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All right, I need help... I went out with this guy for 3 months... But we were friends 2 months before we started going out... He had a crush on me, and I ended up liking him and we went out (like I said) so our relationship was more like 5 months it's just, for the first 2 months we didn't do anything, and everything was going great, or, so I thought... He broke up with me ON our 3 month anniversary, and yesterday WOULD HAVE been our 6 month anniversary and, it made me really sad... The thing is, is that he verbally abused me... He would say something and I wouldn't understand how he meant it, so I'd get upset, and he would call me stupid and tell me it was all my fault. After he broke up with me he got drunk and messed around with this that liked him, but, he didn't really like her because, he never talks to her anymore... Well, we still talked after he made out with that girl but, about a month ago we got into quite a few arguments and he told me I am not worth it, I can't handle anything, I don't deserve him talking to me, and a lot of other things that really hurt. He's friends, that I am also friends with, tell me he doesn't care about me AT ALL... But yet I still care about him, and everything that happened still REALLY hurts... Oh, and now he likes the school slut and thinks she is "amazingly hot" and wants to do stuff with her... But, my question is, why? Why does it still hurt when I know he is a really mean person, and it's been 3 months since we broke up, so why can't I shake this? Please help... (Yes, I will rate high for serious and helpful answers. Thanks in advance and, sorry for making this so long.)
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It hurts because he was your friend for two months, and I know its shocking but let me tell you something you really do deserve better than that fucking ass basterd. If I were you I would be hurt to but I would be happy to not having any man that I thought loved me be abusin' me like that. Sooner or later he will be crying back to you and ya know what I think you should do show him the door.
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What may be happening is that you probably fell in love with this guy because when it's true love it could make you blind or make you into a different person.Or it is that you have feelings for him of course which is normal it is hard to forget someone you really like or love.I strongly suggest that you should not talk about him with friends or anyone about it so it'll be easier to froget him.That girl who you call a slut well she may be hot for him but she is just a sad girl who will probably end up lonely and who will eventually suffer.Your guy will so regret that he broke up with you but he choose the wrong girl to be with now and believe me he will want to be back with you again.You should move on think about other things like your studies and you should also make sure when you get interested in another make sure the guy has a nice personality and someone who is your type.
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I can't imagine how you are feeling about this guy. It's hard to fall out of love w/ someone even if he is a jerk. There were times for me when me and my b/f broke up that I knew there was someone out there better for me, but I couldn't imagine who...and how that was possible. My ex is one of my best friends now however. You know the saying "there are plenty of fish in the sea" and you know that is soo true. I believe there is someone out there for everybody. No doubt it may take a long time for your heart to heal. I mean he REALLY hurt you...not just crushed cause he broke up w/ you. You deserve better. No girl or guy deserves to go through verbal or physical abuse. If he does it to you, he may do that to any girl he may end up dating. I hope that doesn't happen no matter who the girl is. Good luck... I hope I helped a little.
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I think you have a kind of crush where you just cant keep him out of your head. I dont think its love. But I do think its the kind that lasts a long time. Ok so what you should do is take a break from talking to him. And get to know other boys. And maybe you will find someone else (sweet nice and everything you want in a guy right now) because you dont know whose out there until you give everyone a chance. So my advice is take a break from talking to him all togther. And than when you get to know other guys you may like them. So dont worry it just takes time. I mean you really liked him alot and he broke your heart. So take a little break. I hope this helps.
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Lamma - o geez, this is a problem! Well let me say that first off, there is no way that this guy is worth your time, NOT AT ALL. My mom in fact was verbally and physically abused before she met my dad, but she kept going back to this guy!! A couple of years ago i asked her what in the hell could've made her to back to someone that treated her so bad and she said it was because she had a low self esteem, and she thought that he was the only guy that would ever love her. Now, i am NOT accusing you of having a low self-esteem, but if you do that might be the reason. Just from what i read in your question this guy seems to be an inconsiderate DICK. and he obviously is only interested in getting some. You deserve a much better guy, and hes out there. In the meantime, to get over him, pencil in some major you time. try something new, volunteer, have a friday night game night with your friends each week, WHATEVER it takes you keep your mind off this guy! and along the way, you might meet the special someone that is the entire opposite of your ex, and right for you!
really hope i helped, and feel free to ask another q in the future!
GOod Luck,
Lamma
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Boys. What are they like. Well you've spotted yourself that this guy is a complete moron so there's your first step to getting over him. Unfortunately some guys are going to have this effect on you no matter how bad you know they are for you and you will chase them over and over and allow them to hurt you over and over.
It sounds like this is the first guy to treat you like this so it might take a while for you to get him out of your system and realise that the problem is all his and that nothing you could have done is likely to have change the way he acted. In the mean time, go out with your friends and try to avoid talking about him or this situation- it'll remind you how insignificant this little boy really is in the scheme of your life. Just concentrate on doing things that make you feel good about yourself and give yourself a break.
His actions aren't your responsibility and after a while you'll shake this feeling and find someone who'll treat you properly and maturely. Promise.
Take care
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