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im sara, and i'm smallll. dig itim in love with tylor mutton
& have been since june 28th 2006
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oh my god og my god oh my god please anyone help i cant even type my best girl friend just committed suicide last night, i'm freaking out. i just heard this morning, she lives two streets away from me, i'm 16/m. she's 15/f. wow i really dont know what to say shes my only friend that ever listened to me and actually cared and i feel like im one of the main reasons she killed herself. she had tons of problems, and lots were with ppl i talked to and stuff. i duno what to do, oh my freaking god. i cant believe this. please help i seriously think i was the main casue of her wanting to die
omg wow that's rough =[ now for someone to actually kill themselves, there's never just one reason. don't think it's your fault because you'll never know for sure. you said she had other problems too, but don't blame yourself! that will only make this harder on you than it has to be. don't you go and do something crazy like she did.. because you saw firsthand how much someone killing themselves can hurt sooo many other people.. so don't you do it. find someone to talk to like a trusted adult.. a parent or something or maybe some kind of support group. having a loved one or someone close kill themselves is a very traumatic thing to go through.. trust me, i know. just don't blame youself because it will only be hurting you more.. since you'll never know the real cause, you should just know that it was not your fault.. she probably had bigger problems that were just too hard to deal with. i'm really sorry to hear about this, and good luck getting through! just try your best to stay positive and don't blame yourself or do anything dumb, okay!? good luckk!!!!!!!! =\
okay so..im14/f and my boyufriend is 16. and over holiday break, his family went on vacation. they went on an 10 day cruise on the carribean. jealous? ya, me too. but while he was gone, new years happened. and i did something that i couldnt regret more. i hooked up with his best friend. but i couldnt really help it. we were at a house party. and it got crazy with liquor. and i drank. a lot. i was really wasted and out of it. but the point is, i have a very guilty conscience(?). i know that i wont feel okay untill i tell him. but how do you tell the person that you love with all of your heart that you cheated. how do you cheat on them in the first place. i feel dirty. hes the only person that i have ever been intimate with, and i know that i love him and he loves me back. its so hard to live with guilt. and i feel like a tramp. once again, how do i tell him. btw, hes incredibly strong and im sure he would hurt one of us. most likely the friend. what do i do to stop everything.
my questions- was his best friend drunk too? did he pressure you into it? or did you start it?
first off, cheating is a terrible thing & i'm sure you're aware of that.. i can tell that you're sorry and that's probably the only good thing about this situation.
since you obviously HAVE to tell him, sit him down, wait until he's in a calm, serious, and happy mood, and just lay it out. explain that you were extremely intoxicated and you would never ever do it if you were actually aware of what you were doing.
but before you tell him, you might want to have a talk with his best friend to get your stories straight to avoid any further complications. this is a very sticky situation, and you wouldn't want to make anything worse so just make sure you know what you're talking about.
one thing that struck me as kind of scary is that you said he would most likely hurt one of you.. if it's even a question that he might ever harm you, i wouldn't even bother with him. now i could understand him hurting his friend, but not you, ever.
the chance that he will forgive you is very slim, but if you really have a strong love and if he thoroughly understand that you were drunk and didn't know what you were doing, then there's hope. just make sure he knows that you would never do anything like that again, that you truly love him, and that you honestly were 100% unaware of what was going on.. good luck hun!!! =D