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what are some good sad songs and artists to listen. kinds that you want to listen to when your really down and just need a good cry. (link)
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The Damien Rice album "O" is beautiful but make me sob like a baby when I'm down.
Random songs:
Kiss the Rain- Billie Myers
Winter- Tori Amos
I Don't Want To Talk About It- Dina Carroll
Against All Odds-Phil Collins
Don't Leave- Faithless
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All right, I need help... I went out with this guy for 3 months... But we were friends 2 months before we started going out... He had a crush on me, and I ended up liking him and we went out (like I said) so our relationship was more like 5 months it's just, for the first 2 months we didn't do anything, and everything was going great, or, so I thought... He broke up with me ON our 3 month anniversary, and yesterday WOULD HAVE been our 6 month anniversary and, it made me really sad... The thing is, is that he verbally abused me... He would say something and I wouldn't understand how he meant it, so I'd get upset, and he would call me stupid and tell me it was all my fault. After he broke up with me he got drunk and messed around with this that liked him, but, he didn't really like her because, he never talks to her anymore... Well, we still talked after he made out with that girl but, about a month ago we got into quite a few arguments and he told me I am not worth it, I can't handle anything, I don't deserve him talking to me, and a lot of other things that really hurt. He's friends, that I am also friends with, tell me he doesn't care about me AT ALL... But yet I still care about him, and everything that happened still REALLY hurts... Oh, and now he likes the school slut and thinks she is "amazingly hot" and wants to do stuff with her... But, my question is, why? Why does it still hurt when I know he is a really mean person, and it's been 3 months since we broke up, so why can't I shake this? Please help... (Yes, I will rate high for serious and helpful answers. Thanks in advance and, sorry for making this so long.) (link)
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Boys. What are they like. Well you've spotted yourself that this guy is a complete moron so there's your first step to getting over him. Unfortunately some guys are going to have this effect on you no matter how bad you know they are for you and you will chase them over and over and allow them to hurt you over and over.
It sounds like this is the first guy to treat you like this so it might take a while for you to get him out of your system and realise that the problem is all his and that nothing you could have done is likely to have change the way he acted. In the mean time, go out with your friends and try to avoid talking about him or this situation- it'll remind you how insignificant this little boy really is in the scheme of your life. Just concentrate on doing things that make you feel good about yourself and give yourself a break.
His actions aren't your responsibility and after a while you'll shake this feeling and find someone who'll treat you properly and maturely. Promise.
Take care
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Hello I am an 18 year old female with a rather embarrassing question. My vagina has this weird..... almost like a hanging flap of skin on one side. And only one side. It is pretty long, over two inches when pulled up. I am afriad to date or anything because I dont want him to think I am freaking looking down there. I havn't seen barly any vaginas in my life- is this normal?? PLease help! (link)
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Called the labia. Don't panic, normal. Some girls' are longer on one side than the other.
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ok heres the deal, My mom and 2 others helped a woman she works with, with the after funneral thing for her son who died in a car crash. As a gift this woman gave each of the 3(my mom and 2 others) a gift card to a restraunt. Well we go to use the gift card and there is no history on it and it hasnt been activeated.( we had another gift card, too that we used). My family wants to know if you would confront the woman who spent Maybe a good deal of money on it.(i assume anywhere between $25 and $100). Should she be told that it wasnt activated like the person who did it was wrong and hopefully she has a reciept, or do we not mention it. How would you tell her that her gift was worth $0? (link)
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The two answers would be right in any other situation but I have to say, considering her son's just died, give the poor woman a break. Do you really need the gift card? If not then ust tell her the restaurant was lovely and thank her- let her feel something's gone right. It's just senseless to ask her to think about a giftcard right now.
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I'm a singer, and how can I make a bigger sound/be heard without yelling or hurting my voice or singing "too loud"? (link)
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Try feeling like you're pushing your voice down into your body, work on strengthening and using your diaphragm and opening, not ust your mouth, but your throat. You do not want to be singing from your thraot (if you try to belt singing like this you will damage your voice) but it needs to be untensed in order to carry the sound forwards.
Also, sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but your particular body will have a part to play. People's vocal chords are constructed differently- the reason why people have different ranges- and this can also have a part to play in how loud your voice is capable of being. So train it but don't push it over it's limit.
Good Luck
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How Can I broaden my vocal range, and give my voice even better tone?
Thanks in advance! (link)
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Got a few years experience in this. Firstly and most importantly when try to stretch your voice, as it were, make sure that you don't try to belt these top/bottom notes at first- start them soft and build the sound and strength up or you'll damage your vocal chords. That said here are some slightly unorthodox tips i found helpful:
1) Scream (properly, don't try to make it sound pretty) as high as you can then gradually bring the scream down through your range trying to feel it at the back of your body as though the sound is travelling down a half wheel attached to your back. Singing is, as one vocal coach put it, just a glorified scream, and this should help open up your throat and warm up your voice as well as stopping you being scared of top notes.
2) Use and strengthen your diaphragm. I don't know how new you are to singing so i'll tell you it's located just where your ribs meet at the bottom. If you breathe out sharply you should feel it move outwards. This is when you should be singing from and this is what needs to be strong for you to be able to cope with more extreme notes. Do some breathing exercises which focus on control of the breath, holding notes for a long time etc.(If you need some ideas for exercises, ask me on my column). When trying to actually sing these higher and lower notes, try to make this area of your body solid (it also helps to clench ur arse together at first) while keeping the throat loose.
3)Very simple, but when trying to sing high notes, think "down" in your head and try to feel like you're pushing down inside your body (this means letting your stomach push forwards in a way most girls hate to do, but trust me it helps)
4)In terms of tone, again, i don't know how new you are to singing, but make sure you're not singing through your nose (pretty common). Hold it and sing. You'll sound ridiculous but it'l give you an idea of where to place the sound. The more you open your throat, the purer the sound will be but if you're going for husky (which you shouldn't be unless it's natural-you'll ruin your voice), it comes back to the diaphragm. You need to sing from down in your chest rather than in your throat, which again, will screw your voice over as well as limiting your range.
Hope this was of some use. Contact me if you want specific exercises or anything.
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Ok heres the story. The guy I am dating now *Matt* and I really do love him I have been in love with him since 6th grade I am in 11th now. And he asked me out in 6th grade but we were to good of friends so I said no and he stopped talkin to me until just recently in 10th grade. But after I told him no he was dating this girl named Stacey and they dated 3 years. He says he hates her and everything and that he loves me and I really do believe him its just that I am so scared that Stacey will want him back and try something and then he will go to her and break up with me. I mean Matt was my first love and everything and I really dont want to loose him. Do I have anything to worry about?
(Stacey cheated on him 4 times and he finally got tired of it)
He says I was his first love he just got scared when I told him no.
Thanks so much! (link)
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He is with you. If he wanted to be with her he still would be. Don't create problems that aren't there! And god bless the boy for getting up the courage to approach you after having his little boy's heart broken!
Hang on to him, doesn't sound like you've much to worry about at all
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anyone know the name of that rap song that goes like
yep yep yep
oh i think they like me
oh i think they like me
etc. etc.
thanks! (link)
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"Oh I think they like me or they like the diamonds cause they shine so brightly" is this what you mean? If so it's Crime Mob- White Tee. All I can think of. Hope it helps.
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Hey, I’m usually the one giving advice. I don’t need advice. I just have a question and I want to know your opinion. This question is for deep thinkers. Long answers are encouraged as well as comical ones.
I’ve seen quite a lot of “love” questions, asked by adolescences. What would you call "true love"? Many people have been saying “I have a boyfriend and I REALY love him” and “she said that he loves me” or things like that. I’ve seen these questions being asked by 13 year olds! Teens DO have deep affections for people, but I really don’t think that they are capable of TRUE love. How can there be love if teen relationships only last 2 months or even 2 years! 2 years is quite long for a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, but shouldn’t love last a LIFETIME? I agree that teens think that they are in love (I’ve been there) but I wouldn’t call that love. I would call it more like, “deep affection”. After all, if love between teens is really “love” then they shouldn’t break up, right? I think that teens are too young and “unexposed” to have TRUE LOVE. Even adults. They mistakenly call their relationships “love”. If it was actually love, then shouldn’t there be less or no divorces?
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I think that the term "true love" is ridiculous. There's just too many types of love to have such an umbrella phrase for. Too often "true love" is used as some elitist term by people who believe their feelings for someone are more pure, deep or important than someone else's.
The fact is, every relationship is different and incredibly difficult to judgaccurately from the outside. Not to mention the fact that in todays world sometimes there are practical reasons that make it impossible to stay together. Which would you say was a better example of "True Love"?: A couple who sort of fall into their lives, get married, have kids, bowl along fairly happily until they die or a couple who realised that although they adored one another, practical things (i.e.:one wants children and the other does not) means they could never make each other happy and so lets the other go even though it hurts them, to give them a chance to be truly happy.
Love can end, move on, and happen more than once without its being any less valid. Seize and live the moment.
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I am in love with my best friend's ex-boyfriend. I have been for quite sometime. We flirt a lot and everything,but I guess he sees me as just a really good friend. I have helped him through so many problems throughout his relationship my w/ my best friend. Now they have broken up, and I want him. But I can't. He is still in love with her, and two of my other good friends have a crush on him. One claims she loves him, but she doesn't know him like me, she doesn't look at him like I do, she doesn't see what I see. I want him so bad, its like un bearable. But for the longest time, I've been just a friend.I want that to change, but it can't. Unless I want to loose 3 of my friends. (It is a rule of ours that no one can date and ex unless its been many years). I have one more problem, I just recently got a boyfriend, I like him A LOT, and I think about him more than any other guy (besides the one we are talking about), but I guess I just can't get the other one out of my head. I gues you could say, that I love them both, but I want the other one. =/ how to I get him?? (link)
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I've gotta be honest, this sounds like infatuation rather than love. Believe me when I say that's not an insult, (been there, done that)but you say that your other two friends have crushes on him too- this guy sounds like something of a charmer and it would suprise me if he didn't know, to some extent at least, the effect he's having on you girls.
You say your other friend claims to be in love with him also, so obviously she has said something. Perhaps it's not as taboo as you're thinking to admit to crushes on each other's ex's?
I would say try to focus on the guy you're with, and talk to your friend about why she dumped this other guy in the first place (hearing of his bad qualities should show you the grass is generally never greener the other side) and keep your friends! Such a cliche but they really will be around longer than most guys.
Still, enjoy the experience- the older you get the less people you're likely to admire in the same way.
Best of luck
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I got this girl who is a friend. We have known each other for practically 3 years. Been there for each other, been though some problems as far as people together and then some. And as far as her i have some feelings toward her i have never felt before, i cant explain how they are. I have tried asking her out quite a few times and she said she is worried bout our friendship. I told her i understand that, but at the same time i aint been able to look at any other girl and say she looks good i want to date her.I am not going to stop being friends us cause of dating. Here recently she sent me an email saying she is thinking about giving me a chance. But then an old friend of hers comes in the picture and now they are going out. Of course i am heart broken now and am going to wait and see if i will get my chance to go out with her cause of how deep of feelings i have for her.The crazy thing is her mom or sister dont like the boy she is going out with. But as far as me her mom and sister love me as if im a son or a brother. With this screwed up situation and how i feel for her what am i suppose to do? (link)
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It seems there are a few reasons this girl acted this way. Either:
* She'd rather just be friends/has realised how much she likes this other guy but doesn't know how to let you down without ruining your friendship in which case you'll have to bite the bullet and start getting over her, realising there are other irls out there etc
* She would like to see you in that way but is afraid that a relationship would ruin your friendship, in which case you both need to talk about the realistic pros and cons of dating your friend
* OR She's scared full stop. Of the fact you know her well, that she could get hurt easily because of that and so on.
Either way if you are friends with this chick you need to sit down with her and tell her to be honest with you, even if the truth hurts. If she's really your friend she won't want to string you along.
Hope it all works out
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Is there any way to make your head smaller, or atleast seem smaller? (yes, the head where your brain is) I have a big head/ forehead. Is there anything I can do? (link)
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Bangs may help but talk to a hairdresser before deciding what kind would suit your face. Certain hats can also help.
I have the same problem but unfortunately my random frizzy hair means i can't have a fringe without it looking stupid SO i have decided to wear my forehead big and proud as evidence of a huge brain.
In elizabethan times it was considered highly attractive so I'm sticking with their logic.
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This years camp play was supposed to be Annie. I wanted to be annie so bad! But the counciler said I was really good. So I got the part. The next day on stage I was getting my costume on. The tiny red dress, just didnt fit. It ripped in half! I mean I know im overweight but I have never ripped clothes before! What do I do to get a new dress? I cant buy one! The play is 3 nights! HELP! (link)
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Firstly, theatre costumes rip all the time because they are battered about on stage and often have been adusted for people who used them previously. Trust me the amount of costumes I have destroyed over the years...
Anyway, these girls are right, do you not have a costume lady who sorts this stuff out and measures you all? There's no need to be embarrased about telling her or your counciler it ripped. If they don't know, tell them that all they need to do to fix it (i'm assuming the rip is on the body somewhere rather than the skirt) and alter it at the same time is to get a piece of red material and sew one end to one side of the rip and the other end to the other. This is most likely what they would have done to make a significant alteration anyway so you've just done half the work for them!
Good luck with the play
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My birthdays coming up in about a month and i always have a party with a theme whether it be tinker bell or something cute like that but i'm turning 15 and i still want a theme but not like a lil girlish one because i'm going to be 15 and my friends mom is going to make my cake and she wants to put something on it that has to do with the theme...the party's going to be at my house...any ideas on themes thanx in advance!♥ (link)
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Hey, a few friends of mine still like to do this so I can give you some more grown-up sort of themes to mull over:
1) do a simple black/white-tie theme. Guys in suits, girls in ridiculously over the top ball gowns (the girls will love you for both)
2)A Medieval/Tudor/Elizabethan ball (or whatever you guys have out there with hisorical but pretty dress)
3)A letter theme. Sounds odd but basically everyoine has to come as something/someone beginning with a certain letter. That sorts out your cake too- ust have one in the shape of a P or something.
4)A pajama party is always fun (just make sure none of the guys claim that because they sleep naked...)
5)An ice-cream party. again sorts out the cake- either have it ice-cream filled or make it in the shape of an ice cream. Have all the food as different ice cream and hire a foam machine, etc etc
Hope this is of some use
have fun!
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hey, im 4'11 and im 104 pounds. i think im fat, but all my friends say im really skinny. ive got some blubber on my stomach and my thight are huge. can sombody tell what might help with my stomach and my thighs, or is that a good weight for someone my height. thanks sooo much. i rate too (link)
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Honey you are LUCKY. That's at the lower end of the healthy weight for your height. I assume you're already eating sensibly- i.e three meals a day with fruit, veg, protein, carbs etc in which case good for you.
Everyone feels bad about their body at times but trust me, when you look back in 50 years at photos of yourself you'll wonder why you didn't enjoy being so slim, young and beautiful- so DO!
Have fun
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i've been dating this high soceity broad for about twelve years. the other weekend, i finally met her parents for the first time. they were nice old timers, a little mad that we havent tied the knot yet, but polite enough to me anyways. the point is, i was at the dinner table in their *HUGE* home, and, being the lower-class truck driver i am, i had my elbows on the table while eating. her parents, sticklers for etiquette, were appalled that their daughter would date someone like me and forced her to break up with me. i think this is stupid. i left the house that night and havent seen her since. should i get back with her, even though her parents kicked me out of their house for talking with food in my mouth? what should i do?
signed,
mannerless (link)
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Whoa dude, her parents and your manners really aren't the issues here, are they? You've been together 12 years, which puts the two of you at least in your 20s which means you are grown adults who should be able to run their own lives without the say-so of either one of your parents.
I think before you decide anything you need to sit down, preferably with this girl and think about a few things:
1) Why have you only just met her parents after 12 years? Does the class thing bother her too? If so you have a problem
2) Can YOU deal with the class divide and the probability that her parents will dislike you for a long time if you do go back out with this chick?
3) Why the hell has this girl not apologised for her parents and blanked you ever since? Is this the kind of immature, spineless girl you want to be dating?
Manners are pleasant and in typical english fashion I care a lot about them myself but real manners are about being thoughtful towards other people not elbows and cutlery.
Good Luck
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okay i have a question for girls... ive got the worst cramps right now.. like i feel like im going to die... does anyody have any at home remedys or somethin to make em go away... i already took 2 tylonol and a calcuim pill... but what else can i do to make em not hurt so bad, or even better, go away!! please help (link)
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To begin with, sit at home and feel sorry for yourself-demand that people acknowledge, sympathise with and, if at all possible, share your pain. If you have brothers/ boyfriend/ male friends use the opportunity to freak them out by discussing details of your pain with a girlfriend in a very loud voice. This will provide you with a lot of Laughter Therapy.
On a more serious note, these guys are right- hot-water bottles (or whatever you call them in the good ol' US of A) are great.
Exercise-wise I'd go with swimming assuming you're using a tampon coz it lets you move but supports your body at the same time to avoid that feeling your uterus is being bashed about with a hammer.
Hope this helps.
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