i like this guy so much ever since october 30th 2002 and like its been abt 2 years now .. and i dont know wut to do . i went out wif him 6times before .. buh hes wif one of my friends now . buh like were more like enemy's now . i mean im her friend and i want her to be happy buh i dont think she wants that for me cuz i cut myself and like she does too . but at least she's happy i mean i told * dan * how i feel and still . he still sayz i love paulina and shyt ! and i hate it i mean .. wow i kryed so much over him iono wut to do anymore !!
plzz help me !!
xOXo maYa xOXox
Well,first things first....NO ONE,I mean absolutely NO ONE is worth cutting yourself over!!You are worth SO much more that Maya!! In my opinion neither one of these people deserve your time and affection.This guy went after your friend after you guys had had a relationship,which is very disrespectful and shows just what kind of a guy he really is.And your "friend" is not really your friend at all if she is willing to treat you so badly and to go after your ex who she knows you still like a lot.The fact that you and this guy were so on and off during your relationship kinda says a lot.The relationship was probably pretty rocky,am I right? You need to surround yourself with great people who love,care about,and respect you.Then you will know what true friendship is,and you'll look back and think "why was I ever so worried about those jerks?".It will all work out.I wish you nothing but the best!!If you ever need someone to talk to,you know where to find me! ;)
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I'm 11 and I'm a girl (lol)My friend Madison is going out with this guy and I like him (a lot) but I can't flirt or anything cause I feel bad. And I don't want Madison to know that I like him because she won't be exactly happy.I really like him and I don't know what to do. Plz help.....:(
That's a rough thing to go thru.Although it might not be what you wanna hear,you should respect your friend and her relationship with this guy.If you truly truly care about your friend,you won't interfere with their relationship.Who knows how long they will be together,and maybe somewhere down the line you'll have a chance to give things with him a try,but only after talking it over with your friend!!! I'm sure you will find a great guy for you,you're still so young,you've got LOTS of opportunities!!!!!!!
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ok well i met this boy chris at the begining of the year...and we bacame good friends...we liked each other but i had a boyfriend so nothin ever went beyond friends...well a couple weeks later me and my boyfriend broke up and me and chris grew closer...then a week later he asked me out...well we went out and everything was good but then we broke up and i cant remember why but n e ways...me and him became even closer after we broke up and we were best friends all year...well we were friends with benifits gess you can say...but then a couple weeks before school let out for summer break he started going out with this girl tasha...tasha is my friend and she has liked him for so long. well im still in love with chris and i just cant stop...he means everything to me....now hes always with tasha and barely talks to me....i dont know what to do...what should i do plezz help me....i cry everytime i think of him..
My advice would be to have a talk with Chris.You need to let him know how you feel,if for no other reason than to just get it out there and get that weight off your shoulders.It sounds to me like you guys had something really great going.I would ask him how he feels about you,and does he ever see you guys getting together again.Ask him how he feels about Tasha,and how serious it is.But be careful and don't disrespect his relationship by over-stepping your boundaries,like by saying something to the effect of "Tasha's no good for you,you should be with me".Or insulting Tasha in any way.But you do need to get your feelings out there,he needs to know.Who knows,he may still have feelings for you too!!Hope I could help some!!!
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Ok its me again you know the one that is confuse about her best guy friend well i dont know if i should call him i mean its like a ritual or should i wait for him to call me its a really wierd situation cuz his sister who always answers the phone probably thinks im like stalking him or sumtin and i just dont know what to do
-Jacky!
I know how that feels.You call so often that you start to feel like,"ok,am i calling too much? he must think i'm like some obsessive stalker freak".I would give him one call,and ask him to meet you someplace because it's important that you two talk.While you're talking to him and telling him how you feel,mention that you hope he doesn't think you're trying to stalk him or anything,you've just been anxious to talk this thing thru and figure it out.You need to know where you stand with him,and you deserve a straight answer outta him.If you'd rather wait a few days,kinda give it a pause for a bit so that you aren't continually calling EVERY single day.I hope that helped you some.If you have ANY more questions or details you want me to know to maybe better help you,write back again!!We'll get ya thru this! ;)
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One of my best friends is about to throw her life away by dating the schools pimp, im not joking, he has cheated on everygf he has had including me, but every time i tried to explain that to her she just doesnt listen.. Please hel me help her
Well,I know it's hard to watch your friend make what you know is a mistake,but in this case,I think that's what you're gonna have to do!If you've given her fair warning and let her know that you care about her so much that you don't wanna see her get hurt,and she STILL won't listen,you'll just have to let her learn for herself.I know it sucks,but you're gonna have to just let her make her own mistakes and learn for herself.Just be sure and stand by her,and be there for a shoulder to cry on if she does get hurt.No one wants to hear 'I told ya so' when they're hurting,so just be her best friend like always!!!
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at what age should you get a boyfriend/girlfriend? what if you are interested in girls and you are a girl.....when should you tell someone?
There's really no set age for when you're ready to start dating.I think you'll just know it in your heart and in your mind when you feel ready to handle a relationship,and all that comes with it.You'll know inside when it feels right,and when it's time.As far as your sexuality,you should definetely speak to a parent,an aunt or uncle,a neighbor,anyone who you know you can trust and confide in,and who will support you all the way.Remember there's no reason to ever apologize or feel ashamed of who you are.If people can't accept that,then that's their problem,not yours.I think you should definetely speak to someone about it as soon as possible.It's always great to have a strong support system around you no matter what.And holding all those feelings inside is never good!Best of luck,and if you ever need someone to talk to,just leave me a note in my inbox and we can exchange S/N's!! Take care! :)
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i was depressed before this.. but this cut it! i jus started talken 2 this kid lets call him bob. iight well it seemd like bob was really sweet n nice. n then we kinda got in an arguement, cuz he said if we went out he wudnt call me like all tha time, boys rnt always supposdta call grls, i kno thats stupid 2 argue bout but i duno. but then i said sry.. cuz i think i really do like him. n he said sry 4 wat? n logged off tha cpu. so i duno if hes mad at me or not. or wat i should do. n to top it off hes kinda cuzins w/on of my good friends. n theres a game hes guna be at thursday.. shud i go. n wat shud i do bout tha whole situation?! plz answer ill rate. thanks alot,
confused nd depressed
You definetely need to talk to him!Let him know how much you like him,and that you don't want a silly argument to come between you.Go to the game,and say something like "hey...how bout we just forget about that silly argument.truce?" and be cute and flirty about it.Smile at him!It should all blow over if you two really like each other.It's not uncommon to have silly little spats with a boyfriend,a friend,a family member,anyone you're close with.Talk to him,and I'm sure that if he's a sweet as you say he is,he'll be just as willing to forget the whole silly thing! Let me know how it goes!!! Can't wait to hear all about it!! :)
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alright well im still scared haha but i have a tiny little belly button and i think it will really hurt...lol i dont know how to get myself to go in there and get it done cuz i want it sooo bad but ahh THE PAIN!!
Heehee! I know it's scary hunnie,but believe me it's not that bad!! I've had that done,I got my tongue pierced and repierced 3 times,and I have 2 tattoos,so trust me I know!!Haha! It's very quick and it's not that bad at all.I would say that if you can handle getting blood drawn or getting a shot,you'll get thru this with flying colors!! ;) Keep in touch with me,let me know how it goes!!
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My toes are hairy.. what should i do about that? (im a chick)
Just get a good razor like the Gilette Venus or the Schick Intuition,and shave very gently.Make sure you have plenty of body wash,soap,or shaving gel to prevent any knicks or cuts!!Lots of people have that problem,so it's nothing to feel ashamed or embarassed about!
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when u first "pop ur cherry" how much do u bleed??and is it enough to need like a tampon??...HELP!!!i need info about this type of stuff!!!!!
No,typically you only bleed a little bit.You'll feel a little sore,and you'll probably feel the need to use the restroom right after,hehe!You may notice a little blood on your undies,and a little when you wipe,but not enough to use a tampon. ;)
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my boyfriend is moving to new jersey at the end of this month..we're both 13 and we really like eachother but i dont know if i should break up with him..right now we live on long island..but should i break up with him since hes moving to new jersey? i have NO idea what to do!!! please help!!
Well,if it's going to be a pretty long distance,I would say it's probably best to break up with him for now.Long distance relationships are extremely tough,especially at your age.Let him know that you still care very much for him but that you don't want to put either of you thru the hurt of a long distance relationship.You're still very young and you've got a whole world of opportunities and lots of time to experience different aspects of the dating world.Take your time,explore your options,everything will work out just fine!! ;)
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ok i went out with this guy i regret it and i made a mistake by breaking up with him. we still like eachother things r good we r still friends and i want to go out again (he doesnt kno that tho). he just told me how he thinks we should be friends with benefits. do you think this could lead into a relationship or does he want to keep it this way? help. thanks xox
I think it's high time you tell him how you feel!! A "friends with benefits" relationship almost always leads to heartbreak and trouble,especially since you have deeper feelings for this guy.If you allow your relationship to be just that,you're not only setting yourself up to get hurt,you're sending the wrong message to him.You're making it seem as tho that's all you think of him.Let him know how you feel!!!
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ne one kno a store where u can buy "punk" type clothes? my mall has all abercrombie etc and im just looking for a place where i can find my type of clothing except for like hot topic and stuff...they r really nice except expenisive and more gothic. so help if u can thanks alot :)
If you go to www.gfla.com and either shop online or request a catalog,I think you will find some things you like.The company is called Girlfriends LA,and they have some pretty awesome stuff!!!
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I like this kid ALOT but he likes my BEST FRIEND and sometimes it makes me feel kinda weird. i wanna go out with him badly and he has called me pretty and nice and fun to hang around with but nothing else!! i envy my best friend. I dont no what to do whether i should ask him out or keep it the way things are?
Ps. She doesnt like him but he like hers and i like him but he doesnt like me and he noes that i like him!
Well,unfortunately,you can't MAKE someone like you.His crush on your best friend will probably pass,but know that there's nothing wrong with you and there's no reason to feel jealous or envious of your best friend.I'm sure she's a great girl,but so are you and you have to know that!If he has said that he doesn't like you in that way,sadly,as I said,there really isn't much you can do.Who knows what may happen on down the line,but if you hold onto this,and him,you're setting yourself up to get hurt.Enjoy all the wonderful things in your life now,and learn to value and appreciate yourself.When the time is right,fate will intervene and that great guy for you will come along!I promise!! :)
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hey i havent had my period in may,june,and july. i THINK i had it in april im actually not sure.. im 14 years old and got my period in february of 2002. i know im not pregnant im not sexually active..
Sudden weight loss can definetely have an effect on your periods.So can being sick,or having any kind of infection in your system.I would make an appointment with the gyno,or even your regular doctor to see what's going on.They may want to run some tests to check out everything.But don't worry yourself too much,having irregular and spuratic periods is common among young girls,and especially when you've really only begun having periods recently.The doctor may put you on the pill to help regulate your periods.Be sure and let your doctor know about your weight loss,if he/she hasn't already noticed it.You're quite skinny for your height.So the doc may want to check into that as well.To sum it all up:get yourself to the doctor!!!Hehe! :)
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My b/f wants to make out but i don't think im ready.. plus i don't know how... what if i screw up. plus he has a HUGE nose what happens if it gets in the way.. im sooo confused. plus i think i'll feel dirty after. like how could i even look at any of my cousins the same knowing i made out. they look up to me and i have always had the good girl image! AHHH! plus im only turnin 14 and my friends pressure me cuz in highschool everyones made out!and i will be made fun of if i don't know how!
Well,first of all,making out doesn't make you a "bad girl"!!So there's no reason to feel ashamed or dirty about it!!But if you're not feeling ready,or having doubts about it you definetely shouldn't do it.You only get one first kiss,let it be when you are ready and willing.Just let things happen naturally,don't force it,or let anyone else force it.As for not knowing how,we're all scared about our first kiss before it happens.We all have that same fear,"OMG,what if I'm not good at it,what if he/she doesn't like me anymore afterward??".So you're not alone!! Kissing is a wonderful thing if it's done with the right person for the right reasons.There are no rules or special magic ways to move your lips or tongue,it's a real natural thing.Don't try and act like you've done it before,you don't have anything to prove!Just relax and know that this is a great thing you're sharing with someone else!!
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hey i am a 13 year old female and i have been going out with this guy for about 6 months and we have made out and basically had dry sex, but ive always asked him if i could see his penis and he would always be too shy to show it. i was over at his house yesturday and i asked him if i could see it and he un-zippered his pants and almost brought it out. i wasnt sure that he would do that and now im worried that he might catch me by surprise again. im thinking that he would try to make me have sex with him, but i dont know what to expect, b/c he talks about it all the time, but im not sure what to do if he tried it. i mean i havent done and i think its too young...what should i do about it?
Well,if the guy is too shy to let you see his private parts,it's pretty doubtful he will FORCE you to have sex!Of course he's going to talk about it,all teenage boys do!!Just be firm and stand your ground.Like you said,you're way too young to be dealing with all the things that come with a sexual relationship.Never ever let anyone force you to do anything you don't want to do and are not ready for!!You're body is sacred,treat it that way!!!
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hey
i was at the movies with this guy who i like..and well i wasn't shure if he liked me before..but when we were at the movies he jus put his arm around me and we were leanin our heads on each other and then he wanted to kiss me(my first kiss!) It was great..what do u think? also...do u think he likes me ?! Thanks!!
Sounds to me like he likes you girl!!! Go for it,just let things happen naturally.Flirt with him,show interest back.If after some time has gone by,nothing seems to have progressed or neither of you have said anything,let him know how you feel,and ask him where you stand with him.But for now,it sounds like you're on the right path!!Enjoy it,and let it lead you,let things happen naturally!!! ;)
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im 14 almost 15 and i have never had like a real boyfriend should i be worried that im going to go to prom alone because i think about it a lot
I wouldn't worry about it! I know it's discouraging and annoying at times,but you'll find someone.They say good things come to those who wait,so enjoy your life,your friends and everything,and before you know it,right when you're least expecting it,that great guy will show up!! ;) As for the prom,it's not a horrible thing to be dateless.Get a group of your girls together and go and dance the night away!!You can have a TON of fun without a date!You'd be surprised!And hey,who knows,while you're having fun with your girlies at the prom,a real cutie may just come up and ask you to dance! :)
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there is this girl that i love more than anything in the whole world, and i know we love each other. but she has a boyfriend that she cares bout. i dont like anybody else but her. but i figure if i wait too long i will be hurt even more. what the heck do i do
While I know it's hard,you're best to not interfere with her relationship.That doesn't mean don't make it known that you have feelings for her.Don't ever be ashamed of your feelings,you can't help it,they're just THERE!The good part(for you anyway) is,she didn't like,run off and get married to this guy so the odds of the relationship lasting forever and ever,are pretty slim.So you will probably get a chance to tell her how you feel.If she stays w/her guy for a long time,who knows you may find yourself the opportunity to tell someone else how you feel about them!You never know where you'll find love!!! ;)
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