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im wondering should i let him go
I been with this guy for three year and he is a real good guy but most of time is at work and the other time is with his daughter who is grown.He move out to live with his daughter because couldn't fine a Job so now he want me to wait until she find a job which i don't think she looking for because he pay everything so i can't get nothing she just did four year in college a master degree and she don't want any job, the job have to go around her hour of church and school of which she planning to go back, since she is his only daughter he never told her no before
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Dear im wondering should i let him go,
Young Mommy is right. A bond between the parent and offspring will override all other bonds. (similar the Masonic Oaths that override all other Oaths taken by the president of this country, your sheriff, etc. . .)
Talking bad about his daughter will only end the relationship.
In today's economy, it would be wise for all of you to live together. The unemployment rate for college graduates is higher than the rate for laborers in this country.
She has a Masters and plans to go to more college. It sounds like she is a perpetual student, someone who never gets a real instead, they get degrees that they never put to use.
I personally know someone who has four degrees in various subjects, yet refuses to use the education in the fields they are trained. She is still going to college at 32 years old. 16 years of school, and no resume to show for it. She will never get a job with no practical experience.
Maybe it is time to talk to your man, and see if you can move in with them. That way, even if she never gets a job, you can still live together. Open up and tell him that you are afraid she will never stop going to school, therefore, never get a job, and he will never move out of his daughter's house.
If he has a bad reaction to how you feel, let him know that you will give him 4 weeks. If she goes to college, instead of getting a job, then you are moving in, or moving on with your life.
Never condemn the daughter. Always ask what you can do to help both of them, but do not be led on. If she does not get a job within a month, take the next step. If she goes back to college, instead of finding a way to pay her bills, he will never move out of her house.
Read a book called 'The Proper care and feeding of husbands'. Then apply the information and he'll be yours no sweat. If you damage his daughters limelight, you will be the one in the dark. Just try and be helpful, if you really want him.
If you do not want him, tell him that you have a life and cannot wait around for him to baby his grown daughter.
It is your life, go live it. The choices you make are no one else's to make. Read that book!!!
Good Luck
Doktor Tammy
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First you have to understand the special bond between a father and his daughter... but then he also needs to understand that his daughter is grown and doesnt need daddy 24/7... if he wants to be with you he needs to put in some effort and spend more time with you... talk to him and tell him how its making you feel... tyr not to put down his daughter that will make things worse and its not her fault if the two of you have problems in your relationship... good luck and I hope it all works out for you
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