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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

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I don't know what to do. My camera slipped out of my hands. And obviously the lens broke.
My dad will kill me and yell at me. Because it was $300. He's going to make me feel like an worthless idiot who isn't responsible for a stupid little camera.
I've had the camera for like a year it was one little accident.
And I dont know what to do.

Should I try to get money and buy a new one?
Should I hide it? My dad wants to use the camera but I'm afraid he will bite my head off.


I dont know.
I'm scared of him.


Any help?

Hey-
Even though you may not like this.. you should just confront your dad and tell him that you accientally dropped your camera and that you are really sorry (which I'm sure you are..)
He shouldn't get very mad- but if he does- tell him that you'll pay to repair it by doing extra chores around the house (what parent doesn't like to see kids do chores.. lol)
When you make the money- repair it.. (obviously)
just keep telling your dad it was an accident- he'll eventually forgive you

Hope I helped
Let me know how it goes!
--Jack
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ok, so i was going out with this guy for about 3 months (over the summer). while i was, i met this other guy and we really hit it off. We both liked each other, but whenever i thought of my boyfriend, i realized i had stopped liking him. so a few weeks passed by and school started. and as soon as i saw him, i started liking him again. what do you call that...? love or infatuation or what?

Hey-
this sounds to me like a teenage girl's hormones acting up.. lol
But I wouldn't call this love.. because if you really loved him- you wouldn't need to ask yourself if you still liked him. Maybe you should sit down and really think about who you like more- because its not very fair to "cheat" on your boyfriend and then just leave him because of a whim...
(Trust me I know how it feels to be rejected because the girl liked another guy- and it is not good)
Please rate me!
--Jack
CuxMiBeckNow7

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Okay, so I'm dating this boy. And I really really like him. But he's moving, and I don't know what to do. Because he wants me to 'try' a long distance relationship. But as it is, we don't talk that much, unless we're hanging out. But when he moves, we won't hang out at all. I intended breaking up, but he got really mad at me. And it's really not what I want, I have no idea what to do. If anyone could help me please!

hey-
If you really like- this guy- then you should try the long distance thing. Just be aware that sometimes its hard to communicate EVERY day.. so don't be mad if he doesn't respond to emails right away...
If it all doesn't work out- break up with him but not rudely.. but try to remain friends with him!
Hope I helped (sorry I didn't say that much that can help- the first person took what I was going to say and I thought it was pointless to say the same thing.. lol)

Let me know how everything goes
--Jack
CuxMiBeckNow7

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What exactly is OCD, and how do you know if you have it?

Hey-
although this question was alread answered- I felt it necessary to answer cuz I have a friend who used to have OCD
OCD is a disorder where people become obsessed with doing certain acts (like re-taking steps, counting everything, and washing hands continuously)
You might find you have it if you do something over and over and over and over (obsessively)
Hope I helped and here's a website that can give you more information:

http://mentalhelp.net/poc/center_index.php?id=6

that might not be the best website but its all I could find except for an article from

www.wikipedia.com

Hope I helped!
Please rate me!
--Jack
CuxMiBeckNow7

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How do i get my ipod to work on someone elses computer?? When i try to do it, it says that no ipod is plugged in. I just got a new computer and it will not accept my ipod. thank you.

I'm pretty sure you can't get an iPod to work on another computer without first deleting any iPod configured with the computer already and then entering in the serial number of your iPod into the iTunes program...
If you want to hook your iPod up to your new computer.. you will have to go through the whole process of installation again
Hope I helped!
let me know how it goes
--Jack
CuxMiBeckNow7

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Might be stupid, but I need help.
I'm 14 years old, going into 8th grade and there's this really cute boy.
I've told my mom, because it kinda slipped out...somethimg like that.
First of all, I thought this guy likes me because he once talked to me and more things in the past when I didn't notice him even!
Now I do, and I majorly like him. He's the perfect guy. I call him, and he's annoyed...is this a sign he doesn't really like me? Should I just forget it and find someone else?

-Any info helps...thanks

Hey
He might be annoyed- but most single guys in 8th grade (I know from experience having been one) act annoyed or strange when around a girl they like- I know I did (lol Lauren- sorry that's my girlfriend.. hehe).. because I found to have liked a lot of girls in 8th grade and I also found myself acting strange around them... now I know you might not care about my 8th grade experience.. but it helps because this guy might like you-
Try to get to know him better before taking action!
Let me know how it goes!
please rate me
--Jack
CuxMiBeckNow7

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ok so there's this guy i like and he told my friend for me to c ome talk to him after school... but when i wa lked out of the classroom he was right behind me but then he turned right and i turned left and i never got to talk to him... so should i try to talk to him tommorow or not?

Hey-
I think you should give it a shot
I guess if he told your friend he wanted to talk to you- he wants to talk to you
Talk to this guy tomorrow and start off with saying something like "Hey- so you wanted to talk to me..?" and if he says yes he'll say whatever he wanted to tell you...
Let me know how it goes!
Please rate me!!!!
--Jack
CuxMiBeckNow7

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ok so i've been talking to this guy online and we never have anything to talk about!

what are some things we can talk about?


Hey-
this happens to me a lot when I talk to people...

some things you can talk about are:
your hobbies (I know- lame)
movies
what you did that day (the day you talk to him)
cheese (lol She's the Man- great movie btw)
what your weekend plans are
your friends
TV shows
books
games
your favorite websites
umm... that's all I can think of.. this list took a while (it was difficult)
let me know how it goes!
please rate me
--Jack
CuxMiBeckNow7

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I recently got a photo contract with playboy magazine. they wanted me to be nude... with nothing on... and nothing covering me. i acceptedd... because i need the money. i told them i was 20. but i have a secret. i am only 13 =). i have DD boobs... and quite a large downstairs. do you think i will get in trouble with like the law if they find out im 13. helpp=[

the photoshoot is in 4 days. on monday

Hey-
this does seem quite odd- an lying about your age wasn't the best thing to do
don't show up at the photoshoot- you'll get in more trouble than you already might be...
If you really need money.. here's a good way to make it:
-do chores around the house more than usual.. if just doing chores doesn't cut it.. ask your parents (politely of course) if they could raise your allowance so you can quickly earn money... make sure not to spend the money- because it adds up fast!
Let me know how it goes!
Please rate!
--Jack
CuxMiBeckNow7

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hey, well my boyfriend used to have a bestfriend named marc. i used to be friends with marc too. like me, my boyfriend, marc, and lucy could hang out together. even any combination of people. but then marc went away. so to replace marc for being his bestfriend he made bestfriends with this kid named eric. now eric was from his football team and i dont know eric at all. but now my boyfriend is with eric every single day like no lie and has no time for me anymore. and its not like we can all hang out because i dont know eric. also my boyfriend has mentioned to me that eric doesnt like me, but what i dont get is i never even met him before. a month ago we broke up because we never saw each other, but that time it was my my moms fault because she didnt trust my boyfriend yet. so i called him and explained to him what happened. he understood and asked me back out again. but the last time i spent time with my boyfriend was not last tuesday, but the tuesday before that =/. but on last tuesday after football and cheering i saw him for maybe 5 minutes and we talked for 5 minutes, but i dont call that spending time togethter. ive hinted to him many times that we dont see each other and say that we should hang out soon, but he always says oh i have plans with eric and stuff like oh baby im sorry ill call you tommorow, but he never calls cause hes with eric. monday-friday my boyfriend and eric have football. monday-thursday i have cheering. so you think that monday-friday would be enough time to spend with eric. the only real time me and my boyfriend can hangout is saturday and sunday, but of course he already has plans with eric. i mean we could hang out before and after cheering but again he usually has plans with eric and if he doesnt its hard to do because of rides and stuff. when hes with eric he basically never calls me. sometimes there will be 1-2 days of him not calling me because hes been with eric for 1-2 days. if we do talk its only for 30 minutes and its 30 minutes of him yelling at his paintball game. before we used to talk for 3 hours straight and i felt some type of connection and now im not so sure if i do anymore. im starting to feel really bad about this and im getting sort of jealous that eric gets to spend more time with him then i do! schools going to start soon and me and my boyfriend go to different schools so summers basically the time we need to hang out, because of all the homework and football and cheering at night. also yesterday he actually did call me with eric, i was with my two friends allie and jillian, but that didnt make a difference. so he called and said lets meet on razon st. [ near my house ]. so he said to figure it out and call him back. so i did and i was like were not going to meet you there because we cant. then he was like good because me and eric decided that we didnt want to walk there anyways and they were already walking to somewhere else. i foudn taht rude. so today he actually called me and was like hey. i was like oh where did you go yesterday. he said to this girls house. i felt hurt and im usually not this sensitive. i was like oh was it erics friend or yours. he said mine then he said you dont know her. i was like how do you know, i wanna know who it is. then he said too bad. today we only talked for 30 minutes and it was yelling at his paintball thing again most of the time. please help i just dont know what to do anymore. thank you os much for reading!

Sounds like you really like this kid- and seeing as you have already tried to talk to him... you should just get rid of him..
He doesn't seem to care about you.. maybe he should just go out with Eric.. (lol sorry I had to make that joke)
Find yourself a better boyfriend- because this kid is a loser and he doesn't deserve someone as caring as you!
Let me know how everything goes
Please rate me!
--Jack
CuxMiBeckNow7

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Does anyone know any yearbook themes? I'm really stressed out about it and it would be cool if there were some recommendations. Thanx

Hey!
I was on my school's yearbook staff last year and here were some of the suggestions:
CSI: (Your Town Name Here)
Under the Sea
Hawaii (like beaches and stuff)
Survivor (the show)
or.. you could just base it off any show.... check out the second page of my column toward the bottom.. I think I've answered a question similar to this...
let me know how it goes!
Please rate me!
--Jack
CuxMiBeckNow7

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ok well my bf and i have been together for a while... no that long, but long enough. But we haven't seen much of eachother cause we have both been busy, so we only really get to talk over the phone, e-mail, and txting. and well he tells me he loves me through e-mail and txting, but on the phone he doesn't, and well i'm afraid that he doesn't mean it... and well when i do see him, that he won't say he loves me, and well... if he didn't i would feel kinda crapy... like he was using me... and well i guess what i'm trying to say is that i need to know how to find out if he really does love me! how do i get him to tell me he loves me and mean it?? what if he never even kisses me?? urg! i don't know.. i guess i just need a guys advice...

First- thanks for posting a question here, I appreciate it!
Your boyfriend probably really loves you, maybe he just doesn't get the chance to tell you he loves you on the phone. I'm definitely sure he's not using you (that's just very not guy like [in my eyes]). Next time you see him in person- just sit down and talk to him. I'm sure he loves you and he wants to tell you- there may not be many chances to express his feelings to you.
Whatever you do- don't break up with him because of something you might think.. if you're going to break up with him you gotta make sure that he really doesn't love you like you love him. But honestly.. don't dump him because I'm sure he's a great boyfriend.
Let me know how it goes!
--Jack

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Hey! you have given alot of good advice, and i was hoping you could also help me... well lately i have had alot more self confidence in myself thanks to my best friend! and plus i got a new hair cut, and dyed my hair, which makes me feel beautiful! but then in the past couple of hours i have felt like i have no self confidence! 1st i caught my bf telling another girl that she is beautiful! and well... i don't know if my bf has ever told me i was beautiful... just that the picture that i txted him was a good one. and well... idk it just lowers my self confidence.. and plus.. sometimes i feel like he doesn't love me as much as i love him.. its only been like 2 weeks... but we have been really good friends for a while... if you had a gf.. would you tell her she was beautiful? and that you loved her all the time? cause girls love that, but i just don't know if guys know that! theres a tip for you.. tell your girl friend that she is beautiful and that you love her, but you have to really mean it! i wish my bf would ensure me that he loves me and that i'm beautiful! can you help me? what should i do?

- the chosen one!

hey-
You know.. I do have a girlfriend.. and now that I think about it I haven't told her that I thought she was beautiful.. but I do think she is VERY beautiful!!!
If you want him to say "You're beautiful" (lol good song.. sorry) just come out and ask him "Do you think I'm beautiful?" and if he's as good a boyfriend as you are a girlfriend- he'll tell you that you are beautiful (and I'd hope he means it because lying is bad)

I hope everything works out!
--Jack (let me know how it goes)

Please rate all my advice- I like to know how I'm doing!

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hey! you are a really nice guy! and you're about my age also... would you ever go out with me?? i mean.. you're a nice guy and all.. and it seems like you would be a good bf! lol and im really pretty!

I'm sure you're a cool girl.. but I'm taken by my lovely girlfriend Lauren --Jack

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well i have been best friends with my friend Shelly... we have been best friends since before pre-school. We watched barney 2gether.. played barbies... and grew up...kinda... well lately we have grown apart. she is mad at me and i don't know why.. well actually i think its because i told my "new" best friend Leah something that i felt unconfortable telling her.. and now she hates leah and all my other friends.. and well i guess you can say that i don't want to deal with her attitude anymore cause she has always beem mean to me and has made me actually cry before. and she always tells me i'm fat just because she is REALLY skinny and likes to flaunt it... so she will brag about being a smaller size than me... and then she will complain about it later! and i guess we have just given up on each other... but the hard thing is that we are both in the same dance class, and she lives right across the street. i think we both wanna give up, but our parents won't let us! its soo hard! what should i do? Leah is a WAY better best friend, and well... Shelly.. she just always made fun of me and when ever i would go to her for help... it never worked out! she always bragged how her life is perfect... and blah blah blah... what should i do??

Well stranger of whom I don't already know [lol ;)]
I think you should try to talk to Shelly and tell her how you feel about her making fun of you (which I'm sure is a bad feeling) and see if you can work out your issues with one another.
If you feel that in your conversation she doesn't want to be your friend anymore.. then you shouldn't work yourself up about it.
Leah sounds like a better friend (apparently) so if you stay with her.. I'm sure you'll be fine with her and your other friends! (hint hint.. lol)

Let me know how it goes stranger!
--Jack

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What are some good ways to make money, preferably quickly? I'm trying to raise money for an acting/modeling school and agency, and I need 200 more dollars.

Some good ways to make money are to do more chores around the house- ask your parents (politely of course) to raise your allowance... you could also apply for a job nearby to make good money (you might have to take time out of you summer for this- so I'm not exactly sure you'd want to do this)...
Let me know how it goes!
--Jack

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Do you love me? I am 14/m
I know you're a guy.. but I want to love you- you sound like a nice guy

P.S.S. My name is Jimmy

Sorry to break your heart Jimmy- but I'm not gay

--Jack
Next time- try not to put your name on the question!

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yeah i just sent you a message on the email. We can talk/give advice that way. lol

Really- I haven't gotten an email from anyone.. are you sure you sent it to Lilbrownsfan07@aol.com ... copy that EXACTLY.. lol

--Jack

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Well thankyou. And yes. I am a virgin. I am also a firm believer of no sex before marrige. :]

You're welcome- and that's always a good thing!

--Jack

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Ok, its lookitslorin. [my coloumn name] But I really dont look like that in person. I got makeup crazy. Haha. If you would like to see me, Go here. http://s83.photobucket.com/albums/j305/102105_/pictures/?action=view¤t=LorinsPicture.jpg&refPage=&imgAnch=imgAnch36 [Im the one in the blue.] Or here. http://s83.photobucket.com/albums/j305/102105_/pictures/?action=view¤t=DSC03957.jpg&refPage=&imgAnch=imgAnch29 I cant stand people thinking I look a different way. Idk why though. Lol I will add you on my email though. Thanks for everything.

WOW! You are beautiful- no joke!
But oddly enough- I have a question for you; are you a virgin? I mean.. you said all your boyfriend wanted was sex... so I was just wondering.. lol

--Jack

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