Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
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My hair has recently started falling out. Not a lot, like alopecia (I know what that looks like, my brother had a mild case of it when he was younger), but significantly more than it used to. I have really thick hair, but it never really shed before and now I find that whenever I run my fingers through my hair in the shower I lose probably somewhere around 8-12 strands. My eating habits have not changed and I'm not under any more amount of stress than I have been, so I'm just curious as to what else could be the cause and whether or not this is something I should worry about. So, is it a big deal, or does this happen to everyone? (link)
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There is nothing to worry about. Everybody goes through this everyday. It's common for people to shed hair, especially if they have thicker hair. People lose around 100 strands a day, so if you find you're only losing around 8-12 strands in the shower, that's totally normal. Just remember to brush your hair, so all those other dead hairs get out and clean your brush too after so you're not brushing those dead hairs back into your head!
I hope I helped.
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my ex girl is still givin me signs that she wants and loves me still but she has a boyfriend and i have given her enough time so i think its time to repair our relationship and get her back but i dont kno how especially becuz she has a boyfriend(who i believe is jus to get me jealous). what do i do to get her back now?
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The most you can do is to just talk to her about the situation privately.
I would really make sure she's sending you these signs that she wants to be back with you, and that she really does love you and everything. Once you're sure, I would just ask her if you can talk to her and let her know of your feelings.
Just be like,"___, I got something to tell you. I still like you alot and I want to repair our relationship. I know it's the wrong time to say this because you have a boyfriend and everything, but I don't know if you're really with this guy, or if he's just some ploy to make me jealous because I get signals from you that you still like me and miss me too. Now if you really don't like me anymore and you're with this guy for real, then I'm sorry for brining it up and I hope it doesn't make things between us awkward, but if you do, I really would like you to consider giving us another shot and repairing our relationship so we won't make the same mistakes as last time and break up again." ( Or something like that ).
Just let her know what you're really feeling and that you really want to repair the relationship between the two of you, and then just let her think about it and give her all the time she needs. Just don't make her feel pressured to give you an answer right that second.
I hope I helped, and I hope she wants to go back with you!
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i haven't seen my friend becky for a long time, and we really wanna hang out together. her birthday's this weekend so she invited me over to like a bonfire with a bunch of her friends. the only thing is, i will only know becky and maybe a couple other people i met through her but aren't really friends w/. also, they get drunk alot and i think they will be getting drunk on saturday. i've tasted alcohol before but i don't really like it and i've never been drunk, so i'm kind of nervous. i don't know anyone besides becky so i'll already be a little bit uncomfortable, and then if i've never gotten drunk before i won't know what to do. should i not go? go and not get drunk? what should i do? (link)
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I was just actually in this same exact situation a week ago. I was going to a party with my friend that her friend was throwing, and I knew nobody but my friend and there was alcohol there also. Now I drank, but you don't have to. After a couple sips and I started to feel sick, I was offered more, and I just said,"No thanks", and they didn't mind. So it's alright to say no and pass up the drink, they're not going to hate you for it.
Also, if they are drunk, it might actually make things better for you. Whenever people are drunk they open up more and become less fearful and they'll talk to people more, and like eachother more easily, so if you just joke around with people, be yourself and have a good time, then I'm sure they'll like you. Just ask them question about themselves and what they like to do and everything and just find something in common that you can talk about.
I did this same exact thing, and it turned out I had a great time at the party.
I hope I helped.
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13/f I met a boy on the internet beck in february. I used to like him but now I dont really like him or want to talk to him anymore. I told him once I shouldnt talk to strangers online but he said, "but you know me! I'm not a stranger!" I said well you can never be to safe. He said, "but you saw a video of me! and it had my moms voice in it!" we got into an arguement. I really dont want to talk to him anymore, he doesnt really seem to understand anything and can be rather annoying and brags about his girlfriend which i dont have the time to listen to.
So, today, I asked, "who is this" and pretended I never met him before. The convo ended with let me know with "Alright let me know when you found your brain, see ya" Was this a good way to get rid of him? Please help (link)
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It is a good way to end it with him, in a sense. It's just not the nicest way. It leaves him confused and probably hurt that you're acting this way, but there's no point in explaining it to him now.
I would just block him, if I were you. This'll completley block him from talking to you at all and the problem'll be over.
Just hopefully, he won't go on an old screename or something to see if you're on and discover that he has been blocked and tries to IM you. If he does, I wouldn't pull this act thing anymore, and just be straight up honest with him and let him know you don't want to talk to him anymore.
I hope I helped.
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Thanks for the advice before. I was the one about the guy, and my friend.
Um, yeah. He is kinda becomming stalkish. But i still like him. And my friend is slitting her writs becasue of it.
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I dont know what to do anymore. (link)
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Well, I'm not sure what problem you are because I get alot of problems about guys and their friends and everything, haha, but I'll try and give you advice on it anyways.
With the guy, I would just talk to him about it and tell him he's crowding you a little too much, and you're not trying to be rude, but you just need some space. If he's calling you all the time, just let him know you can't talk all the time, so if he could call you less, please.
And your friend is slitting her wrists because he's stalking you, or because you like him? I would have a serious talk with her anyways no matter what the reason because she's inflicting serious pain onto herself and she is hurting her body very badly. Let her know she's scaring you by doing this and that you're worried for her and her health and everything, and that she needs to stop. Even get her parents or some adult in on it to try and help her out if she refuses to stop and denies she has a problem. Cutting is a serious thing, and it needs to be stopped now before it gets too serious.
If you want to IM me or message me back with your situation, I can try and give you more help as to how to talk to her and everything.
I hope I helped, though.
And I hope you help her, too.
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Ok, everyone at my school is saying bipolar and i have no clue what it is! Can some one tell me? Cuz lyk is it a problem or something? Tell me plz. Thankz! (link)
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Bipolar Disorder is a serious problem some people become diagnosed with where the person can have quick, multiple moods at once, and it's something they can't control. They can be happy one minute, but if one thing is said by a person and it makes them upset, they can get very angry over it.
Here's a site that'll tell you all about it better than I could:
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/bipolar.cfm#bp1
So the kids at your school may be refering to people who might be emotional about stuff and are sensitive to things. They're probably not literally calling someone bipolar. It's kind of like the word, gay. It was meant as one thing, but now it's also meant as "stupid" and whatnot.
I hope I helped.
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I like painting my nails black or white, but I was thinking of doing black AND white, so I need a list of things that are black and white that would be nice on nails (dominoes, ying yangs, etc) (link)
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Here are some sites with designs and stuff:
http://www.pronails.co.uk/nail%20art%20ideas.htm
Now those are really pretty, but they're professional, so the end result may be a hard for you to do cause they're so detailed, but I figured you might like the first part of the nail.
The black and white ones are toward the end.
Also here:
http://www.creativenailplace.com/images/NT27.jpg
http://www.creativenailplace.com/images/NT22.jpg
You could do a zebra design or the polka dot one would look cute.
Also, something else that is cute is doing a french manicure sort of thing, but just changing the colors to black and white.
Here's some other ideas some girls have done to their nails that sound pretty cool:
http://www.waningmoon.com/nails/design/index.php?page=2
I hope I helped.
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I have been dating a guy for almost 6 months now and as october 25 2006 I had known him a year. I have dated many guys but none I have felt the way I feel about him! He is amazing and i cant seem to get enough of him. Our relationship is pretty much everything I wanted in a rrelationship, could he be the one? (link)
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He might, I really can't answer that for you.
It's hard to tell in these situations if the guy you're with is the one or not, because you're feeling so many different emotions, and you really want him to be the one, so it's hard to think clearly.
It sounds to me like this guy really loves you and cares for you, and obviously you're returning the same feelings, if not ten fold, so he could!
Everyone meets their one at some point in time. Some 20 years from now, some tomorrow.
Let him know about your feelings! Don't be telling them to us, tell them to him! Show him how much you love being with him and care for him and how you don't want to be with anyone else. Maybe plan a special get together. Or better yet, make it a suprise. :] It'll be romantic, and bring you two even closer together, and like I siad, show him how much you love and care for him.
I hope I helped.
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whats the best way to make money when youre 13? i need to make money for a camera. (link)
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You can ( for both in your house/in the neighborhood):
-baby sit.
-rake the leaves.
-mow the lawn.
-have a garage sale ( get rid of stuff you don't want, too AND make cash! )
-wash cars.
-wash windows.
-trim hedges.
-walk the dogs.
-do laundry.
-do dishes.
-tutor people.
-if you have a talent, use it. say you like to knit. maybe knit some scarves and sell them for people, cause they'll need them in the winter time.
-and just go around asking your parents or anybody if they need anything else done that you could possibly do for them.
and just any spare change you have, keep it. even though it seems small, change can add up to great amounts.
I hope I helped.
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Today... me and my best friend were doing our handshake and this other girl thats a really good friend of ours...came up and said...show me the handshake so i can do it with you all. I am not greedy and i would have taught it to her but i remember a while back that when her and my best friend had a handshake...she wouldnt let me learn it and i didnt want to say that to her so i just walked away. Am i being reasonable or selfish...please let me know the truth.
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You're being sort of both.
I mean if I were the girl, that'd come off bitchy to me and I'd be offended, but at the same time, if I were you, I'd probably be doing the same thing, and she does somewhat deserve it, since she was basically the same way towards you.
Just explain to her that even though you're very good friends with her and everything, this is a special handshake that you and your best friend have had for awhile and it's just something special between the two of you. And then suggest maybe teaching her a new handshake that all three of you guys can do together.
I hope I helped.
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Alright, so I have a big problem. Probably not as big as I think but. Ha.
Alright so theres this guy, Greg* Hes kinda cute, and hes really nice. He really really likes me. Alot. I mean, for me, im kinda ugly, this is the first person who has ever liked me.
Guys usualy don't like me. && I don't really have any guy friends but this guy.
Greg* Asked me out many times, but I said no. But i wanted to say yes so bad. Why? Heres the problem. My best friend Susan*, Well she is in love with Greg*. They have went out so many times before, and every time he has broken her heart. I can see why, because to be honest, shes a backstabber and shes a meanie! But he hates her sometimes, and hes just trying to get to me. He greats me with HEY SEXY. You looked hot today. And stuff like that.
But she tellsme to stay away from him. And when shes not being a meanie, and a backstabber, shes really nice. So i don't know what to do. Advice please?! Thanks soo much!
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[EDIT: Aw, thanks so much! I'm glad I could help! :] Yeah, if you ever do need any more advice or anything, you can always drop by and leave a message.
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My ex-boyfriend and I are going back & forth. We were in a relationship for a year and fell in love. I'm still in school (senior) and he has 2 jobs. We keep finding ourselves coming back to eachother but the timing of a relationship now is off. We have busy lives & he says he would barely see me but wants to keep in contact no matter what. This whole situation hurts badly, but I can't help but feel that if he really wanted it to work, he would. Is he making excuses or could he be genuine about everything? It's hard to drag this thing on and on, but I can't seem to let go & he doesn't seem to be completely letting go either. (link)
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I don't think he's making an excuse. It sounds like this guy really cares about you and really doesn't want to let go of you. But believe me, one job is hard enough to keep up with, so I can understand why he's worried about not being able to spend time with you and everything, working two jobs.
If you really love this guy and you don't want to let go of him, don't. Love is worth waiting for, and I know that sounds corny, but it's true. This is just a little obstacle you guys can wait through and at least still communicate with eachother and let eachother know how much you care for eachother ; and just remind eachother.
I would try and talk to him about it and see if you two would ever get to see eachother. Try and figure out work times with him and your times for your plans, and see if there's any room for you two to see eachother. Seeing eachother for a little is better than nothing at all. It might even make the visits all the more greater and loving, if you two haven't seen eachother in awhile, it'll remind you both how much you guys miss eachother whenever you guys are apart.
Even if you were to attempt at letting go, like you said, you guys always find eachother again. So why let go of something, go through the hurt, and then wind up together anyways?
Like I said, just talk to him about it and try and figure some time to see eachother if there is any. If you're available and he has his lunch breaks at work, you guys could go out to lunch or dinner or something and eat and talk or do whatever you guys want to do. It's all just about organization, time, and testing your love, dedication, and commitment towards eachother.
I hope I helped.
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Hey im 13/f. I was going out with this kid Anthony and i thought he was perfect. I met him through a friend of mine and he lives about 30 minutes away from me. I didnt get to see him that much, usually only every other weekend. I thought things were going great and everything but he just stopped calling me for no reason. I started to wonder if he lost his phone, or maybe he didnt like me anymore. Turns out i was right, because i couple nights ago he got his cousin to text me saying it was over since "we never got to hang out." ive been heartbroken ever since. I`m seeing him in a couple weeks, and i know that if i hang out with him he`ll start liking me and will ask me out but will the same thing just happen? I really like him and i would take him back in a second but i dont want him to keep dumping me since we live far away from eachother. I guess..i just dont know what to do. Anyone know anything to help with the situation? Should i talk to him about things? Thankss soo much. (link)
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Yes, that's a great idea. Talk to him about things. It's mostly likely that history'll just repeat itself and you two'll not hang out and you two will break up time and time again ; unless you guys work on it.
A relationship takes work and commitment so if you two make an effort to talk to eachother on the phone alot and hang out together, then your relationship'll be able to make it. I know 30 minutes is far, but I'm sure you guys can get a ride every now and then to drive to the other's house to hang out. Also, there may be places to hang out inbetween where the two of you live. Somewhere that's 15 minutes for the both so it's not far for either of you guys.
I would just go up to him at the party, and make conversation and flirt with him and show him what he's missing, and later during the night ( if he's returning flirts and attention and everything ) just ask him if you can talk to him privately. Whenever you guys are alone, just let him know how you're feeling. Just be like,"I know we've broken up and everything, but I still really like you, and I want to give it another shot. I know we didn't hang out hardly and never got to see eachother, but I promose if we were to date again, I'm going to make such an effort to hang out with you, if you make the effort also. If we work on seeing eachother, we'll be fine, and I really want another shot." And just see what he says and where it goes from there.
If he says yes like you say he will, then like I've been saying, work on it, see eachother, think of ideas on how you guys can talk to eachother more on the phone and hang out together more and places where you both can hang out togheter if driving to the others house is way to far for your parents. Just talk it out, and see where it goes.
I hope I helped.
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16/f-- I have liked the same boy for a long time now. I go through periods of time where I start looking at other boys, but I always end up back to him. Now, I think he likes me. The way he acts toward me. We flirt and stuff. I'm the first girl on his top 8. But I'm not totally sure. I just want to know, what kind of things should I look for to know for sure. And, what can I do to let him know for sure without saying "hey, I like you". I won't just tell him, so don't give that advice, please. What kind of things can I do to let him know I like him and flirt with him more. Thanks for your help! (link)
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No matter who you're around, just give him a slight more extra attention. Just slight, though. Don't make it too obvious, cause then to some people you might come off as like, being all over him or something.
Also, just make alot of eye contact and smile at him alot. Those are huge common signs of interest for people.
And just sit close to him whenever you can, and hug him or make some form of touch or contact with him. Even just do a cute little thing and grab his cheeks, or kiss him on the cheek or poke his stomach or sides or nudge him and have a little poke war or nudge war, that may later turn into tickling/wrestling war.
Also, compliment him. Tell him he looks nice, and compliment his clothes like his shirt or something, and maybe start a conversation about it if it's say, a band t-shirt and you both like that band. Talk maybe of the concerts you both've been to and whatnot, it'll show you guys could possibly hang at the same places in the future together and have similiar interests in music and everything.
And just listen to him, give him advice, be there for him, share jokes and laughs, have serious talks, just be yourself with him. Show him the real, great you, and what a great girlfriend you'd be if you two went out together.
I hope I helped.
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over the weekend a girl lets call her B asked out my boyfriend. she knows that we have been together for over a year and she asked anyways and then she made up lies saying that i was calling her and IMing her when i dont have her number or screenname. what should i do (link)
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[EDIT: Yeah, she probably is going to start doing that. All girls are catty like that and think by talking about people behind their backs, it'll gain more people on their side and try and win them over. As long as you know, your boyfriend knows, and all his friends know that you two aren't breaking up, and she's just being an immature idiot, that's all that matters. His friends should just ignore her or walk away from her whenever she starts talking about you or your boyfriend. ]
Just talk to your boyfriend about this situation.
Just make sure that he doesn't have any feelings for her or anything, just to get that out of the way and so you're not thinking he's cheating on you or anything.
Also, just let him know what you're feeling whenever she did that so if she's ever to do it again, he can be like,"You know I have a girlfriend, so stop, please." And try and get her to stop flirting and make her realize that he's taken and there's nothing she can do about it.
There's no need to worry, though. If she's going to be that desperate to try and get your man by asking him out whenever he's already taken, who wants her? You already know he likes you, and your his and nobody else's and vice versa.
I hope I helped.
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ok so i was friends with this guy and it was awsome we hung out lots and stuff he used to tell me to find him a girlfriend and stuff till a few nights ago he told me he liked me and i knew he was truthful and stuff and i really do like him so i went for it!!But there is a slight problem and thats hes only in grade 7 and im in grade 9 hes turning 13 soon and im turning 14 soon after but i dont know if this is wrong should i tell him im to old?
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If you really like this kid and want to be with him, then there's nothing wrong with that. I know it does seem weird for the girl to be older in the relationship, but that's only because that's what everyone grows up to. Usually, the mother's younger than the father, on television, the guy's older than the girl, it's just how it's always been.
But you shouldn't let that stop you. Alot of girls are starting to date younger guys, because they're not letting that get in the way of a possibly great relationship, so neither should you.
It's not wrong, it's just you and him dating and having a great time and potentially a great relationship.
Take a chance, we only live once!
I hope I helped.
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lately, i've been seeing things that look like the grim reeper. just really random things, like trees, or the shape of my blankets and its kind of freaky. does this mean anything (link)
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I don't think it means anything.
It's probably just your imagation, and your mind playing tricks on you.
Sometimes whenever people think they see something, and that images is in their mind alot still, if they look at other things, their mind tends to trick them and make them think they're seeing it other places too.
Just try and unfocus about the grim reaper and carry on about your business and just distract yourself, and then whenever you're mind isn't thinking about what the grim reaper looks like and the fact that you're looking to see if it's on something, then try and just hang out and see if you see him on anything.
But if you're insinutating that thing in like the movie Final Distraction where the girl sees things whenever people are about to die and it shows her how they're going to through the shadows or wherever, trust me, that's not true and it means nothing like that.
Like I said, it's probably just your imagination and your mind being silly.
I hope I helped.
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there's gunna be a GLOW party at a club
WHAT DO I WEAR?! (link)
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Well, I assume by the name GLOW, there may be glow sticks and bright lights and everything, so wear white. But make it something you don't care if it gets ruined or if anything gets on it, because sometimes at club, glow sticks tend to break, and if you get them on your clothes, well, your clothes'll be glowing whenever you DON'T want them to be.
Also, sometimes at these types of parties, they give you glow paint and you can splatter it all over your clothes which is loads of fun, so like I said, that's why you probably want to wear something white so it all stands out and pops out in the lights and everything, and also something you don't care if it gets ruined, so maybe go out shopping and buy a new white t-shirt.
I hope I helped.
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how do i gett my little advice thingy known? I like to help people out and i would love for people to ask me direct questionss. (link)
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Just put your advice column on your myspace, profile, away message, wherever you can so that people can see it and whenever they feel they have a question, they can come to you.
I used to have a well-known account on this site, and it was because I just answered as many questions as I could, and if the people rated me highly, I would be listed on the top-rated columnists and I got more people asking questions.
Also, if you've answered their question very well and they like you, you can also be added as their favorite columnist so whenever they have a problem, they can go directly to your page and ask, and they may also start to tell their friends.
It just really depends how well you answer your questions and if they person likes you and everything, and also how well you get your advice column out there to people.
I hope I helped.
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my friend said he's spending $250 on me for my birthday & asked me what i want him to buy for me
i don't know what i want though..
i already have 3 ipods, brand name purses, clothes from hollister, juicy, abercrombie, etc., make up and everything a girl can have.
i'm 13/f so what would you suggest i should tell him to buy for me? maybe a 100$ gift card to hollister? and then another 100 to abercrombie and 50 to bath& body works?! i don't know! lol i have evertyhing but i don't know what i should tell him to get me! (link)
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First of all, I know this isn't my place but I would tell him to lower the price. $250 is a quite alot of money and quite an extravagant gift to be giving a friend, but like I said, I know it isn't my place, so if you want to use all the $250, that's your choice.
I would just have him either do your suggestion and get gift cards to the stores you like, or as the person said below, just have him give you a check for it and then you can purchase whatever you want, whenever you want.
Maybe you and your friend can use all that money to plan an outing somewhere and just hang out with eachother the whole day and enjoy eachothers company. Go to the park and buy food and just hang out, maybe go to dinner and a movie. Share your birthday present for both of you to enjoy. It'll be fun, and bring the friendship closer too. Maybe even go to a concert together for a band you both like and you can buy t-shirts or a bag or whatever they're selling there with the bands name on it and everything.
I hope I helped.
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