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my bf has a problem with drugs, he does them a lot. even though he is on probation and everything. i don't mean only pot but meth and shit. i love him and dont want to walk out on him when he needs me the most. i know i can help him stop, but im worried he wont. i just dont know how much longer i can live with it. when he was on drugs before he cheated on me alot adn did illegle shit all the time. im worried for our future and relationship. ps we have a baby on the way (link)
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You ought to be worried for yourself and the kid and your safety before his. He's not going to change and he's not going to help unless his family and friends stage an intervention put him in treatment and get him help.
Even after that if he goes back and hangs around with the same people he can be drawn back to it. You have to take care of yourself and that of your unborn child and leave the situation and don't look back. This is not a safe person or place for you to be.
You have to leave and stop being his partner on a romantic level and tell him you will only deal with him again if he's clean and sober. If you cannot live with it any longer than trust your gut and don't for your own safety.
You really don't owe him anything here relationship or friendship wise as this situation is destroying your life unless he is sober and has kicked the addiction.
As hard as it is to completely walk away from him and the situation you need to and to raise that baby in a healthy enviornment where he/she isn't exposed to this lifestyle. That's paramount. It's hard to walk away but it's the right thing and only thing to do.
Maybe if you did that he would start caring about his unborn child, want to be in your lives and sober up. Until he reaches that point, if he reaches that point leave and don't look back until he's cleaned himself up and kicked the addiction.
In all liklihood you're going to need to hire a lawyer here and temporarily or permanently terminate his rights to see the child unless he smartens up. This might give him motive to seek treatment join N/A and get help to turn his life around.
You need to also go to your parents and tell them everything you told us and about the baby and seek their guidance and follow it as this is a dicey situation and they have to keep him from bothering you once you leave and support you through your pregnancy.
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what's a 976 number? (link)
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it's an area-code for a pay-per-call service such as psychics, adult chat lines, telephone sex. The numbers always begin with 1-976
Unlike 1-900 numbers that just bill your phone bill these services ask for a credit card usually. Not that I would know from dialing but that's what they're all about.
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My friend is having some people round hers for a certain tv series fest. The guy I want to invite and his friends love this series, and so do we.
I would say I'm a friend of his, but a very new friend and I don't know him that well.
Already coming are me, my friend who's house it's at, our other friend who he knows as much as us, one of his guy mates who's one of my best friends and one of his best guy mates.
We've also already invited his best friend, but we don't know if she's coming yet.
I'm comfortable with him but not when it comes to asking him if he wants to do things.
I don't want to ask someone else to invite him cos I know if I always do that there's no way I'm going to overcome my shyness.
But, what's the best way to ask him?
Thanks in advance, xxx
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First of all how do you expect him to start noticing you if you are too scared to talk to him or invite him? You need to treat this exactly like you would talking to anyone else.
It's no different and he won't judge you or anything like that. just talk to him like you would any other friend or person. The only difference is you might get a date or a smootch at the end of the night.
In your head think to yourself the following things: 1) He loves this show and so do I 2) He's going to want to come and watch it. and the biggest trick to tell your mind is 3) he's hanging on for ever word I utter.
All you need to do then is find him at school and say "I'm so and so, remember me? My friends are having this party to wtach a marathon of that show you like and we were all hoping you would come."
That's it that's all there is to it. If he's not interested and refuses other invites it's a sign that he's not in to you at least not as G/f material. All you have to do is just say what I just put in quotes above and you are fine.
If you cannot do the in person thing which I encourage you to do try using IM or call him and invite him. You need to do it person though as once you ask him you'll be able to talk to him or any other guy with ease.
It's just like talking to your best friend. We're no different to talk to. Just invite him when you see him at school. He's not going to hurt you. Do this once and you'll be fine forever with it.
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what if i was kidding around with my friend but they are one of the sensative types that don't always take the joke in the right way and i got yelled at by her first so today i said this word that they always say a lot over and over again, and now they're mad at me and won't let me appologize what should i do? (link)
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Wait. That's exactly what to do and say nothing more to them. people who are this sensitive will react this way all the time and then gradually forget about it or why they were upset. Let them come to you.
It's not your fault they cannot take a joke. It's up to them to develop a tough skin. They'll realize in a day or maybe an hour or two that they're being silly by being mad over it. Trust me, that's all there is to it with them. If they don't approach you again in a few days move on as you don't need friends who are that silly and act stupidly over a joke.
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explain to me exactly how your cherry pops lol thanks :] (link)
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Well, your hymen a.k.a cherry doesn't actually pop. It stretches as it's a thin mucous mebrane that surrounds and or partially covers the vaginal opening. It can become stretched through masturbation, intercourse or tampon usage which is the most likely reason these days.
Here's an article that talks about the hymen and may answer perhaps better than I did the question you asked and others that may remain about it.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hymen
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when will the apocalypse take place? i heard that it will happen in feb. of 2027. that's in like, 20 years! is it true? (link)
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People have been predicting the end of the world and all kinds of doomsday scenarios since the world itself began. Most famously is Nostradamus see link: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nostradamus
I'm not sure who it was that claimed it will happen in February 2027 but the Miyan Calandar according to what I just looked up stop counting days/years on December 21st 2012. A lot of predictions are based on that. I think (I'm not sure the validity of the link) Nostradamus also went with 2012 or somehwere in the 2020s with one idea.
That might be the source of what you heard and someone else came up with the year. That factors into a lot of predictionsbut the other thing right now is people are factoring in Global Warming (which exists but to what extent is uncertain) in to doomsday prophesis as well as terrorism etc.
This site shows how end of the world predictions for 2006 all broke down and who made them: http://www.religioustolerance.org/end_wrl1.htm
Note that that site is based on a church's religious tolerance stance--but it's an example that predictions have gone on since day one of us being here and will go on and likely be wrong.
When it comes to psychics and those making the predictions ask yourself have I ever heard of the person making the claims? What is their track record? Are they just playing off our global warming/terrorism fears? What makes them credible or not?
Don't believe stuff you see online or hear around you as there's absolutely (and I can say this with certainty) nothing happening that will end the world in 2027.
Why? if there was it would be international news everywhere and we as a collective whole would be figuring out ways to stop it from happening. If it's not in the news daily, no politicians are talking about it etc than it's not credible info. Most people just laugh it off.
The best thing to do is live life to the fullest each day and let the chips fall where they may. There's nothing scientific that I've seen at least that says the earth will end period or in 2027 as most scientists are still not in agreement about the big bang theory either.
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I'm a teenage girl who needs to lose about 20 pounds to be healthy- and I'm working on that now. My problem is- I'll go 2 days with having only 1200 calories... and then the next day i'll feel so deprived and try to only have a little bit of an indulgence (i.e half a cup of ice cream) only i'll just eat liek 4 cups without being able to stop.
I have dance classes 3 days a week- and the other days I try to work out (ill do 20 mins treadmill/20 elliptical/20 stairclimber+random conditioning) so i guess i'm pretty active? but I have a crappy metabolism apparently because i'm still "overweight". I'm an hourglass though so i look fine. I'm 5'2 1/4" and 156 lbs.
So I want to know how many calories I should consume daily- I want to be able to fit in some kind of a treat every day so I won't feel deprived. And I really like starbucks and I wish I could drink it every day.
So if you're thin i'd like to know what you do to stay in shape... (link)
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Before trying any kind of diet or plan you come up with on your own visit your doctor. Have them check you out completely and weigh you. Go over your medical history and then tell them your weight loss goal to lose 20 pounds etc.
They will tell you if this is right for you and what realistically you can do to lose that weight without trouble. They can also refer you to one of your best secret weapons a nutritionsit that will help you plan meals and make a plan for you where you don't feel deprived of anything or hungry.
The key is always moderation. you can have what you want to eat but at the right portions and not all the time. The nutritionsist and doctor will be able to help you combat what your metabolism is doing with making had to stay trim.
That's what I do to stay in shape. Also the amount of weight you need to be is determined by height. They'll tell you what it is sfae to be at for your highest and lowest. You're probably in range of it.
Keep doing what you are doing with dance, exercise and senseable eating for now as it's certainly helping you more thn it's not. Once you see your doctor and have him/her plus a nutritionsist put you on a plan you should be fine.
Also, with their permission you might want to try slim fast products such as their shakes and or energy bars to replace breakfast or lunch (twice a day) while snacking on vegitables in between meals as that might help you out. I did that when I was wrestling. It will sustain you.
Also very bad for you is fruit juice and anything from concentrate. Cut that sugar out of your diet and drink only water, Gatorade or tea as that will help you.
I also ate only lean meat, vegitables and snacked on rice-cakes and ocassionally had diabetic cookies. Now and then have icecream or whatever but at a low portion. Eat more rice, brocoli, greens.
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what is mor convenient ? to pay in canada with canadian dollars, or with american dollars, wich one saves you more money??? thnx (link)
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The exchange rate between the U.S. and Canada was about $6.85 different last time I checked as i had to send someone funds in American two weeks ago. You'll want to change your American money into Canadian while in our country.
From what I recall you get a GST rebate when you cross back over the border. Beyond that you will have to get enlightened by someone else on how that system works I'm a bit fuzzy on it but know that it exists being a Canadian.
While American money is legal tender here in Canada a lot of Canadian retailers refuse to accept it and or if they do only accept $50 American and not any higher. It costs them money otherwise.
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how do you know if you have an orgasim or not? (link)
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This article http://www.teenwire.com/infocus/2001/if-20010816p115.php should answer your question better than anyone else can.
More or less what happens is that all of your muscles and body tighten and then slowly release especially those in your pubic region. You'll know you are having one as there's simple no mistaking the feeling.
The only thing you must not do is put too much focus in your head on having one or thinking that you must as it makes it harder to experiece one. Just relax and it will happen on its own as all of them do.
Most woemn don't achieve orgasm through intercourse but rather clitoral stimulation. The article above will shed more light on female orgasm for you. It contains no adult content or pictures or illustrations just so the admin around here knows that. it's all text and not graphic.
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i have an mac/apple desktop, and a casio camera. i take my videos with my camera, and my computer automatically puts the videos on iphoto when i upload them, but they turn out to be blank (white with no sound, but it says it's playing). do i need to download something to update my computer so i can put the videos from iphoto onto my desktop, and then into imovie? i hope it wasnt too confusing
thanks
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I have a Macintosh computr myself. The best advice I can give you is to call 1-800-My-Apple and ask for technical support. The technicians on the end of the other line will be able to help you trouble-shoot the problem andhave things up and running in minutes.
While talking to them you might want to ask them about their Apple Care plan that allows you to get 24/7 technical support. I know that once you call apple's technical support hotline that they'll be able to fix it for you.
The other thing you might want to do if that doesn't help (it will) is to look up apple.com and locate an Apple Store near you where you can take your computer in and have them fix the issue or you can walk in to and tell them what's happening.
Don't go to best Buy or a retailer like that as they don't know shit about Apple products and are after teir commision and charging you high fees for repair or to remedy something that is easy. Apple's people are best either on the phone or in person as they don't get a commision for trying to help you.
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okay me & my bf wanna do more stuff like fingering & handjobs,etc.but we have absolutly no place to do it! my parents dont let me have guys in my room and ive never even been to his house (pathetic i no).where are some COMFORTABLE places we can do stuff?
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The advice you just recieved from the previous poster that mentioned doing this kind of sexual activity in a movie theatre or for that matter at a kids film at night regardless of the time is not only reckless but very disturbing.
Don't follow that advice unless you are looking to be charged for a lewd act in a public place and be taken to jail for doing this at a kid's movie or any movie for that matter. Try explaining that to people you know or those you don't that may have heard about it. Remember Paul Ruebens a.k.a Pee Wee Herman?
There's prime example not to do this in a movie theatre or public place. The best thing to do is ask him to invite you over to his house so you can use the rec room or basement and establish a set of rules with his parents and for that matter yours regarding privacy where they always knock first before entering the basement or rec room or living room so you know of their presence.
That is the only way you really can get the privacy you need to do these things. The other thing is that you can be upfront with your parents that you need your privacy and are not having sex ordoing anything that would break their trust but that you are just doing typical things teens do in a relationship without elaborating. I think they'll understand.
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my boyfriends friends are really perverted. and im fourteen and kinda big like 36d big. and they always say grose things to him about my boobs and they always try to grab me. and he tells them to knock it off but they dont listen and he just gives it up. they keep telling me one day when i least expect it there all gonna rape me. and he just tells me they dont have the balls to do that. and it really annoying what should i do? (link)
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The problem is you haven't told them off or been assertive here. Tell them the next time they try to grab your breasts or make comments about rape that you'll kick them so hard where it hurts so they'll never mess with you again.
As far as comments about rape and their behavior goes tell an adult close to you ie a teacher what they have been saying and that they are harassing you daily.
This person will set them straight but telling them you'll kick them hard in the groin if they touch you again let's them know exactly who is the boss here. You need to stand up for yourself or they'll contiue walking all over you.
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Ok, so I really really really want a lip piercing and I have for a while. I've already looked at alot of stuff about them and I've asked people I know, so I know the risks already. I asked my mom if I could get one, but she keeps saying no, and she doesnt even have a reason. I already told her that I would pay for it. How could I convince her to let me get my lip pierced?
and I'm 15 btw (link)
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You cannot convince anyone of anything ever. They have to want to believe something or not. You can only state your case to your mother.
To stand a good shot of getting your piercing you should print out all the information you can find from fact-sheets to cost breakdown and show it to her. Ask her to expand on the reasons she is against it.
Maybe she's scared her friends will judge her for letting you do it. Once she has the information she might change her mind. You should also talk to your father about it and have both of them discuss it.
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ok so im 15, female, and i've always heard of people talking about masturbation, and i'd never tried it. So one day, about a month ago, I tried it, and it felt SOOO good...but as I kept doing it, the feeling decreased and it actually started feeling wrong. I feel guilty because I consider myself a fairly good Cristian, and also because sometimes I'll do it even 3 times a day, but I don't wanna get addicted. Sometimes I feel so ashamed of myself because I'm basically having sex by myself, and I wonder if any of my friends do it (and dats when i really feel pathetic)... I just dont know what to do...Thanx for reading... (link)
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The statistics are that 70% of females do it and about 90% of males and everyone else falls into those who don't or those who don't for cultural and other reasons. Trust me, you're in good company as most of your classmates males/females do it but don't talk about it or let on.
There's absolutely no reason to feel guilty. Doctors will even tell you it's normal behavior and yes even if you do it 3 times a day. As long as you go out, socialize with people and don't spend all day in your room masturbating you're fine and don't have any problem such as an addiction.
You're also supposed to enjoy it so there's no shame at all. People of all kinds of religions be it Christian, Catholic, Jewish etc etc. masturbate and it doesn't make them any less a Christian etc. for doing so. If it feels right for you continue and know it doesn't make you any less than what you are or change your belief system.
Masturbation is common especially among teenagers of both sexes at this stage for relieving sexual tension and other reasons. It's also common in younger children, toddlers, even babies have been observed as doing it and even seniors do it too. It's natural, healthy, normal so relax.
Just think to yourself that your classmates are doing it too and that each of them thinks the same thing about it that you just said and wonders if they are the only one. They're not, and nor are you.
Basically it boils down to this: if you enjoy it do it as it's safe, normal, healthy and won't affect your religious beliefs or change that or make you less a Christian and if you don't feel good about it abandon it. Believe me you aren't pathetic at all for indulging in this.
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im in 8th grade right now, but next year ill be in highschool, and i was just wondering how big of a deal is it, to have sex? like its already starting to happen this year. and i keep getting offers, but im kinda like against it. would i be made fun of if i dont? (link)
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If you are against having sex right now then don't let anything change that. These guys who are making offers are pretty immature. They don't care about you and are only after sex. They're likely to spread rumors about it etc. etc.
By waiting for the right time, person, place you are being mature and intelligent. You don't want to wind up pregnant. Nobody else can make the decision for you of when you have sex.
Being made fun of for being a virgin is not such a bad thing. You're waiting for the right person, don't want to become pregnant, don't want it to be with some random person you have no attachment to etc. etc.
Also, whether or not you are a virgin is nobody else's business but your own. They don't need to know either way. If anyone asks you tell them "My personal life is not your business."
Just think, the people who may make fun of you are the same ones who may get pregnant or an STD or infection and bad reputation and all kind of things they never anticipated because of their choices to be with random people or accept the same kind of"offers" as made to you.
Also, these people don't matter in the grand scheme of things nor do their opinion of you or of you being a virgin. In less than 5 years you won't know half of them or remember half. Why let them try to dictate such a huge life decision for you?
If you are against having sex right now you must have some pretty darn good reasons. Stick to your guns, your guts and your beliefs and don't let what everyone else seems to be doing weigh in as a factor. Sometimes what everyone else is doing is wrong and they learn that the hard way.
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when you masterbate can you get pregant off of it and what happens when you on your period and you masterbate at the same time. (link)
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You can only get pregnant from sexual intercourse (penis in vagina). You cannot become pregnant from masturbation. You can also masturbate on your period and that's fine and normal if you do or don't. It can be messy though.
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ok so there this guy and like i really liked him and he liked me. well i asked him out and he said no and i like cryed my eyes out for like a day and all this crap. anyways when i was at softball he was like you make me feel sad. i asked him why and it was because i cryed and i got hurt. i had my friend garrett ask him why he was sad, and he said because i got hurt and he cares about me as a friend. why should he be sad. and then like a cupple days ago i was walking down the hall and we made eye contact and it was reall weird. i mean i still like him but does he like me more then a friend or just as a friend?
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He considers himself your friend but is just not in to you as far as a potential girlfriend. He says he's upset because he know his rejecting you hurt and he feels responsible and guilty for that.
He never wanted you to feel hurt or to cry like that over him turning you down. Treat him like any other friend but move on and find another person worthy of being with you romantically.
Obviously, this guy is your friend and feels miserable that what he said or how he reacted hurt you.
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Okay im 13/f and today i got suspended for kissing my boyfriend and we wernt even on school property and now we can barely talk the only thing we can do is talk and give hug's but can you give me advice on this please befor tomarro even thoug il lbe home (link)
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There is a lot you can do. Tell your parents what happened and that some "big shot" teacher etc. harassed you about it and got you suspended. They can approach the principal and have it out with them.
If this doesn't work call the editor of your local paper and tell them your story or write a letter to the editor. I've seen this done and have used this method before.
The school doesn't want the local paper focusing in on them because a teacher got a kid suspended for kissing. It's no big deal.
Think of like this when protesters get arrested for demonstrating for what they believe in they can get brought up on all kinds of charges but rally didn't do anything criminal. While a different situation it's the same kind of deal.
It's a dumb reason for a suspension and anyone who sees it on your student records will laugh at a teacher or principal that was loopy enough to give it to you.
Have you parents challenge the school on this along with your boyfriend and his parents and have them threaten to go to your local paper with this strange story about how you got suspended. That will change the tide believe me as I've had to do the same thing.
Defend yourself vigorously here as you are guilty of nothing and they over-reacted. Your fellow pupils and parents with kids in the same school need to see you fight over this because the PTA can put a ton of pressure on the school as can the schoolboard to reverse this if a ton of pressure is put on them.
There's a lot you can do. You did nothing wrong even if it was on school property unless you had guidlines or rules on paper informing you of some kind of bylaw there's no excuse except for a teacher who was seriously power tripping for a suspension.
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heres my problem:
My boyfriend got expelled from my school today for a little fighting he didn't touch anyone but was involved and is an inter district transfer so immediately got expelled with no turning back. Well he could appeal it but his parents don't want to. He lives about twenty minutes from me and will be going to school somewhere up in his area. School gets out in 20 days so I don't think it's going to be too much trouble. I still can't imagine school without him because me and him are inseperable at school we are together 24/7 and I love him to death. I cant help but cry a lot because this is not how I imagined my end of my Sophomore year. (hes a junior). Anyway I guess I just need some help as far as ideas on how to keep the relationship going well even with the distance, how I should do to cope, and things I can do to make sure he cares for me and keeps showing he cares. ANYTHING you think would help would be great!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH! (link)
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If you boyfriend really did not touch anyone or was not fighting and just at the scene he should appeal and defend himself vigorously as it's admitting guilt (being seen that way by school/others) otherwise.
This will be on his permanent record when in fact he is innocent and will affect his ability to get into the college or university of choice later on. You should tell him what I said above and or have your parents talk to his parents about it.
They may not want to drag him through an appeal but it's absolutely foolish not to do so as people in the education system thinking he did this and was expelled will forever hold it against him and his hand will be tied behind his back in college/university interviews because of it.
If he doesn't win the appeal (which he should if he can find witnesses) I would think ther would be a way (I've seen it happen so I know it's so) you can take it to the schoolboard and then a higher court if these people are judging unfairly against a kid who everyone knows did nothing.
Don't accept a suspension or for that matter even worse being exspelled for something you didn't do without fighting and having your case heard.
What should you do? Be supportive and keep on loving him as if nothing happened. Let the adults handle this and resolve it. Even if you don't end up in the same school you live 20 minutes away so nothing will really change there.
It would be great if the situation was resolved so he could still attend your school but even if it was would he feel totally welcome there agian and would both of you feel comfortable? He has to fight back (no pun intended) with the school on this.
Don't worry here and both of you should go about life as normal as possible. The adults in your life will fix this situation if they can or find a solution that is right for your boyfriend regarding school.
They might even get him a lawyer to prove it in court or a hearing to get his name cleared. Adults have a lot of avenues of opportunity they can explore here.
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I have a small lump (about half to 1 cm) which noticed within the last two days under my armpit. It's kinda sore, and its hard when I touch it, should I be worrying?? (link)
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Tell your parents and then visit a doctor a.s.a.p to have it throughly checked out. They will probably do a biopsy to figure out what the lump actually is. This is the only way you can find out and put your mind ease.
Would I worry? I would be concerned about it but would not jump to conclusions and start to fear things yet. It could be nothing serious but you still need to find out from your doctor. There's nothing to fear until you might have to cross that bridge.
Sometimes worrying and fear makes things more difficult to deal with and physically sick. It's best to just see your doctor or go to an emergency clinic and let them tell you what it is and how to handle it. In all liklihood it's benign.
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