about

My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

advice

im still a virgin and i just wanted to know if u can get pregnant ifu have sex for the first time and u use a condom and birth control ??

If you use a condom and birth control pills it's very rare that you can get pregnant. But always be careful.

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how do you dance with a guy, like i know how to slow dance, but how to you fast dance without seeming like a whore?

You dance how ever you know how to. You won't seem like a whore but you should know your limits. Dance like you would dance with your friends. Just have fun and don't worry about what stupid girls might say.

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yes i know its a stupid ?...who sings laffy taffy?

D4L-Shake That Laffy Taffy

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What is the BEST energy drink for me to buy?

Energy drinks aren't healthy and good for you. The best thing is water or Gatorade or Powerade.

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hey what does prep actuali mean ????

It is just one of the labels.. prep is really how you dress. You know, wearing Hollister, Abercrombie & Fitch, American Eagle. Being prep is just being really girly.

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whats oral sex ???

Oral sex is anything sexual pretty much. Like fingering, blowjob/head.

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I have a crush on this boy and I don't think he likes me back.What should I do?

What can you do about it? Do you know why he might not like you? You should flirt with him, talk to him more and get to know him. If he doesn't like you, I'm sorry but there isn't anything you can do about it.

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OK, well see there is this girl in my class she is really sweet. I want her to be my friend, i mean we talk every once and a while but iwanna be like talkn to her constaly but i don't know what to do help!

Sincerly,
Help

This is a very okward question. You can't make someone be your friend. If you constantly want to talk to her and you guys aren't even friends, she might think you are getting annoying. I'm just telling the truth. I know how it is. If you be nice to her and just talk to her and ask her to hang out.

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ok, why do people not understand that you cant get over a guy so fast! i mean all my friends tell me to get over this guy! but i cant! n thn they say im dumb! WTF?!

Ahh, been there. Some people do understand that but mainly the reason your friends tell you that is because they don't want to see you hurt. Getting over a guy is hard, expesilly if you liked him soo much. It took me over 6 months, and to tell you the truth I don't think I'm really over that one guy. Anywho, don't listen to them. Even though they are your friends, they might not understand how you feel right now. Take as long as you need babe and good luck.

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I need your opinion:
I have been love for four years.
I am 17 now.
Some people say I'm too young and others say that seventeen is ld enough to know what you want.
I've always been mature for my age and when I told everyone I was in love at fourteen, needless to say, they didn't believe it. But it has been years and I am still in love.
Do you think I'm "old enough" to be in love? If I am, then wasn't I old enough when I was fourteen because back then, I was sure I would be in love forever and I still am.

You don't have to be older to be in love. I don't really understand why people say when you are younger you don't know what love is, and that is not true. Anyone and everyone can expiriance love. I have to admit, I have. Even though I'm in my teen years I know how it feels. You are not too young. There is no age that you can be in love. Don't listen to people who say you are too young or old enough, because you can be in love at any age.

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My mom gives me absolutely NO privacy!! She checks everyhing - meaning she'll listen in on my phone calls, and she asks EVERYTHING! I don't mind, because I tell her EVERYTHING anyways. But I draw the line when she demands to know my computer passwords! She even goes through my GARBAGE to look at old school papers and read notes from my friends! She goes through my purse and everything. Other than my cell phone, I don't have ANYTHING she doesn't check. I'm 15, if she asks something, I'll tell her. Isn't it my right to atleast be able to have my own screen name without her being able to get on it?? It would be so embarrassing if a friend IMed me and was saying something personal to me and my mom read it! And I'll change my password so she can't get in, but she demands it! What do I do? I try to reason w/ her nicely and say stuff like "Well I tell you everyhing anyways, can't i atleast have SOME space?" & she flips out!!

Oh my gosh!! Your mom is really over protective. It's awesome that your mom cares and loves you but you really do need some privacy. Sometimes my mom would read the conversations I have with my friends online, but that is only when I leave the computer on. Anyways, even though she is your mother she shouldn't be doing that. Did you do something to make her not trust you anymore? Instead of yelling and saying I need privacy!! you should really "talk" with your mom about this. You can also tell your dad or gaurdian and talk to them about thing. Do things that would make your mom trust you.

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Ok, I have been discharging alot lately, and its been going thru my underwear, should I wear a pad or a panty liner? and is it normal to discharge badly (alot)? and Ive been having it for like a year and a half, does that mean my period is coming? I rate high

It's not bad that you discharge. It's actually healthy for you, but the bad thing is you never know when you will get your period. Wear those light pads so it doesn't go through your underwear and always have extra pads or tampons with you.

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How old do you think you should be for it to be okay for you to start dating? I need a lot of opionions !! all ages!! please in your answer put how old you are because i really need a lot of different point of views...
thanks soo much

xox

I think people should date when they are mature enough. About 13-15. I was 13.

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I have just gone into seventh grade this year, And me and my friends all want to decorate peoples lockers for their birthdays. But my one friend doent seem like she wants me to help. I was just on the phone with her and she was getting ready to go in early tomorrow to decorate one ofour friends lockers. But when I asked her if I could help she was just kinda guiet and said, "I don't Know." And when she was talking about all the lockers she was going to decorate I said, "Yeah, you and me will have to go in and decorate them together." When I said that she was jsut kind of quiet. And when I asked if that was o.k, she just said really quietly. " I guess So." So I can't tell if she wants me to help or not. We are both friends with the same people. I ust don't kow why she is acting so weird. If someone could PLLLEASE right back ASAP, that would be great!

Seems like she wants to do it all herself and take the credit. They are your friends and you deserve to decorate their lockers. We have a lot of this drama in my school as well. The 7th graders are always argueing and getting mad over the stupidest things but if your friend is going to act like that, then just don't decorate it with her. They are your friends as much as they are hers and you don't have to do it together. Even though you want to.

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Ok so there is this girl on my bus named jessica. And were arent friends or anything. And she told the kid across from me that her stepfather beats her. So me and the other kid decided that we would tell the guideance counseler about it. Well the other kid goes to Vo-tech during the day so he wanted me to tell the office. So I did. Well somehow Jessica found out that I was the one who told and now shes mad at me. She is being really nasty to me what should i do? I mean I was only trying to help

Its natrual to be mad, but you need to talk to her. Even if she doesn't want to hear it, don't take her immaturity. You have to explain to her that you were trying to help her and nothing more! It's really good thatyou told someone about it, because if it's really true then she would be misrable. Let her act the way she wants but one day she will relize that you weren't trying to be mean to her or hurt her. You aren't friends with her so you have nothing to loose.

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Who sings "Shake ya Tailfeather"?

What are some rap artists?

Nelly ft. Diddy sings Shake ya Tailfeather. I don't listen to rap but I can help.

Some rappers would be.

Ludacris
Lil Jon
Diddy
50 Cent
Ying Yang Twins
Nelly
Redman
Methodman
Chingy
Mc Chris
Lil Wayne
Eminem
Tony Yayo
The Game
2 Pac
Fat Joe
Young Money
Dr.Dre
Biggie Smalls
Snoop Dog
Sticky Fingaz
Obie Trice

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ok i asked the one about the buddly list thing before... well i dont have ne sn's linked but i do have aimutation and i am on two screen names at once but i tried signing off my old one and it didnt work it loads n all and then it just all disappears its really weird.. its ok if u don't no what to do.. and yeah i deleted all my groups and everthing.

I really don't know what the problem could be. Try a different screen name. Sorry though.

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OK I like this guy. Today he came to my locker and memerized my combo. Then later while he thot i wasnt looking broke into it. Then I was all excited thinking he liked me but then he cam up and said he got into my locker to see 'if he could'. So then this girl tells me everyone thinks he likes one of my bff;s. Five seconds after that I find out another bff likes him and is crazy about him. But he is always smiling at me and making me laugh and stands next to me a lot. I only have one class with him so I don't know if he does this to other girls to, but I know he does that to me!
What should I do? And PLEASE no harsh answers b/c I am crazy about this guy and one move and I'm going to be crushed...

I really don't know what your question is. Who did you hear that he likes one of your best friends? You shouldn't belive it if you don't know it's true.. for sure. If he is always flirting with you and making you laugh then maybe he likes you. Then again, you never know. He might like you as a friend a lot. Does he flirt with her? Just think of those questions and try to answer them yourself. It will help you. Another thing that you can do, which would be the best idea, is to simply ask him if he likes her. Just tell him you heard it around and you just wanted to know.

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ok well everytime i save my old buddlylist when i make a new screen name to load everything onto it and all but when i go to load it it aways says One or more of the additions or modifications to your Buddy List were not able to be saved. -- and not all of my screen names on my old one show up and i try to add thm but it keeps saying that is there anyway to fix this or make it work i neeed help as quick as possibly! thankss

When you go onto your new screen name, delete the groups that are already there. Do you have the other screen name linked? If you do than that is the problem. Try unlinking it first and then load it.

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Omgg..Im really nervous beacsue my 30 pound dog at a tootsie pop today and I really dont want he to dieee..Will shee

No, he will not die. Chocolate is not good for dogs, but he didn't have enough to get sick. Now, he might have a tummy ache but your dog will be fine. It will eventually poop it out.

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