I am too old and out of shape to beat around the bush so I'll give it to you straight. If you want sugarcoating go to the candy store, you won't find it here. Sometimes a little good old fashioned honesty is just what the doctor ordered!
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Don't try changing my mind, I want to die and I will.
Everyone hates me, I get bullied at school cos of how I look, what I like, my stupidity... pretty much anything about me. Even my family hate me. There's nothing to live for.
I just wanna know if there are any quick and painless ways to die, just so I don't have to die a horrible slow death cos I'm just a pussy...
If I get any lectures about how "life is precious", or "don't die, you'll be missed", or "suicide is selfish", I wil ignore them and if I don't find any quick and painless ways to kill myself, I guess I'll just have to stop being a pussy and die the hard way. I won't feel the pain when I'm dead anyway I guess... (link)
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You say you get bullied for what you like. I\'m just curious, what is it that you like that they are bullying you about? I always liked things no one else could understand either. I can\'t imagine anyone bullying you for being stupid. Yours is one of the most well written letters I\'ve come across in a while! You can even spell!Shoot,that\'s something to live for if you ask me! Maybe you can even write. I wonder what would come out if you put all your pain into words on a page. If you try I would like to read it. I\'ve just got a feeling about you, that you might be a writer like me. All great artists have a tormented soul!I\'ll bet you have a great talent that you don\'t even recognize yet!I\'m gonna let you in on a little secret,it doesn\'t matter if the whole world hates you as long as you can love yourself then somebody loves you. Don\'t ever forget you ARE somebody!
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Hello, I'm 18/F and my boyfriend is 21. We've been dating for almost two years now and we are deeply in love with each other. He wants to get me a promise ring but I think it's a bit childish and I want an engagement ring instead. What should I do? (link)
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It is your boyfriend\'s decision when and if he decides to propose to you. He is making a beautiful and loving gesture towards you. You are the one being childish in this situation. It is up to you whether you accept the ring or not but you can\'t force the poor guy to propose!
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I am a selfish jerk and a cheat. i have no skill sets to get a job. everybody around me is very judegemental so i cant tell truth about what is going on in my life. i just want to end it. please suggest me ways to kill myself. Dont try to talk me out of it. (link)
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Well, why the H-E double toothpicks don\'t you STOP being selfish and STOP being a jerk! Make your apologies like a man then go get some dang job skills,they offer it for free! It\'s not that hard! Most people don\'t need someone else to figure out their suicide(now c\'mon really?) so if you don\'t want talked out of it why did you post this? Whatever is going on in your life can be changed but that is up to you. Everyone has two choices in this life. You can be a whiner or be a winner. It takes a heck of a lot more courage to live than it does to die. I don\'t think you\'re a coward. If you find the courage to live you just might amaze yourself. If you would see a doctor they could give you medication for depression. A lot of people on the brink of suicide have gone on to live amazing lives after being treated for a chemical imbalance. Just some things to think about buddy, you know you could make good decisions from now on if you wanted to. Good luck!
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21/f, he's 27/m
I met this guy, he's 27. We expressed interest in each other when we first met (but it was online). I was nervous about meeting him in person at first because I felt like I would be too young or too naive for him. I know that's not right for me to assume but I guess that's just how I feel.
After our first in-person meeting, I realized how much we had in common and he makes me smile, in the longest time, I was actually nervous. And even afterward, he seemed to actually still expressed interest in me but I can't help but have doubts in my head.
For example, I have an older sister that is a year younger than he is and even though she has a boyfriend, I sometimes fear that if he ever met her, he may like her instead just because she's closer to his age. Another is that our lifestyle is different. I obviously still live with my parents and I'm trying to get into graduate school; whereas, he already has a career going.
I have already had two relationships that has ended because my lifestyle and my family issues was "too much to handle." (Money issues, parents aren't getting along, etc.) My mom thought my last relationship ended because my boyfriend's parents didn't like the fact that we made less money than they did. Maybe that's why I may have doubts in my head?
He's aware that I have a 26 year old sister and he still seems to "like" me, I guess? He said he wanted to see me again but I'm afraid to appear in front of him, even afraid to show him my car just because of our lifestyle is so different.
Doubts in my mind. Maybe I'm not good enough? (link)
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First of all you need to address your own issues before getting into a relationship with anybody. I hate to be so blunt but you are a bundle of insecurity and no man wants to deal with that. How in the world are you ever going to date if you think every man you meet will want your sister? A man will only stroke your ego for so long before it becomes tedious.You need to build up your own self esteem(I would suggest counseling)before even attempting another relationship. There are girls living in a homeless shelter who would have the confidence to date this man and make HIM feel like the lucky one! It\'s all in the attitude, do you see what I mean? Once you become someone YOU would like to date then it is time. Please don\'t be offended, I am too old and too out of shape to beat around the bush anymore! You seem like such a nice girl and I would hate for you to continue going through a string of broken relationships without knowing why or what to do about it! Good luck!
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i am 13 and my boyfriend is 19. he wants to have sex with me ? what should i do ? (link)
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I know you probably have a lot of feelings for him but the truth is he is taking advantage of you and what he is asking you to do is not only wrong it is illegal. If you really have feelings for him then you need to realize that having sex with him can put him behind bars for a very long time. If he really has feelings for you he would NOT ask you to have sex at the age of 13. He would wait for you as a good friend until you are older. Please don\'t let him pressure you into this. A lot of bad things could happen to you(and to him). You could get a disease or become pregnant and he could be arrested and do several years in prison. It is not worth it and HE should know better!
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my heart has been doing weird stuff so i was looking what can be wrong with the heart and it said "coronary artery disease" but i don't know what that means. can some one please explain so a 16 year old can understand? (link)
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If you are having any weird stuff happening with your heart you need to tell a parent right away and have them make you an appointment with a real doctor. Do NOT try to diagnose yourself on the internet! It is very highly unlikely that you have coronary artery disease at sixteen but you could indeed be having a problem with your heart. It needs to be checked out as soon as possible. Please tell someone right away, OK?
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Okay so I have been with my boyfriend for almost three months and, in my mind, things have seemed to be going okay. I'm 16 he's 15 and this is the first relationship for both of us, we're also both quite shy people so the relationship is moving quite slowly. We see each other most days at school and we've met up a few times at weekends and we don't text an awful lot. People say that we can't really class ourselves as being in a relationship and that we're being pathetic. I can kind of see what they're saying seeing as we don't make any physical contact with each other - we've awkwardly hugged once but that's as far as we've got.
I wouldn't mind moving things on a bit faster and being in contact with him more but I'm not really sure how to go about it. I have social anxiety so I am constantly scared of saying something wrong or annoying him by texting him too much.
Also, my best friend told me the other day that she and this other boy basically forced my boyfriend into asking me out. I had no idea about this now I'm worried that maybe he didn't have any intention of asking me out and he only did it to stop people bothering him.
On the other hand, he has bought me really nice presents for Christmas, Valentines Day and my birthday and always responds very quickly and positively whenever I suggest we meet up. He spends time with me at school rather than his friends and always seems to be happy spending time with me.
Basically I'm confused - I want a relationship that people don't class as pathetic but I don't know if that's what he wants. (link)
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I know it is hard with all the peer pressure but please don\'t let your friends define your relationships. Your relationship is not pathetic, as a matter of fact it sounds pretty normal for your ages. It sounds like your boyfriend is pretty shy but you are both mature enough to know that it is not wise to rush into relationships. I am guessing most of your friends have not reached that level of maturity yet. Some teens don\'t reach that stage of maturity until they have been diagnosed with an STD or gotten have gotten pregnant. Just tell your friend \"we\'re good, we know what we are doing\" and just let your relationship progress at it\'s own pace. You might want to have a heart to heart with your boyfriend about the rumor you heard and see how he responds to it. If he really likes you he will probably tell you the truth. At your age relationships should be lighthearted and fun. They don\'t have to be life and death serious all the time. Your friends are trying to move too fast because they think it makes them look more mature when in reality it is just the opposite.
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My husband and I have fallen on hard times and can't afford to keep an apartment, so we've resorted to moving back to my mom and dad's in my old bedroom. There's limited space, and we'll have to share a kitchen. What can I do to make this feel more like home for us? (link)
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For now you will have to make your room your haven. Involve your husband and find out what would make it seem homey and comfortable for him. Combine your tastes and come up with a style that is unique to you as a couple. Maybe you like ruffles and he likes industrial. I'm picturing a white ruffled bedspread and industrial hanging lights with pulleys on either side bed with a small camouflage throw pillow(if he likes hunting) and maybe a wood and metal chair or stool for a nightstand! Some awesome black and white photos of your wedding day grouped together on a wall will keep the memory of that beautiful day fresh in your minds as you go through these trying times. You could put a wall word that has meaning to you both over the bed(like DREAM or IMAGINE)so you never lose sight of what you want for the future. Remember this is going to be a much harder transition for him since this was never his room before. If at all possible make as many changes as you can so that it doesn't still reflect who you were as a single girl. He needs to feel that while you are here it is his room as well. Good luck to you both!
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I'm 2o years old (female) in college. I just recently moved out of the dorm rooms and into a house. I am sharing the house with two other people. I want to decorate my room so its cute. The walls right now are a dark beige. The room is onnly like 10ftx10. I know its not huge, but i'm a broke college student. Does any one have a few ideas how to decorate? I can paint if i really want to..but at this point I really dont want to. I have a black shelf that will be in room, so i would like to some home incorporate black ish colors...but i definetly like bright colors (link)
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There is a lot you can do with this. Crates come to mind right away. You can buy inexpensive wooden crates at WalMart, paint them if you like and use them for bedside tables. Pillows, lamps,baskets, throws, and wall art can all be purchased at second hand stores for very little. You might even want to take photos of family and pets from home, get black and white prints enlarged and frame them. Wooden wall letters or stick on wall letters are also an inexpensive option. Have fun with it!
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Hello, my boyfriend and I just bought a new house. The outside is great but the inside is horrible. Actually, it really just needs new carpeting and a fresh coat of paint throughout (everything can be easily fixed!) but since we are making this house our own, I don't want just plain white walls in every room. My problem is, I have so many ideas for each room and none of them really coordinate! Plus, if they DO coordinate, I don't want everything to be too matchy-matchy. How can I create a good them for the whole house but still make each room unique? (link)
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Decide what your focal point will be for each room and work off of that. My favorite theory is choose the thing you love the most. For example maybe you have a great piece of artwork or a really cool collection of something interesting that you want to showcase. Once you decide on your main focal point just make sure everything else compliments it but doesn't overpower it. You are right about the matchy-matchy thing. You are better off adding different textures than trying to get everything perfectly matched. For example I have a fur throw, a sisal rug and a rough wood coffee table. They don't really "match" but they compliment each other beautifully!My best advice is don't stress and whatever you do, have fun with it!
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My kitchen sink is stopped up and the water is going from one side to the other. It took forever for the water to go down in both sides and everytime you put something in one side it goes to the other sink. The pipes are metal.We tried drano, it didn't work. How do I fix it without spending a lot of money?
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I would try this first(it worked for me), dip all the water out of the sink(use a sponge to sop up the last of it) then pour a little Dawn dish detergent into both drains. Pour some boiling water into the sink(be careful when plunging that you don't burn yourself)then take a small plunger and just keep plunging one side and then the other. It took mine about 20 min.to break loose.Try putting the stopper in one side and plunging the other then reverse sides. If it doesn't work you will probably have to try one of the methods that the others suggested. Good luck!
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my room bores me to death and i need some thing new that goes along with my personallity
basically im an emo girl so i like only black n neon colors (always have always will) so are there any ideas to make my room match me better i already have nice bright pink walls but wat could i do 2 decorate it?????? (link)
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If you want to make your room more personal you could take some black and white photos of family , friends, pets, etc. and have them enlarged Put them in poster frames(you could use a black frame with a white mat and even have the people sign the mat (or your pet's footprint)and you will have your own meaningful artwork on display. Think outside the box. Maybe take photos of your friends from the knee down or just their hands or just their eyes(you see where I'm going with this)If you can't buy frames right now attach metal clips (like on a clipboard) to your wall to hold your artwork or photos. Even if you are not a good artist anyone can paint a word on a blank sheet. Imagine a large white poster board with one bold black word!You could also get your friends or family to dip their hands in black paint and make a hand print poster. Whatever you decide have fun with it!Good luck!
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I'm of shy nature, but I love making videos. I personally think I've got good ideas to entertain people with bad movie reviews, sketches, top 10, etc. The only thing is... I'm scared that people end up mocking me and/or dislike me.
I know you cannot be loved by everyone, but I'm scared I get more hate than appreciation. I really want to do this though, should I take a risk or being a liked youtuber is excessively hard? (link)
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Well, you have to ask yourself what is the worst thing that will happen to you if people mock you and don't like you. Some people don't give it a second thought but some people might commit suicide.(If you are in the later category then I don't advise you to try it just yet!) Everyone is afraid to put themselves out there for public ridicule but no one would be famous right now if they hadn't decided to risk it!You said the most important thing already...you love it. I think it will turn out just fine, but if you do get haters and it bothers you then just remove the video and try a different one! Best of luck to you!
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You know how there are sites that let you compare cars, and sites that let you compare electronics and everything else side by side? Is there some way to compare bedroom sets that different stores have for sale? Obviously we can't drag one to the other, so I was hoping for an on-line comparison kinda thingy? Anybody know? (link)
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If you have a Pinterest account you can pin all the items you are interested in as you are browsing and compare them later on. You have to have the Pinterest button on your upper right screen to pin while you are shopping.You can find out how to get it on the Pinterest website.
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so my really close friend was taking to my other friend and my other friend say "oh I have a lot of pimples" and my close friend said "u must have gotten them from rose" should I confront my close friend? (link)
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If you think your pimples are a problem for you let your Mom know so that she can get you some skin care products for acne. Maybe you should give your close friend a break though, she probably doesn't know a lot about pimples or why you get them. Just tell her "you can't catch pimples(duh)!"
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So my bf & I met when we were both 18 & got together a couple months later. I had cheated on my previous bf with him, but I felt so bad about that I told the very next day (we just kissed,& it turns out to be my current bf's first kiss), & when I told him he asked why. After my first boyfriend & I broke up after 3 months on & off. Less than a month after we'd been broken up, I started dating the guy I cheated with-who turns out to be my steady bf since late 2010. I took his virginity in January 2011, & all was well for a while. Then he started lying over stupid things (where he was, that he had to go home, who he was with-said he was with his friend Kyle, but he was with a girl he "used" to like,& talk shit on me)..or "forgetting" to tell me things, & making the same promises over and over. It doesn't help that he never seems sincere & using uses a sarcastic or mocking tone, & usually extremely critical of me. I do love him so much,& he's my first,& we have had a lot of good times, but I don't know what to do anymore. Help please?? (link)
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If he is mocking and critical of you my advice is to dump him now. Even if you still love him, dump him anyway. It will never go back to what you first had no matter what. It doesn't sound like he has any respect for you as a person. It is time to move on with your life and find a boyfriend who will treat you right.If someone truly cares for you they would never do anything to make make you feel bad on purpose. You deserve better so go on out there an find it!
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I'm adopting a black domestic short-hair kitten from a nearby rescue, and I was wondering if I should get one or two of them. We have two kids who should be mature enough to care for a pet, and a medium-sized house. I'm a stay-at-home parent, so the kitten(s) wouldn't be alone too much. We already have a kitten picked out (short black fur with a white patch on her neck), and are planning to name her Kia. So, now we just need to decide if we should get a second kitten. There are five other kittens in the litter (two black boy kittens, two black girl kittens, and a white girl), who all seem to have pretty good bonds with each other. So, should we get another kitten? (We are well aware of the costs of having a cat) If yes, which one should we pick, and what would be a good name? Any suggestions would be great. Thank you. (link)
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It sounds like you are counting on your kids to care for the pet(s) and while you feel they are mature enough you really can't be sure they will welcome this much responsibility until they are put to the test. I believe if I were in your shoes I would just get one to begin with. If your kids take responsibility and care for it as you expect them to then I would add a second pet to your household. I do know from experience that even the most mature and well intentioned kids tend to forget about the needs of a pet when school, friends, and phones are on their minds! Since you are a stay at home parent maybe you wouldn't mind taking care of them when the kids are busy, either way it is great that you are giving a rescue kitty a good home! Kia sounds adorable, I think if I got a second kitty I would name him Rondo or Rio!
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She dresses like a freak, does stupid things, sticks her tongue out like an idiot, appears naked in her music videos, and literally only sings one song these days. WTF? She used to be my role model, but now I hate that stupid bitch. I know Ariana Grande defended her, but she defends everybody. What my friends say about Mileys “wrecking ball" is,“good song, bad singer" what is wrong with her? (link)
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I think Miley is a very angry young woman. Perhaps she has a lot of issues with her parents or she just feels like she could never be herself growing up as the character of Hannah Montana. At any rate Miley is making some very poor decisions these days and I am glad you are smart enough to see that she isn't a good role model anymore. You are right, she is doing some pretty stupid things right now. Try not to hate her though, she probably has a lot of pain inside and she just isn't mature enough to know how to deal with it.
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I have a FAFSA loan thing that I have to do for school. Do you know how long I have until the deadline for it to be turned in? (link)
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To give you a specific date I would need to know what state you live in. In my state it is June 30th. I believe you can still submit even after the deadline passes but you may not get as much aid.
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I need advice to get over my e boyfriend im 15 years old . I just cant get over him its really hard but all he wants to sex but he would stop talking to me for a while I always felt like it was me I just need advice to get over him . he played a lot of mind games
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I had a similar experience and I know what you are going through. It is very hard to get over your first love, especially if he was your first sexual experience as well. The best thing to do is start dating again and make sure this time that the guy is really into you and not just after sex. Find someone you have a lot in common with. Go places and have fun, really get to know each other before sex enters into the relationship. Your first love will always have a special place in your heart but you have to let go and move on or you will just end up getting more and more miserable and believe me life is a LOT more fun if you are out there living it instead of locked away in your room pining over some guy who used you and moved on. (By the way,and I speak from experience)don't buy any of his crap the next time he shows up, says he is sorry and still loves you and of course thinks he can prove it with some kissing, cuddling and make-up sex. If you go for it this guy will show up every time he gets horny and can't find a willing partner but he still won't know you the next day. Please move on!Good luck!
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