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Want to help my parents
I am a 35 yr old Christian with Christian parents and wish to help my parents financially.My Mom has no job experience, other trying to be an Avon lady when I was a kid, got chased by a Doberman and quit. She's a mother that's all she knows how to do. My parents have raisied 6 children and 1 grandchild, he is a jr in high school. My Dad receives a very small disability check and now a little social security from a work related injury 10yrs ago and forced into early retirement (which is all gone now) He has had several back surgeries and still not in real good physical shape. He has to have cortizone shots all the time just to unstiffen. For extra income he mows lawns in his neighborhood, but it is just killing him. He's stubborn. But now that has slowed down due to the season change and honestly I'm not sure that next spring he will be able to do it anymore. My nephew, that my parents are raising, needed braces, has an upcoming school band trip in February..etc, etc, etc. For the first time, my Mom called us all and said no Christmas this year, we can't afford it! That's ok it's time we (my 4 sisters and 1 brother) take on the Christmas event. I am about to receive a $10,000 commisson check thru work (biggest yet-and rare)...how and how much should I give them? They will take it eventually (after refusing due to pride) but how do I go about presenting it to them without making them feel bad, or depressing my Dad for not being able to provide like he always has. My Dad can't get life insurance due to medical problems and I know they have not planned for the future (life insurance, death,etc.). Since there are so many of us kids, they were never able to set back $. Honestly, I am the only child that can afford to do this for them, I just want to do it right and find a way to make sure they are financially comfortable. Any advice you can give me would be greatly appreciated.
Denise in Texas
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Oh Denise you have become your parents and nepjew caregivers.
how great that you are in the positon to help them.
do they not get money for your nephew? Some kind of child support.
Selling avon is really hard..no wonder she quit...
But is there anything she really loves to do?/Maybe even take in a child to help raise some money.
eventually this problem will have to be solved. If the houshold canot be maintain..they might all have to go to one of your's houses.
This is a problem....and happening to a lot fo people as their parents age.
How much can you afford to give..maybe if you gave them a set amount every month they could budget it.
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Denise, instead of giving them money, why not give them THINGS? For example, you could pay for the braces, band trip, etc. I should think if would be easier for people to accept gifts - especially when they are going to their nephew rather than themselves - than money.
Say you feel a sort of obligation for the nephew and feel great that you are finally in a position to help out. This way, you are taking the burden for expensive things they are responsible for - helping them without making them feel like a charity case.
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Well since christmas is coming up soon, give it to them as a gift. Set aside a certain amount in the bank and use it as a gift to them. umm... If it is needed at this very moment and it cant wait until Christmas then get together with your sisters and brother and discuss how much to give and when would be the best time and how to go about doing it. You should all try and decide a time that you all agree with. That is the only thing I can think of right now. I hope this helps and sorry i couldnt offer any more advice. I wish you and your family the best of luck.
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