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"There's no other love like the love for a brother. There's no other love like the love from a brother." A lot has changed since I was in High-school and first created my column - almost 8 years ago!!!! I now have two gorgeous Boys who mean the World to me; Brody, who is 3 and a half years old, and Brayden, who will be a year in November. I live my life for these two Boys. They make every second worth it. xxoo ♥ ♥

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can you have sex durring your period?

Yes, you can have sex while on your period. However it may get a little messy.

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can you have sex when youre pregnent?

Yes, you're able to have sex while you're pregnant. Having sex can help reduce stress and the tensions that can build up during pregnancy.

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when asking quesions on here no one is going to find out my name? right?

Nope, no one will ever no. The only people who are able to see that information are level 2, 3 and 4 Moderators.

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ok 14 years old and i've never had a boyfriend or kiss or anything. i don't know whats wrong with me. all my friends have had boyfriends but no, not me. im not ugly or anything like not to be conceited or anything but alot of people had told me i was cute and pretty. and i also have like alot of friends and they all say they love mt personality. i just don't get it. any answers to why i never had a boyfriend or how to get them to know im interested?

Lots of people your age haven't had their first first kiss yet, either. Don't think you're the only one, because you aren't. Everyone takes time for something like this to happen. Some get their first kiss when they're 12; others when they're 13 and some even only have their first kiss when they're 18-30. It just depends on the person and if they're ready or not. It doesn't really matter if you didn't have your first kiss, yet. You're only 14, hun. You have tons of time for boyfriends and kisses, believe me. But, I promise you in time, you'll find that special guy and you'll get your first kiss. You just have to give it some time. For now, enjoy being a teenage girl and having fun with your friends; you only live once.

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theres this boy sean, who is in my grade and attends the same highschool. we are both juniors but sort of different, he is very smart ,really into his studies and pretty shy and normally someone i wouldnt be so into, im not really in any specific "clique" but i basiacally try and be friends with everyone.alot of kids go to my school and like 350 of them are juniors so i wasnt sure who he was. on weekends i usually go out with my cousin who is 19 and i always see his brother, mike. mike always asked me if i knew sean , and told me he is very nice and shy. last week i started drivers ed and sean is in there along with a few of my friends, his friend and his ex girlfriend. i talk to his friend chris alot in this class and i guess seans ex is like really mean to him and already is going out with someone. i actually think sean MAY have a thing for me because he is very sweet to me and one day he left and i told chris i thought he was soo cute and chris was like ohh you should hit on him , hes like sad about his ex and doesnt think he`ll find anyone. the next day chris was like sean thinks ur so funny he was talking about you at lunch. im not sure if he was kidden though because it was infront of sean he said it. he also pulled me a chair beside him before when i was standing next to the table. what can i do to not try so hard ( drivers ed is ending fri. so this is my last chance like tonight) i dont want to come too strong. helppp! i want him to know i kind of like him

I think you should just tell him you like him, straight up. He might be too shy to do so. Not all guys need to make the first move, so why don't you? Explain to him that you're crushing on him then take it from there. I seems like he may have feelings for you by the way he talks about you. I'd go for it and tell him, you might be passing up a really amazing guy. When you get a chance, take it.

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I'm 15, female and I feel like I want to lose my virginity. Not because all my friends are doing it, but because I think I have the right boy. I'm positive that I want it to happen, I just have a few questions. Will it hurt? People tell me it will vary on the girl. But honestly, will it? On a scale of 1-10, 10 being the worst, how bad? One more question, will I bleed? If I do bleed, will it be a lot? Should I worry about bleeding or not? Thanks!

I really does depend on the girl. I don't know how much it would hurt you since I don't know how much pain you're able to take. It doesn't hurt all that much, though. Just tell your partner to take it slow with you. Make him finger you before you do have sex. It'll "loosen" you up a bit and will make sex easier.


About the bleeding, it also depends on the girl. Some girls bleed a lot, while others bleed only a little then you have some that don't bleed at all. So it all just depends on the girl and how her body works.

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sorry this is gunna be long but HELP PLEASE!
i met this kid 'mike' in april. we started talking but he didnt want a relationship. we didnt see eachother all summer then when school started he decided he wanted to be with me and only me. i had just started hooking up with brian a senior just for fun. they didnt know about eachother though so i was kinda playing them. then 'mike' asked me out and there was no way i could have said no if you knew the situation, you would understand. so brian was mad at me (even though we were just for fun!) and we havent talked. then mike found out about brian and was mad. then mike cheated on me and i dno why i am still with him. but brian called me last night and told me he misses me, wants to hang out and i should dump mike. i was so excited! what should i do!?!!? i am so confused.

I think you should go for Brain. He seems like a better person since Mike cheated on you. I think once a cheated always a cheater. He done it before, so what makes you think he wouldn't do it again? I think it would be better to start a new relationship with a new boy and have a new clean state. It also seems like you have feelings for Brain, so why not give a relationship with him a shot? You don't have anything to loose. He might be the perfect guy for you. Go for it, you only live once.

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whats the most effective was to clean your retainer?

When I go to clean mine I usually use a denture-cleaning tablet. All you do is fill a bowl up with water then drop the tablet in with your retainer, then just leave it soak like that for 10-15 minutes.

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ok so those mysapce users out there who have or are a myspace layout site. if you can help em find one that has army layouts like camo or something thats really cute can you give it to me? cuz liek i cant find any. lol =D

I think http://www.myspace.com/xohromancex might have a couple.

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Right so i know a few people who were their jeans low and then their boxers show..do girls get put off/ turned on by this ? or does it dpend on the person ?

I think it's different for every girl. Since every girl is different they're going to like different things and things that may turn one girl on, will turn another girl off. I personally don't find that to be a turn on, but that's just my opinion.

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What's that one movie with Jim Carey where he meets God or something? PLEASE LET ME KNOW!

It's called "Bruce Almighty." -- Hilarious movie.

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i'm 14, turning 15 in a few months.
i still don't have my period, is that okay?
i'm getting worried.

It's okay, you're normal and you shouldn't worry about it too much. It just depends on your body. Since every girl is different, every girl is going to start her period at a different age. Some girls get it when they're 12 and some only get it when they're 18; it just depends on the girl. Don't be worried about it, though. It's nothing to be worried about.

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Do you think pink or black dye would look better on the tips of a medium brown hair color?

Both would look really cute, but I'm leaning towards the black tips more.

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Hey Krissy,
I've been going out with my boyfriend for a year basically. The actual date is coming up, and i wanted to do something perfect, & memorable for him. I'd read on a website about an idea: creating a huge card (6feet) and decorating it lovely, and either devlievering it myself or getting it delivered on the exact date. Is that a cute silly idea? I liked it. However that's not my question, my question or concern is that Christmas also happens to be around that time. UNfortunately, i don't have a lot of money to be spending so i was wondering what i should do for then? It's not like i can go out & buy him something for Christmas and the anniversary. To us, the anniversary is more important. Please, help? Thanks! ♥

Depending on what you want to buy and how much money you have, I'm sure you could pull off getting something for Christmas and the anniversary. Just because you don't have a lot of money doesn't mean you can't make something special for him. The card sounds like a really cute idea, not silly at all. And if he loves you he's going to love whatever you decide to get or make him.


Here are some more cute ideas for the anniversary that you might want to try out (if you like them.) You could always make a CD for him with a bunch of love songs on it that reminds you of your relationship. Also making a scrapbook of all the funny moments, fun times, pictures, inside jokes and such would also be very cute. You might want to write out 50 reasons (or how many you can come up with,) on how much you love him, how much of an amazing boyfriend he is, etc.


For Christmas you could do something simple. You could go out and buy a tin can and fill it up with candies and chocolates. You could make some Christmas cookies than on each cookie write out a reason why you love him or write something else that is cute on them.

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Hi. I want to ask you something.
When you are looking after a convenience store, I walk in and start lookin at porn adult megazines. What would you say to me?

I wouldn't say anything. Looking at porn is a natural thing; everyone does it at one point and time in their life. There's nothing to be ashamed about or embarrassed. If you want to look at porn that is your business, not anyone else's.

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hi, im 19 and my boyfriend asks me to sleep with him i hav but im really embarassed 2 make luv with him....... wat can i do??

If you don't want to sleep with him tell him so. Explain to him that you aren't comfortable with it as of right now. If he really cares about you, he'll respect your decision and will wait till you're 100% ready and comfortable.

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How can you tell the difference between a controlling boyfriend and one who just loves you a lot?

A controlling boyfriend is one who controls everything you do. For an example, if you were to go to one of your friends' house he'd be like "no, you're not going to see your friends, you're staying here with me." A controlling boyfriend tells you what to do when to do it and where to go and not to go. He basically controls your whole entire life.


Someone who loves you, respects you. He lets you have your own space and have a different life other than always being with him. He trusts you so he lets you do the things you want to do and doesn't question you about it.

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okey so it's not like i've never been kissed. i have. not a REAL one though. i've done just a couple seconds on the lips and everything but i've never made out. and quite frankly, i'm extremely afraid of it. but then again i REALLY REALLY want to. so my question is, Is it really that simple? do you just go with the flow once you get into it? And do guys ever judge you about your kissing skills?

Some guys do judge a girl on her kissing skills. Those guys who do judge aren't worth it anyways. Obviously they don't like you for you or it wouldn't matter about your kissing skills. It just goes to show that all they want is some action.


I know you're going to think you can't make out with anyone and your going to be a bad kisser, but really, that's all in your head. Everyone thinks that when it comes to making out and kissing. They all think they're going to suck at it.


I know this is probably not much help, but kissing really does come naturally. Just go with the flow, it'll come naturally, I promise.


Here's a site that you might want to look at, if you feel like you need a little more information: http://teenadvice.about.com/od/kissing

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For 2 weeks before I start my period I have cramps.My period lasts usually 7 days...And I have cramps at least 5 of the 7.The cramps dont feel like normal cramps though..They hurt way more like sharp pains stabbing me in the stomach.Is that normal?

I get these sometimes, too. I even get them a few days before my period actually starts, you're normal and a lot of girls go through the same thing as you. The best thing to do while you have cramps is to lay down with a nice hot towel on your stomach (where your stomach is hurting the most.) A nice hot bubble bath will help with the cramps also.

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what is masterbate

Masturbating is using your own finger(s) or hand(s) to pleasure yourself.

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