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boyfriends new best friend
hey, well my boyfriend used to have a bestfriend named marc. i used to be friends with marc too. like me, my boyfriend, marc, and lucy could hang out together. even any combination of people. but then marc went away. so to replace marc for being his bestfriend he made bestfriends with this kid named eric. now eric was from his football team and i dont know eric at all. but now my boyfriend is with eric every single day like no lie and has no time for me anymore. and its not like we can all hang out because i dont know eric. also my boyfriend has mentioned to me that eric doesnt like me, but what i dont get is i never even met him before. a month ago we broke up because we never saw each other, but that time it was my my moms fault because she didnt trust my boyfriend yet. so i called him and explained to him what happened. he understood and asked me back out again. but the last time i spent time with my boyfriend was not last tuesday, but the tuesday before that =/. but on last tuesday after football and cheering i saw him for maybe 5 minutes and we talked for 5 minutes, but i dont call that spending time togethter. ive hinted to him many times that we dont see each other and say that we should hang out soon, but he always says oh i have plans with eric and stuff like oh baby im sorry ill call you tommorow, but he never calls cause hes with eric. monday-friday my boyfriend and eric have football. monday-thursday i have cheering. so you think that monday-friday would be enough time to spend with eric. the only real time me and my boyfriend can hangout is saturday and sunday, but of course he already has plans with eric. i mean we could hang out before and after cheering but again he usually has plans with eric and if he doesnt its hard to do because of rides and stuff. when hes with eric he basically never calls me. sometimes there will be 1-2 days of him not calling me because hes been with eric for 1-2 days. if we do talk its only for 30 minutes and its 30 minutes of him yelling at his paintball game. before we used to talk for 3 hours straight and i felt some type of connection and now im not so sure if i do anymore. im starting to feel really bad about this and im getting sort of jealous that eric gets to spend more time with him then i do! schools going to start soon and me and my boyfriend go to different schools so summers basically the time we need to hang out, because of all the homework and football and cheering at night. also yesterday he actually did call me with eric, i was with my two friends allie and jillian, but that didnt make a difference. so he called and said lets meet on razon st. [ near my house ]. so he said to figure it out and call him back. so i did and i was like were not going to meet you there because we cant. then he was like good because me and eric decided that we didnt want to walk there anyways and they were already walking to somewhere else. i foudn taht rude. so today he actually called me and was like hey. i was like oh where did you go yesterday. he said to this girls house. i felt hurt and im usually not this sensitive. i was like oh was it erics friend or yours. he said mine then he said you dont know her. i was like how do you know, i wanna know who it is. then he said too bad. today we only talked for 30 minutes and it was yelling at his paintball thing again most of the time. please help i just dont know what to do anymore. thank you os much for reading!
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Hm. If I was you, I'd probably be jealous too. Your boyfriend just seems really distant with you and maybe he's possibly lost interest. Or that other girls house.. he could be cheating. [ I'm not trying to say he IS, but I'm just listing options ]. Before football/cheerleading and what not, I would go up to him [ and Eric if he's there ] and just be like,"I have to have a serious talk with you like, now or I'll never get the time with you to talk about it." [ or if erics there ] "I need to have a serious talk with you. Eric, do you mind if I just pull him over for a second?" And then just be like,"I want to know whats up. I mean, I'm really glad Eric's your best friend and all, but I never get to see you anymore. Don't you like me anymore or what? Because you know that since we go to different schools, summers really the only time we really have to spend together and everything. I just think I deserve to know what's going on and what's going to happen with us." [ or something like that ]. I think it's really rude of your boyfriend to do that, especially when he's just like "I'm going over a girl house you dont know too bad I won't tell you" and being like "I wasn't going to walk there anyways". He's seriously not considering your feelings AT ALL, and who needs a guy like that? If I was you, if he doesn't want to fix this, I'd just dump him. You deserve a guy who'll give you attention and not just his bestfriend.
Another thing I might wnat to try and do is talk to Eric. Ask him why he doesn't like you, even though you two have never really even met. And maybe try and work that difference out so then all three of you can hang out together so everyone wins in a way.
If you want, you can always IM me on my screename thats on the site or just post more! I hope I helped you though and I hope everything works out! <3
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Sounds like you really like this kid- and seeing as you have already tried to talk to him... you should just get rid of him..
He doesn't seem to care about you.. maybe he should just go out with Eric.. (lol sorry I had to make that joke)
Find yourself a better boyfriend- because this kid is a loser and he doesn't deserve someone as caring as you!
Let me know how everything goes
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Lets say been there done that! I know where you're coming from. But I think you need to tell him how you feel first. If he acts like he doesn't care, question that! If friends are more important than a person you like, then he's not WORTH it! It's easier said then done. Honestly, on how you wrote this; it seems like he's being really distant with you. When guys( or even girls) acts distant in a relationship he's either A) lost interest in you B) is WAAAY to be busy with his life or C) He's cheating on you. I don't think anyone needs to feel like crap, or that they're not good enough. At least he can do is introduce you to his "new" friend! If Eric doesn't like you, && your boyfriend isn't standing up for you, then you don't need that kind of BOYS!
Also boys will be boys, games to them is like a must do! But really if you guys don't see eachother or even talk to eachother really for days, at least he can do is put his little game down && talk to you. Games going to be there, but when you mistreat someone wrong, they'll come to their senses && LEAVE!
Hunny, just follow you heart. If he wants to be a queer with his rude boyfriend, then let him be! Let you do you! Hope I helped! <3
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it sounds like you two dont have feelings for each other anymore. i agree with allishow dump him. hes being mean and crappy and if hes not even spending time with you you might as well be single. hes treating you like shit and he went to another girls house.. get rid of his ass lol.
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im sorry but this kid is a dick... you need a new boy that appreciates you and acctuially wants to spend time with you. that is probably the saddest thing i have ever heard. you need to punch that little bitch in the face..AHH! that kinda makes me mad. dump him and find someone who will willingly make time for you. not because you ask him to, but because he wants too. he obviously loves eric more than you so dump the queer and find a new one.
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