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me & him, back & forth
My ex-boyfriend and I are going back & forth. We were in a relationship for a year and fell in love. I'm still in school (senior) and he has 2 jobs. We keep finding ourselves coming back to eachother but the timing of a relationship now is off. We have busy lives & he says he would barely see me but wants to keep in contact no matter what. This whole situation hurts badly, but I can't help but feel that if he really wanted it to work, he would. Is he making excuses or could he be genuine about everything? It's hard to drag this thing on and on, but I can't seem to let go & he doesn't seem to be completely letting go either.
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If it is just about sex when you do see him, then you could be nothing more than a friendly booty call to him. If you both enjoy spending non-sexual time together, than it is more. He has to work, don't hold that against him, but I am sure he could squeeze you in on his days off if he was serious about you. Is he older than you? Do you think he is seeing other women? Stop having sex (if you are) and you will find your answer.
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I don't think he's making an excuse. It sounds like this guy really cares about you and really doesn't want to let go of you. But believe me, one job is hard enough to keep up with, so I can understand why he's worried about not being able to spend time with you and everything, working two jobs.
If you really love this guy and you don't want to let go of him, don't. Love is worth waiting for, and I know that sounds corny, but it's true. This is just a little obstacle you guys can wait through and at least still communicate with eachother and let eachother know how much you care for eachother ; and just remind eachother.
I would try and talk to him about it and see if you two would ever get to see eachother. Try and figure out work times with him and your times for your plans, and see if there's any room for you two to see eachother. Seeing eachother for a little is better than nothing at all. It might even make the visits all the more greater and loving, if you two haven't seen eachother in awhile, it'll remind you both how much you guys miss eachother whenever you guys are apart.
Even if you were to attempt at letting go, like you said, you guys always find eachother again. So why let go of something, go through the hurt, and then wind up together anyways?
Like I said, just talk to him about it and try and figure some time to see eachother if there is any. If you're available and he has his lunch breaks at work, you guys could go out to lunch or dinner or something and eat and talk or do whatever you guys want to do. It's all just about organization, time, and testing your love, dedication, and commitment towards eachother.
I hope I helped.
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