Well I'll explain this as short as I think I can. At the beginning of the year was a huge nerd. EVERYONE hated me for no reason. I finally got a couple of friends, and since they were kinda popular they changed my look a little bit. Then I got a boyfriend. He was sweet and he loving! But then everything started goin down hill. One day my friends got mad at me because I was telling someone one of her "secret" (because she had already said it was ok if I tell people) but anyways she got mad and to give pay back she wasted her food all over my clothes. Then the next day she asked if I wanted to be her friend again and I told her no. So she got mad again and she got me back by telling my boyfriend that u was cheating on him with his best friend. I told him I didnt buy apperently his friend was in the plan too because he also told my boyfriend that I was dating him. I now I'm back to where I started and I'm a complete nerd again. I don't know what to do but I can't keep letting them spill stuff on me and calling me names and putting mean notes in my locker. I've told the princpal twice but after they get suspended they are still picking in me. What to I do?
What you're doing is you're letting someone else change you.
There is nothing wrong with being a nerd. Nerds are the ones who get jobs. Nerds are the ones who have a bad time of it in high school but have all the money during their adult life.
Nerds are the managers/bosses of this world.
You know, you don't have to conform to societies pressures of what it thinks a teenager 'should' be like. I think if the principal isn't doing anything about it, then you need to tell some other adult who will.
But by far the best way you can do this is by sticking up for yourself. In the adult world, you can't really go running to someone if someone slightly picks upon you. If you learn to be a little more assertive, then it'll make you a stronger person, and you'll be a nerd-yourself-and people will respect you for it.
Honestly, as you get closer to serious exams, teachers don't have the time to be dealing with tittle tattle, and neither do you! Sure, teachers will help you if you're being bullied, but it requires something from you as well. Check out online 'How to be assertive'.
I think when you're a teen, you're still trying to find out who you really are. Are you a nerd? Are you one of these with a boyfriend every week? Once you find out who you are, you can play to your strengths. As you get older, doing well in exams and being this 'nerd' that you seem to dislike the image of at the moment, will seem quite cool.
Plan of action:
Tell a parent/adult if the bullying gets any worse
Learn how to be more assertive-everyone gets picked on by the way, its just it may not seem like it, because others deal with it differently.
Focus on your studies-otherwise in 10 years time when you're not doing the career you want to, you'll regret it.
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i am 15 year old female from india. in india there are cultural restrictions in society. yet i got driven away and sent 2 bikini pics to my bf by mail. but my x who had dumped me hacked my mail and saw them n also read our naughty chat. now since someone other than my future husband has seen me i feel like i am a slut and i can even be sold for money and sex. i posted this on a confession page n replies were that i am a slut. i do view porn. what am i?
You're not a slut.
In England, a slut is a girl who sleeps with lots of different men. You havn't done that.
Don't listen to what people tell you on Confessional websites-they don't even know you. As bad as it sounds, they actually like being nasty to people like you and taking advantage. Some people who answer questions on here are also like that-nasty because it makes them feel better.
I'm not like that though. I think that it is natural for any teenager to view porn-in this day and age when society is so secretive about sex, it's one of the only places people can find answers to their questions.
Partiularly in your culture, you're kept in the dark about a lot of things surrounding sex, because of the whole 'marriage should be permanent' thing.
I think you shouldn't worry.
Try to limit watching the porn because its not that healthy. You want to solve this? The best way is just to not do it again.
Your ex can't erase what he saw from his memory, but you can move forward from this. It's worse for your ex-why would he hack your email account in the first place?
He had no right to do that. Keep smiling :)
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i am 13 and i know it sounds dumb but i have had a crush on this guy for three years, anyway, i reay likehim ad idon't know if he likes me, sometimes i catch him looking over at me, we talk to each other alot and when i walk by his frieds always stare at me ad bug him. Does this mean he likes me? thanks in advance for your help :)
Usually if you think he does, then he does-girls have intuition like that.
But I know its hard, but try not to get sucked up with the relationships thing too much. You're in an important part of your school career-focus on your education :)
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Му friend told ме she throws up to lose weight,she's 13,female. But now she told ме she threw up after eating lunch about twice then about a hour later she made herself throw up again,then a hour later again and after that again then she ate supper and then threw up again. Is this even possible? Му main question is,can чou throw up on a empty stomach? Like a few hours later after eating can чou make yourself throw up? Or can чou only make yourself throw up straight after eating? Thanks xx
Listen, I've had bulimia before and its horrible-I think your friend needs to go to the doctor pronto.
Don't you copy her. By forcing yourself to throw up, you can die. This is because your stomach contains little cells with oxygen in them, and if you throw too many up, you could be short of breath-even leading to a cardiac arrest. This is what doctors told me by the way.
And yes you can throw up on an empty stomach-this is what I'm saying, once all food has gone, its water, abit of hydrochloric acid from your stomach lining and these crucial oxygen cells.
If you want to die, then throw up. If you don't, you need to find a healthier exercise regime.
It's a life threatening habit to get into, and your friend needs help. So help her first.
I'm guessing if you want to lose weight you already have self esteem issues. So by helping her, this will help your confidence too.
As for yourself, you're 13. Most likely any weight you need to lose will be lost as you're body starts to develop into a curvy figure. There are also things like playing on the Wii fit or cycling you could do.
At 13 though, consult a physision if you want to lose weight-being so conscious about your body at such a young age may mean you also need counselling to improve your self esteem.
But yeh help your friend first-she's the one with a potentially life threatening illness-and that's not according to me, that's according to doctors.
Please let me know how you get on & if my advice helped you.
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i know 4K doesnt sound like much but im a unemployed 15yr old girl. i want the money for 2 things to fix up my car and a trip im going on next year.
can you please list some supper fun jobs, or jobs online a teen can have? i dont want to babysit or mow lawns or anything like that.
thank you for any ideas :)
You can't afford to be picky! If you're like 'oh I wont do this and I wont do that', you WILL NOT GET A JOB!
So change your attitude before you start looking:
1) Babysitting may not be what you want to do when you're older, but anything is better to start you off-you need any experience to put on CV's
2) 'Supper fun' -super fun? I'm sorry, but the way unemployment is at the moment-you'll be lucky to get anything. Graduates, qualified for their dream job, can't get that job. Don't look for a fun job, look for something you'll be able to do. I do a paper round, and sure, I hate it, but hey its better than sitting around looking for my 'dream job' and earning no money.
3)I'm 17, and there isn't much out there for people under 18 at all. Which is why you have to be smart. How about being a 'secret shopper'. They always need people who don't look obvious to do this, and it pays quite well.
You could try and get yourself a paper round. You could be a hair model, or sometimes people pay online for you do complete surveys.
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i am 10 and have started masturbating does that mean i will start my period soon
You're ten? The rules say you're not supposed to be on this site!
You broke the rules,so why should we help you?
Also, if you have to be over 10 what does that tell you? It tells you you're too young to even think about this yet!
Signs your period is coming are:
Pubic hair growth
Hips get wider
Thighs may get larger
Generally look more curvy
Breasts begin to grow
You may get sweaty a lot easier.
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because of my belly button fetish i force my innie out because of the pleasure,if i get a syringe,could i put it through the middle.i have already been right through anyway,would i have to fill it with water.i do not know how to do it that waynor does my husband, he loves it also.
Ok. Fine. But you've not asked for any advice!!
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Today is Thursday. On Monday I got a belly piercing for my 18th birthday. Idk if that has anything to do with it, but all day today I've been feeling extreme fatigue and both my arms have severe aching. If my arms didnt ache so much idk if I'd feel tired.. The a achiness started in my bicep areas and then spread throughout my arms and hands. My hands feel numb. I am a healthy 18 year old girl and I haven't lifted weights or done push-ups in a week. But I have been doing daily squats this week.. I usually stretch my arms out in front of me while doing my daily 100 squats. Could this be the cause? Could my piercing have anything to do with it? I researched this problem and so many sites said MS and arthritis. I am nervous. Help
I'm 18...idk if its relevant, but I guess if we're the same age we'd have the same problem?
I do squats daily to tone up, and yes my arms feel like led afterwards despite warming up/cooling down.
As for the belly button piercing-did you go to a professional? The only worse thing that can happen from that is it becomes swollen and infected-easily sorted out by your doctor.
Also consider have you ever injured your neck whilst doing exercise? This is a main cause of numb hands. I think because of your age its more likely to be something like raynauds,diabetes or carpel tunnel syndrome rather than things like arthiritis or MS.
My dad has diabetes and CTS, and he copes fine with medication.
But I'm not a doctor. So I think you should see one. I know you're likely to fear the worst-and sometimes it's best not to know right? But from experience, its better to be safe-whatever it is there's help out there.
Also consider any changes in your diet. A lot of coffee consumption (caffine) can cause dehydradtion and therefore fatigue.
I reckon you should leave it until Monday-so it's been a week-and then if it's still their by the end of the day and your symptoms have got worse or stayed the same, book a doctors appointment. Ignore what the web says, almost any symptom you type in will come back with some form of cancer or whatever. It sounds like an exercise injury.
Good luck!
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13/m
So today i finally asked the girl i liked! She said she wanted to go out with me. But my class is really immature with relations, and so shes scared they will all be making fun of us, since we will be the only couple in the class... My question is what should i tell her or what should i tell her to forget what others think about us and care what i think about her? thnx for all the answers!
I'm a girl,but had this when I was 14, and its awful!
If you do decide to ask her out, make sure you tell her the relationship can go slow as she likes.
Ignore peer pressure, and be sure to stand up for her if needed.
After about 3 months, it will settle down.
But overall, my advice is I'm afraid to put your studies first. You'll regret it in the future otherwise!
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-I'm 13
-I'm a fine-haired light blond
-I have blue eyes
- I have a triangular-ish face
- and I wear huge glasses :p (I swear I'm not lying!)
A lot of people say I should get my hair cut in a pixie, but I'm afraid the guys will think I look boyish and ugly. :( and that some of the girls might call me lesbian :(( (I'm not, by the way)
any advice?
Ps: this website needs a fashion column
Hey,
There is a 'fashion and styles' column.
I think a crop can make you look a lot more mature, and these days hair extentions are also available for you if you change your mind.
A crop is great at showing off big eyes. I think it depends on your jaw line. If you have a square jaw line like Frankie from the Saturdays, it looks so much better than how she used to have it.
Victoria Beckham looks good in a crop,and she has a triangle face shape.
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Hi there, so i really like this girl and i think its time i asked her out. But the thing is that i've asked 3 girls out before(I asked one of them in a note, another of them i choked and my friend told her, and the last one i asked her out on Facebook.) and i've been rejected all of them. How do i get the guts to ask her out in a proper way, and im really scared to get rejected once more.
By the way '1' is the rating given only if advise is abusive-so you shouldn't have given it to the user below.
I think the key here is to not be so scared of rejection. See it as a positive-she may not want you, but if she doesn't find you as relationship material she's actually doing you a favour-not even bothering, which means you can find the perfect girl sooner.
If she's a good friend then you're half way there.I think make sure she's on her own, and be sure to ask her yourself and in person.
When you ask her keep your expectations low and spirits high, and it wont be as bad as it seems, no matter what the outcome.
Have you tried talking to her friends? Or perhaps trying to spot signs she likes you back? This could help build your confidence to.
Remember, you've put her on a throne because you want to be with her...but she's just a normal girl. Relax about it-not many girls at all would stand and laugh at you.
The worst that could happen is she says 'no', and as has been discussed, that isn't all that bad.
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half, and we have been having unprotected sex for a while now and haven't had condoms. However I am on birth control, and have been on it for a year, and never missed a pill, take it at the same time every day, last week my mom wasn't around to remind me in the morning to take it, so for a week I was taking it later maybe around 12-4pm... I have had symptoms like...nausea, and moodiness, (which I am usually both...just a LOT more lately) I have had constipation which I never get, a nose bleed I have never had before (I've heard that it could be a sign of being pregnant) and white discharge. It is too soon to take a test. Do you think I could be pregnant?
It sounds like you are.
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I don't have any skills or interests that are obvious that I would like to develop. I have spoken to the guidance councillor at a local college who told me I needed to know what I wanted to do before she could tell me how to achieve it. Not much help really. There is a psychologist that can do a heap of tests and stuff to determine my aptitudes but she costs about $400 and it is way too much money for me at this time. Aptitude tests don't really hep me either and those tests deigned to tell people what carriers best suit them always come back with strange results that are always different. Any advice on how to determine where my strengths are would be helpful, thanks.
I'm going to Uni this year, and I would suggest if you don't have an interests to go for a course that leads to a job. Put it this way, many history graduates struggle to get a job. Do something with real world work experience-like a degree in HR (office work). If you do this then you'll get a job because they'll always need admin.
I live in England, so maybe this is true for America aswell,but I'm telling you YOU WONT GET INTO UNI IF YOU HAVE NO INTERESTS/HOBBIES. No offense, but Uni's want interesting people. I think you need to get a hobby. Try something like dance/sports/writing/Guides until you find something you love,and that could give you career goals aswell.
Top tip would be to do something you like but also make sure it leads to a job-after all that is the point of going to Uni.
If you really cant choose, don't waste students/leturers time when you don't want to be there. You don't HAVE to go to uni. Why not get a job and work your way up :)
Whichever you choose,good luck :)
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I am 13, female. Lately, my mom has started to think any disorder that even slightly matches my perssonality is something I have. Last week, it was Asperger's Syndrome, and now she thinks I am a sociopth. I am callous, unfeeling, bookish, a nerd, and socially awkward. I like routine. I have odd beliefs, such as everyone being insane. I tell my parents very little without being provoked. I don't understand normal people, or why anyone would want to be normal. I have few friends and avoid social situations. I overthink things, mainly because I never stop thinking, except while sleeping. I enjoy the comfort of routine and the logic of science, and daedal, descriptive use of words. I obsess over a concept for a month at most, and, extinguishing my resources move on. Conversatin, with me, is often one-sided or nonexistant. I often spout random facts, mistaking what I am nterested in as normal behavior and conversation. I am an atheist, but I often ask myself how the universe was created and what created the source of creation. You can point out my mistakes, what I did wrong, but I am never wrong. Learning is fun for me, but joy, sadness, fear, embarassment are all lost to me, both in understanding and possession. What I ask is, what do you believe is wrong with me?
What's wrong with you is you seem a lot more philosophical and thoughtful than other teens-which is a good thing.
Just because you're very different from what other teens are doesn't mean your ill.
The overthinking sounds like me-be careful to distress everyday for example 'minfulness' techniques-otherwise it could lead to anxiety.
Your best bet is to stop worrying what you're like and instead accept who you are.The only thing you may need to alter is being a good conversationalist-its needed to get a career etc.
Teenage years are all about finding who you are. SO I say accept who you are...and concerntrate now on your school work. You seem intelligent, and when you're intelligent you have to make the most of it, so by putting this issue of finding yourself to aside and doing well at school, you'll be able to still be amazing,regardless of personality.
Instead of worrying who you are, find a hobby to distract yourself.
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So let's get to it.
There's a boy in some of my classes who constantly flirts with me and I kinda like it :)
We've been friends for a long time and we sometimes play around. Like I slap his butt sometimes and he pits his hand on my leg and rubs it :D I'm starting to fall in love with him and he feels the same with me. He's rubbed my lists through my toga pants before, and I've grabbed his dick through his pants. We're hanging out later this week at his house alone and we'll probably end up having sex. Any tips that 15 year old guy like? I'm kinda scared that anal is going to hurt but I want to please him and let him do it. Thanks :)
Age 15? You should be studying not having sex!
Just saying you'll regret it in years time...its a competitive job market out there and you'll wonder what the rush was.
Just because he constantly flirts with you doesn't mean you should make out. In my opinion (and it is that so don't get upset if this isn't what you want to hear) sex shouldn't be put about here there an everywhere. It should be between two people who love each other-what you have written that you love him because he flirts with you.
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I wanna do sex with my bro
Please don't waste peoples time by:
1)Incorrect spelling
2)Making statements not asking for specific advice
duh.
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Hi, just a warning that this dream I had was a bit gruesome, it involved random wounds appearing on my arms.
I searched the internet and all I could find was what it means when you have someone giving you wounds in your dream(like cutting you with a knife), but thats not what happened in my dream.
I just had these sores/wounds appearing on my arm randomly, they were pretty gross, like if you could imagine the skin decomposing away, or getting acid on your arm or something. The skin would kind of tear away in layers until the muscles were torn too and it was like a hole. I could see into the muscles in my arm. Some of the wounds had weird stuff in them and one had foam come out of it when I looked in it. In my dream I kept looking into them really far until all I saw was the inside of my arm, even though it was gross and I didn't want to. There wasn't any blood or bone at all, just weird muscle and skin and random stuff (like if you could imagine a bunch of bacterial circles that grow in petri dishes but bigger and stuck to the torn muscles)
They didn't hurt (I usually feel pain in dreams but not this time), I felt really worried about them, and I kept showing them to people and they didn't care. I kept asking "is there something wrong with me?" and saying "This isn't good" But no one thought that there was something wrong with having gross wounds appear on your arms.
That's about it, any suggestions as to what this means would be appreciated, I am pretty confused. Also I am a 19 year old female.
I don't think this is what you want to hear...but unless you have the same dream over and over it doesn't carry much meaning-you were probably just thinking about something like that right before you fell asleep.
Don't read to deep into it-concentrate on your studies/career instead.
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How can I make a fake peins
What's a peins? Why would you want to do that?!
If youre a guy no need and if you're a girl buy a sex toy?
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done a half sex but yet my periods nt coming
And?
Please ask for some advice-we don't want to waste our time by reading between the lines wrongly.
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my love failure i am going to suicide
No you're not.
I'm curious to know what advice you want?
I wont preach as I know people don't like it, but if you feel suicidal please phone a helpline.
Do it now-I've done 3/4 of the work:
http://www.suicideline.org.au/
www.samaritans.org/
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