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The name is Leah. I live in Cincinnati, OH. I really love to give advice! I have been here since November of 2004. But prior to joining here, I was always been seeked for advice. Still to this day, my primary concern is always helping someone out in need.

I am likely not the best columnist here, but I can quarantee I am very dedicated and concerned when I answer a question. If I answer a question you're not satisfied with, I will ask why, so I can try my best to change my answer. I only give people information that I know; not information that I might know. And if I notice a columnist giving you a wrong answer, you'll know I'll be correcting their response!!

I do allow everyone and anyone to ask a question. I may have listed favorite categories, but I really have no preference. I do love making new friends!! It's no problem to contact me by e-mail or IM. I do have a Myspace, and I will gladly give it out if asked! If you ever need advice, if you feel like ending it all, if you feel like no one cares, I am here!! Talk to me.. I will listen and I will help you!!

♥Leah

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I am 29 yrs old. I dont have any friends.I have a wonderful boyfriend who is very outgoing and confident.Every now and then he says I need to make some friends. I cant. What do I do, call some girl up and say will you be my friend?? How cheesy. I go out with him where his friends hang out but no one engages conversation with me.They do for a minute then go. I am an attractive person that is not the problem. But how does someone who was abused as a child, not allowed to have friends, phonecalls or sleepovers, and a 10 year marriage where I was not allowed to work or have friends, change and get friendships. It seems so out of reach for me.Help!!!

I am sorry about your life experiences =[ I hope that all goes well.

I used to be in a similar situation. I lacked friends, and I would even try making conversations with strangers but they would tune out and walk away soon before I was finished.

But doing these really helped me find 'good' friends:

1) Join a club. If you are broke or on a budget, you can always find free organizations to join (animal shelters, homeless shelters -- volunteer work)

2) When you go shopping, or go out to eat, make conversations with people. I know that you said people seem to walk off soon after, but keep trying. There are a lot of people out there who love to listen to other people and dedicate their time talking to you.

3) At your job, (or if you don't one, try applying for one) this is where I made mass friends. I am a cashier at a convenience store and I not only befriended coworkers, but I befriended customers and I see them on a daily basis now. I find this to be one of the most effective ways of getting friends.

4) Be friendly wherever you go. Don't just speak when spoken to, speak when you want to. You see someone sitting down alone, go up and talk to them. I know this is awkward doing because not everyone does this. But I have done it, and I have befriended some very interesting people.

5) Be outgoing and energetic. People love enthusiastic people. When you are with your boyfriend, and he is with his friends, be zestful and happy. Make jokes with him, smile at them, and mess with them. I tend to do this around new people, when my friends greet me to their friends. I laugh and joke around, and they seem to enjoy my company because I am "fun to be around with". People will see that side of you when you make jokes, and keep joining in conversations. It is hard at first because you get a lot of those "awkward silences" around the table or wherever. So keep smiling, and laughing. Look happy, so people will notice that you are a positive person.

Also, since you had a rough childhood, you may need to get over the past and be happy again. I had rough times too but I learned that thinking about the past all the time just isolates me from the world and I do not when to get older and find myself miles away from the people who are closest to me. So maybe seek a therapist of Psychologist. They're awesome people. And I mean this as a good thing, too, because they can get you on the right track and get you happy again.

Keep your head up, and be grateful that you are alive, that you have a boyfriend, and you still have opportunities to make friends along the way.

It's hard to keep up with it, but don't give up. Make people see how wonderful you can be!

Good luck with everything! =]

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me and my bff love eachother but were totaly oppasites im a tall gothic hes short and a total nerd but we have been bffs for forever but we like each othere as bf gf but we both deny it
what do i do

If you feel so strongly confident that he loves you and you love him, you should definately try to have a private conversation between just you and him about how you feel and ask how he feels about you two becoming boyfriend and girlfriend. There is always going to be differences in relationships so if you feel it would work, then give it a try! Because trying new things is the best approach.

If he still denies it, even after a private talk (in a secluded area) he just may not be ready for a relationship. It could be for several reasons. He may be having problems in other areas, or he just plainly isn't ready for the whole "boyfriend & girlfriend" thing.

Yet what I would do is try talking to him. Since you two are such best friends, you should be able to trust each other and easily get responses from each other about being "boyfriend and girlfriend".

And being total opposites, (like I mentioned somewhat earlier on differences), it's totally OK to be completely opposite. Don't feel at all, insecure about you being tall and him being short. As long as you love him for who he is, and him for loving you for who you are. Also, "opposites attract". You'll have your arguments (maybe you know that one already!) But opposites just seem to find so many things riveting and wonderful about each other that no one would understand except you two.

Don't rush things if he feels that right now isn't the time to take things to the next level. But once you see yourself ready for sure, and he sees himself ready, it'll naturally happen. But asking can give him the input you are interested in being in a relationship with him, and he'll start thinking about it.

Hope I helped =]

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ok, so im designing a website, and im short on inspiration. i need some people to give me random ideas (they can be like a list of random words or actual ideas) to help me come up with the website design. thank you sooo much!

I had to make up a design for a web site in my web design class before, and these were the kind of ideas I liked:

* Make up a company of your own. For example, "Susan's Furniture", and add pictures of non-coyrighted pictures (clipart), make a color scheme (If you are using DreamWeaver you can do this easily), and make-up special features to your company.

*Make a website that talks about you. Make webpages including your biography, another one for pictures, and one for your family and/or friends.

* You can also make your own restaurant, like "Fred's Famous Pizzeria" or something.

*Design a product to advertise. For example. "Willy's Magic Vacuum Cleaner".

Also, if you don't use DreamWeaver, you should because you can make up cute color schemes (like I mentioned earlier) like you can make your links purple, your background pink, and regular text blue.

If you are doing it manually (and for some reason are unable to use DreamWeaver), what would really look cute is filling the website with pictures, and decorate it with a variety of colored text.

Also, making marquees on your website would enhance the look ( < marquee > text < / marquee > ) you can also find more cute ideas here -->http://www.funky-chickens.com. I go to that site whenever I am designing websites. Either for fun or for school purposes.

I really didn't know what ideas you were looking for specifically so I generalized it to many kinds of ideas, but hopefully I helped =]

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What is the difference?
I am seriously confused,
because I've heard that Agnostic means you don't believe in anything, and Athiest means you make fun of God.
Is that right?

I used to get confused between the two, as well but they are pretty different from each other. And no, being agnostic does not mean you don't believe in anything, nor being an atheist meaning you make fun of God.

Agnostic:
1. a person who holds that the existence of the ultimate cause, as God, and the essential nature of things are unknown and unknowable, or that human knowledge is limited to experience.
2. a person who denies or doubts the possibility of ultimate knowledge in some area of study.

In other words, an agnostic believes in a higher power, or that there is a God (powerful person) out there, and not necessarily the specific God many people refer to in Christianity.

These people can also be rather more skeptical of an existence of God, which Christians & Catholics (etc) worship, or can be completely unsure of a God's existence. It's similar to being atheist so don't get confused on this part.

Atheist:
1. a person who denies or disbelieves the existence of a supreme being or beings

In other words, someone who does not believe that there are NO existence at all of a God or of a high power. They don't believe in Gods, Goddesses, etc.

For more information on Atheism vs. Agnosticism, go here:

http://atheism.about.com/od/aboutagnosticism/a/atheism.htm.

It debates the difference between the both.

Hope I helped =]

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mysapce has been acting wierd lately. First off it is like every 2 minutes that i will be doin something and the window will just dissapear or a meesgae with come up and when i press ok it goes away! does anyone no whats going on??

I would assume it could be a virus.

I think what you are telling me is that every 2 minutes you'll be doing something on Myspace and a prompt (message window) comes up. You press OK, and either your myspace window disappears or just the prompt?

I'll have to change my answer, but what does the message say before you click OK?

And that thing that you do before it shows up, does it randomly come up or does it only come up when you are on a specific location on myspace?

But other than that it is most likely a virus or a trojan. You can try getting anti-virus software, or download a free trial.

Please get back to me on this so I can help you better! Thanks =]

-Leah

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if a girl and a boy both wear a condom, doesnt that make it way likely yuo cant get pregnant? or can you not wear both

No, it actually increases the chance of condom breakage if both male and female use it. It's better if you use one.

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what is alcohol poisoning and how can you get it?

Basically it's when you drink to much to the point your liver can't take it anymore and you damage your liver.

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Ok I am 17 and I am a really hardworker in school and usually at whatever I do, I try to do my best and work hard. Well I guess since the summer I have put in 15 applications to different places and I gotten like 2 interviews and nothing else after that. I need help. How can I make the managers want to hire me and how can I show them that even though I do not have any work experience that I can still do a really good job?

I've been in the same position.

Here are some things that can improve your chances of a job:

1) Build a resume. Include your hobbies, activities, and your unique skills (i.e computers, typing, shorthand, etc) Some applications ask for a resume (even if under 18)

2) Get work experience. Volunteer at a shelter, join girl/boy scouts, form your own babysitting or lawn care business, joining in extracurricular activities at school -- these are all considered to be work experience.

3) Earn good grades in school. Tell the Interviewee that you have a a good GPA.

4) Keep trying with applications. My parents told me the winter is the worst when it comes to hiring. Wait until the spring, and reapply to the jobs you really want.

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ive got acne and its actaully getting better but i want it to clear up. Ive been using proactiv and it gets better all the time, but i was wondering if where you have the acne affects how you get it? Like if somebody has bangs thats usually why they have acne on theyre forhead, becuase it gets sweaty and so on. Well i have it like on my cheeks like collarbone i guess, could i do something to stop it and prevent further breakouts?

Tips that I learned from internet and magazine sources:

It's great you are using ProActive. Like what the others said, it takes time for the full effects to be shown (a month or so)

And doing the simplest things such as:

Doing your hair first, then clean your face. It is true that bangs can cause pimples. Oils from your hair get onto your skin. Which is why it's important your hair is clean and maintained.. and it's better to pull it up to decrease bacteria on the forehead.

Also, making sure your face is cleaned like what the proactive says (ranging 1 to 3 times a day). The Salicylic Acid minimizes Bacteria on the skin, but it's also important that if you play sports, you make sure you clean your face. The sweat can clog pores and make you breakout.

Also, some makeup products can cause pimples. If you use makeup, make sure it says it's thin, and it won't clog pores.

And with your cheeks and collarbone, with the Proactive stuff, aim for those places the most.

There are also oil sheets out there that if you rub the sheets against your face it removes oil on your skin, without removing makeup on your face. That really helps. You can use that freely with ProActive but the sheets cost like 4 dollars. (You can find them pretty much anywhere)

Eating a healthy diet can decrease the risk of pimples. I mean, a few cookies won't hurt you of course, but eating healthy keeps your skin healthy.

Hope I helped =]

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I shave down there but I'm not sure how often I should shave? Also are there any tips to prevent it from feeling all stubbly?

Like the columnist said below me, it all depends how fast your pubic grows and how thick it is, as well.

Some tips to keeping it as smooth as possible is:

1) Don't shave that area every day! You'll irritate the skin, and you will get red, itchy bumps (it's very horrible from my experience).

2) And even when you do shave it every other day (maybe every 2 or 3 days), apply aloe vera on it (the same stuff you use for sunburn) and Hydrocortisone cream which decreases inflammation (the redness and itchiness)

3) Shave with the hair; not against it. I am saying this because it's important, whether you knew that or not.. but as a note with this it's important you do so because going against it is what causes those red bumps.

4) Use name brand shaving gel. Not generic. It is cheaper, but it is not as rich and creamy as the name brand is (Skintimate is a good name brand shaving cream). And when you have the generic brand, it comes out thin, which means less shaving protection from cuts, and burns.

5) And just like I said in #1, keep it to a minimum and apply that aloe and hydrocortisone cream on 2-3 times a day, so you can relieve the itching you will first get during the day.

6) And before you shave it. Trim it first. Doing this can make shaving easier. This saves trouble from shaving long hair, and you can see what you are doing so you don't cut yourself.

You can find more tips on this website: http://www.free-beauty-tips.com/pubichair.html

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What could you wear under/over a black t-shirt that would look really cute?

I really love putting on a long-sleeved shirt (like white or blue) and put the black t-shirt over it. At least that's the style where I come from (Ohio), and it's very cute & trendy. Then putting on some silver jewelry (like a small necklace) would enhance the look.

I am not too smart on fashion, but I find that really cute!

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okay. i'll apologize that this may be long..

i have a wonderful boyfriend. we've been together 10 months. for being freshman, we're doing pretty good. we've only gone as far as fingering/handjob, & hes not a pushy guy at all. the only thing is that he gets really jealous. and i "flirt" a lot. especially with one boy in particular named john. well, john and me are good friends. and john likes me but i've made it clear that i love my boyfriend, and he understands but still says he likes me.

now my boyfriend recently said that it seems like i enjoy talking to john more than i like talking to him & thats not true at all but my boyfriend is convinced that i like john. and i dont ! i just can't get him to believe me

i love my boyfriend. and you may think that im just saying love, but trust me. i mean it more than you guys know. he is amazing. but we always seem to end up fighting over john. it'd just be better if he didn't exist at all. but since that's not going to happen, i need some advice on what to do.
* to get my boyfriend to believe that i dont like john
* to stop "flirting" with guys
* to become a better girlfriend, because right now, i just feel like crap.


please&thanks!

One of the most important things in a relationship is trust. It's actually common to be jealous but your boyfriend needs to believe you and trust you that you would never leave him for John, and that you love him very much.

Of course you can't just magically make John disappear (wouldn't that make things better!) But obviously you can't.

Show him how much you love him. Get him a gift, and be there more for him. Still hang out with John. As long as you are a very faithful person and you have a good record in relationships then your boyfriend shouldn't worry. Keep reminding him you love him.

You two sound like a great couple! But if you are very faithful and reliable, and your boyfriend still had problems between your friendship then John, then that isn't a true boyfriend. If he really loved you, he would believe you, and he would trust you. Tell him that, because it'll make him realize you and John are just friends and you and your boyfriends are SOO much more than that.

Keep talking it over. Tell him you are always there for him!

And for the flirting. Remind yourself you have a devoted relationship with someone and you shouldn't go around flirting. It is hard, but if you really want this relationship to work you are going to have to sacrifice the flirting. Your boyfriend is the only person you should flirt with. It's common to flirt even when taken (a lot of teenagers do that even when in relationships). I wouldn't say it's normal but it's common, but if you want the relationship to work, devote all of your love to your boyfriend and not other guy friends.

And no matter what you do, you can't make yourself a perfect girlfriend. Your boyfriend needs to take the flaws you have while you should take the flaws he has. Fights and arguments are inevitable, but always be there for him. And that goes back to his jealousy problem. Prove to him he is the one you want; not John. Take him out on dates more often and kiss him more. That can convince him that you still love him, and you will be there for him.

You sound like a wonderful person just from asking how to work this relationship out because that shows to me that you care about him and your relationship. So you are already proving that you are a good girlfriend for caring. =]

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my school computers have way more fonts on microsoft word than my computer at home does! (and my computer is newer) my computer doesnt have fonts like "Snap ITC" or "Jokerman" and most computers do. why is this?

Some computers go with them; some don't.. like some software may do the same thing.. there could be several reasons why. But there are software programs out there you can use to install more fonts onto your computer. You can try googling font downloads, or buy the whole package at an office/computer store such as office depot and staples.

My school computers have fonts that my computer does not have, as well. But they most likely downloaded software to get those.

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ok. my friend told me she had phone sex, and I know this is a stupid question.. but how do you have phone sex? like is it just like regular sex but over the phone or is it just 2 people saying dirty things while they masturbate to each others voices?

If it's like regular sex just tell me its like regular sex. No need for tips on sex, I already made that mistake. But tips on phone sex is a def. yes. :]

thanks.

From my experience, it basically is what every one else said below me. It's merely talking 'dirty' to one another, and getting horny. Some times it's just that, and some times people masturbate, too.

Commonly, phone sex is like cybering. You are not doing anything physical to each other but only to yourself, and you are seducing to whoever you are talking to, to get the similar effect as having regular sex.

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i really like snacking while i'm doing my homework or watching tv. i've been snacking on mini oreos lately. thing is, 9 mini oreos is like, 130 calories or something. is there other snacks that are as good or somewhat as good as oreos that doesn't have so much calories in it? nothing too expensive, please. thank you.

I adore eating the special K bars and the granola bars. Most of them contain not more than 90 calories. (Unless you go for the granola bars that contain up to 200 calories -- be careful for that) Make sure to look at the Nutrition Facts before buying.

Good flavors of special K (that i love) to choose from:

Honey nut
Vanilla
Strawberry

Granola Bars:
Cookie Dough
Peanut Butter
Chocolate Chip

Special K bars go no more than 3 dollars in most grocery stores, and granola bars can go a dollar each if sold individually (whereas in a box it can go up tp 3 dollars as well)

It's worth it. I adore chocolate and anything that has chocolate and contains 90 calories is good for me!

They fill you up pretty fast, too if you are also thinking about trying to adapt to a healthier lifestyle, and trying to eat less. Those really work!

Hope I helped =]

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i have a cellphone form virgin mobile its not a camara tho.
can i send pictures from my computer to my virgin mobile cellphone?
or can i only do that with a camera phone?
if i can do it, how?

You can send media (pictures, audio, etc), but only if your service provider offers phone e-mail addresses. For example. I have T-mobile, and if I want to send something via Yahoo (e-mail), I would have to type in MYNUMBER@tmomail.net.

You'll need to ask your SP if they offer e-mail addresses to use. If you know your address, you can use that.

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i went to the dermatoligist a month ago for acne. they gave me a pill, facewash, and 2 creams.

all of that has done nothing but make my skin worse! i'm losing hope! i have no confidence, i want to be isolated forever. what is there left to do? besides accutane? is there hope for me? help!

NO PROACTIVE

When I went to the Dermotologist, they gave me wash that had sulfur in it.. you can go back to the Dermotologist, tell him/her that it didn't work, and recommend sulfur facial wash I(If you never got it yet)

I wouldn't recommend ProActive anyway because it sucks in my own opinion.

Did the Dermo give you skin antibiotics in pill form and creams? Because that minimizes bacteria on the skin. That is really effective!

Or either the medication you got was not strong enough.

You can go to the store and buy OTC stuff that includes: Triclosan, which is antibacterial, Salicylic Acid & Benzol Peroxide, which both treats and prevents any common skin problems like blemishes, pimples.

But from my own experience I thought that Salicylic Acid and Triclosan helped the most.

You can find Triclosan in Noxema mainly. And you can find SA in Clean&Clear, Clearasil, and OxyPads.

And if you are on any kind of budget the products I recommended are pretty cheap (maximum they could possibly cost is 8 dollars).

But getting good antibiotics (like 500 mg of it) and sulfur cream is what really helped my skin. So tell your Dermo that the stuff just worsened and he/she will probably recommend you on different stuff or make them stronger.

Hope I helped =]

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how do you get rid of your website history?

You can press CTRL-H and you right click the catagory (or catagories) by right clicking on it and clicking delete.

You can also go to your internet options and click on delete all internet history. (From your Internet Explorer window go to Tools --> Internet Options).

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Ok, currently i'm 13 and i'm wearing a 30 A (i know thats small dont make fun of me haha)...anyways. It was getting too tight, so my mom took me to the mall and told me i should get fitted. I got fitted twice and both places said was a 28 B. Ok, now we looked at almost EVERY store in the whole mall, and NO WHERE had a 28 B!!! The kids section didnt even have B's, and the womens section started at 32 and i needed a 28. So to end my question, does ANYONE know where to find a 28 B?? i've looked everywhere over the internet!!!

I actually had the same problem with my bra size.. I only found maybe one place that had two bras of my size, so I know the feeling.

I actually went on a search and found this website:
http://www.ahbras.com/CfbraF.htm -- it covers 28 b bras.

Here's another site but it's for more of active, sports bras. http://www.lessbounce.com/

I also found this site, except it offers a minimum of 30b sized bras.. which isn't a big difference (I wear 40 and 42-sized bras and they fit me fine) but if that's fine with you then go to this site http://www.barenecessities.com/default.asp?cm_mmc=GLSR-_-bra-_-Bra-_-A&source=GoogleA&term=Bra&gcid=S11853x026&keyword=bra

Hope I helped! =]

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what some REALLY good deoderants.
im a girl by the way so yeah.

I personally love secret with Olay conditioners in it. Also, Dove would be my second choice. They keep me dry all day!

I also came across this website: http://beauty.about.com/cs/beautystuff/tp/deodorants.htm

It lists tops deodorants, with details about them.

Hope I helped =]

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