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So at camp this past week this guy was like asking all these girls to be his gf and to give him blow jobs and stuff, and he kept on saying that he wanted to be alone w/ me, and whenever we were he'd be like "oo i think ur so hot let's get freaky!" then i'd be like "ok let's do it!" adn he'd be like "haha ur stupid." like he would get my hopes up and then just yank away the opportunity. What kind of a mental problem does this sound like to you? (meaning him)
it made me feel even worse about myself. I'm crying as i write this. I can't seem to get over this, it's like i'm taking it personally like he didn't want me just because of my appearance or w/e even though he already said i was hot.
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help.
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I wouldn't say he has mental problems but his behavior is inappropriate and of concern to the camp counselors who are keeping you safe.
He should not have been running around talking to every girl he encountered asking them to be his girlfriend and do sexual things with him. That's not normal behavior but based on that we can't say he has a mental illness or suggest it.
He did need however, to be kept in line and spoken to, maybe sent home over it. Someone below said it was hormones, it may be that however there's a lot of people (teens, tweens, adults) with hormones racing and or sex drive that have the judgment at any age not to be saying what he is to girls especially at a camp.
He may have been joking about being alone with you and doing sexual things but you put yourself in a pretty bad situation by agreeing to this. Maybe, you were spared a horrible experience that could have scarred you afterwards by him reacting by laughing at you. There's something not right with him or the situation here.
You didn't miss out on anything and you shouldn't care whether he liked your appearance or not. Your appearance and who you are inside is fine.
The right person will know and see this. This guy doesn't sound like the right anything. Don't cry over it or him as you have a lot more important things to focus on. He's bad news and believe me has problems.
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My guy bestfriends Girlfriend (Well ex now) cheated on him and his upset and crying alot and now he smokes i need to give him some advice any at all please ! :( (link)
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Tell him that you are there to listen and you know how he felt about her. Let him know that she made the wrong decision by cheating on him and that it's her loss.
Put emphasis on the fact it wasn't his fault and nothing he did caused it and on a crucial point that he deserves better and will find it.
Tell him you aren't out to pass judgment but think he ought to quit smoking as it's dangerous and he can easily become addicted to it. Ultimately, it's his decision to quit or continue smoking. You can say your piece but only he can decide things for himself. I think he will appreciate you being a concerned friend
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does anyone know like the first numbers on a phone number if someone was calling me from england?
my dad went away to englang and it was my family's night to finalyl visit my aunt since she's really sick but our dad forbid us to visit her just cuz he doens't like her so we stayed up really late and when we went home the phone said there were three phone calls from out of area.. (link)
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Calls from Europe usually begin with 011 and then the area code and number. The numbers will not show up on a Canadian or American call-screen unit.
You'll always see Out of Area. But that's deceptive as any and all long distance numbers come up as out of area so it may not have been hers.
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15/f Ok, I'm one of those girls that has only guy friends and maybe one or two girl friends... well one of the guys that I'm closer too came up to me during summer and i'll just cut to the cheesy romantics and say "i recieved the butterfly in stomach effect" I knew he was a good looking guy but -cue the teen drama- now he just looks different in a VERY good way. How can I make things 'not awkward' when school starts and not make a complete moron out of myself?
signed (or typed in this case),
Annoyed little tomboy (link)
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If he's already came up to you and you're very close it's time you did something totally uncharacteristic for you. Tell him you have been wondering what it might be like if you became a couple. Ask him if he would be willing to try dating?
Hon, you never get what you want without going after it or showing you are interested. Clearly, he's in to you or you would not have been approached. You cannot hide or deny what those butterflies mean for long.
Approach him about this and see what happens as the worst thing that could happen would be that he said no. What if he said yes? I know you really want this for yourself so I recommend doing something bold and showing the same interest back or outright asking him to be yours.
As long as you aren't being phony at school and stick to being who you are nothing will be awkward with him. If you saw him at school just act normally and treat him like always things will go fine.
There's no way you can make yourself look bad that way. Treat every day as normal and as if life goes on when he isn't there and block thoughts about him from your mind if you need to. Nobody said it would be an easy thing.
I think you need to stop denying your feelings and those butterflies you got when he approached you. It's telling you that you need to act and stop being so shy and ask him if he feels the same way.
In the event he doesn't just be yourself at school and treat him cordially if you see him around. As long as you do that nobody could ever accuse you of acting like a complete moron.
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What exactly is an internship?
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An internship is when you work at a place for free in a job related to your chosen field in college/university to gain your first taste of real-life experience in that job or chosen field to see what awaits you after graduation.
It's sort of on the same level as a high school co-op placement but with a hell of a lot more riding it on it. I hope this answers your question.
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i cant stand highschool anymore im in 11th grade and i would do absolutley anything to leave.. i was thinking maybe of doing a foriegn exchange program for 11th grade .. is that possible?? if so can someone give me the info on it??
idk why but 10th grade was impossible for me i had too many nerve problems with my stomach and stuff it was bad.. caused me to start cutting classes and never going to school. dont get me wrong i was once a straight a studen im smart.. i just cant apply myself when theres things standing in my way and distracting me.. im really scared for 11th grade cause i know for a fact im going to do bad with my nerve problems.. i want to do something like get homeschooled or go away to another country or something just so that i can have a change and not have these nerve problems its been really bad and i think if i had to go through it again for another school year ill end up dead.. you have no idea what ive been through this year.
someone help me please its august and im like crying everyday thinking im one step closer to school (link)
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I have a possible solution for you that might work. I think you should see your doctor about your nerves and have them send you to see a psychiatrist.
While you are not mentally ill you could tell that person what you told us about your nerves and constant fear at school and discomfort. Tell him/her you cannot leave or transfer but know it will not be good for your health to stay.
That will be enough for them to draft up a letter to the admin about this recommending a transfer or better yet that you get placed in an adult day school for high school or be allowed to complete your 11th and 12th year at night school as both are better environments for you.
A psychiatrist can fight for you in this case whereas a regular doctor cannot. I went this route and did adult day school for all 4 years of high school. When you're in with adults you're in a better enviornment.
Your school board won't talk about it or let you know it's there but there's lots of night school programs in your city/town and or adult day schools or adult education centres. Your job is to find out about them before school starts and try to make something happen there.
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my mac book pro is getting really warm everytime i turn it on for more than half an hour. i downloaded smcfancontrol but it doesnt seem to be doing that much (temp is 75c!) is there anyone who knows what to do with it.... my lap and the table roasted from the heat! (link)
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Call Apple at 1-800-My-APPLE and ask for the number for the U.S. and or Canada technical support line. Once they give you that number call them and tell them it's overheating every half hour and they'll pinpoint why and tell you what to do to remedy the issue.
The Canadian number is 1-800-263-3394 You'll have to ask them for the U.S. line or international. I sincerely hope you have Apple Care on this machine as it protects you for 3 years extended warrenty, unlimited tech support, and free repairs no matter what goes wrong with it.
If you don't it would be a good time to purchase it from Apple over the phone and or any Apple Store. find out if there is one in your area as you can take your machine in to them.
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well me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost about a week. But the problem is, we could never have a decent convo on the phone. so my question is, i want some good topics to talk about on the phone. i already know all the basics about him...so please don't write that..
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Tell him that it has nothing at all to do with him but you have never been comfortable talking to anyone on the phone. Even if that's a bit of a white lie do it.
Let him know you prefer face to face or IM over the phone as you always have a hard time thinking of good things to say or that are intelligent. Tell him you can't stand awkward silences.
Guys like to talk about sports, music, cars etc. Figure out his interests and focus on them as well as your common interests and see if you can stretch a conversation out.
Another thing that would work is to go home and jot down things you want to ask him so when he calls you'll have a lot of material you can cover together on the phone. So what if you have to write out questions and read them? He won't know.
If you let him know and joke about it that you feel awkward and not at all good on the phone it will be okay. Maybe he'll help work you through this until you become confident.
Remember to think of him like anyone else you talk to and treat it like that as that may help you loosen up. Just remember no matter what he's not going to dump you or ridicule you over this. A lot of people hate phone conversations. You aren't alone.
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I have a bf... and our relashonship is going really well... but my BEST FRIEND keeps acting all mushy around him infront of me, and i know its to make me jealos
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He needs to talk to her and tell her that she needs to cut out the mushy behavior and flirting because he's not interested and is taken. If that doesn't do it both of you need to tell her that together.
If she's a friend she shouldn't be doing this and neither of you should tolerate it for one more second. It's inappropriate behavior out of anyone.
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My Mom keeps saying she's leaving. She's so selface and blames everything on me. Jason and Scott( my brothers) ones a drunk the other can't hold a job do nothing wrong and when they do they shuve it onto me. I got an air conditioner and I have to share my room with My brother Jason. He broke my alarm clock, my light, destroyed my favorite books and I just want to go a night without crying. Im 14 I want my own room.. he messing with my pads and tampons, whips my bra's at me so I kicked him out and he broke my door! And they dont even care..
My cousin Laura said a while ago when she got her new apartment Id always have a place to stay. She lives 2 towns away tho how am I gunna get there? ANd she has a kid anda boyfriend and a life that and at the moment Jason and Her both work at the same place so It wouldnt me like its a secrete I live with her and my Mom might flip if she knows Im planning on leaving. She wants to so why cant I. Im thinking about walking there.. I have a bank accont with some money in it.. but Ive saved up and Its not really my money I have a neighbor I grew really close with and shes dont alot for me and her names carolyn. Shes already said she would take me in, but my Mom would like call the cops about a runaway and get Carolyn in trouble and I wont let that happen so I was thinking that because I was with family maybe my Mom can't do that. I know I cannot stay with Laura long, she has her own life, and I would only be getting in the way. Shes kinda understanding but I was never really close with her but she offered so If i ask about spending a couple nights to get away from the family.. I cant stay with friends, not a lot of them because If my family doesnt ask questions there going too and I dont want my problems pawned off to other people.. So if i pack a bag I have a cell so anyone could call me but running away doesnt solve anything.. And my dad basicly blames me for my Mom wanting to leave. This is long but is there anyway that if i ask laura to spend a couple nights to get away and id babyset, clean do laundry for her all for free...if my Mom can get her in trouble i wouldnt want that soo PLEAse I dont need that happening so If someone who answers this is a cop Id love that : ) or just give your opinion on the madder on how I can slove this.. I dont have a talking relationship with my Mother never have never will so please dont say just talk to her because I tried that and it didnt work!My family doesnt care about me, there selface and want only there way so they would to things in spite and to hurt me (not really a family I knoww)
Please give your opinion and im sorry this is so long but i havent gone a night in about maybe sence school closed without crying.. so anything is helpful! Thank you!! (link)
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No, your cousin cannot get in trouble for inviting you to stay with her provided your parents know and consent to it. All she would have to do is say to them that she needs help with her kids etc. etc. and could use your help and look after you for a bit and give you room and board and register you in school.
There's nothing suggesting that you are being mentally, physically abused at least not to the extent where you need to be placed in her care permanently. So, you cannot leave permanently until 18.
I'm concerned that you might be depressed and recommend that you see someone about that and get family or individual counselling from a mental health agency to handle all the feelings and turmoil you are dealing with. Crying every night isn't normal. Perhaps if they prescribed something things would get a little better.
As far as your personal belongings go including pads, tampons or anything important buy yourself a small box you can lock with a key and put under your bed or get a file box you can lock and they cannot open for now. That's one idea.
Under no circumstances can you ever run away on your own as that will lead to a ton of trouble and dangerous situations for you and others.
I think you ought to tell another adult such as an aunt, uncle, cousin, teacher, counselor, friend's mom/dad about your home life and ask for them to help and talk to your family and get you all some help. People need to be aware of this so that you will be safe and not suffer more mental trauma.
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i'm a very sexual person and it seems like my boyfriend hasn't been able to keep up lately. i'm alrite with it. i understand that he is older than me and that he works alot. i have no problem handling it myself. the problem is, he has a problem with me masturbating. we've discussed it and he seems pretty stubborn about it. i don't know what i should do. should i tell him that it's normal and i'm going to do it regardless, should i just do it and not tell him, or should i try to tough it out and deal with a dwindling sex life? (link)
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It's a double standard issue here. You ought to ask him whether he masturbates when you aren't around. If he says he does or tries to evade the question you have him on the ropes. Why should it be okay for him and not you in the relationship?
He obviously feels offended or hurt thinking that he's not doing enough to please you so you have resorted to masturbation on your own. It's a pride and ego issue with him and some guys as well.
I would keep doing what pleases you and not tell him more about it. You can bet he's doing the same thing. If you feel you need to talk to him about it and use the idea of him doing it and asking you not to as a ridiculous double standard and explain it has nothing to do with his performance in bed.
If there's something wrong with your sex life this issue may be one of many contributing to it. If you are married or in a long term relationship relationship counselling may help. Just a thought.
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ok. well my moms side of the family (which is HUGE!) is very religious (catholic/christian) so i go to a Catholic church, and i am in the sunday school and youth choir and groups there. It's fun but i dont always beleive what they do.
My dads side of the family (only 4 people living by us) are well my aunts (well ones my aunt and the other ones her partner if you get what i mean) are jewish and my grandma is idk what. and my dad became catholic when he married my mom.
well after talking to my mom and aunts about what they believe i kinda made a bit of a different religion... I believe in God and Jesus. I believe in heaven. not in hell. I believe that when we die we can be reincarnated into ANY LIVING being (animals, humans, plants). eventually there will be a judgement day and we will all go to heaven. I also believe that with the power of god and because we only used 10% of our brains, some people can tap into some more of their brains, and do (magical type things.) like kinesis, and other stuff like that.
i'm a bit confused of what i should do. i mean if i say anything like that (that is againts catholic belief) my mom and grandma gang up on me and start arguing with me. I know that people that believe different things can get along, but idk what i should do.
Should i tell my parents what i believe, or should i keep hiding it and only say anything about it around my aunt (who lets me say w/e and helps me continue my beliefs)
please help me and tell me what you think i should do! thank you! (link)
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Nobody has the right to gang up on anyone over their religious beliefs no matter what relationship they may have with you. If you believe something so strongly with all your heart don't stop. You aren't thinking anything that will hurt you or others and as the law states you are entitled to freedom of religion.
I would however, never discuss religion with your family and keep your views to yourself when around them to avoid argument. This isn't hiding them. It's common sense not to let them be known to people like this.
I mentioned this to someone earlier that religion and politics are two subjects never to mention to anyone be it a friend, co-worker, family etc. as it will ignite a keg of dynamite within people if you disagree with their ideas.
Your beliefs and theirs are no greater or valid as each other so someone trying to shove a particular doctrine down your throat or making you believe it is wrong. You won't go to hell for it. They're close-minded people and not acting in a christian manner.
Also if you aren't comfortable being at their church, in their choir, sunday school or youth group find something else to do on Sundays and don't go. You're old enough to make your own religious choices. If Catholocism isn't yours than nobody has the right to tell you what to believe.
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okay. so when i masturbate i only get pleasure from stimulating my clit. after about five minutes i get like a heat wave through my body and my heat starts beating faster and that only happens for like 5 secs. then i keep doing it but it starts to tickle. can anyone tell me why? i would really be grateful.
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The "heat wave" that occurs in your body and your heart beating as fast as it does is you reaching climax and then coming back down again. This is normal and the amount of time it last for will vary.
The clitoris as you are likely aware from health classes is ultra sensitive and from a medical standpoint serves no other purpose we know of than for being the female organ for sexual pleasure.
What we see is only a small pencil eraser sized organ but in fact it's much bigger than that and swells up if stimulated. After a while it just cannot be stimulated any longer without it feeling numb, in your case ticklish and in others so engorged with blood that it becomes sore and cannot be touched.
So, that's why it happens to tickle in your case. You're abolutely fine here so you can relax about that. It's all normal and supposed to be like that for you.
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alright so im soposed to go to warped tour, with my friend and i've just got this bad feeling that it's not gonna work out. this thing is in 4 days almost 3 now, and i dont have my tickets yet, and neither does she. the kids were soposed to be meeting up with already got their tickets and everything. thing is, shes just always so difficult, and i cant explain it. we get into arguments constantly and im to the point where i almost dont even wanna go anymore. so tonight i made her ask her dad when hes buying the tcikets and i heard him in the background, not giving a straight answer, and my mom was gonna buy mine like a while ago but she wanted to wait until her dad got hers, just because i know how they can be, so she suggested that she'd just pay me back the 36 something dollars and my mom would buy them. but my mom is saying "i know how they are, so i kinda want the money first, before i buy her ticket" and i agree, but shes not saying when her dad's gonna pay me back and im on the verge of just being like "forget it" and im so close to, but i need advice on what i should do? help!!? (link)
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I say you had better forget her as she's not reliable and can never be counted on for anything. Tell your mother that you want to go to Vans Warped by yourself and sit seperately from the others.
When this girl and your friend asks "Why didn't you wait for so and so or me? Just tell them that it was 72 hours before the concert and you needed to be sure you were going.
After that ditch this girl as she sounds to me from your explanation a friend you aren't in need of any further. You might have the last laugh too by going alone.
Why? If you use the Internet and go to the Ticketmaster.com page and search for 1 ticket at any price as well as in all categories you could end up sitting pretty darn close to the stage because people by in pairs usually and leave a 3rd seat around them open that way.
Check that out and or better yet call Ticketmaster about the show and ask for them to find you the best single ticket in the venue. You might be surprised where you end up sitting and when someone else asked how you got the ticket don't tell 'em.
Definitely go on your own and purchase your tickets on the Internet tonight after reading this or tommorow through the net or Ticketmaster.
You stand a great shot of still ging provided you act now following this note. Trust me, I've done this a zillion times and always sat extremely close in any and all venues. Secondly, ditch this person. If you gut tells you you don't like her anymore follow it.
Let me know how you did with a ticket and how close you got by sending me a message to my inbox afterwards.
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15/F
When I masturbate, after two or three miniutes i feel like I really need to urinate but hardly anything comes out. It goes on for about 3 hours but recently it went on for 3 days! What do I do to get rid of the sting?
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This is really interesting. At first, I thought it was related to G-Spot orgasm. You see, what happens there is that you feel the need to push down or like you are going to urinate before it happens.
This is what I thought it might be. I then noticed you said the feeling lasts for 3 hours to 3 days which is totally not normal. I'm afraid this might be a mystery nobody here can pinpoint the cause of.
If I were you I would mention it to your gynaecologist. If anyone would know why you feel this way after masturbating or why it stings and does this for days it's them. Something doesn't sound to right (don't freak out it's not major) and you should ask them about it as that's their dept.
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Well I'm a total "Christ Lover" and I really want my friends to be too. My friends get so annoyed when I talk about Jesus. But I really care about them, and they won't even try to go to church. My church is an awesome church for teenagers, so it's not one of the boring ones for old people. But anyways, how do I get my friends to love Jesus as much as I do. Even when they wont try.
any advice appreciated....
Love.Rachel (link)
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Finding God and having a relationship with him and or Jesus is a very personal thing. Some people are just not interested or ready for that or religion on any scale (for now.) You cannot force them embrace Jesus, religion, church anything.
You have asked them about it and put it out there and they've told you they aren't interested. You have to respect this and not bring it up as a subject with them again. Let them bring it up as I'm sure they will if they are interested.
There's an old belief still held by many that when it comes to friends, classmates or co-workers do not ever bring up religion, church, your beliefs or politics? Why? People will resent those views and are not tolerant of you sharing them. Both are things people discover on their own and form opinions about.
Don't take this the wrong way but if you continue trying to get them to embrace Jesus and go to your church you'll risk alienating them to the point they may not want to be around you.
Getting people to embrace Jesus, God or religion is not your job. They have to do it willingly on their own. You probably have a great church notwithstanding but if the idea isn't for them you have to drop it before they consider dropping you. I've seen this happen to people (classmates) over and over in high school, college and yes even work. It's explosive.
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ok i like this boy and his friend says he likes me to but he doesnt want to go out with me cause hes afraid that i might get as big as my sister andi dont think i am but h does and idk wat to do plz help me.
sincerely
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I hope I understand you correctly as I had to re-read your question twice. This guy doesn't want to date you because your sister is plump (big) and he fears you'll become big.
Or is it that by "big" you mean tall? If big means anything else than that you'll need to resubmit your question as the meaning comes across differently than intended.
In both scenarios above the guy is shallow and you need to move on especially if size, looks, hair are all he is considered about. Having said that, if you think he's worth it and he likes you as a friend talk to him yourself, get to know him and tell him what you are after as far as dating goes.
Lay it out for him. If he doesn't want to go out with you at least you'll know why and can then determine if he's friend worthy. But, if people are saying he won't date you based on how your sister looks or fear of how you'll look than move on. He's shallow and sounds like a jerk if that's the case.
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I got a new boyfriend a couple of weeks ago...
he's really clingy and im okay with it sometimes... how do i tell him that he's too clingy...
Also I've been dating him for awhile and i don't really feel anything special...
we like a lot of the same stuff. but i feel like he doesn't understand me... i use to really like him but now i don't... i don't want to break up with him because he still really likes me... I tried talking to him and nuthing really seems to pull me closer to him.. and it really strange cause we have a lot in comon... he tells all his friends how much he likes me and everything and they say we look really cute togther... so why am i not more atrative to him? (link)
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If you don't like him nor feel compatible with him now just wait and see what staying with him will be like in a few months. You're opposites and he just doesn't get you nor seems willing.
Tell him that you like him but have realized you make much better friends (which is true) than you do lovers because you don't feel a romantic attraction. That's being honest and it won't hurt as much to hear. Let him know you value him as a friend.
I really can't answer why you aren't more attracted to him. It obviously has to do with his behavior for one thing and crowding you all the time. You might not be in to how he looks, his habits, just aboutanything. Only you know what you are attracted to and who interests you from a romantic/sexual standpoint.
But you are smart enough to know this guy doen't do it for you. I would stay friends but cut him loose in the manner I gave as an example.
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im not sure if this is the right catergorie but still i need to know thngs....
ok well i finger myself but i can't seem to orgasm and i really want to orgasm and feel the plesure...
BUT why cant i orgasm and im only 14 and i have been doing this for a while nw like 2 or 3 months but i can NEVER orgasm and i havnt orgasmed once!!!
i need help strait away!!!
and wht is clit stimulation or somethng?/
and i dnt wnt any sites to go onto!?!
THANKS IN ADVANCE!!! (link)
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You will want to read this link and hit body basics internal and external view of the female reproductive system. This will help you know where everything is located and its purpose.
Like the previous poster told you most women do not orgasm from penetration. Mostly they do from clitoral stimulation as the other poster mentioned and told you what is meant by this.
However, I should add if you're all stressed about it and trying to force one rather than allow it to happen naturally you won't be sucessful in experiencing one. Just let yourself go and see what happens as it occurs naturally.
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/girls/female_repro.html
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okay so me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex soon. but he told me he doesnt wanna rush it and have his dad or someone walk up. cause he wants to make it perfect.
so how could i get me and him alone for awhile?
and where? (link)
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Do either of you have a close friend with a cottage? If so you ought to talk with them and see if you can use their guesthouse for a few days while they are up there as their guests. That could work if you and your friend arrange for a group of pals to all go up for a weekend.
Another person mentioned renting a hotel room. In most parts of the U.S. and Canada they will only rent to people 18+ with a credit card incase the room is trashed and because you are minors. Even a cheap hotel won't rent to you unless you are 18+
The camping trip idea someone else suggested is a good idea. What might work even better is to get a chain lock or buy a new door knob for your or his room with a lock from the inside.
That way people can knock and you have time to get decent. You can also buy a knob that requires a key to get in. You need your privacy.
Now as much as you might hate this next idea you should try talking to your mom. Explain that you want to be safe and are sexually active and want proper birthcontrol and not to be sneaking around. I think she'll be angry at first but in the end thankful that you were upfront and then you could have privacy at his house or yours.
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