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Hey guys. I need some wisdom right now, and I would prefer people with experience in long term relationships/marriage to answer this, though other opinions are welcome. I have been dating my boyfriend for about three years now. We love eachother, and I'm certain he cares a great deal for me. Back when we started dating, he had a best girl friend. She was basically his ex from way back when, and the relationship lasted a couple months. He says they weren't intimate but did small things like kissing. She was madly in love with him, and tried to break us up. We then took a break because he was confused after she tried to convince him desperately that she was the one for him. He ended up picking me, and cut her off.... after a while they stared talking again. And this is what has been happening the past 2 and a half years
Everytime he cuts her off its for like various months. This time though, he contacted her through Facebook asking how she was. Now, she says she has a bf, but is it wrong for me to feel that this girl Is untrustworthy? He says she's his best friend and he wants to be friends only... I don't trust her, and I don't like her because she doesn't acknowledge me. I've tried being friends with her, but she was too stuck up.. I'm not telling him to stop talking to her, even though I would love for him to. What should I do? Should I cope with it? How do I cope with it? any advice will be appreciated! ** I also wanted to add the reason I got upset about The contact was because he contacted her out of nowhere. why was she even on his mind? And he got a gift from her way before he and I started dating, yet she cares enough to ask what happened to that chain and that He better take care of it. would you be jealous about this? Thanks in advance!
You have every right to be suspicious, What raises a flag is when you said (He wasn't intimate but they did small things like kissing) This guy is supposed to be YOUR boyfriend of 3 years. I would have a sit down with your boyfriend and express how his lady friend makes you feel uncomfortable. Is she untrustworthy? Well I certainly would be feeling the same way if I were in your shoes. It sounds like she isn't the only one with hard feelings, Test him by sitting him down, Watch his reaction. However, Woman's intuition is most of the time right.
(Married for 3 years)
My 24 year old son and his now wife have an 8 month old child. His wife became pregnant while on the pill ( she is 21 years old). He married her and they are struggling financially. My husband and I have been helping but wonder if we should. I worry very much about their future as a couple How involved should we be.
As tough of a situation as it is, You need to realize that your son and his wife put themselves into this situation and the more you help them the more they will rely on you. I understand that you are worried for them financially but lending them too much of a helping hand can lack their independence. I would suggest talking to both your son and his wife about your concerns, In a direct way you could mention Food Stamps, WIC or any other places that you know of. There are many places that offer help to people. You can babysit the child once in a while that's fine but lay out your boundaries with your son and his wife.
When you search for me on facebook, it shows me in a network for a high school that I only went to for a year. I don't want to display that to everyone who searches for me. I already deleted that from my networks, but it still shows up. Is there a way to hide from being displayed when people search for me?
If it makes a difference, I'm not currently in any networks.
When you sign into facebook there will be an "Account" in the top right hand corner - Click it
Go down to where it says "Privacy Settings"
You can customize your page as private as you wish, One the bottom it will say "Customize settings" When you are done click save. If you want your page private so the whole world can't see your network then I recommend setting your page to friends only.
I’m 20 and he’s 34. We’re in a band together where he plays the guitar and I sing. He’s married and has a child and I’m in a serious relationship that has been going on for years.
I just can’t help it, I think there’s something going on between us but I’m never sure. Maybe I’m just infatuated with him but he keeps giving me signals, although it’s possible that I’m just misinterpreting them in my infatuation.
At practice we make eye contact for whole songs and he smiles and my heart just flutters. Every time we look in each others eyes he winks at me and I’m not sure if it’s just a friendly wink or not.
When I sing he says it gives him the fever. One of our Band Members joked about it by saying: “Oh dear, always these guitarists and their singers.” And now this has developed into an inside joke.
We had a gig a while back and after we played some people came up to tell me they liked my singing and he joined in (he had had a few drinks so he was bolder than usual) and said jokingly “Hey, this is my singer, you’re not her guitarist, you can’t talk to her”. Whenever friends would make suggestive comments at me in joke he would always say: “Only her guitarist can do that!” and he kept on saying that he didn’t play as well as he could have because we weren’t standing close to each other during the performance and didn’t have the chance to make eye contact.
At one point, my other half and my guitarists wife were talking to each other for a while and he, my guitarist, leaned in and whispered in my ear: “Hey those two are getting on, now’s our chance.”
And the list is endless…
I’m not concerned about whether something is going to happen, I don’t want it to because he has a child, but I’m just not sure if I’m imagining the signals or if they’re actually there.
The reason why I’m not sure is because his wife is unbelievably beautiful and charming whereas I am fat and ugly and can therefore not imagine that he would feel anything for me.
Can anyone give me any advice? Or thoughts?
A possible reasonably explanation for you, You could have dwell so much on the possibility of him liking you to the point where you've lead yourself to believe there are possible feelings between the two of you. However one thing I don't recommend, Is getting between a married man and his family. If he is causing you to become uncomfortable you need to speak up and let him know that his behavior is making you feel uncomfortable and also know your boundaries.
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