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myspace and my brother
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My family and I are really close. My parents divorced when i was 5 and my brother was 3, my brother and i live with my mom and we see my dad about 7 times a year.
I am SO worried about my brother now. He has a close relationship with my mom and still sort of does but lately i think he has been hiding a lot from us. since he has entered middle school, he is slowly starting to become a bad kid. My mom was randomely checking his phone when he was sleeping and it had text messages to and from this one girl with him swearing (which i don't care too much about) and talking about masturbating, and the girl sent a picture of her boobs and he sent pictures of his penis. HE IS ONLY 13 AND IN SEVENTH GRADE! this really upset my mom when she saw this but she didn't mention it to my brother but sort of talked about the subject of that and i can tell it scared him and he thought that we might possibly know.
today i found out his myspace email and password and only looked at it for a second because it shows if he is on or not but i quickley checked his inbox and it had a threat from an 8th grader sent to him 12 days ago that said "i'm gonna f*ck you up" i am near tears right now and i am extremely worried about him. i don't want to tell my mom about it because i don't want to worry her anymore...it's hard enough as it is being a single working mother.
i am scared he is going to get into doing drugs and going down the wrong path, as much as he denies it. what can i do to help him? i mean, we go to church like every sunday (catholic) and sometimes my mom will let him skip and just let him sleep. i don't want him to get a bad reputation...i have a really good one and i don't want him to be known as the rebellious messed up brother. what should i do? please help me...i care so much about him!!!!
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well i can understand why you are scared and concerned about this. he is your little brother and of course you want to protect him and make sure he's going to be alright. i think that you may want to just keep this imformation under your hat for a awhile. you'll brother is probably just going through a phase, he's now interested in girls and is curious. if this behavior continues talk to him about it. make sure he listens to you and knows that you are concerned. best of luck!
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While I understand your concern, it is never okay to go through his personal things, like his phone and myspace. Invading his privacy is not going to make him want to open up to you. Try talking to him, just you and him, and ask him if he's okay. If he says he's fine, don't bother him. He will only open up when he is ready. Let him know that you care about him and you are here for him, whether it's about girls or serious stuff. Start hanging out with him. Go to the movies, invite him to hang with you and your friends. If you get closer, your relationship will be stronger. Only then can you help him.
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well it seems that your brother is going through things a little too fast for a 13 year old. either that or middle school has changed a lot since i was there 3 years ago.
first of all, your brother should be confronted about the pictures. if you do nothing about it, then he will remain exchanging pictures and (let's hope this never happens) they might end up online. if you don't want to get your mother involved then it's fine but you need to make sure he gets put in his place. 13 is way to young for any of that behavior and it will only lead to him having sex and doing drugs at an early age. you can say to him that "oh mom gets the phone bill and on there is a record of all the messages sent, so be careful as to what you send around." or something along those lines if you want to scare him or stop him from sending the pictures.
as for the kid who is threatening him, he might me joking and he might be serious. this situation is for your brother to handle, considering that he never told you or your mother about it. if you want to get involved, you need to find a way of doing it secretly because after a child is confronted of their wrongdoing, it is most likely that they will do it even worse when no one is watching (so you don't want your brother getting worse threats without you knowing)
if i were you, i'd keep checking and watching his myspace. also i don't know if you have one but i would make one and add him as a friend to keep an eye over what his comments are and so forth.
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i know it might sound crazy but the whole trading pictures thing is so common among teenagers now a days. i know tons of people who have done it and many people don't see it as a big deal. he won't earn a bad reputation for it don't worry.
the threat might not have been as horrible as it seemed, because people always make stupid threats but most of them will never follow through. some people just try to make themselves look all cool by threatening others. i am sure that even if it was a serious threat he has friends that would help him out if the situation got bad.
i understand that you want to look out for him because you are his big sis and you should want whats best. but guys and girls are very different in middle and high school. i think that the best thing you could do is try to maintain a close open relationship with him by telling him about your problems and your life and he will then hopefully trust you with things that are going on in his. teenagers have a bunch of different phases in their years of being young but its all a part of growing up. he'll be okay just know that. and i am glad to see an older sister that is so concerned with her brothers well being. =]
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Well because he is so young it could just be the novelty of a new school and new things in life that he wants to experiment with. It might just be a phase because when we get into middle school and high school we like to try new things. I think if you are truly worried you and your mother should sit down and talk to him about it. To be honest though, looking through his myspace was kind of invading his privacy. I understand why you did, but you don't know the whole story behind the threatening message so i wouldnt jump to conclusions.
If talking to him straight up won't work, you can go to his school and talk to his guidance counselor who can then talk to him.
I wouldn't worry to much, but make sure you talk to him and ask a lot of questions about whats going on in his life and if he starts to get out of control, talk to the guidance counselor. They are really helpful.
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