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Q: Ok there is this guy we have been friends now for like 2 months well the other day he asked me out and i said yes but like now i dont want to be with him i have no interest he annooys the crap out of me and i think im falling for his best friend and he is obssesed with making out with me and im not like that but like i dont know what to tell him please help me!!!

umm yeah break up with him don't lead him on to thinking you like him..and if u don't like him don't waste your time

Q: Ok one day I was skateboarding and I turned because my friend called me and the skateboard ran into something and I fell off. I was having pains in my knee after that(I landed on my hands and knees) so I went to the doctor and it turns out I tore ligameants in my knee and have to wear a knee brace for 1 month! I dont know what to do. I skateboard all the time and rollerblade(and play TONS of sports) but now I cant do any of the things I love for a whole month. I hate it. Any ideas on how I could play sports & skateboard again?
15/f

a month really isn't that long...itll go by before u kno it

Q: Hey!I am about 5'6" or 5'7" and around 140 and 145 pounds and I want to lose maybe 10 or 15 pounds..if I do yoga and crunches will it help me any?If it won't what can I do to help me lose the weight?Thanks!

Drink lots of water and run. most importantly don't eat when your bored wait until when your actually hungry(stomach growls?)to eat. don't drink soda.

Q: does anyone know some cool places to shop for jeans? i've been looking for some but everywhere i go they're either too expensive or not my taste.

i like american eagle jeans and charlotte russe

Q: Ok hi my name is ashlee and im 13 years old. Anyways I really would like to wear makeup and stuff like that but i have a little acne. Its going away now because I just started using my acne medication right. Bad on my part I know. Wouldnt it look bad if there was like little bumps in the makeup though? What is the best foundation or powder that wont cause you to break out? Also, I've noticed alot of people having Coach bags and Gucci bags and dont they cost alot of money? Is there like some place where they dont cost alot that I dont know about? Thanks. Also I would like an honest opinion. I will rate high if I feel that you have tried.

please don't tell me your thinking of buying one of those bags just because other people have them. thats gotta be my biggest pet peeve. be your own person.

Q: Hey um im having some super makeup problems .. ive got wicked long eye lashes .. super green eyes .. and kinda small eye brows .. theyre skinny hah .. but yeah anyway .. i need some ideas for new eye makeup .. im so getting bored with the black eyeliner in the top of my eyelid and the bottom .. gets boring .. i wanna go to school and wow people .. i rate high!! thanks

go to the mall or somethin and get someone who works there to show u diff ways of doing it

Q: I have a party to attend in december, it has a new romantic/early 80s theme, i think its cool but i have a problem, where do i start, what clothes should i go for, for maximum effect, and most importantly, how do i do my make up and hair. Thanks for you help in advance.

hmm well if its 80's...i was an 80s dance instructor for halloween! ok...oversized sweatshirt off the shoulder(turquoise?) w/brightly colored sportsbra(fuschia?), non-matching spandex pants(purple is always a good choice) lets see side ponytail with a scrunchie and big hoop earrings!! bright blue eye shadow and super red lipstick! lots of dangly bracelets and white tennis shoes!

Q: I have naturatly light ash blonde hair, which is about 2 inches long on top. I really want to dye the tips of my hair red, but I dont know how to go about it! What would I have to do to just dye the tips??

Don't!

Q: my eyeliner is so annoying...it comes off after about 10 minutes, and it always makes a big clumpy thing in the corner of me eye...is there any way to stop it from doing this?

get a new kind of eyeliner like a pencil kind and dont use black use like smokey grey it looks more natural

Q: well, my hair is straight, but the ends go all retarded and wavy and this totally kills my hair. does anybody kno why this happens and how i can get rid of the waviness? thanx lotss

umm straighten it?

Q: My mom and I got into a fight last night because i was sick and she didnt want to take me to the doctor. my friend is having a party tomorrow night and i really want to go but my mom says im grounded just because i confronted her with the fact that she is the ONLY one allowed to be sick! He is my next door neighbor and i think i should go anyways! She cant show her butt or we will get kicked out and if she tries to hit me she knows i will call the cops because i have before. Its not fair that because she was in the wrong I cant go. What do you think? I need advice, do i go or not?

sneak out and go you only live once

Q: Ok, so whenever my best friend has another friend over she won't talk to me (I mean like online). Your probably thinking "ummm, it's rude to talk to you while a friend is there." But she talks to other people! I know this because if I IM her on the bottom it will say (their screenname) is typing. Then she just stops typing when she realizes it's from me and immedatly puts up her away message. Then someone will ask me if I know why she went away without saying anything. My question is how should I confront her? Do you think she is hiding something from me? Thank you.

maybe she doesn't like you or thinks your annoying. not to be rude but hey thats just my opinion.

Q: Im already having problems with my life right now but this just makes it worst!
Everyone has a girl in their school who is pretty, smart, friendly, flirty, somewhat popular.
My problem that I need advice on is how do I become that girl?
This girl, her names megan, shes short, blonde hair, pretty, smart, friendly, sorta popular, has an annoying voice sometimes, really flirty, talks about sex` bi (likes chicks n guys) a stoner but you cant tell.
She can become friends with anyone and they love her, she can start a conversation with anyone adn they talk back
Im not jealous of her bc she told me Im pretty too but I just cant be like her, I wanna find a way to be like her and I need real advice -not just talk more or flirt more- but real advice
So if anyone can help me out Id love that so please help me out Im stuck with this girl till Im outta school so I really need this advice
Please and Thank you

ok im not gonna lie to you it REALLLY bothers me when all people want is to be popular. who the f***cares anymore. (unless your in middle school)but ok just be your own person don't try to be like someone else thats soo stupid. just get a grouup of friends and stick with them and you'll be happier for it.

Q: My best friend and I like the same guy. The thing is, he is dating my best friend. But she and he both know that he likes me also. He wants to be with both of us, but I don't want to hurt my best friend so I think I should back off. What should I do?? Thanks!

threesome

Q: Ok i know this guy online and he thinks im rich .I met him because he made this site called y terror and i went to it and ever since then we became good friends.Well to get to the point he is selling ALL his sites that he worked so hard @ to get money for a car and i dont even think he is using it for a car so i LIED i know i feel really bad now .. and i said i would give him the 800 dollors so he wouldnt have to sale his site now he thinks since i promised him i would send him money from western union that he will get it but the truth is when he goes the money wont be there because i dont have it either and when i lied and said ill give it to him he said

Thank you so much your really nice my mom kicked me out ( he is only 17 ) and i live in my buddy's attic and eat mac and cheese every night and then he said now i wont have to eat mac and cheese every night

i really want to be his friend but i cant tell him im not giving him the money so what do i do ??

p.s. he told my sister he wanted to go out with me

wow thats really retarded why would you tell him that? and does he really believe someone he just met online is just gonna give him 800 dollars? how do you kno hes not some like 50 year old dude just tellin you that to get some money?

Q: Hey everybody! I am kinda deppressed. I cant figure out what i'm good at. I used to skateboard and that was my life. It is what made me happy. But i got really bad at it and only get mad when i do it now. So i cant do that anymore. I like to make rap lyrics but also suck at that. Those were the only two things that made me truely happy, and i cant do either one of them. So i realized that there is nothing i am good at. And if thats the case, what is my point in living? And how can i figure out what i'm good at? Ive tried so many things like different sports, activities, just all sorts of things and i cant seem to be good at anything. Please help. Thank you all.

dude run cross country! whenever im feeling stressed i go and run it works soo well i forget about everything. And you can't say your bad at it bc everyone can be good at it as long as theyre willing to put the work in. you also make some of the best friends youll ever have running cross country.

Q: I really like this boy and he says that he really likes me, however he has a girlfriend and doesn't want to hurt her by dumping her. He is always with me and he tells me that he cares and wants to be with me, but I don't want to get hurt. It hurts me enough to know that he has a girlfriend, I have never loved like this before. Everytime he kisses me I seem to melt. I want him so badly, but what about his gf. he is afraid and so am I?

If he is cheating on his girlfriend for you then how do you know he wouldn't do the same thing if y'all go out?

Q: I live in an apartment building. I wanted to do laundry last night, but all 6 of the washers were being used. Two were no longer running so I decided to come back 20 minutes later.

When I did, the machines were still full of clothes. A little mad I decided I would come back in a while. When I came back, all the machines were off, but full of clothes, including the same two that had been off for almost an hour. And the dryers were open, so it is not like they couldn't use them. I got so fustrated, I just decided to not to do the laundry. This has happend before as well.

Is it acceptable to just remove other peoples clothes from the machines? And if so how long should I wait before removing them? I know it's kinda rude, but so is hogging the washing machine.

chuck their shit out!!

Q: When I was 8, my grandfather died of cancer. It is now 6 years later and I still am extreamly upset about it. I was very close to my grandpa, I always remember him joking around with me. He'd always tap me on the head when I wasn't looking and then I'd turn around and he'd be looking around pretty much making it obvious that he did it. He'd always give me money even if I didn't ask for it and he was just a very happy grandpa. The night I found out he died, I was devistated. I was in my room listening to music and I heard the phone ring but didn't think much of it. My mom called me and my brother into her room and she told us to sit down. She looked a bit shakey but I still didn't think much of it. She held my hand and looked at me and said Papa (that's what we called him) just passed a way. And I looked at her in disbelief. I was in too much shock to even cry. Once I started crying I coudln't stop. I fell asleep crying, I woke up crying and I cried for the next 4 days straight. This happened six years ago and I'm still upset about it. Everytime I go to my grandma's house and I see his pictures I cry. Can anyone help me? It's been 6 years and I'm still not over his death. Please help.

My granddad died about a week and a half ago and i was very upset for a while, but instead of being upset you should be happy for the life he had and the good times you were able to have with him.

Q: What are some good, quick, easy ways to gain self confidence and self esteem? And to be able to be more outgoing?

umm there isn't really any ways to make you feel good about yourself youve gotta be able to do that on your own...and as for being outgoing..people who are shy usually don't say much because they are worried about what people will think of them if they speak up well just say whats on your mind and if people don't like it then screw them