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Emotional and financial responsibility
My 24 year old son and his now wife have an 8 month old child. His wife became pregnant while on the pill ( she is 21 years old). He married her and they are struggling financially. My husband and I have been helping but wonder if we should. I worry very much about their future as a couple How involved should we be.
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I've kinda been in this situation. The best thing you can do is to let them struggle on their own.
Check in now and then & make sure the baby has diapers and food/milk. Don't give them the money to get it. Buy it yourself and take it to them.
The worry you need to be having is are they being to dependent on you for help. It becomes a habit. Make them do it on their own.
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As tough of a situation as it is, You need to realize that your son and his wife put themselves into this situation and the more you help them the more they will rely on you. I understand that you are worried for them financially but lending them too much of a helping hand can lack their independence. I would suggest talking to both your son and his wife about your concerns, In a direct way you could mention Food Stamps, WIC or any other places that you know of. There are many places that offer help to people. You can babysit the child once in a while that's fine but lay out your boundaries with your son and his wife.
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they've put this on themselves. your son got her impregnated so they need to take care of all that, and support themselves financially. They need to realize that they need to take responsibilities for their actions. Babysitting their kid every once in a while is fine. i hope i helped. good luck Nikita<3
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