with my boy friend, it's been a year now..well, apparently he gave a note to my ex friend..( He use to like her before we started dating, she was the one who brought us together.) He said that he still had feelings for her, and all of this. She told me before he could, and I blew up over it. He told me it was to resolve everything with her, he wanted her to say that she didn't like him in that way, ( which she didn't like him in that way). Now, my whole family believes that he's a jerk and they hate him. I love him very much, and he begged me to not break up with him, he says he loves me and he doesn't want to be with anyone else but me..I'm crushed over all this..I'm only aloud to talk to him for 10 minutes a day once a day, I believe that everyone deserves a second chance. He likes to be hoenst with people, and tell them the truth, he wanted to tell me first but my ex friend did it before he could, he was truly sorry over it. He cried and cried last night, his gma told him oh shes just a girl, you can get over it stop crying, and they were calling him a fool..my mom thinks I'm a full for staying with him. There also mad because he slapped me on my side jokingly, after I hit him in the balls..:/ He was playing with my hair and it bothered me..So I really love him and I don't want to break up with him. Is giving him a second chance the wrong thing to do? I don't believe so since I love him so much. :3
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You're 15. You have your whole life ahead of you and youre gonna have issues with your loved ones. I've been with my bf over a year, all we do is fight over stupid stuff. You guys will probably get over this really quick. Honestly, I think that if you do love the kid, then give him the chance and tell him to only say how he feels to you and not other girls ? He's YOUR bf, not your ex friends. A note is pathetic, why cant he call or text her? Idk. Things will be okay, and in order for your relationship to be okay is if he doesn't put other girls in his life. I think that you should just drop everything. You love the kid, dont mess anything up over a stupid note!
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It doesn't really seem like he did something that wrong in order for him to not get a second chance. If your gut says to give him one, I'd go with it.
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If you really feel like it, then give him a 2nd chance. You're right. Everyone deserves one. Its the 3rd and 4th chances that get a little iffy! But there's also a VERY important lesson in here for you to learn, and that is - don't tell your family about every crappy situation with your boyfriend (as long as he's not abusing you or forcing you to have sex or anything crazy like that -then, for sure, tell). But your family doesn't have the luxury of seeing how sweet he is and how sorry he feels when you guys are alone. They only hear the bad stuff, so that's all they can judge him on. And when you come to them with your hurt about every little situation, it makes them want to protect you. So start learning about what things are good and healthy for you to share, and what should just be kept between you and your friends.
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