Hello, my name is Sam. There's a lot that I can say about myself, but if you'd like that then you could always message me and we can have a nice cup of tea together :D
I am not very old, so I might not have too much life experience, but I do like to help people. I know that life often throws unexpected blows at people, but I am so extremely optimistic. Hopefully some of my optimism will rub off on the people to whom I am giving advice. I am happy to help with anything! :)
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do u know any lyrics or poems that explain this
"we argued like we were together
we changed for one another.
we were honest and we lied.
we were open to each other.
we had a guiding hand.
we never failed to be there.
we laughed and we cried.
we loved and we hated.
we put each other first when we say we didn't.
we climbed to the top.
we tried way too hard.
we did all we could."
i know thats a poem in itself.
but im trying not to make it obvious :-X
or can you reword it for me?
im unsure. heh thanks! (link)
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okay well i can try to rephrase it
we tried be there for one another
and be what the other needed
we tried to open our hearts to each other
and be the laughter that the other pleaded
it was wonderful and beautiful
climbing mountains together
utb somehow it all seemed too thought out
but all we could do is what we did do
I also thought of BUTTERFLIES by SIA but im not sure if it fits it exactly. =/
"We've been to the top, we've been to the bottom
We've known everything and forgotten, yeah
You've kicked me around, you've wrapped me in cotton
You've carried our load, and you've shot 'em
Oh yes the butterflies are still there
Oh yes the butterflies are still there
We've argued by the baggage claim
We've accepted and we've laid blame
We've drank Sangthip in monsoonal rain
We've felt separate and felt the same
Oh yes the butterflies are still there
Oh yes the butterflies are still there
Oh yes the butterflies are still there
Oh yes the butterflies are still there
We've shared joy and we've shared pain
We've shared guilt and we've shared shame
We've bought into the stupid games
We've freed each other and we laid claim
Oh yes the butterflies are still there
Oh yes the butterflies are still there
Oh yes the butterflies are still there
Oh yes the butterflies are still there
Because we came from the same cocoon"
hope i helped!! =]]]]]
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15/f
My family and I are really close. My parents divorced when i was 5 and my brother was 3, my brother and i live with my mom and we see my dad about 7 times a year.
I am SO worried about my brother now. He has a close relationship with my mom and still sort of does but lately i think he has been hiding a lot from us. since he has entered middle school, he is slowly starting to become a bad kid. My mom was randomely checking his phone when he was sleeping and it had text messages to and from this one girl with him swearing (which i don't care too much about) and talking about masturbating, and the girl sent a picture of her boobs and he sent pictures of his penis. HE IS ONLY 13 AND IN SEVENTH GRADE! this really upset my mom when she saw this but she didn't mention it to my brother but sort of talked about the subject of that and i can tell it scared him and he thought that we might possibly know.
today i found out his myspace email and password and only looked at it for a second because it shows if he is on or not but i quickley checked his inbox and it had a threat from an 8th grader sent to him 12 days ago that said "i'm gonna f*ck you up" i am near tears right now and i am extremely worried about him. i don't want to tell my mom about it because i don't want to worry her anymore...it's hard enough as it is being a single working mother.
i am scared he is going to get into doing drugs and going down the wrong path, as much as he denies it. what can i do to help him? i mean, we go to church like every sunday (catholic) and sometimes my mom will let him skip and just let him sleep. i don't want him to get a bad reputation...i have a really good one and i don't want him to be known as the rebellious messed up brother. what should i do? please help me...i care so much about him!!!!
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i know it might sound crazy but the whole trading pictures thing is so common among teenagers now a days. i know tons of people who have done it and many people don't see it as a big deal. he won't earn a bad reputation for it don't worry.
the threat might not have been as horrible as it seemed, because people always make stupid threats but most of them will never follow through. some people just try to make themselves look all cool by threatening others. i am sure that even if it was a serious threat he has friends that would help him out if the situation got bad.
i understand that you want to look out for him because you are his big sis and you should want whats best. but guys and girls are very different in middle and high school. i think that the best thing you could do is try to maintain a close open relationship with him by telling him about your problems and your life and he will then hopefully trust you with things that are going on in his. teenagers have a bunch of different phases in their years of being young but its all a part of growing up. he'll be okay just know that. and i am glad to see an older sister that is so concerned with her brothers well being. =]
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Hi, my problem is that people perceive me as someone who doesn't try to have fun or relax just because I take three AP classes and I put a lot of time and effort into my work. I only do work when I am required to do it; if I have free time, I will do fun and relaxing things, like any normal person would. It also irritates when people think that I spend more time than I really do on my work--I mean, just because I manage my time well and get my work done doesn't mean that I don't have a life. One of my classmates was telling me that when I go to college, I should balance a social life and school life, already making the assumption that I have no social life and no fun. My other friend particularly upset me when we were learning about Generalized Anxiety Disorder in AP Psychology, for she looked at me the moment our classmate defined it...just because I have a little concern over exams doesn't mean that I am a super anxious person. And the last thing that annoyed me is that my English teacher was like, "You should really chill over break." In a nutshell, I'm so freakin' tired of everyone acting like I work 24/7 and saying annoying crap like that; sometimes I have to convince myself that they're jealous to make myself feel better but it just makes me feel worse about myself. Does anyone actually understand how I feel? Because I really feel alone sometimes, like no one truly understands me. How can I get people to realize that this is not the person that I am? I'm just not! (link)
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I sometimes feel the same way because i am ahead in a few of my classes and my classmates seem to think i am some kind of alien person. I don't think that it is fair that people make assumptions when they don't know anything about the person. I guess it is just human nature to think that about people but i for one know that being in a bunch of hard or AP classes doesn't mean that you are some kind of genius that has no social life, it just means that you know what you want and take an initiative to work towards it. I think there will always be people annoying you about this or that, and as long as your close friends know the real you and who you really are, then everyone else's opinion shouldn't matter. Just let your fun happy side shine through and let everyone else think what they want. I am sure though that eventually people will see that you aren't just a smart mind and that you do have a free spirit as well.
hope i helped =]
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16/F
If you could really help me that would be amazing, cause i have really hit rock bottom.
Okay so im a freshman in high school, and over the summer i met a Junior that goes to my school. We had a thing over the summer (2007), and well into the school year. We would hang out and hook up and everything seemed great. Before him i was in very serious relationship for about a year 1/2. When i met this other guy he was about the only one who i let myself open up to. Well at homecoming everything changed and he told me he didn't want to fool around anymore and that since we wern't even dating it wasn't like we were breaking up. I got really hurt and cryed all night. After that night me and him never talked, and eventually never talked... ever and would occasionally would see each other in the hallways. Well its been that way for about 3 or 4 months. I eventually became really good friends with his best friend, and he likes me and i kinda like him, but i dont have all the feelings im looking for. He asked me to prom, and we went 2 days ago. Well my "he" was there, and we all danced and everything, i had a lot of fun and we talked a WHOLE lot. We have been texting a lot and he told me that my hair looked good, and we should go shopping, and today a bunch of our friends went to lunch including me and him, and he said that being in the car with me and everyone and how nice it was today that it reminded him of summer and how we all hung out..... I don't really know what to make of everything because i still like him... a lot, and everytime im around him im afraid to say the wrong thing and i get butterflys in my stomach. I just don't know if he likes me again, if theres even a little chance, and i don't want to get my hopes up, getting all exicted he likes me again only to find out he dosen't and i was over reacting over exictment. i just need some help. If you cant help me understand any of this that would be great. please.
Thanks C:
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Well i hope i can help.
I think that you should just stay on a friendly level with him for now. I know that you still have feelings for him and its really hard to let that go even after many months. But you are right to want to protect yourself. Just try not to be nervous around him as hard as it may seem. What i mean is you should always try to be yourself and don't change anything about who you are. I am sure that you are a great and amazingly fun person to hang out with. I think that since you haven't spoken to him for so long then its important to rebuild that friendship that you once had. I think people can change a lot in the course of many months and maybe you guys can start over since you obviously aren't the same people anymore. Don't expect him to like you back but don't be afraid to go for it. I know heartbreak all too well and I have had so much of it, but the thing i learned is that when you are happy, then no matter what happens you will not be defeated. I hope that this turns out well for you, but if it doesn't work out then you will be okay. Just don't let anything bring you down, no matter what happens you will have learned something from this. I am going through some issues with a guy i like too right now. But I think that you should just be you, maybe flirt a little, because it works, and if he still doesn't like you after all of this, then he really isn't worth it. I know you probably hear this advice all the time but i think it's true.
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your welcome i was glad to help =]]
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everytime i sign on aim from my cell, it signs me on, then signs me off and says my time has expired, but i can sign right back on, and the same thing happens again. why is this? (link)
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how dumb
i say you go to your service provider,
or if that doesn't work then just throw your phone on the floor and smash it till it breaks.
jk
but yea go ask verizon, cingular, or whatever company it is that you subscribe to because im pretty sure this isnt something that you can fix on your own
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i really love fashion and clothes and someday would like a career in that area. what are some jobs? and is it hard getting a job in fashion?
i don't think i'm really talented enough to be a designer and it's hard to even get recognized as one, so anything other than that. (link)
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you're just like me i love fashion design =D
well ive heard of fashion merchandising but im not quite sure what it is
or you could work for an already existing fashion company that way you wouldnt be the head designer
or you could work for me! haha jk im no designer, i wish tho =]
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whats this mean? i have never heard this phraze.
"nam myoho renge kyo" (link)
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This is the rhythm of the universe that exists in all living things. I know an astronaut who actually went into space and when he came back he heard people reciting this phrase repetitively and said "wow its amazing that i heard this same noise in outer space". The phrase translates to "Devotion to the mystic law of cause and effect through sound". By repeating the phrase you unleash your potential and destroy your negative thoughts allowing you to accomplish anything. It may seem unbelievable that a few simple words can change your life but through this you really learn to appreciate your life and love yourself.
if you want to learn more just go here:
http://www.sgi.org/buddhism/practice/nam-myoho-renge-kyo.html
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A man who was married lie to me that he is single and said he will marry me and plan to marry me, therefore one night we have intercourse.
Then, due to his personal matters done before, he was jailed for two weeks.
He did lie to me in the very beginning that the case was not a criminal case. In fact it was a criminal case and he was the offender of the case.
When i visit him during his imprisonment, i found that he was married and i met his wife and talk to her for 10 hours, in fact it was his wife helping him to find the victims like me, to "feed" her husband, she provide the account for him to lie that it was his bank account etc..
i loved him so much and he wrote a letter to me that he will marry me immediately if he can be discharged (since the 2 weeks' jail was not a defined time, it depends whether i can get letter of pleading from the person with good social status ). He and his wife both promise me so.
Unexpectedly, after i got five letters of pleading and this guy then discharged from the imprisonment, everything changed , all the promises from the man and his wife gone.
What should i do ? Please help me.... (link)
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i am really sorry that this man and his wife used you. it was a terrible thing for them to do. you are a wonderful person and you deserve better than something like this. i think you should forget about this man because there is a better man who will love you forever. i know that it is very difficult to be alone when you are in love but you will be okay. be strong! and if you ever feel sad just say "nam myoho renge kyo" and it will help you feel better.
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my friend told me she saw some video about the 9/11 attacks and she said they were planned by the U.S. government so they could take over some other country..
then she said theres some video of george bush saying "the planes hit" before they hit?
and then she said some plane left a baseball sized hole in the pentagon then they paid all the people on the plane to live in a different country so no one would find out.?
ok so isn't that the craziest thing you've ever heard? what do you think of all this?
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Well knowing our corrupt government i wouldnt doubt that its true. Sadly, the truth is being hidden from us all the time and its hard to trust anything that any politicians say. =/ You should do some research on it though.
power to the hippie-loving freaks!
screw the government!
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well lately ive been crushing on this guy named joe. joes a skaterguy and is very popular. so i never really hung out with him a lot. so me and him really got close since like the past 2 wks. on monday, joe sat next to me in ela.. he kept talking to me.
on tuesday, he sat next to me again and he kept cracking me up and making me laugh and he passed notes with me and all this stuff. so his friends fred and mitch were sitting behind us and when i passed him a note and he read it he went to give it back to me and i got it but his friend mitch grabbed the note and read it with fred. so 2 minutes later i heard mitch and fred whispering and fred said \"joe told me over the weekend he does\" so then mitch comes up to me and says, \"arie, joe likes you and he wants to go out with you.\" so then joe jumps up and says\" i dont like arie.\" joe then started blushing. then i was like its fine. and then joe was like, \" dont listen to them i dont like you.\" so then that was it. also in the hallways that day, all his friends were like\" joe, you told her?\" and then one said , \" there she is joe\" and they were looking at me. also i just walked away to get away. and a minute later ( i was gone) my friend told me him and his friend marc were walking and marc was like \"wheres arie? joe has to tell her something.\" and joe was blushing and said \"i dont like her\".
extra info:
*after i heard joe whisper to his friends, yeah that joke was so funny arie said.
*my friend asked him monday ( day before this happened) do you like arie? and he said why are you jealous? ( he doesnt like me friend.)
do you think joe likes me? or not? (link)
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well i think that he probably does like you
but the reason he keeps saying that he doesnt is because he is a really shy person and his friends are embarrassing him. Plus he doesnt know whether or not you like him back.
Then again his friends could be just making things up as a joke.
I think maybe you should try talking to Joe about it yourself because when there are other people involved it makes everything complicated and you cant tell the truth from the gossip. If you have like myspace or aim or something send him a message and try to talk to him on there that way it doenst have to be in person. or give him a note. i know how complicated this type of thing can be. it happened to me last year with a friend of mine that i liked.
good luck =]
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So im in my last year of middle school and as you can imagine everyone cant wait to get out. Not only are people itching to leave but there also trying to find new friends...groups are separating and i don't no were to go...some friends hate over ones and everyone has become people i barely even recognize. I dot want to get swiped away in this gossipy situation but then what else is there to do? People are separating and i new this would happen but now that its here im confused on my place. (link)
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Hey i know what you mean
Last year in 8th grade i found myself growing apart from certain friends and falling out of friendships and making new ones. It was all very weird. I assume by now you know what high school you are entering next year. If you dont then you should start looking into it. I had a bad experience where after middle school i came to a high school where none of my old friends went. The thing is you have to have an open mind now. Things will keep changing and after graduation things will go by really fast and you have to be flexible. Be with the people who dont talk badly about others. Try to find those friends who are sincere and and avoid drama. Maybe try going to the same school as these people next year, or if you are trying to get away from the drama they create try going to a different school. You still have time but believe me that high school is a lot of fun if you stay away from drama as much as possible. And try to have fun this year- dont get hung up over guys, or worry about who said what about who, just make this a year to remember. Eighth grade is a great year if you make it one!
hope you have a great rest of the year =]
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ive always wondered this...but what goes on in a guy's head when he really likes a girl? like he really likes her truly for who she is, and not based on looks or anything like that. is he constantly thinking of her, or what? (link)
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he thinks about when she smiles
and how she laughs and just everything about her. if he likes her a lot he will think about her all day. and he's praying that she likes him too. and when he sees her its like a huge rush of happiness and nervousness all at once. basically she just makes him happy. my brother told me all of this haha i asked him.
hope this helps
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I'm in the musical, You're A Good Man Charlie Brown in my highscool and I'm playing the role of Sally. Naturally, my hair is a dirty blonde almost light brown sort of color but i need to dye it blonde for a short period of time...I really like my hair color and don't want it to ruin my hair.
Does anyone have any advice (please, only real experience) about a non-permanent hair dye that will dye my dirty blonde/light brown hair blonde and actually wash out and work?
Thank you :] (link)
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you know those conair machine things
http://www.conair-store.com/product_detail.asp?T1=CON+QC1tCS
well they put in a color which will last until you wash it out.
or go to hot topic and try manic panic which you can buy at hot topic- just get the yellow kind
itll wash out
http://www.manicpanic.com/dyepage1.html
hope i helped =]
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so let me do a little catch up for you guys so your not completely confused. i started dating my boyfriend in september, i love the kid to death. but he has messed up in our relationship a couple times i the begining he cheated on me with another girl i forgave him gave him another shot then in decemeber he did it again with another girl , that time i wasn't so nice about it i gave him one more shot and was a bitch for months. so ive finally been acting normal and he hasnt. he barely shows his attention to me anymore, he doesnt show that he likes me at all he does it randomly. i just found a message to some girl who he said he missed and then she said they should hang out . should i be sketched out ? cause .. i am and the girl is a complete slamm pigg idk if he is dumb enough to do anything, i told him it'd be the end for sure if he did everrr again but i dont know.. i dont know what the hell im even supposed to do in general i dont know if im supposed to be with him right now even or if im putting myself threw alot of shit. and people tell him when we fight "i dont know how you deal with that? " when he doesnt need to deal with shit, he pays for nothing, cleans up nothing, does nothing! i do everything for him and people say and he says " i dunno, me either" makes it even better. im sorry its so long someone please just give me something to help me fix things :(
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i think that by allowing him to have all these second chances you are only going to end up hurting yourself. i dont know if you were really hurt by it when he cheated those two times but i really dont think that you should have to be dealing with this. im sure that he is a really great person and that you care deeply about him but if i were you i would try to let him go. breaking up with him is probably not what you had in mind but i think you should have a talk with him. a real honest, long talk about how you feel like he seems distant and how he feels about the idea of possibly breaking up. =/ sometimes when you really want something to work its hard to see that you are better off without it. i learned that from my last relationship.
talk to me if you need any more help. good luck
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my bf and i had dry sex and made out for like an hour and he has nice tan skin but his cheeks were red like he was blushing. can anyone tell me why? (link)
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well sometimes when you make out for a long time you can be really tired afterwards.
haha its like when you run a lot ur face turns red. its nothing bad
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I was wondering how long does a relationship has to go on before kissing happens I mean possibly every day or once in a while and how do I let him know I wanna start doing that
PS: My parents won't let me go on a date with just me and a guy until I am 16 so we will never be alone out in public only at school.I am 14. (link)
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it doesnt have to be too long. Maybe a week or so, once you both know each other well enough. if the two of you are ever alone at school for example just like walking together just wait for the right moment and look up at him at his eyes and that should lead to a kiss. And after that you could kiss hello and goodbye and in between whenever you like. just as long as you are both comfortable with it but im pretty sure neither of you will mind ;]
oh
well then i hope that you are doing better without him because sometimes breaking up can really help a person. like i was really insecure before and after my bf broke up with me i was able to "find myself" and im a lot happier now.
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okay so there is this guy who has been texting me and i don't know who it is! here is what we have been saying from the beggining to now.
and also jordan, noah, and mackenzie are my siblings.
him- who is this?
me- anna, who is this?
him- do you like apples?
me- who is this?
him- i take that as a yes then?
me- who is this and i'll tell you.
him- i'll never tell you. i do know you though.
me- please just tell me!
him- ok ok, my name is hitler.
me- haha very funny. is this jordan?
him- no, not noah or mackenzie either.
me- oh my gosh, how do you know me? this is creepy...what gender are you?
him- you really don't know who this is do you?
me- uh no i don't but i know that you're a boy.
(i knew he was a boy because my friend called his phone and he picked up and it was a boys voice)
him- How do you know that? You a smarty pants now? And who's phone did you call me from?
me- yeah i am a smarty pants, thanks.
him- who's phone did you call me from?
me- Do you actually think that that's my voice? Why does it matter anyway?
him- Yes i actually think it was your voice being that i know you and as your new mystery stalker i think it's my right to know who it was.
me- I am not calling you, someone else is. Just tell me your age.
him- older then you.
me- Do you know my brother?
him- not really
me- how do you know me then?
him- that's for you to find out.
me- how do i find out?
him- you figure it out, smarty pants.
me- haha good one.
NEXT CONVERSATION- 2 days later
him- Did you miss me?
me- yeah i was wondering where you went.
him- haha well i am still here. you want me to tell you who i am?
me- PLEASE TELL ME!
him- haha, i dont think you've suffered enough.
me- wow, you're really nice.
him- a hint to my identity.
NEXT CONVERSATION- Next day
me- what's the hint?
him- you already figured it out, i'm not very nice.
me- okay...creepy.
him- are we being rude now?
me- well, i think it's pretty rude how you're not telling me who you are!
him- No no, that's just good fun. Hahaha, is it really killing you?
me- duh.
Okay, so that is all of our conversations so far. I've asked like all my friends and siblings if it's one of them or their friends, and none of them even know the number and they wouldn't lie. I've looked on all the websites and i know that they live in my area but you have to pay like 20$ to get the name and address or i would. So i don't know what to do and it's really creepy so should i stop texting or what?
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i dont think that this guy is a predator or anything. it sounds like a joke or something but just in case tell him to back off or else u will call the cops. but its probably just some guy thats being stupid and having fun.
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okay. well me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 3 monthes now. and i kinfof want to do more than makeout but imm scared if i talk to him about it seriously he'll think im a slut and break up with me. and if i say it jokingly he obviously wont take it seriously. helpp. (link)
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i say you tell him that u are ready to take your relationship to the next level. if he really likes you then he wont think that you are a slut. i bet he was thinking the same thing but is afraid you would be mad if he says he wants to do more. tell him seriously. hope it works out.
SAM
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I always get new sneakers for school but this year I have no idea what shoes i wanna get. Any cute ideas?
btw, im very preppy. so i don't want skater-ish shoes or anything like that. thanks! (link)
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hightop converse!!!! haha i bet it doesnt fit the preppiness but oh well i like them. mine have skulls on them =D this is really bad advice i bet.
SAM
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i like this boy. hes 14 and i am too but i really like him and we talk alot but idk if he likes me. i think he does but everytime im like positive h likes me well be talking and he will like mention how his best friend likes me. it sounds like he doesnt and hes trying to get me to like go out with his friend.
im pretty confused so if you i could use your answers.
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well maybe he thinks of you as like a really good friend. like a best friend. and maybe u should try and foret about liking him even though that may sound harsh. or then again maybe hes saying it so you will say you dont like his friend. maybe he wants to tell you he likes you but since his friend does too then its hard for him to betray his friend, you know? when he mentions his friend liking you, then just say that you dont like his friend. see how he responds to that. hope it works out.
SAM
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