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Okay, so there is this boy. We never went out, but we told said we loved each other and he said he wants to ask me out SO bad. But then, he all of the sudden got back with his ex. I was sooo hurt, and he knew it. We didnt talk for weeks at a time and then we started to talk again. We've become so close again like best friends that will never be like that again. Then one day, he said his former ex broke up with him again, and now he says he loves me. How do I know that he means it? How do I know that he actually does love me?
You never really do know. IF you want to you'll just have to trust him. I don't think its right for someone to tell you to stay away from him or not because you just do what you want and what will make you happy. Everything comes to and end right? You'll have to either try and forget him or go for it and enjoy the time there is. You'll get hurt eventually.. the question is this- is he worth getting hurt over?
is there a way that you can see my questions,
and reply to them.
theres 3.
I need help.
bad.
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Um, just ask? I'll answer them of course. Or instant message me.
Im Thirteen, and im a female.
Im going into 8th grade, and this
guy i like is going into 9th.
We like each other, but im having troubles
trying to get to where I..trust him
I guess you can say. He's had a past
girlfriend, who im very very good friends
with. And they well.. went out for about
two years and had sex. And Me and Him
just recently broke up from like just a one
month relationship, i broke up with him.
And I here him & my friend he had a past
relationship with had started talking,
and said they still love each other,
but im suppose to not know that, so i cant
confront him or her about it. And he says
I love you. And i say i love you too, or
the other way around. All over text.
We do not whatsoever seem to ever talk on
the phone.
So i guess what im asking is,
how do i control all these feelings of
knowing they have a past relationship,
and knowing they have recently talked about
it. Although he says he loves me.
And hes all i think about..
But where not even back together..
Should we get back?
And its hard to ignore allllll the feelings
that are going on in my heart, or head.
Well going from a 2-year-girlfriend to a one-month is a big difference. If I were you I'd be really scared about him and her. I mean two years, wow, and they might still have feelings? Not trying to bust your chops but its possible and a definite scare. I'm not really sure how to try and ignore their relationship but if he says he loves you and you trust him that should be a start. I would talk to him about it so you know if you shuold be worried or not. Ask him if he still likes her or not. I honestly don't think that theres alot to do ignore it. I'd say just ask him and hopefully you'd get the answer you want. If you want to be with him there shouldn't be anything to stop you. Go ahead and get back together if it makes you happy. But I recommend to make sure he really likes you (like he says he does) so you don't get hurt. And make sure that he doesn't still like his pervious girlfriend. When I have a lot of feelings in my head I just lay in bed with music on (music that means alot to me) and try to sort it out. Its hard I know, but I just picture each outcome and think of the results. I see what is best for me and what I want most. Because a lot of the time what I want most wins, but I need to make sure that I can stand the pain that might follow. Hope this helped- I'll be here if you need to talk or anymore advice =)
katie, this picture is so pretty!
haha i love you!
well like two days ago, i met these four
kids (that were extremely goodlooking) at
their house, we went in their hot tub and
played spin the bottle. thing is, we had just
met them like two hours ago & they are like
2 years older than me & my friends? we kissed
a lot and i felt in the end, really happy
& then i was like NO WAIT, i just met these
kids.... so was it wrong to kiss these hott,
strangers ? thanks! =D
Not really. If you want to and you think you know what your doing go ahead. Right and wrong is an opinion. Some people might think thats slutty or whatever but if they were in your shoes they might do the same thing. I think it's fine if you do. Hope this helped
me and my friends are hanging out this thursday. it's kind of a "everyone together one last time before we go our seperate ways for the summer" party. haha. we need ideas because we're going out ALL night. we're going to go cosmic bowling, waffle house, and go to wal-mart. because those are all 24/7 things. we were also going to go swimming at ike 5-ish 6-ish. what else can we do all night? THANKS!
-Ding dong ditch
-Truth or Dare
-I've Never (where you ask a question and everyone has a cup and if you've never done something you take a drink)
-dance alot (it'll keep you up)
-Chicken in a coop
-bake cookies or something fun to eat
-go to dunkin donuts right when they open
-Lay outside in the middle of a field or some
-place really late and dark out and look at stars with your friends (good chance to talk about stuff and just obsorb the moment hah)
-prank calls
-calling radio stations
ok. i have a bf, but im not rly into him nemore. i really like this other guy, who happends to be my bfs good friend. but, i think my bfs friend likes some other girl. im totally confused and idn wut to do. should i try to go for the other guy?
If you don't like your boyfriend then I say you shouldn't be with him if you don't want to. Maybe your boyfriends friend doesn't like you because your going out with someone already (which is his friend). If your single you can hang out with him and maybe get to become closer. The thing I would recommend is to not rush into things. If you go to fast it's all confusing and rushed and really out of place. Plus your bf's friend might be like, "well I can't like her she just went out with him". So I sugest you to go for it if you want too just take your time.
i need advice on how not to be afraid of doctors' needles. i have to get them in a month and im scared of injections
I heard that the only way to get over your fear is to face it. Maybe just buy a needle or something like it so you can observe it and see it for what it is, just a needle. Think that you don't need to be scared of it, its good for you because it helps you for illness. Just face it even if its hard because you will have to sooner or later.
i want a belly button ring sooo bad. but my mom said no. i need advice on how to get my mom to say yes. i also need some tips like: does it hurt, what EXACTLY will happen, and etc. Plz help me!
How old are you? See I just got mine done and im 14. My mom said I can get it for my graduation. Maybe if you have a special occasion coming up tell your mom. Like a birthday? If your birthday isn't soon then maybe ask if you can wait till then to get it done. You don't want to piss her off about it though so don't be mean. Tell her that it's nothing big and you'll pay for it (if you can.. then thats one less thing she needs to do). When I got mine done it was only $50. You don't need to get a really nice ring either because you can just get a plain one for cheaper then change it. It does hurt some amount of pain. For me, they had to clamp the skin so they can have an easier way to put it in and the clamp hurts more than the piercing itself. Its pretty much pinching your skin. Then I was told to take a deep breath in, then out and they pieced it. It hurt 6 outa 10 in my opinion. But its bearable. The guy told me to clean it 2 times a day with good soap, like Lever 2000. They should explain how to take care of it. The only part that hurts me of right now, is when I bump it hard on something cause it is still kind of tender. Good luck =)
At what age do teenagers usually get past basic levels of thought and begin thinking more intellectually?What I mean is...when do they start to form their own opinions,have some idea of what they want out of life,and just generally gain a more adult outlook?
Im 14 almost 15 and I have my opinion on alot of things. I really enjoy serious conversations with my older family members. It just depends I guess. Im not the most educated in polictics but I think alot of kids go off what they hear their parents say. I think that the age can vary from 13- after highschool.
Where can I get pictures on my xanga that are like this - http://i78.photobucket.com/albums/j114/laffytaffy_04/starfish.jpg
Like, not the ocean or anything. I mean like that type of picture, original, interesting pictures. Like there's another picture that says, "I don't need money, I just want CHANGE" (like change in the world, not coins, hah) So basically, what could I type in xanga to get pictures sorta like those?
Go here! This is my friend's photo's and there real and shes really good, check them out.
http://burteen.deviantart.com/
okay, so i really like this guy. i dont think he likes me. like im not really sure. i dont just want to ask him. he says he likes this one girl but then he says he doesnt. im not really sure what to do because i really like him. thanks a lot:)
If your too shy to talk to him yourself, then ask a friend to ask him who he likes or if he likes you. If you really like him try hanging out with him more so you can spend time together. Hang out in groups or alone, whatever is easier. Then maybe if he hangs out with you alot he'll start to like you. Hope this helped
I want to get my boyfriend (age 14) something special for his birthday, but I don't know what! In the past I've given him specific things that he'd mentioned he wanted (games, hunting stuff, etc). I know he liked them, because he wanted them, but they just weren't anything "special." I want to give him something that he can treasure and remember me by, the same way I treasure the necklace and charm bracelet he's given me. But would a guy even want something sentimental, or would he rather just have a video game or a box of ammo?
Guys would want something like that. You can make a scrap book of yourselves, that'd be really cute. Or buy 2 tickets for you and him to a concert he wants to see.
well i started liking him like two
days before he asked her out
and he kept asking me for advice on
if he should ask her out, but ofcourse
i told him to just ask her because
i know how much she wanted him :]
so i'm totally stuck, and i dont wanna
just tell him because thats awkward
and he'd tell her ... ugh it stinks
Then if you don't want to ruin anything try to stay away from them for a bit. 1. so you don't have to see them together and that might hurt. 2. so you can have more time with other people , like guys, that you can might be able to like.
gawd, i like my BEST FRIEND'S boyfriend.
like ALOT!
and they just started going out.
i dont wanna ruin it for them.
but i cant control my hormones :]
so what the hell should i do ?
thanks katie!
Try and stay away from them for a while,maybe hang out with new guys. Did you like him before they started going out? If you did,maybe you should tell him. People always say, "live your life and do what you want" which you should, but you don't want to loose your friend either. If you did want to tell him I would make sure he liked you back because if you told him and he didn't like you then your friend would just be pissed at you for trying to go out with him kinda, if yuo get what I mean? Hope this helped.
i just got a 100 dollar gift card for my ipod and i don't know what music to get. I like a variety of music like dance, and anything pop or rock made from the 60's until now..any ideas?
Try Goldfinger. They are great.
okayy. heres the thing i have this friend and me and her grew very close and we were like hanging out every single weekend. and all her boyfriends that she had broken up with (which was 3) i had to help her with, like trying to break up with them and all that like tell her what to say and then she started going out with this one kid and he sorta like changed her. she basically ditched me for all these other people. and then like 3 days later he broke up with her and she was very sad and she started like talking to me more about it and all that and then i asked her to do something one weekend and she was like all excited about it and then it was like getting close and she just completley blew me off. and if i try and say something to her about it she just says i have more friends than just you! or just like twists it completely around so that its my fault.should i say something to her or should i just leave it be. and should i stay good friends with her and try and ask her to hangout or should i just leave her be? helpp pleasee =]
That is up to you. She might be a little weird in the head and a weird friend but if you want to stay friends then you should try. Talk it out and tell her how you feel and what you go through. Don't be mean about it just be like, "I really still want to be friends but its hard for me because it feels like...". But if you think life is easier and less stressful without her, and you just don't need her then you don't have to. I really can't help you pick because I don't know your friendship so that is up to you. I can just tell you to think long and had before you make any decisions. Hope this helped
I'll cut to the point and lets just say... Basically i have a 'problem' or an 'issue' i suppose, that isnt a major problem right now, but im sure it will be in a few years to come. My lifes not bad at all, in fact theres nothing wrong with it at all, so whats the problem?... I feel my lifes just pointless at times which really does get me down, i dunno why i feel like this, i just do. My life just seems like it should end sometimes, i have thought about self harming and even suicide, but i could never put my parents through that, which is why ive been thinking about it in maybe a few years time. Ive recently been to see a doctor as i dont eat, sleep or concentrate well, There i was told i was 'deeply depressed' which really didn't help.
Now im not too sure what i should really do, just need some advice, or maybe if theres anyone else whos been through the same kinda thing. Thanks
I don't know about advice but sometimes I feel that way. My life is good and I can't complain but theres just no excitement. If that is what you go threw too? I don't really think of selfharm really but at times I just don't know what to do and why I can't be happier. Im here if you ever need to talk. What I do is just try and be around people who make me laugh and be happy and try not to have alone time so I don't get bord and depressed. But I'd love to talk if you need to.
ok so i am a 14/f
and my boyfriend is 16.and he uses substances. since i have been going out with him i have gotten into drinking and smoking as well.i have lost track of how many times i have gotten high.
i know i do it becuase of peer pressure too. but i really like. since i have been abusing alcohol and other substances my grades have dropped and i have lost my best friend. we barly talk anymore and most of my old friends and i arnt the same when were together. i know i have to stop and want to because i know im sick from it already. but i cant and im losing friendships that meant alot to me because of it.
how should i stop and wat should i do?
I'm not very experianced with drugs and stuff like that but If it's like giving up something else then I might be able to relate. I would say just try and stay away from people who have or use this stuff. Really really dedicate yourself and think how mch you want to stop. Try being with people who don't use any drugs so you won't have to be around drugs at all. Maybe try spending some time with your family, in a not lame way. Substitute stuff, maybe chew gum instead to keep your mouth occupied instead of smoking, or keep a water bottle around to stop from drinking. Hope this somewhat helped.
in the movie, was jack sparrows, and all the other peoples weapons swords or cutlass's? thanks
I'm pretty sure they are real. They've been trained and stuff with them and the scenes they do. Maybe they arn't very sharp though. It was the best movie ever though.