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I am 14 and I am a girl.
If you open up the "lips" of my vagina, there is a foul smell, and discharge, so I know I have a bacterial Infection (sp?). I really do not want to go to the doctor, or tell my mom. My mother and I are not that close, and I don't want to tell my doctor either. I am not sure how I am suppose to wash my vagina. Am I suppose to take soap and stick it in the whole that the penis enters? How do I clean that out? Do I take soap and clean the inside of my vagina lips?
For my infection can I use:
Triamcinolone acetonide?
Ketoconazole cream 2%?
Triple Antibiotic Plus Cream?
If no to any one of those, what can I use?
If yes, witch one should I use? How many times a day? For how long? and do I put in where the penis enters the vagina, or the lips? (link)
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NEW INFO: This problem should not have been left untreated for months. That is simply foolish. I'm not a doctor so I cannot tell you what it is or what I think it is as only they can make a diagnoses. Bottom line you need to have this medically treated embarassing or not. It's the mature, responsible and only way to go.
OLD INFO:
We haven't established that you have an infection really. You have a fishy smell from what you stated. If there is discharge that is greenish or cottage cheese like and burning sensation or itch it could be an infection.
Do you have an older female you can trust ie a sibling, friend, cousin, aunt, grandma or friend's mom? If so you could tell them what's bothering you and ask if it's normal and what to do. That's one option.
No matter what do not try to clean your vagina out with soap, creams (unless prescribed) or anything else. Why? your vagina is a self-cleansing organ and putting soaps etc. in to it only causes more problems and or infections.
I don't know what is more embarassing here either telling your mom or suffering needlessly. The longer you let this thing go the worse it can become for you.
While you are not close to your mother you can approach her and tell her you are having a "female problem" and need to see a gynocologist. If she asks why tell her it's too embarassing for you to discuss easily.
Your mom was a girl once and most likely in your situation she will understand. As for the doctor they've seen millions of vaginas, penises etc in their profession. They're not concerned with yours other than keeping it healthy.
The doctor will walk you through everything they are going to do before they do it and a female nurse will be present. It may not be pleasant to go through but once it is over you'll feel ten times happier.
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This question is just to get opinions:
If someone you knew told you that they cut themselves, what would your first reaction be? Would you think they were crazy, would you try to help them, would you be scared of them, or what? (link)
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I wouldn't leave them alone like the last poster stated. They obviously came to you because they need help. It's a mental health issue that needs to be dealt with.
Your first reaction should be to tell them you support them but have to do the right thing and tell an adult be it a teacher, parent, other other authority figure. Do it anonymously if need be.
I would NEVER think they were crazy. They do have meantl health issues that cause them to do this. One treated by a psychiatrist and monitored closely by one they will overcome the thoughts an illness that causes them to cut.
You definitely should help them as it's your ethical and moral obligation to do so. don't be scared of them because they are as normal as you are except they have a temporary illness (if treated) that can be treated which will make them stop cutting.
It's easy to be scared of something like this or show anger or avoid the person with the illness but you shouldn't. You need to support them and both of you need to overcome any ignorance about the mental health issues causing it.
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my boyfriend's (of a year and 2 months) birthday is coming up and i have ONLY 50ish dollars to spend on it, and it makes me feel really cheap. So, could someone please give me suggestions? I know there are these types of questions all the time but i really need this because im on a budget. (link)
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What I usually recommend in case like these is as follows. Have a candlelit dinner that you prepared for both of you and pop in a movie. The second step involves some creativity.
What you are going to do is design a coupon book with 52 items in it (52 weeks per year) each coupon entitles him to kisses, snuggles, meals, massage etc etc.
The enjoyment in this is that you'll never know which coupon he wants to redeem and it puts spontaneity into your relationship. Now there's a gift you both can benefit from 365. Believe me, he will enjoy this idea.
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when i try to finger myselft all i fell is like something blocking my finger from going anymore than one centimeter in, i know it could be the hymen, but would that really do taht? n if it did is there anyway i can 'break' it without having sex...
also is there a certain angle you have to go in to figer yourslef? (link)
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It does sound like your hymen. The article I just read (see the link) from MERCK states
QUOTES FROM MERCK ARTICLE: "At the beginning of the tract, just inside the vaginal opening is the hymen, a mucous membrane. In virgins, the hymen usually encircles the opening like a tight ring, but it may completely cover the opening.
"The hymen helps protect the genital tract but is not necessary for health. It may tear at the first attempt at sexual intercourse, or it may be so soft and pliable that no tearing occurs. The hymen may also be torn during exercise or insertion of a tampon or diaphragm. Tearing usually causes slight bleeding. "
This sounds like what is blocking you from going further. See the full MERCK article for info.
http://www.merck.com/mmhe/sec22/ch241/ch241c.html
This link shows the internal female reproductive system. I'm hoping you'll be able to look at it and go "That's what it is." and not worry anymore about it.
An even better link of the internal reproductive system of a female from wikipedia.org http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Image:3DScience_female_reproductive_sagittal_labeled.jpg
Also, you should know fingering doesn't have to involve penetration at all. Most women don't derive pleasure from that period and only get it from clitoral stimulation.
Regardless, you're healthy and normal and have nothing to worry about. In all likelihood it's the hymen that hasn't been torn or stretched. Your vagina is not abnormal etc etc. just so you know and don't stress.
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Hi, I'm 15/f and I know it's kind of far in advance to be thinking about careers, but I'm thinking of going into the field of psychiatry (not psychology). I was just wondering, what would typical day be like for a psychiatrist working in a hospital and a psychiatrist working in an office? Do they see patients often? How is a therapy session with a psychiatrist different from that of a psychologist? What I know, is that psychiatrists are medical doctors and can write perscriptions. Answers would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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Perhaps the schedule for my psychiatrist whom I see for bipolar disorder might help in terms of hours. From Monday-Friday my doctor sees private practice patients from 9-4 with a break for lunch.
On top of his private practice appointments he also allots 2-5 hours each Wednesday for outpatient mental health patients in the hospital.
He's on a pager all day on-call for emergencies and to care for those people who are now in his practice because they just arrived on the psych ward in crisis. He can be called at any time day/night for this and be on a 12 hour shift in some cases.
You don't get therapy sessions out of a shrink. It's not like that at all. The average sessions goes over how your life is right now, general questions about health/weight/hygene and medicine difficulties.
They ask about anxious thoughts, stress and do a variety of tests and ask questions to gauge whether someone is delusional or needs to be hospitalized every time you see them. They are the only ones who can write prescriptions.
They are the expert on every mental health issue and drug or treatment program. The psychologist just listens to you and gives ideas and expects you to work with them each session.
They do great work but the psychiatrist has to be the expert on the human mind and how it works and can be warped by these types of diseases.
It is according to my doctor often depressing work especially when it takes longer to treat a person. They have to figure out each person's problem on their own and own that illness to know what it takes to help the person beat it. They're in the fight with you round by round. It's a damn good thing too. There's no road map for this.
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http://www.ticketsnow.com/TicketsList.aspx?PID=526547
I need to get tickets for SYTYCD.. I need like 1-2 tickets, and from the available tickets, which would be the best seats, near the stage? it has a little thing next to it to show the seating, but I don't understand what it means.. like theres like 71 tickets left for the Continental Arena, but give me a couple of the seats that are the best seats for the best price.. cause im really confused. Thanks! (link)
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NEW INFO: Section 205 is okay but you should go for something in the 100's. There are some in the 124 section. Can't go wrong with that for $140 U.S.
This one is easy. The blue seats that say 1,2,3 mean that they are Floor seats. This means that those small sections are 1-30 rows from the stage which is that grey square. The Green seats are on the same level as the stage but go all the way around it and behind it.
Do not buy seats in 113-118 as that's the back of the stage. 119-125 is the right side of the stage 112-104 left.
The seats in the 200 sections are two or three stories above where the stage is. Enjoy the show! Ordinarily, I would say the 200 level is awful seats but this show employs closed circuit monitors you can see. Shows without those screens aren't worth going to if you are sitting 2-3 stories abve stage level.
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im in a group doing a project and one thing we need some info on is George Bush/the war in Iraq and basically should he be forgiven? opinions & small amounts of info would be great =] (link)
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http://www.whitehouse.gov/history/presidents/
This contains biographical as well as historical info about all 43 U.S. presidents. I assume you are talking about George W. Bush rather than his father George Herbert Walker Bush. Both had wars in Iraq.
Regardless all the history and biographical stuff on any president is at the same link. Vice-presidents and former first ladies/current also have pages.
Be weary of Wikipedia or any other Web site as they are biased and could contain information about the president, historical fact/biographical that is inaccurate.
As far as the questions you ask you'll not find a solid answer to them. If a Republican answers they are apt to be in favor of Bush and a Democrat won't be.
My perception as well as others ultimately doesn't matter. It cannot change things (apparently). What matters is your assessment and beliefs on Bush in the report you are writing as that's what the teacher will give you high marks for.
You have to think about variables too and how that affects war and messes plans up. What your teacher wants is an unbiased view of both sides jusging from the questions they want you to answer.
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someone asked me if i squirt? ha what's that mean exactly? (link)
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What he is asking about is whether you release G-spot fluid from your urethra (tube you urinate from) when you masturbate. This usually can be up to a lire of fluid and happenes when the G-spot is stimulated. It's a type of orgasm that is elusive for most women.
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This is a pretty big problem for me, I'd love to hear some different takes on it since I can't speak to any of my friends about it. I changed the names...
I know for a fact that my best guy friend(Drew)'s dad is cheating on his wife. His "girlfriend" happens to be my best girl friend(Laura)'s Aunt, that's how I know about the situation (she told only me about it). To complicate things more, Drew and Laura used to go out a couple years ago, Laura knew about the affair and didn't tell Drew.
I have a lot of trouble with all of this, because my father had an affair, and when I found out, i had reason to believe my ex boyfriend knew about it and was so upset and hurt to think that he would keep something like that from me.
I don't think it's my place to say anything, but if Drew finds out, he'll KNOW Laura knew all along (I mean this affair has been going on maybe 10 years, maybe more....)
and with her knowing, he'll ask me if I knew... could I lie about that?
anyways, morals are hard to figure out I'd love some imput.
thanks, much love. (link)
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MYOB.
Do not get involved in their family business PERIOD! If you get involved here you'll find that you have no friends left. It's for Drew to find out on his own and not through you.
His mother is likely not stupid here and knows by now what is going on if it's been happening for 10 years. There might even be a deal where it's an open marraige or perhaps not.
Bottom line it's not your place to say anything or get involved. It's their private business and you'll have everyone hating you should you open your mouth.
You aren't lying about the situation anyways. You just aren't divulging what you have heard. If he ever did ask if you knew anything tell him the truth then and that you thought he already knew or would have learned of it from his family.
Tell him you thought it was best coming from them and were under the impression he knew or this girl would eventually tell him. Deal with that if/when it occurs. odds are he'd never think you knew as it's private family business.
Just tell him the truth that it's not your business and as an outsider you didn't think it was right to say anything. Deal with that if it comes to it later on. For now keep your mouth shut.
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ohkay, so for school i was suppose to read mutiny on the bounty. i go back tomorrow &i'm on like page 10 out of 3-something.
IS THE MOVIE ANYTHING LIKE THE BOOK...OR?! (link)
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Mutiny on The Bounty (1935) is a Best Picture Academy Award winner with Clark Gable, David Niven and James Cagney. It is considered the definitive film version.
The film was re-made at least two other times most notable in 1962 with Marlon Brando. In 1984 yet another film version was made with Mel Gibson and Anthony Hopkins simple entitled The Bounty.
As you know the book is based on historical events. A lot of people from film historians to regular historians and members of the public feel all three films have inaccurate points/scenes/portrayals or bias about certain characters.
What I would do is arrive at school tommorow and tell the teacher who assigned it that you completely forgot about it until now.
Tell him/her that rather then use Wikipedia, or just see the movie and not do the actual assignment that you would be willing to take one letter grade off if he/she allows you to watch the films (all are on video) and read the book and come back with a thesis on this.
Trust me, if you do it any other way you'll get busted and will not score high on your assignment. The person who gave it to you knows what is on Wikipedia, in the movies, in the book and the differences you can't possibly draft an essay that will get you a decent mark let alone read the book all in one night.
You should start by reading this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mutiny_on_the_bounty
Bottom line: the movie and the booka re always different and may be inaccurate if it contains real-life events. Your teacher knows this hence why he/she gave the assignment to award those who read the book right through over summer.
If you go in and be honest and follow my ide re: an essay you should come out of this favorably.
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im a 13 year old girl and i've had pimples ever since I started puberty around the time I was 10. they are mostly small, with a few big ones, but you can't really notice unless you close to me. they are really annoying cause in pictures you can see them and when i feel my face i feel the little bumps and sometimes i pick them and make them worse. i try using some things but they dont work.. i wash my face 2 times a day, i drink as much water as i can.. stuff like that. so i want to know if proactiv is the right choice. does it really work like it says it does on the commercials? like or will it be too harsh for my skin.. cause once i took something that was too strong and it like temporarily scarred my face. im black by the way. otherwise, what else can i do to fix this problem? thanks for helping! (link)
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ProActiv which is sold on television as well as oer the counter products such as Clearsil, OXY etc. etc. do not always take care of problems like this. Why? None of them contain medication that will actually eat away at what causes the problem and make it so it doesn't return.
You need to visit a dermatologist and get a prescription cream for your acne and red bumps. A family doctor can give you a referal but may not be able to give you a prescription. Sometimes family doctors have small sample tubes you can try and see if it makes a difference.
Above all NEVER pick at the pimples or bumps as you'll only make it ten times worse and it will take longer to go away. Also, tell the doctor upfront that X cream was too strong and scarred your face for awhile. They'll make sure you get the right prescription.
Also, the cream may have burned your face as you may have used more than suggested and or more often than suggested as yes it can/will burn your face if not careful because it's supposed to burn and eat away at the pimples (not your skin) when used properly. I've had it burn me so I appreciate what you went through.
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Ok. I know I'm probably like the only 16 year old that don't know what masturbation is, but can somebody inform me on wat it is pleaze?? haha, i know your probably thinking i'm stupid, which when it comes to stuff like this..i'm totally lost haha (link)
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Masturbation means to caress one's genitals to acheive orgasm and sexual gratification. Both males and females do this and it's 100% healthy, natural, safe, normal. It's been said 90% of males do and about 70 % of females of all ages adults/teens/seniors etc.
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If guys get boners then what do girls get? (link)
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It's a good question actually. Both males and females get erections. In a female it's the clitoris that gets hard, sensitive swollen. In health class they refered to that as an erection. See the other poster's below as becoming wet is the only other thing girls get that guys wouldn't.
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I don't know if I should have sex with my b/f. He's 17 and I'm 15. Usually guys older pressure you to have sex. I dont think he's trying to harm me in any kind of way. I just feel like that's about all he wants is some sex. I'm not ready for sex. I dont want to lose him. I know if he really cares then i wont lose him. But he's tired of waiting . Help??? (link)
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If he is tired of waiting tell him to go find some other girl to have sex with. It's a good thing you haven't caved. You need to wake up and take notice that this guy only cares about sex and not you.
As hard as it may be to do because of emotional attachment tell him to hit the bricks if he cannot respect your decision. He's not worthy of you let alone sex with you.
As far as not wanting to lose him goes you need to understand that he's one of many guys to come in/out of your life. He's bad news for you and you would be a fool to lose your virginity to him because he would up and leave once he got it.
A mature male will not pressure someone constantly to do what they aren't ready for. Release this whiny immature idiot (and he is one if this is his behavior) and find yourself someone decent, caring, kind who actually gives a damn about you as this guy clearly doesn't.
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who are the top 3 rep. and dem. candidates running for presidency? (link)
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U.S. Senator Hilary Clinton is out in front for the Democrats. U.S. Senator Obama last I looked was second in polls and U.S. Senator Edwards usually ranks third.
For the Republicans it is Rudy Guiliani and Mitt Romney. McCain is a big name but he's not doing as well as the others because he agrees with a lot of U.S. president George W. Bush's policies and votes along those lines.
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if anyone belongs to an acting agent, can you let me know the company's name. Even if you know more acting agents that are good, can you list names of companies for me? thanks!! (link)
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Log onto the Screen Actor's Guild of America's web site and look for a list of reputable agents. If the list isn't on the web page call and ask them about reputable agents in your area. They should help you as they are the union for all American actors.
If you are in Canada log on to ACTRA.CA and look at their list of reputable agents. Do not sign with anyone that isn't on the list. Nobody will charge you upfront (unless a kids or background agent) ever and it's a big scam all those lessons, photo packets and putting your image on the Internet.
Casting directors do not use those methoids ever to find talent to audition. What you want and need is a backgrount talent agent. They will put you in crowd shots in TV and film shooting in your area and or a large metropolitan city nearest you.
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Hi,
(I asked this question a few days ago and it got deleted. I am not sure why, but if an L2+ zapps it again, could I please be told the reason.)
Anyhow, I have a friend who is getting married this month. I really need some advice on a wedding gift.
Basically the situation is as follows. The guy is in his mid thirties, his wife is a bit younger. I know him quite well, though we are not very close friends. I have never met his wife since she steers clear of our "guy" activities. He is having his wedding abroad and then holding a party at home for friends and family.
Thats pretty much all the relevant info that I can think of. I need an appropriate gift idea, and I am absolutely hopeless at this sort of stuff.
Any suggestions would be much appreciated. (link)
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YG did a great job of answering your question. I wanted to point out two things. There's a great chance the bride iss registered with a particular store or more than one.
Ask the groom about this because they'll have a list of items they wanted and the bridal registry at the store will know what they still need.
If all else fails tell your friend you would like to get them a gift but need to know what they are in dire need of.
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I am finally getting a job, so when I told my parents about how I won't need their money to go the mall anymore I felt mature and glad I wasen't going to have to keep asking them from cash. Well, in the middle of the conversation my mom was like "You do know that you are putting a third in the bank and giving a third to us right?" I couldn't believe that I have to pay them my money. My dad was like "Well what about our hard earned money? We give it to you two (my sister and I) all the time. Besides the family needs it." Um hello, isn't that what you two are for? My mom thinks since I have a job I have to pay "room and board" WTH?! Are my parents being unreasonably rediculous here???
(Keep in mind I'm earning minimum wage here, so saving up for anything now is foolish) (link)
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Your parents are in the right and you aren't. Every individual who makes money and lives with a group of people parents or not needs to contribute financially.
This is especially so if you are using their phone, Internet, cable, electricity, utilities, food and are getting free laundry service from them. Your sister would be expected to do the same if she had money and they provided her with a room and bed.
This will teach you real-life responsibility. They need the money and should not at your age be expected to pay your way for movies, clothes, books and what have you when you have a job.
This will teach you to value money and work on a budget. You OWE them a third of your cheque no two ways. That's just the facts. You may not like that but it's the way it is across the board with other people who have money.
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when i masturbate i am aroused and it feels good and everything, but then right after i orgasmed, im like 'ok im done thats it' i never feel like i want to keep dong it or im still horny afterwards im just done. i have no feeling of touching myself after that. is that normal? and also is it wierd that i dont like dildos and stuff like that? i only like rubbing my clit and putting stuff in my vagina hurts and i cant get it up higher than like 1 or 2 inches. (link)
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You are a normal teenage girl. after masturbation your clitoris will be super sensitive to the touch. Also, your orgasm will take a lot out of you physically so naturally you will be tired and not able to continue after a while depending on how vigorous you got.
Not everyone uses dildos or vibrators. If you don't want and or like to use them that's fine. You have to be very careful with what objects you use in your vagina.
They cannot be scented, have rough edges or plastic that can break off into little pieces. More or less if it's not made to go in your vagina don't put it there. You wouldn't want a doctor to have to fish it out if stuck. Bottom line, you are 100% fine here.
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14/f
I really want to try tampons, because pads are so not my things. they are messy, big, noisy and just bad.
so i talked to my mom about starting them and yesterday we tried, but i chickened out when it touch me.
i really want to try them, but I'm so scared. I don't know why, but it's keeping me away from trying them.
I HAVE to try them today. It's my last chance because next period will be too late for me (don't ask)
any way I can be brave about this? any tips to make it easier?
thanks! (link)
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You might want to look into Menstrual Cups (reusuable) or Sea Sponges that are meant for vaginal use and easier to insert than a tampon. It's an option at least over pads for handling your period.
The following information is quoted from Scarleteen.com about these devices and what they do.
DEFINITIONS FROM SCARLETEEN: "Sea Sponges: For many years I used small sponges (you can get them in the cosmetics section of your health food store or at a bath store) instead of tampons. They're recyclable, natural, and all you do is insert them inside your vagina, then to change them, pull it out, clean it before reuse, and put in a fresh one as need be. This is a good alternative if you feel "poked" by tampons, or are looking for an alternative that creates less waste. Lunapads carries them.
DEFINITIONS FROM SCARLETEEN:
Menstrual Cups: The Divacup, Keeper and Instead (which you can get at drug stores) are another fantastic choice if you want something insertable. These are not as easy to insert as tampons or sponges, but many women find they work very well, and enjoy them because they do not have to worry about the possibility of TSS as they do with tampons. To insert a cup, you simply squeeze its sides and slide it into your vagina. If it is placed right, you shouldn't feel it at all. It may be helpful to use a little lubricant (like KY Jelly) to insert it.
STILL SCARLETEEN DEF:
The Divacup and the Keeper are generally better for most women than Instead -- they're just engineered in a much smarter way -- and they're also reusable, and can be used for years, so you'll save big bucks on menstrual products, and do the planet a favor, if you invest in a long-term cup, rather than a disposable. As an extra bonus, because they contain flow -- rather than absorb flow and vaginal fluids like tampons -- they can help with cramping.
MENSTRUAL CUPS ON WIKIPEDIA:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Menstrual_cups
Hope this helps. Like the other person said, with tampons as long as you relax, take your time and don't tense up you will be okay. Putting some KY Jelly or Vaseline on the applicator may help with insertion from what i've read.
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