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I had surgery and the gave me vicaden (or however you spell it)
I know its for pain relief but why is it such a popular drug everyone wants even if they have no pain? (link)
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ive taken them for both reasons. when you arent in pain, some people use them for sleep or to feel fucked up. they can get addictive if you use them consistentally so just stick with them to use for pain!
x sweeethoney
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Okay I'm 15 and I really want a job when I turn 16 but the thing is, my dad is just being so stubborn! I don't know where you live, but where I live you need a...I think it's called a social insurance number? To allow you to have a bank account, which you need if you're going to get a job because they don't just directly hand you your money on your pay day.
And that would just be sad if I get a part time job when I'm 18 because they'll think that I'm really lazy PLUS I'm very clumsy so at 18 the schoolwork will be a lot harder to balance out with work.
And he's not going to make me one until I GRADUATE UNIVERSITY (I want to be a nurse)! He says that I don't need to work because he's going to work hard and pay for me, but that's ridiculous because I have 2 other siblings and that is definitely not going to work out. And FYI, he makes me so mad, I don't even WANT his money involved in this because I know that he's gonna try to make me live with him when I’m 18 or something instead of me living in the privacy of my apartment like I hope to because he'll black mail me for paying him back!
Is there any way I can get a social insurance number by myself? That's not far that he decides if I get one because I bet it's still his decision when I turn 18. (link)
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its a social security number and everyone who is a citizen has one. thats all you need to have a job and get a bank account, so either your dads just sayin that so you wont get a job or you just got confused. tell him it will give you a sense of accomplishment and that other kids your age (like me) have a job. when youre 15, you have cut hours anyway, which means you cant work past certain hours on school nights and you can only work a certain amount of hours on weekends. but it all depends on where you live.
do the research and present your case to him like an adult and he'll probably warm up to the idea. thats how i got my parents to let me get a job.
good luck :)
x sweeethoney
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I was dating this guy for a year we met at collage and we got on so well and we were really close. About a month ago he dumped me he said he couldnt go out with me as me being mixed raced confuses things to much and when it comes to having a proper relationship he would rater stick to his own race and date a white girl. And I dont understand as we dated for a year and we never even spoke about race and I really love him. Should I confront him or not? thanx Sophie (link)
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wow! you should definitely confront him. race shouldnt matter one bit in a relationship if you guys are really in love. even personally i like guys of all different races, but some people are just not this way.
but there are a few possibilities:
one, he might just not be comfortable with someone outside of his race and he never wanted to say it before. i dont really see why this would be a problem. but if this is the case you should really talk to him about it. theres no reason for him to go out with you for a year than dump you cause you arent white.
two, maybe he wanted an excuse to break up with you. even though its not likely maybe thats the case.
three, maybe it had somethin to do with his parents or his friends. guys are stupid like that, they like to impress their friends over their girl anyday. it sucks i know
but you really cant know unless YOU talk to him. tell him how much he means to you and that you want to be with him. make it professional though and dont crawl back. just tell him how fucked up the situation is.
write back to me when you have more info! ill be glad to help anytime :) goodluck babe
x sweeethoney
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i am a preppy 14/f that wants to be different and wear/ do different things for myself. ANY IDEAS ?!?!?
example: clothing, accessories, piercing, .. (link)
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alright, well i dont exactly know your motive. but dont try to change if you're tryin to make someone else happy or tryin to impress someone. just be yourself, with a few alterations:
dont like the color of your hair? change it! ask your friends what they think would look best on you. uncomfortable in your hollister clothes? by some that are way more comfortable. youll feel a lot better with yourself if you know your comfortable in your clothes and skin. go to an antique clothin store and get some earrings and other jewelery that you think it cool.
buy things for yourself that make YOU happy. not because theyre a certain brand or all your friends have the same thing. breakin the mold and doing things to make you happy will make you a way more happy person. trust me.
good luck :)
x sweeethoney
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15 female.
okay, so i have a huge crush on my best guy friend, and he knows it. me and him are really chill with each other also, were very open with eachother. (hes 17 btw and ive known him since i was 12, and ever since then we've been really tight) sooo heres the thing:
he always tells me how gorgeous and sexy i am,
and he says he likes me but he doesnt want a gf right now, and i was like thats str8 okay i don mind being jus his friend.. but the thing is..
everytime me and him chill we end up kissing or doing something. and hes gone pretty much the whole way except sex, and hes always telling me how he wants to have sex with me and all that stuff and how like awesome it would be and etc.
and even though i want to, i havent let him.
i just dont know if i should.
cause i wanna be with him as bf and gf, but idk how to do tht. and also idk if i should continue messing around with him or stop and just be normal friends? PLEASE HELP!!
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if you really like him i suggest stoppin the hookin up thing, and just tell him straight up he can either date you or get none. because if he just wants sex hes probably manipulating you, making you think he likes you just to get what he wants. so put him to the test.
and also, if you want a relationship dont go all the way with him. physical involvement should come after the relationship because it takes your relationship to a new level. but if you start on that high level how much higher can it go?
i hope that makes sense and i hope it all works out :)
x sweeethoney
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Hey everyone.
Basically, i have feelings for my best guy friend. We've met in September and have been so close ever since. He likes this other girl, also my good friend, and is always constantly talking about her to me, asking me for advice on what to do and everything. No one knows how i feel inside and i don't know what to do. We have such a wonderful friendship and i would love to keep it like this. He's such a great guy, and i don't want my feelings to ruin anything. I really do want to have JUST that friendship bond with him, but i can't control my feelings. I'm trying to stop my feelings but right now, it's so hard. I'm really trying to be that best friend in his life, and i just want him and I to be happy. I really don't deserve to feel this way. What should I do?
Thank you.
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hmm tough situation, theres nothin much you can do especially when your friend is involved. if you dont want to ruin your friendship i suggest you dont tell him just yet. if your friends not interested in him, you should tell her to tell him to back off. with her out of the way itd be a lot easier to get across how you feel. good luck, i feel for ya girl :(
x sweeethoney
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Okay, so my friends all call me a player. Mostly beacuse I can never stay with a guy for to long, but heres the thing. I started talking to this kid, joe, and i think im really starting to fall for him. its just wierd cause im not used to being this attachted to someone.. usually when i start to get attatched, i end up making up some excuse and leave. I really dont want to do it, it just happens.. How can i overcome being a "player" and give this kid a chance ?
please hellp me, thankkkks (: (link)
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i personally dont think that makes you a player. im the same way but thats because of family problems in the past. maybe its an underlying cause why you cant stay with a guy or its just a personal preference. but if you really like this guy you should give him a chance, but understand youre making a commitment and you cant just back out because youll hurt him.
just think of him as your boyfriend when you chill with him. do you like how he treats you when hes with your/his friends? is he a good guy? does he make you laugh? if you really think that you and him would make a good couple then go for it girl!
best wishes :)
x sweeethoney
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well im 16 and i um like this guy and he is 20 and im wondering is that a big age diffrence (link)
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legally, iits a big age difference. but maturity-wise thats totally up to you. if you get along and youre a good match then i dont see anythin wrong with it!
x sweeethoney
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I've had a lot of boyfriends and I hate it because first of all, I always end up going out with a guy only a little while after I met him, so our entire relationship is based off of a couple jokes we both happened to experience in the same room :/ and I'm not a very good conversation person, so I'm not very good at thinking of how to talk about certain things. And now that I've been thinking about it, anytime I get a boyfriend, I always find some lame excuse to avoid him. Like, he'll ask me to hang out over the weekend and I'll "have to go to my sister's piano recital". I mean, I usually like hanging out with people, but only when I'm actually hanging out with them. Before we hang out, I'm always freaking out about being in an awkward social situation. So, all of this means I can't keep a guy. All these guys ask me out too quick and I can't bring myself to say no to them... I'm not good at rejecting people. I've thought about it, and I don't think I've ever meant it when I told them "I love you too". I just say it because they say it first and I don't want to hurt them, expecially if we're going out already. I mean, there's this one boy who I dated last year (longest relationship was him-6 months)and I just ended it by randomly breaking up with him and it crushed him, but I moved on really quickly. But now I find myself constantly thinking about him because he was the only guy I didn't have to pretend to be anything around and he really loved me. So I don't know if I love him or not? Also, I've broken up with many guys but anytime they breakup with me, I just move on. It's like I don't really care :( I hate this, I WANT a real relationship but I just keep screwing everything up :( what's wrong with me?
Also, sorry this is so scatter-brained... I can't put my thoughts straight... Thanks! (link)
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you're exactly like me, whenever i finally get with a guy i like i just have to find some excuse to mess it up. what do you do? dont get into relationships. dont get a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend, wait for someone who you reallllly like that you have to chase and someone you know pretty well.
you have to learn to let people down BEFORE you go out with them or youre just gonna get stuck with a ton of guys that you dont like, ande thats not gonna make you happy.
good luck
x sweeethoney
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I met this guy and we've only hung out twice. he totally came off as interested in me and acted like he definitely wanted to see me again. after we hung out, which was such an amazing night, he hasn't really been talking to me? i mean, we dont go to the same school and we've texted a little bit, and hes been really nice and friendly in the texts, but so far ive been the one who has started the texting and we barely text anyway. the last time i saw him was a week ago. what should i do now!?!? my friend knows him and she said that he is a huge compliment to me that he even wanted to hang out with me let alone kiss me because he is really really hard to get and apparently every girl wants him. i really want to see him again and know if he is still interested.
1. how long should i wait to contact him?
2. how should i get in touch with him? should i text, call, facebook message?
3. what should i say to him when we talk??? (link)
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alright, first of all DONT be like the other girls. if they all like him they probably always text him or stuff like that. let it be for a little while, a week perhaps. if he doesnt text you by then, then call him to hang out. if he doesnt seem interested then hes probably not interested in you. sorry.
and youre friend should be congradulatin you! jeeez.
best wishes!
x sweeethoney
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I dont feel the same about guys anymore. And its not guys in general, its guys in my town that are in my grade and age level. I feel like none of them are mature enough for me anymore. I think their cute but i never like any of them. Im just disgusted with just about every one of them. I feel that their all players that want to just play around with girls. They are always making perverted comments, all the time. Always lieing. I want a kinda older boyfriend, like one grade ahead older. or someone my age. just someone that really shows they like me. and doesnt move to fast or pressure me. someone that hugs me tight for no reason. things like that... i just hate it because im not normal. (link)
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guys mature slower than girls do, so its as totally normal feeling that you hate the guys your age. trust me. my last boyfriend was about 3 years older than me.
all i have to say is try to get to know guys older than you, as awkward as it may be. if you dont then youll be stuck knowin the same immature boys you do.
theyll mature one day, we're all hopin!
x sweeethoney
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So I've known this guy since 8th grade when he moved here. We're in 11th grade now and I still like him (yeah, sad, I know).
I don't have any classes with him this year but I see him occasionally in the hallways and I frequently tend to hang out in one of his classes. He's been flirting with be pretty obviously, and I guess I've been flirting back? However, today I realized that he thinks I have something going on with another friend of mine (we don't but people like to assume otherwise). He asked today, "What's going on with you and him?" I told him nothing and that we have never and are not going out.
How can I show him that I'm interested in him as more than just a flirt without looking like a hopeless girl clinging onto him?
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ask him to hang out. the major test is to see if you guys can chill and be comfortable outside of a school setting. what are his hobbies? if he plays an instrument ask him to teach you. if hes a video game guru, tell him you want to play a game he has. if he skateboards, he can teach you that as well. take an interest in his hobbies, guys love it.
have more physical contact with him also. put your hand on his arm when you laugh at somethin he says. copy some of his flirting techniques so he can get the hint if hes not pickin up on your flirtations.
the only other thing i can say is to be honest and sincere with him, dont try playin hard to get or any games. good luck! :)
x sweeethoney
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does anyone know where I could go to school online for free by the way i'm in 8th grade please help me (link)
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there is something called Virtual School, but i dont know if they offer it to anyone besides highschool or anyone not in the state of florida. its free and you can still get all your classes and pass.
if not, then youre alternative is homeschooling.
hope i helped!
x sweeethoney
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I am 13 and female. I am sick of this crap but I couldn't be more crazy about this boy... Is that possible?? This boy (I'll call him Ryan) has pretty much taken over my brain. I feel like I'm thinking about him 24/7 but our relationship is so complicated, I will try my best to explain it. I have liked him for about a year but I only REALLY got to know him over the summer, we would talk constantly online or because we hung out with the same ppl, see eachother regularly. He started off by just being a friend I could just talk to... I dont know but I really opened up to him and I learned so much about him, his favorite animal, color, food and his biggest fear. When school started it felt like the only reason to go was to see him ( and my friends of course but I've never felt that way about a boy ). I sometimes sat with him at lunch and we still talked online as much as usual, which was A LOT.
I guess school starting made things complicated. People started teasing ( mainly Ryan's friends ) saying things like "the couple that isn't dating". And Ryan started ignoring me which hurt... Badly... Was I not worth the teasing? I confronted him about it, I asked why he kept ignoring me, and his answer kind of confusing. He said that he was only trying to get his friends off his back but he claimed he didn't care anymore. Then he told me that he liked me alot but he really just didn't want a girlfriend at the moment. Anyway after that, for a very long time, things were fine but now its just wierd and I have no idea why or if anythings changed at all... I could just be being paranoid... He signs on online but when I say something to him he won't respond... He isn't blocking me but he's just not responding... But of course this on a computer so its impossible to know if he's just sitting there deliberately ignoring me ( for whatever reason, I would have no idea ) or if he's not sitting near the computer at all... I just don't know!! And at school whenever I'm around him things seem awkward... I really can't explain it, what I can explain is that its really hurting me. It just hurts when we don't talk, and even though he isn't my boyfriend I still feel like he has a commitment to me as a friend. I haven't had a decent conversation with him in about a week, I really miss talking to him but I don't know what to do... When I have the time to be online, he isn't, andat school we can't talk for more than a moment because there are interuptions from other people or we have to go to class, it feels like the universe really wants to make sure we don't talk at school, haha, I don't know. it hurts so much. Sometimes I feel like it isn't worth this pain, but its painful when we DONT talk (is that healthy?) so I dont want to know what it will feel like if I have to move on... My friends tell me I'm too good for him and that I should like someone who isn't so darn confusing, who will never ignore me, and who will always try to talk to me. And other times they tell me they think we are the most adorable pair ever and that he difinitely goes out of his way to be sweet and give me attention. But I can't control who I like!! And I really like him. He really understands me, he makes me feel special, and sometimes I can't see how I could go through a day without him... Then there are times when the pain just makes me want to give up on him... I dont know if I can or if I should or what. I am so sorry this is so long but I really need an outsiders view. Please help! Boys opinions would be great too! (link)
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Well, if you've never felt this way about a guy before he could very well be someone that youre compatible with. you should message him on myspace, that way you can see if he read it or not, and just tell him how you feel. tell him that you understand that he doesnt want a girlfriend, but if he feels the way that you think he does then he should at least tell you. guys will do anythin to get their boys to not tease them. there are a few good ones who will stick up their friends for a girl, but not many. try to talk to him at school more also. face-to-face time is a lot more valuable then online conversatin. maybe you can hang out with him just you to, so there isnt any distraction from his or your friends.
if he doesnt want to do any of that, then you truly deserve someone who will treat your heart better. i know a guy that means the world to you is hard to let go, but you have to think about your health and your emotions before you let a dumb guy take over them.
if you ever need anymore advice feel free to ask me! :)
x sweeethoney
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boy i like is a man whore. [this might be long]
thing is i've dealt with man whores before so "i know" how they work if you will.. haha. anyways he messaged me on myspace and now we text eachother everyday. he asked to hang out a couple of times but i told him i dont hang out with man whores. my friends have hooked up with him before as well. i didnt like him at first but the more we talked the more i liked him.. i just dont want to hang out with him because then i would just be another girl he hooked up with. i mean i could try and restrain myself but come on now, if you like a boy usually some kiss happens. usually we have really good conversations about like how the worlds corrupt and stuff.. but today we were texting and i suppose i ended the conversation with nothing him to reply back to.. but dont you think if he actually liked me he would text back trying to bring up a new conversation? any thoughts would be welcomed, thanks & sorry this was so long. (link)
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sorry to tell you this hun, but manwhores are nothin but bad news. some of them are just out for sex, but some just like being liked by a lot of girls, so theyll flirt and lead you on to get what THEY want. and since you know hes a manwhore, he could be textin 3 other girls at the same time hes textin you. save yourself the heartache and start to distance yourself a little bit, or just stay on a friendship level with him. also, if youre friends have already hooked up with him then its forbidden territory already.
and the textin thing, i know its easy to think that if they dont text you back they dont like you. maybe he didnt get the message, or his phones dead. dont worry about it.
there are a ton of good guys out there and this doesnt sound like one of them! dont let the manwhores win! good luck with everythin.
x sweeethoney
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so everytime i get drunk i flirt of course!
i hook up with diffrent guys..
and for instance one time i hooked up with this guy and i called him thomas but thats my other friends name..
i hooked up with thomas two times and i enjoyed it so much because he wouldnt force me to do anything. it was the best.
at a party two nights ago i was flirting with this one guy and he was feeling me up and down then suddenly he put his arms around me and i wanted thomas.
do i like thomas? because it seems like i dont want any guy to touch me except thomas?
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its hard to determine if you just want someone lustfully or actually do care about them, especially when youre sexually involved. the physical elements of a relationship can only last so long, then it fizzles. so what if youve already taken care of the physical part, what happens next? so i say you hang out with him sober, talk to him, go do somethin he likes. if you can hang out with him without having sex with him and you still think you like him, then its gravy. :)
x sweeethoney
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ok so my boyfriend is like 5'7 he weighs like 220 pounds.. he doesnt have a gut or anything but hes thick.. hes a football player and he works out all the time.. is 220 bad for his height with all those in consideration!? (link)
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if he doesnt have a gut and hes a football player that works out all the time, its probably all muscle. muscles weighs more than fat so thats what probably gives him that number and the thick look. dont worry about it, hes good!
x sweeethoney
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ok so me and my boyfriend broke up and im over him in a romantic way but i still wanna be friends he hasnt talked to me sine we broke up but i wanna talk and i wanna be friends
how do i do that without seeming needy and desprate like i want him back because i dnt
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its pretty hard to be friends with someone after youve broken up with him. just be simple and honest, dont get wordy. tell him that you still value your friendship, and even though you are no longer interested romantically that you still want to be friends and be able to chill no worries. he should understand as long as you dont beg him or get emotional, guys dont really know what to do in those situations besides be an ass. goodluck :)
x sweeethoney
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I have heard that there is a tiny lady on display at the fair grounds and that she is kept in a small area. People have said that she looks really angry. Do you think she is paid to put on an act or is she being mistreated? Why hasn't anyone reported this to the police, it soudnds horrible! (link)
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ive seen the lady before at the south florida fair grounds and she definitely doesnt look like the happiest person alive. she might just hate her job, or they may be mistreating her. you can start by writing to the people who run the fair wherever you are and ask them about her, or look her up on the internet. you could make a different.
x sweeethoney
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Let's just say "Sally" and "Bob"..
Well Sally has a boyfriend and her boyfriend don't like me.. Well over the days.. he told Sally that i texted him saying "im bored" and "Your hot"!
and Sally just texted me out of no where "I FREAKING HATE YOU!!!!" and that i need to leave her and her boyfriend alone! and i dont even know what i did untell a little birdy told me today that he told her that i texted him that stuff! so now she is mad at me and the little birdy asked her if she was mad at me because i didnt do it and she said "yeah because Bob would never lie to me and make me sad" and blah blah blah! so i dont know anymore!
It's like...
Just because you (Bob) don't like me,, that doesnt mean that me and Sally can not be friends.. so he just wants us to fight and not to be friends i guess.. because Supposebly i like him! HAHAHA NOOOTTTT!!! and i tried to tell her that i never texted him and that i don't like him but she believes her boyfriend! so whatever.. she thought that he wouldn't lie to her.. well he just did! and if i did text him then he would know my number (BUT HE DON'T) haha!
And i would NEVER hurt her because she "was" my friend and i don't even like her boyfriend and i never will.. but i guess she don't believe me..
so now she is saying that i'm not a true friend and that she should of known before that i was not a true friend and blah blah blah!
And Sally was one of my best friends but i dont know what to do because i've tried to tell her that i didnt do it!
what do i do?? (link)
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i think that everyone has been in a situation like this where a friend picks another friend, or in this case a boyfriend over you. basically, you need to tell her that if she does or ever did consider you a friend, she needs to let you sit down with her and talk to her. tell her that you considered her one of your best friends and you would never ever ever try to break her and her boyfriend apart. all you can do is hope she understands, and if she doesnt you dont need a friend like her anyways. hope everything works out in your favor:)
x sweeethoney
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