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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!

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I am frm India 21yr old girl..i love a guy frm 5yrs n we are vry close frnds from 5yrs. After 5yrs he accept that he love me and wants to marry me. But the thing is that i feel very disappointd he nvr care for me n stay busy in chatting online with other girls on social ntwrking sites and when i said that you give much importance to your online frnds and not giving any importance to me he said that m too possessive..
What will i do i alwayz cry and want him to realize that it bothers me alot..i expect alot frm him as a lover bt he nvr satisfy me although we are in long distance relationship,n the only means of communication is phone,he avoid talking in phone donot pickup my calls..he don't understand my any feelings...i want him to realize that his behaviour hurts me alot..day by day m getting mentally sick.. Plzz help me please give me suggesstion

if he doesnt understand what you are feeling than you need to break it off... you deserve better than that... you are a smart and caring person and if he cant see that then its time for him to go... you will find someone who truly cares and gives you the attention you want and need good luck and be strong

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Some people have said that liquid leggings are trashy. I think they are cute. Is it ok for a 17 year old to wear them? Do you think they are trashy? How do you feel about liquid leggings?

Heres a pic of them: http://mediaext.drjays.com/media/304/350/files/3043506.jpg

I dont think they are trashy at all in fact I find them to be very cute, a short skirt that shows you bottom off and a tight tube top with your chest hanging out for the world to see is trashy not leggings... also I dont find anythign wrong with a 17 year old to wear them have fun

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I am actually 13 but I started wearing a G-String(thong) when I was 10. Is that to young? People say that they are uncomfortable but I think they feel way better than normle underwear!

It seems a little young but its okay you are 13 now and I dont see any harm in it

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im 18 my boyfriend of three years is moving back to england in like 6 weeks. i really dont know what to do im staying home to go to college beacuse for the obvious reasons i shouldnt run away with a boy even thou i really love him and dont know how im going to cope with out him because i went from seeing him everday for three years for maybe two years to maybe seeing him 2 times a year. i want to go see him in december when i have my winter break because its so long hopeing i have the money. i just dont really know what to do right now how to handle it i dont know.

I am so sorry that you have to go through something like this... its hard and it seems unfair but trust me if you are meant to be everything will work out and be okay... But while he is in england with out you remember you need a lot of communication (letters, phone calls, texts, and emails) and a whole lot of faith and trust to get you through... you can do this stay strong good luck and best wishes

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anytime anything happens in our family, my sister and I get yelled at. Our parents are always telling us we are disrespectfull when all we EVER do is talk to them in respectfull tones and we NEVEr say anything rude! all they do is mimic us with rude tones or scream at us for no reason. Today i found out my dad smokes from my best friends father, when i ask him about it he yells at me saying to stay out of his f****ng life or im grounded, now im in myroom because my father smokes, he also had the decency to tell Me that my life is messed up. He constantly puts us down and tells us we are all basically crap and mean nothing to him, but then whenever anything comes down on him he calls us disrespectufl and threatens us. is this just the way all parents are? Do all parents scream and throw (yes i mean throw) you in your room? i am 15 almost 16 and i am grounded from going out of the house untill i get a job, its the middle of summer and i have applied everywhere in my town, even places that arent hiring. I look way younger than most people and I also have no experiance? i dont find this family fair at all! what am i supossed to do!??!!
(PS i am a girl and i am my fathers only child, my sister is my step sister and my step mother always lies about anything that happens in the house while he is at work)

Huni this is not the way parents are supposed to be and this is not how all parents are... I would never ever treat my children like this... What they are doing to you is called abuse and you donot have to stand for that. You need to talk to your father and tell him that you mean no disrespect but you are hurt by the way he treats you and if things do not approve than you need to talk to another family memeber who is an adult and will understand you and tell them what is going on in you home and ask for help good luck sweetie and best wishes to you and your sister

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yes, i had a yeast infection about a month ago an i used monisatat 3. well it went away, now i'm itchy around my clitoris an i'm becoming raw. an right around my hole to my vagina, it hurts an itches. what could be the problem? could i have a yeast infection again? please help me.

it is possible... maybe you thought that your infection had gone away when it really didnt... try using the monistat again and if it doesnt help talk to your doctor good luck

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14/f

I just had my first period yesterday. I managed to tell my mom, and she handled it pretty well and gave me some pads. I hated sitting in my own blood and feeling like I peed my pants, so I took a few of my older sister's tampons. I put them in on my own and I literally danced around with joy when I realized I could survive my period and not have to give up swimming for a week. I also took a few of my sister's pads, but I obviously need to go to the store to get some more. How can I ask my mom to take me, AND tell her that I experimented with tampons? Things have been very awkward between us lately, and I can't even look her in the eye. Whenever we're alone, I'm always scared she's going to say something about it, and she usually does. What can I do?

Well first you need to sit down withyour mom and tell her how you feel... let her know that she is making you feel uncomfortable lately... she loves you and wants you to feel comfortable around her and know that she loves you and you can go to her for anything... its not really all that bad look at your sister she did it... just come right out and say mom I dont like pads they make me feel weird and I would much rather tampons I am sure she will be fine with it good luck

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I been with this guy for three year and he is a real good guy but most of time is at work and the other time is with his daughter who is grown.He move out to live with his daughter because couldn't fine a Job so now he want me to wait until she find a job which i don't think she looking for because he pay everything so i can't get nothing she just did four year in college a master degree and she don't want any job, the job have to go around her hour of church and school of which she planning to go back, since she is his only daughter he never told her no before

First you have to understand the special bond between a father and his daughter... but then he also needs to understand that his daughter is grown and doesnt need daddy 24/7... if he wants to be with you he needs to put in some effort and spend more time with you... talk to him and tell him how its making you feel... tyr not to put down his daughter that will make things worse and its not her fault if the two of you have problems in your relationship... good luck and I hope it all works out for you

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what are you supposed to do when a married man wants you

Well he is married and already taken... if he is trying to get with you tell him its not right and remind him that he will tear his family apart and out of respect for his wife dont see him anymore if he continues to do this... if the man doesnt want to be in his relationship he should leave not cheat oh and remember if he is cheating on his wife with you someday he will cheat on you with someone else once a cheater always a cheater good luck best wishes

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i hung out with my boyfriend last night. he introduced me to some of his cousins and by the end of the night me, my best friend, boyfriend, and his cousin ended up going to the park. i didn't have any pockets so i asked my boyfriend to hold my phone. a few hours into the night i had asked him what time it was so he pulled out my phone and he was joking with his cousin saying how i have pictures i don't want him to see since my pictures are locked. well i said if i had something to hide, my messages would be locked so i told him to go to my messages just because i didn't want him to think i'm doing anything behind his back. well i kind of keep in touch with one of my ex boyfriends from three years ago and he randomly texted me the other day. well my boyfriend was only looking in the inbox so this is how he read it:
ex: hey :)
ex: that makes both of us now haha
ex: so did i haha. where are you??
ex: F*ck me right? haha. what you do today?
ex: your bf??
ex: yea
Now, this is the WHOLE conversation:
ex: hey :)
me: hey. you hella didn't answer my call the other day haha. what are you doing?
*the other day he had called me to tell me he had something important to tell me about my old friend but i was busy so i called him back but he didn't answer*
*he calls me; i reject it*
ex: that makes both of us now haha
me: thats no fair i have a reason haha
ex: so did i haha. where are you??
me: sure haha. in my little sister's room
ex: F*ck me right? haha. what you do today?
me: haha spent the night with my best friend and boyfriend. we were driving around, came home went swimming. what about you?
ex: your bf??
me: boyfriend? haha. are you still talking to that one girl?
ex: yea
and that was it. i tried to get my boyfriend to read the sent messages but he just gave me my phone back and his cousin was telling me how i messed up. which i don't understand. i got really irritated to i asked my best friend if we could leave. we walked outside, i called my boyfriend to ask if he needed a ride home, he said he was going to spend the night down his cousins house, i said okay and he hung up. I'm so lost. i don't know what to do. any advice/opinions? should i give him space? i have all the messages still saved but he said he doesn't want to see them.

This was not my first anser but some one had pointed out that I had not read your question properly and they were right btw the person that let me know thank you :)

Ok now originally I had not noticed the "?" behind your response to the text

"me: boyfriend? haha. are you still talking to that one girl?"

this right here, as the person who kindly pointed out my mix up said, is implying that you do not have a boyfiend... the "?" behind boyfriend is pretty much saying... "boyfriend??? what boyfriend?? I dont have one of those"
and when your boyfriend read this it most likely hurt him and made him a little angry with you because you denied he was in your life...
best thing for you to do in my opinion, choose the guy you want to be with and stick with him... if you want to be with your boyfriend drop the ex like a bad habit... all he is going to do is tear you and your boyfriend apart (as is happening now) and will do so for future relationships as well if your current one does not work out... also if you want to stay with this guy, you need to apologize and let him know that you care for him and want to be with only him and that he can trust you... and you show him this by 1, not talking to the ex again and 2 unlocking the pictures on your phone... if you dont have anything to hide and you want him to believe so little things like that should not be locked... sorry if I am sounding at all hard on you but you have to make the choice if you want this to work out... good luck and best wishes to you

and thanks again to my anonymous tipper :)

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Is 12 to young to wear a G-String (thong)? PS I'm actually 13

Go for it I started wearing them at 13 as well. It is ok for you to try out new things and if it is comfortable and you like it then why not :)

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so today there was some fourth of july events and i was expecting to see my two best friends there (lets call them sue and sally) i saw sue with this other girl who i know and i walk over and im like heey! and she keeps walking looks at me for 1 second says hey then says to the other girl "oh there they are!" and just leaves me.. then later i see sue and sally together and i walk over again and im like heey sup? and they say hey we're leaving and i make a joke awkwardly and they just leave. now sue had texted me yesterday asking me to hang out.. and i havent saw sally in forever so i wanted to hang out with both of them. So now like 6 hours later i see on facebook they're with sally's sister, another girl, and MY good friend who sue said she hates and sally's sister said she hates. So yeah. AND i asked sue earlier today on email what was going on and i know shes online but she never replied.. ;\ and just like friday we were all hanging out and having fun so i dunno why they're ditching me..

let me first start off by saying that I am so sorry that you are having troubles with your friends. It is not right what they are doing to you. I think you need to meet up with them and talk to them. tell them how you are feeling about what they did. And tell them that you are hurt by it. If they keep doing this to you then I think you should go get new friends you deserve to be treated way better than that good luck and best wishes

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You answered one of Ma question about how I felt about Ma ex and I loved your advice I was wondern if we can talk on here sumtime to sort Ma problems out because your advice is so brilliant

Well thank you so much I am so happy that you liked my advice, and yes you can come on here anytime, I would love to help you answer your questions and give you advice on anything you need.. I am always here to listen and I will always do my best to help you with any problem or question you may have :)

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Im an 11 yr old girl + i aint started my periods yet but how willl i know when i have + whats the best advice that you can give to me ?

I didnt start mine until I was 13 trust me you should be happy you dont have it yet.. my mom called it my blessing and since the day I got it I called it my curse :) haha.

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I drept about talking to the guy im totally in love with

Maybe the dream was a sign... telling you to go talk to him... be brave you can do it :) good luck

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I am a 16 year old female. I am going to be a senior in high school. When I was back in jr high, I had a favorite teacher and it was quite evident that I was his favorite student. We were so close, he was like a second dad to me, how I saw it anyway. Other students were jealous that they didn't get the treatment from him that I did, so badly that the only thing they could come up with is that we were "together". Honestly, from an outsider looking it, it would look as if we were dating. But he would have no intention of dating a 7/8/9 th grader which was what I was in jr high. I am now in sr high and we still stay in contact, he comes to my school to watch over some teachers and we'll steal quick glances at each other, he'll tell me he likes when I visit him during the school year on my walks home, I'm the only student that during my years of having him and now not having him that is able to call him by his first name, he asks me for my opinions on his teaching lessons (about what would interest the kids because I had him and he knows that I would be honest if his lessons were boring), he asks me about my personal life and he talks to me about his which is something he never does with other students, the first time I visited him was after Christmas break with a friend of mine and she asked if he liked his late Christmas present and he said "I love my fantastic Christmas present" and she said after we left that he hadn't looked that happy in a long time.
--what do you think about us? more than just aquaintences?

now, the main reason for asking my question, I came back from Creation Festival this week and I was telling my brother about a singer there that he would like so I went up to my brother and was telling him "hey, there was this guy there named" and before I could tell my brother the guy's name, his girlfriend cut me off and said "(teacher's name), did you have to hide to be together?" I was speechless, I didn't tell my brother anything about my teacher ever. So how did his girlfriend even know? She didn't even go to my jr high, so how did she even know about the teacher, let alone what all of the kids thought about us?

Please help me out. I'm wondering if he like, called for a summer music program or something while I was away. Are you like everyone else and think we are together? How would she know about him?

Thanks.

She probably heard it through a rumor things pass quickly.... it sounds to me like the two of you are just good friends it is okay to have a friend but you must be careful with it... if he is your teacher this means that he is over 18 and you are only 16... if people think there is something going on they could tell the wrong person and your teacher friend can get in trouble... you dont want that to happen... so I suggest never meeting up alone or outside of school... once you graduate honsetly you can do what ever you want but til then be careful good luck and best wishes

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My home life isn't as bad as most, ya, I'm fed, clothed, loved, but here's the thing. My mom is kinda bipolar so she gets mad and kinda violent sometimes. Not like she's gonna hurt me but she may throw things and break down and cry. My step dad is always asleep science he works at night and sometimes does double shifts. I dont feel like his family and I kinda don't want to be. My half sisters hate me but there easily delt with by tv or candy. So my question is why am I so bad? I hang out with not so god people, lie, sneak, do things I shouldn't, and write horrific things both sexual and non. Is it genetic? My bio dad was a reckless guy who delt drugs and drunk so could it be a mix of my moms bipolar and my bio dads bad personality or WHAT????????

You anre not a bad person you just chose to do bad things somethimes... you dont have to be like your mom or dad you can be however you want to be... my advice start hanging out with people who will be a good influence on you, stop the lies and the sneaking make better choices try to write about things that make you happy... you can change the direction your life is heading good luck and best wishes

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Ok, well this is kida a long story but I'll make it quick. 14 years ago my biological father screwed my mom and made her pregnant with me. he called when I was two to make sure he wouldn't have to pay child support (which btw kinda stings a little) so I just wanna know how a 14 year old girl can find her dad when all she knows is: he lived somewhere in Indiana around 1996 1995, he has curly brown hair, he got his license taken away at 17 for driving under the influence, and his name is Michael Spalding? My mom doesn't want me to even think about his let alone try and find him, so I'm doing it secretly and I have no money so I need a very cheap way. No one in my family had ever seen my dad and didn't know my mom was dating him until she got pregnant. So there no big help. Can anyone help????

Lucky for you, youre closer to finding your father than I am... My mom wont even tell me his name and she has told me 3 different stories about him and who he is... Yo have his name and the state he most likely lives in so this is great it will help you find him... if you want you can go to whitepages.com and do a little name search see if he pops up with a phone number to call... I went on white pages for you and there are a few michael spaldings in indiana... it might help if you know a relatives name like your fathers parents talk to your mom try to get more info from her good luck with your search I know how you feel every little girl wants her daddy

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I'm a teenager. Last night I gave my boyfriend a handjob. He cummed and a little got on my hand. Almost immediately after, I wiped my hand off on a rag that had already been somewhat used. Meaning he used it to wipe the cum off his hands then I used it to do the same thing. About half an hour later, I was home. I went to the bathroom. Before I touched myself down there I washed my hands with coolish water. Then I went to the bathroom and wiped myself down there. My finger didn't go in my vagina but I did touch near it but higher up, more near the urethra and clitoris. Is there any way I could be pregnant from this? Please help, I don't know what to do!

No :) you washed up afterwards

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I am a near 30 year old, single, attractive woman who has attended a large scale church for over 3 years now. I have not become a member of the church, but I just enjoy the worship and the teaching. The latter part of 2010, I started noticing the pastor gazing in my direction. I perceived that he may have been looking somewhere else, so I would change my sitting arrangements at church to see if it was a figment of my imagination, or if what I was discerning was accurate. Well, I noticed that no matter where I sat, he would stare with no facial expression, but with great tension in his eyes. I also notice that when I stand up during his preaching, he immediately looks away or avoids eye contact. I have never spoken to this man or have no way of comprehending his behavior, or his perceived mood swings. Any Advice.

Sounds to me like he may have a little crush on you, If he is not married and you like him it is okay to take a shot and appraoch him... But if the looks are bothering you then you may want to tallk to him about it... Ask him if there is anything wrong or if he would like to speak somewhere other than church... And remember pastors are more than just church they are just as much people outside of church as you and I... They are able to date and fall in love and get married... Maybe when he is staring at you he is just imagining what he would say if he would appraoch you... Although he can speak in front of crowds he may still be nervous about speaking to you if he likes you.. which is normal :) good luck and best wishes to you If you have any more questions or need any more advice please come back and I will be happy to answer :)

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