Being a teenager is the toughest thing any of you will go through..well except for a divorce or death of a loved one.
Adults just do not remember how hard this time of life is for you.
They forget how important all of these things that you ask questions about are.
Parent do not have all the answers either..they just muddle through life..just like you.
I am as old as dirt..and still have some of the things that happen to you..happen to me.
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ok, my friend he duz marijuana. his dad got involved and had him stop but now he is shooting up on drugs!! he wont listen to ne1 because he is depressed and he just keeps taking the drugs because he thinks they are making him feel better. he alredy had one break down like this last year and i dont kno wut to do! plz help~ (link)
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You friend needs to see a doctor and get on an anti-depressant..if he is feeling so badly it is not his fault . He has a chemical inblalance that he is trying to SELF medicate himself.
His paresnt really need to get him to see someone.
All you can do is try to get him to see what he is doing..and be his friend..he is going to need you.
You are a good friend..for YOu care.
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After I had a child of my own a year ago, somehow I found myself thinking about abortion often enough and how wrong it really is, no matter what the situation. I've become so pro life. Now, I don't know where this comes from, but I've felt this way for a year now and the way I feel is so strong about it I am always wondering what I can do to influence people not to get them. I would be happy if I knew I had saved some babie's lives. Does anyone know what kinds of things you can do to make some kind of difference, besides voting (i'm gonna), and besides making donations (I have no money). Is there some sort of site where ponderers go to get advice from someone specifically debating abortion? Remember I have a baby to take care of, so I am hoping there is something I can do that doesn't require going from office to office talking to political people. I'm looking for something more low key, but that can definately make a difference. Thanks. (link)
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after you have a child..everything changes....
your life your views your world.
However your opinion is your own.
Usually churches are non political.
Have to be careful though..there are some extremists out there..and as a Mom..you must watch what yous say and do or it might come back andharm your children.
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Hello. My best friend has been with this guy for a year and a half. They got their own apartment together in the beginning of September. I am not crazy about her being with him because he is lazy and overweight, and anti-social. My problem is that I am afraid my friend is going to turn this way too now. She used to be so much fun. They always have their shades drawn and they never want anyone over they say they are sleeping. I am afraid I am going to lose my best friend to a boring life of nothingness. I know it's getting to be winter/hybernation time, and they just moved in together not too long ago, but I also know what type of person this boy is and he is just going to influence her to shut out the world like he always has. I think she thought he was a different person when they first went out and she may be too attached to ever get out of it now. She gets obsessively attached to things and I'm afraid she is going to miss out on life for a while and I'm going to miss her, because "my friend is sleeping." Thank you to whomever answers. (link)
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oh man..the change to be like the b/f thing.
Usually it is liking sports or music or things like that. But to gain weight for a guy..No way..no way...that is THE limit.
But if you say anything about her..she will either tune you out..or turn you out. Meaning she will stop being a friend.
So..just close your eyes..and get through it. Hopefully she wont marry this guy.
Sorry I cannot give you anything more..but if you say anything about her or the b/f..she will be mad.
You could encourge her to go exercsie with you..that might stop the weight gain.
PS SHE is missing out on life...that is a fact...all gals do this..do men do it..nope..we are the only ones to do this.
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ok i am 13 and i am a female.i have this friend thats a guy and i like him...the problem is his cousin is my best friend. Well he has lived with me before (because he met me thro my bestfriend and needed a place to live) first reason i am confused or whatever is becuz my best friend would make fun of me most likely if i say i like him. also if i go out with him (he probably doesnt like me but yeah..) he or my best friend would tell their family and since their family is super close to mine then my sister and parents would find out and i dont really want them to know they would make fun of me. in art i am in his class and last week we would stare at each other for a minute then quickly look away a couple of time hehe and out of no where sometimes he tells people that he lived with me. sorry that was so long and confusing but try to give me the best advice u have (link)
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if that cousin..makes fun of you..after YOU all gave HIM a place to live..then wow is he ungrateful or not..I would be like..hello..house..over your head..keep your mouth shut.
In the end though who cares what others think of you..as long as you like him...and he likes you..that is all that matter.
hey besides..we all have been there..we are just jealous for it is great to be in serious like..and we get to be old farts..we just do not feel that way anymore.
Sl enjoy this times!!
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well today in lunch my boyfriend, i duno if hes really my boyfriend, but im guessing he is cuz he told me he wass. i can't trust him AT ALL. he took my purse from me and took my cellphone and wouldn't give it back. i thought he was goin to do something to it, like break it or call people n stuff. so i turned him in, because hes like that he would do something bad to my phone, and that phone was so expensive. my friends say i did the right thing. but would u hate me? he got 3 days suspension by the way. (link)
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well a couple things..yeah a guy NEVER takes a girl's purse..nope..no way.
A b/f is not one..unless he acts like one.
If he did not give me my purse back..yeah I would have been mad..but turning in is like saying he stole it.
did he..steal it??
And if you do not trust him..then he is not your b/f.
and..really sorry..but AM thinking he might not like you now..well unless his parents totally did not care that he was suspended. Then he might thank you.
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in the past my boyfriend and i got into many arguments about times when he was high or drung..but he claims he doesnt do it anymore and PROMISES he wont do it again (he knows i'll break up with him if i find him high or drunk again) BUT on friday i think he was high cuz his eyes were a 'tint' redish BUT he wasnt actin it or nothin and he didnt smell like it so my question is what are the signs that someone is high? so next time I KNOW when he is high and if he wasnt i dont accuse him of something he didnt do? so how would they act? eyes look? All that? and how long does someones eyes turn red for? can u get high without ur eyes gettin red? HELP PLEASE! (link)
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this is tough..most people who do drugs..well they rarely stop for someone they love for the love the drugs the most.
red eyes are a sign of lots of things..no sleep, a cold, and if he wears contacts that too.
But you know..I mean really know your b/f. If he quit..which he may have..he will be acting differetnly. Not as loose..maybe a little more uptight as they are weaned out of his system.
Trust is at issue here..if you trust him..do..if not...then look for more signs.
I know this is hard....lost and lots of people in your postion...at least you are willing to let him go if you must.
To me you are a really GREAT person!
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okay. i'm a girl and i have hair on my....breast area, and i was wondering if there was anything i can do about it. plz help!! (link)
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Do you have very dark hair..is that why you notice them??Most have very fine hair there..i would use a Jolente bleach(to lighten them) for face or a hair remover..but PLEASE..do a TINY spot check first..you might have a reaction to it and then..woah...it will hurt!
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hi everybody! hehe. okay, so how exactly do you get strech marks? and how can you get ride of them (without buying any products)? please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
xokatie (link)
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sorry..you cannot they fade to small tiny white line..everyon gets them at one point or anther..self taning lotion hides them..the creams really do not work...if you tend to get them..just amke sure you keep tha aera wiht lotion on it. That will minimize them
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Ok, I'm a 16 year old girl and I've got this really great friend who happens to be a guy. We've been friends for a really long time and he lives right next door to me. Since the Homecoming dance was coming up, I asked him to the dance without thinking. (he's the only guy friend who I know that I'd have a good time with and we've gone to the past couple years' dances together so it seemed only natural that we'd go together again) He agreed to go with me so I thought that everything was ok... so we went and had a great time as always. Nothing interesting happened (we are JUST friends afterall) Later, I found out that he was planning to ask his secret crush out to the dance and now I feel really bad because I hadn't considered this when asking him to the dance. I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW HE HAD A SECRET CRUSH! Now he refuses to talk to me and won't even let me have half of the pictures from the dance. What do you suggest that I do? I can't take back going to the dance because it's already happened and now his crush hates me!
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oh..man...i am so sorry..that really....
Do you happen to know if his secret crush likes him? Who did she go to the dance with? If you can find out what she thinks about him..without him knowing..and IF she likes him...maybe you could smooth it out.
But you DID not know..how COULD you know it was a SECRET...and if he REALLY was going to ask her out why did he say yes to you..wait for he was your friend.
Well he either is going to get over it..or not..You can apologize..which you already have...but his forgiveness is only his to give.
Plus how childish is tha to HOLD the pictures from you..if he had told about his crush You never would have asked him.
But HOW cool are you to ask a friend to a dance..to me..that would have made ALL my dances WAY more fun!
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What do I do to get a guy to like me and want to ask me out, or be noticed in a innocent way? Also what are some signs of whether a not a guy likes you? (link)
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Can I tell you something..
if a guy is interestd he will ask you out..well most will depending on the age. if we are talking young teen eh might be shy.
Hang aroung where he hangs around be fun and really interested in what he has to say. Be you..for let me tell you they can tell when you are not. If he likes you he will ask..if not plenty of other guys..well unless again like I said he is super shy..then you might have to ask him.
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ok i broke up with my X boyfriend last year for the 2nd time. I don't kno y but everytime i read a story about a relationship tearing apart i think of him. I have a new boyfriend and hes the best and i love him but i realize i miss my X sooooo much. He was always there for me. He would make me feel better. I cry every time i think of him and all the things we talked about. What am i susposed 2 do. I kno i should 4 get about him cuz we go 2 dif. skools now and i never really see him n e more but i really miss him. help me!!!
sry this is so long
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Why did you beak up..wait if you did it twice..then it must be something that keeps happening. Wht is amking you so sad? Was he your best friend..is your new BF nott meeting some of your needs?
can you not teach your new bf how to be there for you.
Was your old bf your first loves..for they are so hard to get over..if you ever do.
every realtionship is different...some are fun..some are intense..some..well you just never have again and mourn them for life.
If he was your best friend..can you not be just friends...
I know you miss him..i can tell that from your words...I wish you could just talk to him.
Try to teach your new guy to be there for you...open up to him like you did to the other b/f.
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What should i do when i've fallen for the right guy at the wrong time? (link)
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oh man..what should we all do. But love never comes at a right time. It comes when it wants to
why is it the wrong time? what is interferring with your realtionsip..unless one of you is married...you can work it out with the right communication.
would need better info..to help more...as why it is the wrong time.
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ok, tonight's going to be the first time my boyfriend and i have sex (well... and other things)
but i'm not sure what to do!
any ideas? (link)
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well..are you ready both with protection and emotionally are you ready?
The first time..you remember it all your life. And if this person is..well not the love of your life..I would put it off.
if he is..and you cannot imagine being with anyone else...please please use protection.
And make it special..like I said you remember it all your life. Where and how..well again..think about what memory you want.
But if you are underage..am so totally NOT going to advise it.
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Hi everyone,
I came to USA 4 years back because of job and now in the attempt of earning and saving more money, I am stuck up here. My family( My wife and my kids) was with me for last 2 years and they went back recently to my home country because of certain family problems. I am missing my family too much. I dont know, how american/european/russian/asian people feel if they undergo in the same situation. Let me know what and how you feel. Thanks. MACHADS (link)
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well when you leave your support system behind..it will be very tough for you.
but your wife's place is WITH you. Unless she is taking care of a very sick parent..her place is with you.
of course you are having problems...you have no one here.
Amercia is very different form other countries. For those of you that come from large famileis which have huge support systems..this is a very ahrd place to be.
So my advice to you...tell your wife to get back to you. No one is more important than her husband.
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my dad almost killed me, i wont go near him any more. im so scared! he came at me because i threw his glasses on the floor. he kicked me hit me and pulled my hair! oh yeah i did have a knife but i therw it on the table and ran!
im so scared what should i do?
Amy
ps: im crying my eyes out right now
pss i feal sick too
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oh my god..call somone one..If you cannot call the cops..call somone tell an adult..tell a friend's parent..if he ATTACKEd you you have to get help NOW!!
child absue is against the law..ok..you have to tell someone.
I hope you are sonewhere safe.
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What do you do when you feel like the whole world is against you!!!! thanks! (link)
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I journal in my log. Usually the world turns around the next day sometimes in a few. after I write it down..sems like half the problem is gone
The point is that everyone every where feels this.
Man it is like nothing you can do will help you catch a break.
I find doing stuff that I love helps me out.
But it is hrd and only thing I can tell you is to rach out to your freinds..and hopefully get you way though this.
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I am a 35 yr old Christian with Christian parents and wish to help my parents financially.My Mom has no job experience, other trying to be an Avon lady when I was a kid, got chased by a Doberman and quit. She's a mother that's all she knows how to do. My parents have raisied 6 children and 1 grandchild, he is a jr in high school. My Dad receives a very small disability check and now a little social security from a work related injury 10yrs ago and forced into early retirement (which is all gone now) He has had several back surgeries and still not in real good physical shape. He has to have cortizone shots all the time just to unstiffen. For extra income he mows lawns in his neighborhood, but it is just killing him. He's stubborn. But now that has slowed down due to the season change and honestly I'm not sure that next spring he will be able to do it anymore. My nephew, that my parents are raising, needed braces, has an upcoming school band trip in February..etc, etc, etc. For the first time, my Mom called us all and said no Christmas this year, we can't afford it! That's ok it's time we (my 4 sisters and 1 brother) take on the Christmas event. I am about to receive a $10,000 commisson check thru work (biggest yet-and rare)...how and how much should I give them? They will take it eventually (after refusing due to pride) but how do I go about presenting it to them without making them feel bad, or depressing my Dad for not being able to provide like he always has. My Dad can't get life insurance due to medical problems and I know they have not planned for the future (life insurance, death,etc.). Since there are so many of us kids, they were never able to set back $. Honestly, I am the only child that can afford to do this for them, I just want to do it right and find a way to make sure they are financially comfortable. Any advice you can give me would be greatly appreciated.
Denise in Texas
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Oh Denise you have become your parents and nepjew caregivers.
how great that you are in the positon to help them.
do they not get money for your nephew? Some kind of child support.
Selling avon is really hard..no wonder she quit...
But is there anything she really loves to do?/Maybe even take in a child to help raise some money.
eventually this problem will have to be solved. If the houshold canot be maintain..they might all have to go to one of your's houses.
This is a problem....and happening to a lot fo people as their parents age.
How much can you afford to give..maybe if you gave them a set amount every month they could budget it.
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Today My dad told me I needed to pack my bags and get out... what can I do... I have no where to go or anything... My friends arnt at home and most of the ones who are dont want to come between my parents and myself... what to do? Plz Help... (link)
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Was this during an argument?? What casued this. you kow Unless he removed me from the place I would stay put. But if he starts to be abusive you need to get help. Where is your MOM? What about other amily members.
You need to talk to an adult how old are you??
can you sit him down now and discuss what amde him so amd as to throw you out?
can you support yourself or are you in school?
maybe by suggesting finishing your school will calm him down
Something triggered this...am thinking of you.
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I got my first kiss wednesday and I want to be able to tell my mom and I want to be able to talk to her about things like that and I don't know what to do. Like what can i do so that my moms and mines relationship is stronger? and so i can tell her and talk to her about things like this. (link)
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well..i would have to see what kind of Mom you have. if she is a reactive mom..and is like AH and startings getting all mad..wait on this..if you really can talk about this to her do. a first kiss..well is is a first kiss..something to cherish..and well re-live...so use your own experience on whether to tell her or not.
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out of the kindness of our hearts my husband and I opened the door of our home to my son and his wife. (Just til they get back on their feet) its been 2 years and they are still here!!! My son won't keep a job and is lazy!! He will cook every now and then. Both my husband and I work. my problem is HOW DO I GET THEM OUT OF MY HOUSE?? they have nowhere to go. ITs been 2 years and the daughter-in-law has her first time to wash a dish or sweep a floor. She does not cook or clean.Does only their laundry(I usually have to put it in the dryer-so I can use machine) they pay no rent, nothing on electric(they use a personal electric heater in winter and air conditioner in summer) or water (I pay for city water by the gallon)they eat out a lot and go to the movies all the time...I can't because I can't afford it. so what do I do? how can I tackfully get them to leave? any advise will be appreciated. (link)
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ok..do they have any kis..for if not cut the cord.
As long as you do for them they will never be independent.
Now you did what every parent would do. you wanted to help them Helping is for a certain time.
As he is not working then...if something happened to you..they would be homeless.
As for them not helping around the house..that is just plain wrong...
Give them a tie limit..stick to it..in the long run..it willbe better for them
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