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19/f. Turning 20 in about 2 weeks. I think there's certain decisions I have to make for myself but respect the opinion of those I love. Let me tell u a little bit about my situation. I was adopted at birth and I found out when I was 18. My parents got divorced when I was less than 2 years old bc my dad was cheating on my mom. The lady got pregnant an had a son. A couple of years later, they had a daughter. I don't think what my dad did was right and I'm not trying to define him, but he realized that what he did wasn't a great decision. But what's done is done. You know? I already found out and the truth is out in the open. I have a full sister who is 15 month older than me and a younger half brother who is 5. They are my biological siblings. My dad... The one who adopted me has 2 kids. A boy and a girl. Their not my biological siblings but I'm related to them bc I am adopted. The boy is a year younger than me. He actually turns 19 in 2 weeks. Right before I turn 20. The girl is 15. I've been in contact with the boy and I've actually listed him a's my brother on facebook. He's a nice guy and he's treated me really nice. My mom has pretty much accepted him but she won't accept the girl. She's trying o add me on facebook but my mom wont let me add her. I mean I understand it's a touchy situation but it not that big a deal either. It's not like I hang out with them or anything, I've just been the bigger person and accepted their existence. It doesn't mean I have to talk to their mother. But, we have the same dad and my dad has been my dad, despite all that has happened. How can I explain this to my mom? Mind you she really doesn't like this girl. But it's not like were gonna be hanging out. I mean, she's in high school. But, I want to accept her an I don't want her to hate me bc I don't hate her. By the way, my mom ha a facebook bs she would c I add her
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I believe you should follow you own decisions on the matter in regards to the folow-up between your sibling. No parent in this situation is ABSOLUTELY correct because they waited until you was 18 to inform you about your own birth. You haven't mentioned whether your silings knew about you though... which is debateable in itself...
As for your mother not accepting one and not the other... it only means that she was possiby seeing your father (possibly exclusively (in her mind)) during the time period in which you following sibling was created. Her harboring feelings that negative the healing your situation obviosuly needs, is in no way best for you.. or them for that matter. I must admit.. you are being a real trooper about all of this... remember if she attempts to reprimand about your beginning a connection with your siblings... remind her that this is what she and your father left you to handle and live with. And because "you're " not holding grudges against them, then you will handle this as you shall see fit...
Hope for smoother sailings...
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The girl is no different from you - placed in a situation in life that has nothing to do with her, and everything to do with the decisions OTHER people made. She shouldn't suffer because of the mess your parents all got into. Friend her. If you're curious, get to know her. If you're not, don't. Deal with the other stuff as it comes up. Your mom is being unreasonable. You can calmly explain to her your side of the situation, but honestly, if she can't accept it, let her stew. Its her problem and its not fair she's making it your problem too.
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