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Question Posted Tuesday November 28 2006, 2:08 pm

How can you tell the difference between a controlling boyfriend and one who just loves you a lot?

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MummuM answered Thursday November 30 2006, 12:59 pm:
A controlling boyfriend is one who controls everything you do. For an example, if you were to go to one of your friends' house he'd be like "no, you're not going to see your friends, you're staying here with me." A controlling boyfriend tells you what to do when to do it and where to go and not to go. He basically controls your whole entire life.

Someone who loves you, respects you. He lets you have your own space and have a different life other than always being with him. He trusts you so he lets you do the things you want to do and doesn't question you about it.

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XoxBroKeNxoX answered Tuesday November 28 2006, 8:08 pm:
BOYFRIEND WHO JUST LOVES YOU A LOT: Never ask for anything to eat or drink.
CONTROLLING BOYFRIEND: Helps themselves and are the reason why you have no food.

BOYFRIEND WHO JUST LOVES YOU A LOT: Call your parents by Mr. and Mrs. and Grandpa, by Grandpa.
CONTROLLING BOYFRIEND: Call your parents DAD and MOM and Grandpa, GRAMPS!

BOYFRIEND WHO JUST LOVES YOU A LOT: Would bail you out of jail.
CONTROLLING BOYFRIEND: Would be sitting next to you sayin "DAMN!" we fucked up!

BOYFRIEND WHO JUST LOVES YOU A LOT: Have never seen you cry.
CONTROLLING BOYFRIEND: Wont tell everyone else you cried...just laugh about it with you in private when your not down anymore.

BOYFRIEND WHO JUST LOVES YOU A LOT: Asks you to write down your number.
CONTROLLING BOYFRIEND: Has you on speed dial.

BOYFRIEND WHO JUST LOVES YOU A LOT: Borrows your stuff for a few days then gives it back.
CONTROLLING BOYFRIEND: Loses your shit and tells you, "My's a tissue."

BOYFRIEND WHO JUST LOVES YOU A LOT: Only know a few things about you.
CONTROLLING BOYFRIEND: Could write a very embarrassing biography on your life story...

BOYFRIEND WHO JUST LOVES YOU A LOT: Will leave you behind if that is what the crowd is doing.
CONTROLLING BOYFRIEND: Will kick the whole crowds ass that left you

BOYFRIEND WHO JUST LOVES YOU A LOT: Would knock on your front door.
CONTROLLING BOYFRIEND: Walk right in and say "I'M HOME."

BOYFRIEND WHO JUST LOVES YOU A LOT: You have to tell them not to tell anyone.
CONTROLLING BOYFRIEND: Already know not to tell.

BOYFRIEND WHO JUST LOVES YOU A LOT: Are only through highschool/college. (aka: drinking buddies)

BOYFRIEND WHO JUST LOVES YOU A LOT: Will be there to take your drink away from you when they think you've had enough.
CONTROLLING BOYFRIEND: Will look at you stumbling all over the place & say "Bitch drink the rest of that ! You know we don't waste!

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redhead6154 answered Tuesday November 28 2006, 8:07 pm:
if your boyfriend is controlling, they will always do what they want to do & not ask you first. they will take control in everything & not ask anybody what they think. if he loves you alot, he will put you before everything & ask you your opinion on everything before he does it.

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XkittyOkatX answered Tuesday November 28 2006, 7:36 pm:
A controlling boyfriend will make you do things you don't want. Look out for this in ANY way.
For example...
A concerned and loving boyfriend would make you stop something if there's a bad reason
A controlling one would make you stop something without reason, or using a selfish reason.

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Ask-Krystal answered Tuesday November 28 2006, 6:16 pm:
if he is controling he doesn't love you. it means he doesn't want you to be able to do stuff

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Flaggal answered Tuesday November 28 2006, 6:02 pm:
A controlling boyfriend will:

*push you into things

*lie to you

*want you to change for him

*wants you to drop everything for him

*thinks he's on top of the world

*tells you what to do

*doesn't want you to interact with friends

*can sumtimes abuse you

A loving boyfriend:

*just wants whats rite for you

*wont push you into things

*loves to do stuff with you

*doesn't mind doing girly-girly stuff for you

*alwayz says i luv u a little to much

*says stuff like i miss you already

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Teza answered Tuesday November 28 2006, 3:59 pm:
A controlling boyfriend basiclly controls everything you do. Tells you who to talk to, what to do, what to wear, what to say, .. just things like that. Someone who loves you a lot will respect you and you can tell that they care. They might not want you to talk to other guys or anything, but it's jelousy and they only want you to themselves.

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vball12 answered Tuesday November 28 2006, 3:39 pm:
A controlling boyfriend will tell you who to hang out with, where to hang out, who can and can not be your friend. etc. And what he limits you to won't be exactly fair.

A boyfriend who loves you a lot will be fair. He will just want you to be happy and will not take you away from what makes you happy and what you love, no matter what it is.

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VainTaraLynn answered Tuesday November 28 2006, 2:23 pm:
In my opinion a controlling boyfriend is someone who wants complete control over absolutely everything that you do. Example: Where you go, who you hang out with, what time you get home, who you talk on the phone with, what you wear.
The reason that is controlling is because its none of his business where you go and what you do. You have your own life for a reason. Controlling what you wear and where you do, arent things that could endanger your life, and hes just being controlling because he most likely has trust and insecurity issues and wants to make sure that you're not going anywhere where you might cheat on him. (at least, thats how it is in most cases.)

Someone who just loves you alot may seem controlling but the things that they are asking are reasonable. Example: Stop doing drugs, quit smoking, dont drink, dont hang out with people that are bad influences.
The reason hes not considered controlling is because hes looking out for your best interest and he doesnt feel that you should do those things because they arent good for you and he wants to most likely keep you around as long as possible.

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