Just your average nice girl next door. Married the love of my life at 24, widowed at 29.
I love cats and sailing and get to the beach as often as I can.
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Age: 39
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I think about sex all the time.....but i know if it came down to doing it i wouldnt do it...I dont want to have sex but i think about it all tha time....im plannin on waitin until marriage...but wat do these thoughts mean? (link)
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you are a normal teenager, going through all kinds of growth (physical and mental). I promise it does get better, but definitely wait.
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I just want to know when it is the right time to tell him my feelings? I know deep in my heart i am in love with this man. At the same time i am scared to tell him how i feel because, i don't know how he feels about me in that way any way. I am afraid to tell him because i dont want him to get scared and leave the relationship. At the same time it is killing me not to tell him. (link)
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I read this one time in an advice column... a girl wrote and said "we've been dating for x number of months, when should I say I love you?" the reply was "when you are saying, I love you too"
get it? It's hard when you care about someone so much, but it freaks the guys out. So just let your caring actions lead you and he will know that you care and eventually realize that you are an outstanding chick!
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my friend and i are gonna dye our hair with that non permanent stuff just for fun. OUr problem is we dont knwo what to do about our eyebrows. IS their any kind of non permanent dye for your eyebrows? or what do you suggest? (link)
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There are tints that salons use... but Do Not do something like that yourself. It ends up looking dumber especially when the natural color shows through. Even if you're trying a new and different hair color you need something that complements you. I color my hair blonde and my natural color and eyebrow color is about 2 shades darker.
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I was wondering what the world would be like with out those loveable gorgoues fur balls called pets? (link)
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Absolutely miserable!! I'm a cat lover... had mine for almost 18 years and finally had to have him put down almost 2 years ago. Although I miss him dearly I'm still not ready for a new kitty. He was my baby! I love my boyfriends cat and that helps... and I'm getting a little break from the hair and litterbox. Someday (soon I hope) I'll be ready to commit to another furrball in my life!
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I'm 21 and dating a guy right now. He reminds me of an axboyfriend of mine that died. He was my first and my first love too. This new guy reminds me of my ex so much. He acts the same, has the same mannerisms, dresses the same--as in neither of them ever wore blue jeans---and I'm falling so hard for this guy. I'm afraid of losing him again. I think it's a sign that I was supposed to meet and hook up with him. We're taking things real slow..and that's because we like each other so much...what's your imput? (link)
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Don't do any comparisons or tell new guy, just how much he reminds you of your late boyfriend. This is one lucky guy, because you'll treat him so well. Keep things slow, like 2 dates a week. You may learn more about him that's different, but definitely never tell him or compare him. He wants to be a special individual in your life, not the reincarnation of your lost love.
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I think I have my mind made up already but I'll still ask. I'm in kitchen and bath design and sent out resumes and drawings of mine. Place #1 called first...i'm interested in it but I don't think I personally have enough experience with Auto Cad and computer drawings but they want to hire me. A couple days later, Place #2 called. I love what they do there but still haven't gotten back to me on it. I called today and they don't know when they are going to know but seemed interested at the interview. I told #1 I'd let him know by wednesday. what if #2 doesn't call by then (link)
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You can always put in a call to both places... Say "Hi there, I'm just checking in with you to see if any decision has been made, because I have other opportunities and don't want to keep you hanging."
This should spur #1 or #2 to tell you no... if it's a yes they'll probably keep you waiting.
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I went out with this kid name Joesph and before we went out I thought I really liked him. Well for X-Mas he bought me a diamond ring! I was like OMG we were going out for about a week. Well actually the thing was I did like him but he ANNOYED ME! He was sooo clingy and he fricken bought me a ring..it's sweet and all but over the top! Well I made an excuse up and told him that I was punished...I just wanted a break basically and if I wanted to get with him again I would tell him I wasn't punished anymore.I didn't want to hurt his feelings so I told him that I was punished. So like I was missing him and he liked me for a while and then started saying how he misses his EX GF!! omg *tear*! She won't go back out with him but still. Well I can't help it and I have been i guess annoying lately and I talked to my brother about it and he told me to back off of him and not be clingy and he will eventually figure out how much he misses me. So for a few days I did and then I called him this one day and he ended up getting mad at me so now he isn't speaking to me at all!! I apologized over and over again I miss him soo much and want him back...I don't think I could stand to see him with another girl! Anyone know what I should do?? Also..I have another quick question..it seems the only reason I always get hurt is because I crush so hard over any guy I go out with!! Anyone help me there? (link)
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Find a new man! This one is borderline sociopath... giving you a ring after one week of dating? That's the kind of stuff that Scott Peterson was doing to his girlfriend. Run, run, run away!
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OK soon im going to Florida. Last time I went was when i was 11..and now im 15. So this time, im hoping to be able to walk around the beach and our hotel resort alone to flirt with guys :)
How should I askk my parents to go alone? I dont want to bring any of my younger brothers and I know they might suggest it. If I do meet someone and we decide to meet up later to hang out..I dont want to ask my parents "hey i met this guy ..so im gona go hang out with him now.." because i know they wont allow it. Any ideas to get around that? Thanks so much! (link)
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Find a way to be honest with your parents. You should have a little independence and be able to go for a walk alone. If you meet someone nice, make light plans for a walk and an ice cream and tell your parents. Even if you really like him, don't go anywhere that's not public. There are too many fruitcakes out there and you do need to be safe, that's why you should be honest with your parents. Have fun in FL... I live near Clearwater, work in Tampa... you're gonna love it!
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I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. lately, he has been talking to one of my best friends on the phone all the time. i know there is nothing going on but its bothering me really bad because now it feels like i dont even talk to my friend anymore .. she tells him her "girl talk" and secrets now...like she used to do with ME!!... and last night me and him got in an argument because i confronted him about it. Right now, i am not talking to him as of today. He also tells me not to call his house late, past around 10 because his family goes to bed...but last night he called me around 1 in the morning and while i was on the phone with him...MY FRIEND clicked through...on his line..at ONE in the morning, when he tells me not to call that late!!! i was really mad. I'm not sure what to do. I ususally wouldn't be mad if he were friends with my friends. But, it's gone too far. It's almost as if he's taking them away from me. He talks to them more than I do now, and they call HIM more than they call ME now. This is happening with 2 of my friends. One of them, I was absolute best friends with for years but we drifted apart after a while, and now they talk all the time. And, the other friend, we have been friends for a while too, and we aren't BEST friends and were not as close as we used to be...but we're still friends..and he's talking to HER too as well. I need to know your opinions on this one please. (link)
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All's fair in love and war. You've been together 3 years and he should respect your feelings... and this is making you uncomfortable. He doesn't understand women, like we women do, and to be straight up with you - they are after your man. He's probably flattered with the attention, but if he really cares about you he'll put a stop to it. He's leading them on and they are probably jumping at any little negative thing about you that may come up. Like they are so sweet and would treat him better, etc. These girls are definitely NOT your friends, dump them!
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Hey my name is Becky and I asked you about Adrian..ha yea well I am adding you to my site...my site name is sExY_LiL_BoO_BeCkY!
xObeckyOx (link)
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Thanks Becky... hope I helped with him. Guy problems are the same for girls whether you're 14 or 40. It's a killer, but don't call him. You are better than that, keep busy and I can guarantee you'll find someone else you like much more. oh yeah... don't call him!
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well i like this boy in my class. He`s really cool and smart and funny nd everything , i want to ask him out but i feel that he wont like me or that he`ll say no and it will make it worse for me knowing that he`ll never go out with me. can you give me some adivce?! thanks alot (link)
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Ask him to do a group hang out kind of date first. If he's interested, you'll get to spend some time together. And.. you'll get to know him more before a real date.
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Ok there is this guy let's call him *Adrian* and we have been talking for awhile. We got to be so serious that I was gonna lose my virginity to him. Well, see, the thing is, I guess we didn't get to serious because we never went out!! That sucked but anyways, I called him last night and he didn't sound like himself so I said 'Adrian what's wrong?' and he said 'I can't be talkin to you' and I was like 'why?' and he said 'I am in a situation that I DON'T want to tell you about.' and I said 'just tell me babe' and he said 'I am in a relationship..' I was like "WHAT?!?' and he goes 'I am in a relationship' and we were really quiet so I was like 'fine I'll let you go then' and we hung up. See through the convo I kept asking him who the girl was, but he wouldn't tell me who! He just kept telling me that I don't know her...blah blah blah. Well, I really did like him, but now I don't know what to do. HELP!! I RATE 5'S!!
~*iN NeEd Of sErIoUs HeLp*~ (link)
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I'm so glad you didn't waste your virginity on him! You've been pretty honest, he knows you're interested in him. You did the best thing, by just saying 'fine, i'll let you go' It may take awhile, but he'll be thinking of you (when his current chick is a psycho) and at the very least you got away from this player, acting like a lady. Keep your dignity and don't call him... hope this helps.
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My "friend" not too many people like,and so sometimes its embarasing to be around her.Shes not a geek or something like that.Shes just annoying,rude and imatture.She always is using me on our homework to.I dont want to be her frined any more and ive told her how rude shes being,and she just comes up with lame comebacks.Shes not getting the hint,and shes obsessed with me.How do i get rid of her,or at least get her to back off without hurting her? (link)
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Don't worry too much about hurting her, obviously she's been hurting you for a long time. Explain that it is necessary for you to close this chapter in your book and you wish her well, but you don't think you can be the friends you were. If she pushes for more, just give 2 or 3 examples of when she hurt you and say that you have made your decision. Good luck!
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Everytime i make out with my boyfriend i feel like he is attcking me with his tongue is this normal or does he have issues??? Can i have some advice to work around this!! (link)
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He's a bad kisser! Tell him to slow down and soften up a bit. Say sweetly "be gentle with me babe" and see where that gets you.
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OK, i have a big problem. well, its big to me at least. I fell in love with my friend of 6 years, and he loved me 2. but someone said that i was cheating on him (which i wasnt) and he believed it and me and him broke up. hes now going out with a girl (i know her) that he never sees or talks to. hes talked to her once since they started going out and thats it. and throughout the year before they got together me and him did the whole off and on thing cuz he kept leaving me then coming back and i stupidly took him back every time. then he hears something that isnt even true one time and he doesnt wanna be w/ me ever again. well, thinking about that i started to get over him. and now im falling back for him, i dont want to but i cant help it. i miss him constantly and i keep looking at my picture of him, and it wont work to stop looking at it, ive tried. plz help! and sorry this is long (link)
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Since he went back and forth and then immediately believed a lie about you shows that he was already gone. I know, it sucks big time because we all want the one we have to chase. Keep busy, busy, busy and try to find a better one to chase. That will either get his attention if he really likes you or you'll end up with a newer/better bf and in the long run, much happier.
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okay well im 14/f and i've shaved my down below area...now wenever i do it again it hurts b/c theres these little red dots and they start to bleed...please help me idk wat to do (link)
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To start with... don't shave there for a few days! when you do, only shave in the direction the hair is growing. It doesn't get as close, but the red bumps can turn into ingrown hairs and that's 10 times worse! Use some aloe after shaving too. Hope that helps :)
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hi ive been with my common-law husband for 41/2 years now we use to have a computer almost a yrea ago but we got rid of it cuz my husband started doing things on it like cybersex with other women ive cought him and that and he use to jack-off with other women on cam too so we got into a big fight and got rid of the computer well now we have another computer with no cam which im happy for but hes starting to cyber againasking women to see there cam and to show there tits plus sending pictures of his penis and asking if they would suck it things like that and it really bugs me cuz it makes me feel like im nothing ive tryed talking to him about it but i truns into a fight now i dont know what to do im scared im lost im very upset cuz before we ever got a computer we had a great life now that we have one hes always on it at night and our sex life went down hill and so did our life too please give me some advice thank you (link)
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He is blatantly cheating on you, in your own home. Sometimes, people are initially fascinated with seeing porn etc., but anything that he can't say/type in front of you, shouldn't be said at all! and besides the fact that cybersex is just wierd - typing to someone and getting off on it? You need to leave him immediately. It'll be tough, but spend some time alone, grieve and then let it go. He will never change.
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There is this guy at skool he has a girlfriend (his girlfriend is my friend) but I don't think that he likes her. He is always looking at me and like walking by me and smiling ( we have a very big school so there are many different ways for him to go) I really like him. Does he like me? What if he does will my friend be mad? (link)
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Yep, your friend will be mad. That's a line to not cross...never date your friends ex's etc! I'm 39 and I can tell you...boyfriends will come and go in your life, but you will always have your girlfriends.
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