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My friend is sleeping
Hello. My best friend has been with this guy for a year and a half. They got their own apartment together in the beginning of September. I am not crazy about her being with him because he is lazy and overweight, and anti-social. My problem is that I am afraid my friend is going to turn this way too now. She used to be so much fun. They always have their shades drawn and they never want anyone over they say they are sleeping. I am afraid I am going to lose my best friend to a boring life of nothingness. I know it's getting to be winter/hybernation time, and they just moved in together not too long ago, but I also know what type of person this boy is and he is just going to influence her to shut out the world like he always has. I think she thought he was a different person when they first went out and she may be too attached to ever get out of it now. She gets obsessively attached to things and I'm afraid she is going to miss out on life for a while and I'm going to miss her, because "my friend is sleeping." Thank you to whomever answers.
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You could be talking about two people that I know. They lived like that for two years and it's only just starting to go pear shaped now.
You have to ask why this guy wants to hide himself away from the world. Is it insecurity, fear of failure, agrophobia?
The real problems arise if he wants to keep your friend as some sort of pet. Guys like this tend to be control freaks in my experience.
You can't do anything until she wants to do something about it, but keep in touch with her and let her know that you are there for her so that when she finally gets fed up with this loser and wants to leave him, she knows that you are there for her and that she will not feel that she has to stay with him through fear of being alone.
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oh man..the change to be like the b/f thing.
Usually it is liking sports or music or things like that. But to gain weight for a guy..No way..no way...that is THE limit.
But if you say anything about her..she will either tune you out..or turn you out. Meaning she will stop being a friend.
So..just close your eyes..and get through it. Hopefully she wont marry this guy.
Sorry I cannot give you anything more..but if you say anything about her or the b/f..she will be mad.
You could encourge her to go exercsie with you..that might stop the weight gain.
PS SHE is missing out on life...that is a fact...all gals do this..do men do it..nope..we are the only ones to do this.
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Hey! Call her up, go visit her at her house, invite her over, or w/e! Just get her to a place where ya'll can just sit down and talk. Tell her how you're feeling and what you're concerned about and give her time to also share her side of the story. That way she'll have a better understanding of what you're going through and vise versa. Maybe then think of special days where ya'll can just hang out (going to the mall, movies, out to eat, etc.) by yourselves and then I think your relationship with her will grow and things will get back to normal. I hope I helped! Good luck with this! Luv ya bunches! God bless ya! <3 *kAyKaY* Plz rate me and give me some feedback b/c I really wanna know what you think of my advice!
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I think maybe..NOT to get her to dislike him bcuz of how drawn they are to eachother but just talk to her about it and maybe..do something like yall did before she met him
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Okay, well I think you should either talk to her about it or suprise her and do something FuN! Make it a day out just for y'all and talk to her then. If she really is in denial tell her examples of how you have been left out! But what ever you do don't blame it on her boyfriend! :)
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